Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 1715. page
- Home
- Board: /adv/ - Advice
- Reading: Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 1715. page
I really don't get why people smoke, I tried smoking a few times and i smoked en entire cigarette like 5 minutes ago and i didn't get any enjoyment from it, but i see a lot of people who do it. Even my best female friend and good male friend smoke and i really don't see any reasson to start smoking other than peer pressure,wanting to look cool or to stick it to their parets so i wanted to ask someone to explain to me why would someone start smoking and do they get any enjoyment from it.
>>16763821
Look up the effects of nicotine on the brain. Its a temporary stress reliever. For some people it feels good. Also for some people its very addictive. As for starting smoking your absolutely right. Trying something new peer pressure and fitting in/ looking cool. See vapes
I smoke only as an extra boost to a buzz, whether its cannabis or alcohol. That's when I find its effects are more noticeable and even enjoyable, otherwise for most of my friends its just a way of life so either you enjoy or don't.
I smoke for nine years now, but never more than Three cigarettes a day.
Sometimes i skip smoking for a week und when I go out to a Pub, or to take some Drinks with friends I smoke more than 15 cigs that evening.
Alcohol without cigs is a no go.
Well to answer your question: every brain reacts different to "drugs". My best female friend can't get along with less than 10 cigs a day O.o
But a pro Tip from me: Don't Start at all.
And why do I smoke? Your brain sends out endorphines, it's a Stress reliever, sometimes out of boredom (Stuck in traffic with car), and sometimes just because I want to.
So, adv, what are good costume ideas for short chubby girls? Preferably something that's not too cold cause i will wear it outside. I am at a total loss. Pls help!
costume for what?
>>16763716
try cgl
>>16763716
>Lose weight
>Can wear any costume you want
>?????
>Profit
>Meet girl on tinder
>She is an exchange student
>we decide to go on a date after talking for a couple days (I didn't know she was going to leave in 2 weeks)
>We talk for like 7 hours, great chemistry kiss on the rocks watching the ocean (I'm happy as fuck)
>She tells me she is leaving in 2 weeks but that she doesn't feel bad about it cuz she lives the moment
>we meet again the very next day again at the beach, romantic as fuark, we kiss passionately, I move my hands and feel her boobs, she moves my hands back to her back
>fuark ok, later that night she moves my hands to her ass and pushes my hands signaling that I should press her onto me
>Ok, feels gud.
>when we're together we have good chemistry she seems to be into me (or at least pretends to) conversations are fluid since we have a lot of things in common.
>since then we haven't meet and we message each other from time to time but she seems to not really care about my messages(only responds with 1 line, never starts conversations, I feel like she's not really interested in me and it's only using me to live some romantic bullshit she imagined.
Should I just drop her already?
I'm not a playa.
When I like a girl, I just stick to her and try to make her happy, I'm not dependant or anything but I'm not into hook ups desu senpai.
I don't wanna fall in love with her when she probably using me just to take pictures at the beach with some boy.
Drop her. I bet she wanted sex m8
>>16763695
Why does she stop my advances then?
I was rdy to give her the dick m8, but she kind of slows me down everytime.
A little more info.
She is 16 from brazil
I'm 20 straya
Not so much a question of advice, but I think it's applicable:
When you are on a date, are guys expected to pay for the expenses (i.e. Dinner or movie?) Or do you go Dutch?
>>16763307
If you asked them on the date, you pay.
>>16763307
It depends, usually I'll split with my girlfriend unless it's a really fancy place and I'm treating her. Sometimes I'll pay for a meal and she'll pay for the next one. My girlfriend lost her job recently so I paid when we went out earlier this week, and when I first started dating her I paid for dinner dates, however they were/are usually $30 or less. The most I've paid for both of us is $50 and we've been dating for a few months, we go out about 2 times a week.
It depends. My boyfriend and I usually go halves, or one of us will grab dinner and the other pays for dessert or drinks. Either that, or we take turns paying.
Wondering if I fucked up or not. Dating a girl 3 years. Love her with all my heart. However, she does a few things that make my life shitty as of late.
1.) Super lazy. I do a 80/20 split on housework but she never does her 20. I can think of one time in the past 8 months.
2.) Kind of leading on the first, I do legit everything. Cook, clean, pay bills. Take her to and from work. This would be kind of ok if I didn't also work 30 hours a week and have a full load this semester.
3.) She has the sex drive of a stack of envelopes. Not too concerned about this by itself, but she will put the moves on me then back out midway when she realizes shes not actually horny.
So the above added up plus something fairly trivial into me laying it down. I told her how all that makes me feel like shit yada yada. She apologizes and says she will work on it. Fast forward a week and she is still doing all the things she said she wouldn't.
So, I told her she should probably go stay with her folks for a bit until she is serious about trying. I had to hop in the shower since I had work soon. She was gone when I got out.
>>16763273
Was I too aggressive? I love her to death but fuck dude I want her to realize I am serious and she can't be a pos all the time. What would you guys have done? Thanks
>>16763273
First off, I had the same problem but mine is slightly worse. so I'll give the advice that I cant seam to take and apply.
Let her go and if she doesn't come back you will be better off.
If she comes back and hasn't had an attitude change in less than 2 weeks, dump her.
Its really important you don't let her drag you down.
I never kicked my girl out. Now we have been together 3 years and she hasn't paid a single cent on any bill anywhere whilst living off me.
And I cant leave her because I feel responsible for her and her happiness, if I leave she'll be homeless and have nothing.
Don't make my mistakes OP
>>16763632
solid advice thanks
>be me
>gf and i split a couple years ago
>still miss and think about her
>met plenty of other women but still cant move on
>still get sad and cry about her once in a while
>meet a cool chick a few months ago
>become rly good friends
>tell her i don't want a relationship because i miss my ex-gf and she could spend more time taking care of herself
>continue to be friends
>i have to move out of my house
>ask her if she wants to be roommates
>says yes
>we move in
>become even closer: spend tons of time together, do practically everything together, activities, sex (which she initiated), etc
>both not dating anyone or trying to date anyone
>she gets sad sometimes since i don't want to move beyond what we have and make it official
>tell her to meet other people because i miss my ex-gf and dont want a relationship
>rinse and repeat a few times
>recently, she tells me she loves me
I don't love her and I still don't want a relationship. Wat do? Shit is getting way too serious.
It doesn't matter where you are in life, what you're doing, or who you're with: treat the people around you with love and care no matter what the situation.
>>16763199
>It doesn't matter where you are in life, what you're doing, or who you're with: treat the people around you with love and care no matter what the situation.
I do. I'm very nice and treat her well (minus affection except during sex). I think that only contributes to her affinity towards me and compounds the problem. I don't want to start acting like a dick to her, so what options do I have?
OP here. I haven't been on /adv/ for a while. Has it been slow lately?
Having an amazing day and I was wondering if anyone wanted advice on
BUSINESS. FINANCE. INNER WORKINGS OF THE STOCK MARKET.
That's it- no women talk here. If you get the money the women will come
>>16763158
I'll bite. I have a decent amount of money languishing in a savings account.
$30k
I know it is doing me no good there. Where can I put it to make more money while exposing myself to minimal risk?
>>16763158
how are the jews responsible for the stock market?
why would i ever need a financial adviser to trade my money, take a cut, and risk nothing?
>>16763184
The lowest risk dividend yielding blue chips or indexes you can find.
Treasury Notes is another option- very small reward, very low risk.
When you have $30,000 to your name, trading isn't worth it- you need to just work and have MORE than 30k net worth- simple as that.
Would you switch religion for the girl you love?
No. Religion is non-negotiable for me.
I wouldn't want to date anyone who would switch religions for me, either.
>>16763019
No. Religion isn't something to be taken lightly. I'm agnostic, but the entire point of religion is that you're committing your eternal existence to one thought, one ideal. For a span of time that we can't comprehend, you're picking your path.
If you don't really believe in it, you're just faking it for a piece of gash. Don't fake the rest of your fucking life.
If you believe in something, do it because it inspires you, and builds a strength in you that you can't find otherwise. Not to satisfy someone's family.
I want some fucking honest to god, brutal criticism on my video for film class. Comment if you want, I don't really care.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f1H83z5t3do&feature=youtu.be
Give me some advice.
>>16763015
Pretty good man, made me feel a bit but its good.
I'll watch it and leave a comment with every criticism I can imagine there.
>Took Film I - III in high school
>kicked ass, won best short film in district (texasfag)
>red letters on black background
>thin and small letters
>thin red letters over moving video
If you realised you were pregnant to a beta fuck boy, an abusive cunt that can't control himself and you feel like shits been so bad you can't believe you're pregnant cause you don't even want to keep going in this situation and feel the likelihood of miscarriage due to stress is very high as you've been spotting the entire time (the blood made you think you weren't pregnant, just hormonal and stressed from the constant fucking screaming about nothing ).
This fuck boy has made it clear he is not father material/does not want kids/does not love you and all ready believes you ruined their life
Would you run and call them from a safe place once the baby is born and tell them they're a dad and do they want half custody (don't think he'd treat a baby the way he treats me) or??? Because that's where my mind has been going but despite the abuse im not sure if that's right. I am just worried that if I tell him it will escalate into one of those pushed down the stairs kicked in the stomach situations..
Abortion is not an option.
Don't have any previous children am only 25.
Or should I just disappear and NC since he all ready thinks I've ruined his life enough.
(the way I ruined his life is sometimes I don't know which grocery store I want to go to *rolls eyes* so yeah,just to give you an idea of the level of aspergers I'm dealing with here)
>>16763001
Don't talk to him until you contact a lawyer who can advise you better on the legal situation itself.
Oh an his life is also ruined cause of stuff that went down before we were even together so yeah.. That kind of cunt
>>16763009
Thank you, I have an uncle who is a barrister(not sure how to spell, the law kind not the coffee kind lol) I will speak to him asap
Could I sue this company? I have a close family member who is a lawyer. She funded a specific type of event for me a few months ago (she invested, i organized) , without getting too specific this other company was putting together a nearly identical event, very to the date of mine. Theirs was first so Im not saying they copied me at all. But they told people on social media lies about my event to lure people to going to theirs instead. I've been getting bullied by them ever since and they talked a lot of shit. But I just want to know if I could sue them for this? I spent a lot on my event (not gonna say how much but it was well over 5k usd) and lost a bit of money afterwards (i made back about 80%) so I was thinking I could blame them for this. Might cause a lot of drama but they stress me out a lot and I just want it to be over.
>>16762971
>very to the date of mine
I meant very close to the date of mine. Theirs was a few weeks before mine.
You know that just because a close family member is a lawyer, doesn't mean you don't have to pay legal fees, right? Lawyers charge hundreds an hour, they're not going to suddenly say you don't have to pay them because they're a family member, and even if they give you a discount, it'll still be more than you can afford by the looks of it.
And if you know a lawyer, why not just ask them?
If they spread false information knowing with malicious intent it's slander and/or libel. If they directly harassed you that's... harassment. Might not be worth your time though.
Mostly me just venting but feel free to jump in with input/advice
>be 22yo femanon
>2-ish years ago start dating guy I meet online
>lets call him "A"
>hit it off immediately. great chemistry.
>start having relationship problems
>didn't work out (I have trouble communicating problems)
>we have a mutual break-up
2 months later
>start missing A
>start hanging out again
>get back together
>start having same issues
>I still suck at communicating
>my friend dies and I don't know how to handle it
>A can't help because I can't communicate feelings
>I break up with A
>he doesn't take it well
>I'm comforted by my childhood friend
>start dating childhood friend
>Let's call him "S"
>S and I have good relationship at first
>slowly realize we have 0 chemistry
>begin to resent him for almost no reason
about 10 months later
>start missing A again
>still having issues with S
>all I can think about is A
>Start texting A to try and get back in contact
>A still upset over the breakup, eventually tells me to stop trying to contact him
>I cut contact with A
>eventually break it off with S
less than a week after breaking up with S
>A texts me "sorry to hear about you and S"
>we begin talking again
>meet up for the first time in over a year
>end up going back to his place
>we talk about everything
>sex.
it's been about 2 weeks since I broke up with S.
A and I have been seeing each other on a regular basis and having sex. We both agree that we don't know if a relationship is the best thing for us.
I really want him back, but I'm afraid we'd have the same issues as we used to and break up again
Should I try to keep this as a FWB thing or should a pursue more?
Could you try some kind of counseling for your communication problems?
>>16762966
Basically, this.
It isn't going to get any better if you don't change what ruined your relationship before. Work on yourself, since your communication problems are the main issue.
>>16762961
Understand that time is a natural accellerant. A has changed as have you, from the last time you dated. You need to stop letting the past define how you proceed in the future. Sure you had communication issues in the past, instead of fearing that may happen again, YOU NEED TO MAKE THE EFFORT TO MAKE SURE THAT IT DOESN'T HAPPEN AGAIN. You know the problem, you don't communicate your problems well, It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out what you need to do in the future so you don't end up replicating the past, YOU NEED TO COMMUNICATE YOUR PROBLEMS BETTER.
you have the fist step, awareness, you know what the problem is, the thing will define what you and A's relationship will be is what you will do next.
Will you take that second step? It's up to you.
Hey /adv/ I'm queer and my mother is kicking me out, I'm in the closet but she's getting more and more suspicious
I've had issues finishing school, and I have major really bad depression, which makes everything harder.
I need to be gone by June at the latest, but id love to pack my shit and go now
I have no car, and no money
Help??
Is she kicking you out because of your depression issues? Because if you were able to perhaps calmly discuss the issue with her, or bring her to see your therapist and discuss the realities of mental illness, that might keep you from being kicked out.
If you don't have a therapist you can always get one. Not like there's much to lose at this point.
>>16762945
I've been seeing a therapist and been on anti depressants for a few months
To be frank, my mom is a shitty person, and I hate living here anyway. But this chronic depression makes it hard to do anything, getting a job included
My mom is aware of the depression issue, she just doesn't care, in her mind mental illness isn't a "real"thing so much
>>16762938
You need money.
If i were you id start job hunting now.
Would you date a girl with the same name as your sister?
I work with this girl and she's great. She's funny, smart and a good worker. I like her enough to date her but she has the same name as my sister. Thoughts?
>>16762932
Grow up, seriously it's just a name
>>16762932
Try calling her by her middle name instead.
Yeah sure, who cares?
Guys i think i have a problem. My gf says that i do not trust her enough and that i am killing the relationship. Last weekend she told me she is having a girls night with Becca and some other chick. But i found our she went to her a guy named Josh (They used to be fuck buddies before we were dating). She said she did not want to upset me because i know he treated her like shit and used her for sex only in the past.
She invited him over for tonight to show me he changed and is a nice guy. But as he arrived he grabbed her butt like pretty hard. I pretended i had not noticed that. He said he was very hungry and my gf wanted to eat sth too. Now i am on my way getting food and drinks and i am worried that they might do something. But i love her and gotta trust her, right?
Sorry for my english, not my first language...
I would not even keep contact with former fuck buddies when I'm in a relationship. Sorry to hear but your gf is disrespecting you OP. As for the butt thing I would have smacked him so hard if I had any respect for myself or my man. There is something wrong with her.
Also she should have been honest from the beginning about who she was hanging out with.
Tell her to either stop hanging out with the guy or it's over. You might as well be getting cucked. He shouldn't be touching her like that, no matter what they did in the past.
shes not your gf
