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I have a gf I like a lot. We have been living together 5 years. I am 27 and she is 25. Her job takes her travelling some times, and I was wondering if any of you have some do's and don't for getting some poontang on the side.
I was thinking of maybe paying a friend of mine to be able to bring chicks to his apartment and pretend we're roommates. I'm also thinking of getting another phone i can use in order to give chicks a number.
I'm also contemplating making a fake fb profile. Is there a way I can get fake friends to make it seem legit?
These are the things and detail I need advice on. How can I pull this out without the trail leading back to my honey?
Just because you didn't inb4 all the hate, imma hate on you.
You're a fucking asshole if you think it's a good idea to sneak around behind your girl's back and cheat. You must be seriously lacking in respect if you don't have the balls to just dump your girl before you go off fucking sloots. I mean I get it, who doesn't wanna fuck whoever they want and still have someone waiting for you when you lay your head down at night, but your efforts would be a lot more valuable if they were going to finding someone that will be okay with your lifestyle choice, rather than being spent on sneaking around and trying to be discrete.
>Tl;dr: you're an immature ass, grow some balls and dump your gf before you give her AIDS
>>16766788
Man, that wasn't particularly helpful or what I asked.
>>16766800
I think it was plenty helpful, nicely summed up what the rest of us think
is it a bad life goal to try and fuck a girl with a name from every letter of the alphabet?
That's not a life goal, that's a side quest.
>how to get all the STDs
Enjoy fucking some fat nasty bitch just because her name is Xenrietta.
> Recently broke up with girlfriend
> No sex, all she did was smoke pot, didn't want to communicate with me, no hobbies, etc.
Is the redpill on reddit the truth? Do women need a man to lead them every step of the way, shit test you, and then look for a chink in your armor and exploit it until you're a shell of a man? I am starting to believe no woman can make me happy and that they are Machiavellian and evil in nature from all of my experiences.
My mother was physically and verbally abusive towards me, I was bullied in my childhood by girls, and my last relationship was awful too.
I realize it might sound like I'm shitposting but I can't even find myself attracted to women anymore because they have served as nothing more than agents of pain and suffering in my life. If there aren't any women out there that just don't want my money, won't attack me for weaknesses, are straightforward, etc. then I think I might just MGTOW fag the rest of my life I guess?
>>16766691
No. There are plenty of women who are just fine on their own. Problem is, 99% of them are taken at any given time.
Stop being a queer and take the advice posted in your own image.
>>16766702
I am kind of a queer I like men too sometimes.
I do take the advice in my own image, that was not the crux of the issue (although you did address my although concern in the first sentence)
So they're are some but they're scarce since they're taken, eh? Well that's kind of hopeful :'>
Eh, there's some truths to be had in the red pill. Some folks take it too far, make a religion out of it rather than admit they're maladroit when it comes to dealing with women.
First off, you're young, and it's hard not to be bitter when things go bad routinely. That's usually a waste of time and energy, and can cause you to miss out on quality time.
First off, women aren't going to make you happy. Happiness comes from within. A woman will only enhance your happiness and satisfaction in a meaningful way when you've provided fertile ground for that.
I said in another post that dynamic people tend to attract each other. If you want to attract high-quality women, build a great life for yourself, surround yourself with only people who love you, devote yourself to family and make yourself a better man... and don't do that to attract a woman, do that to make yourself happy. Until you can be comfortable in your own skin, odds are not great that you'll find a woman who wants the same thing you do.
Also, stop listening to what women say and focus more on their actions. You'll find them a LOT easier to understand then. Women have no trouble reconciling a certain lack of self-awareness when it comes to behavior and motivation, but get awful hurt when you tell them that you see it.
Should you take responsibility and admit to something you've done if it is fairly bad? I feel it's the right thing to do but I'm scared. I wouldn't last in jail, they'd kill me instantly. I want to redeem myself but..
>>16766662
What was it? Were their victims? Could you make things right and dodge karma? I need details, however vague
>>16766662
Pic related
Depends.
I have a shy friend that apparently likes me. They talk to me all night until school. They tell me their problems and thoughts. He tells me he loves me. He tells me hes sad because he gets bullied by his family , friends and classmates. Hes been in many fights . I wanna make him feeled loved and cared for. What are somethings I could tell him or do to make him feel loved ? Thanks!
Things besides have sex? Can't think of any.
>>16766644
What is the sex of you and your friend? The uncomfortable truth is that that will make a difference in how you should proceed.
PLEASE ANYTHING BUT THAT !!!!! How about things I. Can say please
>trying to date two girls at once
>girl one is usually free Saturday, girl two is for Sunday so it works perfect
>this weekend is all fucked up
>girl 2 is free Saturday, not Sunday because of the Super Bowl, and just got on birth control so wants to fuck without a condom
>girl 2 can't do Sunday because of super bowl and won't be able to meet the next two weeks
What fucking do?
>>16766638
Enjoy your herpes while getting some real problems you need advice for.
>>16766638
Come clean to both of them and lead an honest life.
If troll, consider why you made a post looking to incite people on an anonymous imageboard.
>>16766638
Yeah I wish I could watch the trainwreck that your life has a potential to become. It'll be great.
i recently turned 18. Should i get a job or go straight to uni?
Go to college if, AND ONLY IF, you know exactly what you want to do with yourself.
Otherwise, you'll be undirected and will waste time and money. You can always join the workforce, learn a little more about yourself and the world, and revisit the issue in a year, or two, or five.
Get a job for a year, SAVE UP for preparations, then go to CommCollege, THEN go to uni. If possible go to grad school for a limited time. You don't need Doctorates, but something to prove you're worthy of money in this competitive job-meta.
Neither.
Instead, travel. In the end, experience is far more valuable then money will be.
I just saw a fucking rat in my apartment. I can hear it in the other room. It's making these scratching noises and freaking me out. I'm a huge pussy and don't want to go near it. How the fuck do I kill it?
get a gun
Get some grenades, or a rocket launcher.
Get a big boner and club the rat to death.
Long story short.
We were great friends, things started progressing between one another. I was more socially awkward at the time and didn't really know if I wanted to go full speed or not. Then she started talking to her old ex.
She got back with her old ex, I confessed to her how I felt and that I wasn't expecting anything. We maintained a friendship for over a year. It was an on again and off again of a friendship. We would be close, then not talk at all after some incident where we got too close or one of us got hurt feelings.
Shes still with her ex, the last time me and her stopped talking was 2 months ago. We were speaking for over a month almost every other day without once talking about her ex/current boyfriend. We're talking serious on-fire conversations like at the height of the friendship. I asked her flat out if that was a good thing, and she said it didn't mean anything. I told her that this was literally the definition of insanity and it's my fault for even wanting this anymore. Then nothing.
That was 2 months ago. She didn't even wish me happy birthday, she stops into our job and won't even look in my direction. She didn't acknowledge me a single time she stopped in and apparently won't even speak about me if I'm brought up, she just stays quiet.
Now I have to work with her for the first time since that night of texting on this Sunday.
I don't know how to feel, I don't know what to think. I'm not in love with her anymore, but I just wish I knew what she was thinking or why she is acting this way. Should I even say anything to her at work?
>>16766471
Your problem was you waited until she got with her ex to confess.
Don't worry about talking to her. Speak when spoken to, no more, no less.
>>16766510
Yeah, I wasn't sure how I felt and I would have felt like shit to move forward with a friend when I wasn't totally certain.
Then things got weird. It just sucks we both lost a good friend, but if she won't even look at me for an unknown reason then the friendship is pointless. And if we'll just end up in the same spot again why bother trying again?
I get that the logical thing would be to drop me as a friend then, but I've never seen her be so utterly cold before. During one of the pauses in the friendship when I asked if she was hurt she literally refused to admit she was despite clearly acting bitchy to the point where I had co-workers ask me what was going on.
This is just flat out ignoring.
>>16766522
You need to understand that people don't give a shit about you. (not to be mean but usually people think about what you can do for them first, whether that be a friend, confident, side pieces etc; and the other person's feelings second)
People generally look out for themselves first, so I am not she is surprised that she didn't "admit to being bitchy. She dissipated her dissonance a long time ago, and it's likely that she would rather cut off all ties then deal with the confrontation (ostrich effect)
I will agree with the other anon, in saying you waited too long and let her ex-bf come back into the picture. Understand if you don't catch her on the downswing (during/just after relationship ) or rock bottom, you it becomes very difficult with all the emotional baggage. Why is this you ask? Well, Time is a natural accelerant, on the downswing you get value. The people in this state are emotionally weak, angry and sad. Human's try to justify our feelings, generally blaming the other person in the relationship. This is the time to strike.
Because time is a natural accellerant, all these feelings we have of hated, anger, and sadness, eventually turn into introspection, self-reflection. After awhile we stop hurting, pick ourselves up, and think more logically about the situation. We start thinking about what we did wrong, how did it get so bad and just generally looking at the situation with rosy inspection, looking at the situation positively, and in large disregarding most of the negative things.
The reason it is so hard to get with a girl who has made up with her boyfriend, is because she is optimistic, all those negative, introspective thoughts we had about ourselves, seemingly abolished by the act of reconciliation. The loneliness, "pain" seemingly gone. Optimistic for a second chance, and new beginning with her ex, she is not trying to mess this up this time. 1/2
So, two long-term relationships in a row, and I'm noticing an upsetting trend. The guys I date depend on me too much, and I'm pretty sure it's my own damn fault. They both gained weight, become dependent on me, can't hold down a job, become (or already were) depressed, and lose interest in sex.
And I admit, to an extent, I kind of like taking care of people. I like feeling needed every now and then, and I like being able to help someone. I don't like this, it feels like I'm taking care of a kid.
I've been very lenient with my boyfriend, suggesting that he get a part time job to help me out with finances, because we are not exactly thriving. He broke his shoulder last year, so couldn't work while he was recovering, that's fair. But I s2g, he is literally always getting injured, and can't work, and i'm starting to worry he's doing it on purpose.
He's starting to remind me a lot of my ex, who was a pain in the ass to live with, and for the longest time couldn't hold down a job, didn't clean, etc. It's very frustrating, because i work so HARD to keep us afloat, and I feel like it's all on me, working, cleaning, paying bills, getting groceries, and I do it all on bicycle.
I know the depression is part of it, but I can't afford to help him with that, when I'm struggling to make sure we have groceries. I don't know what to do.
Do i just need to stop being such a doormat? Have I been unlucky, or is this trend likely to continue?
>>16766435
It sounds like it's partly your choice in men, and partly how you take care of them - you're too lenient. Also, the men you've taken care of sound like my last girlfriend - who was so terrified and anxious of everything that I basically had to step in and become her parent and do everything for her. Scheduling appointments, making every phone call because she's too scared to talk to someone she doesn't know, trying to keep her studying for college.
It's not that you're a doormat, you have a good heart and you want to take care of people. But people will find that you're weak to this kind of approach and take advantage of it. It's all about putting your foot down, and that's hard to know exactly when since it's a case by case basis. But with two manchildren under your belt, you have some experience on dealing with it. You'll get better at figuring out when to start putting the boot to them, at first to help, then to help them become less dependent on you, or to kick them out the door.
men don't have the social advantages that women do, so it ends up being harder for them in the modern world until they've established a certain level of experience in their field.
either stick it out, or date someone already successful. I don't think being a hard-ass about it is going to be easy for someone who's personality just doesn't lend itself to that.
I think there is a specific personality disorder for that shit. Codependency or something
I've been doing cam sex, sending dirty photos, and talking dirty with a guy for a while. But I don't really want to continue anymore. I want to tell him, but I fear that he will spread what I sent or blackmail me to make me stay and continue. What do, guise?
>>16766410
Not be a whore on camera. Oops... too late.
Fake your own death/tell him you no longer want that sort of relationship. Blackmail is a crime, screenshot any conversations that sound blackmail'y and contact the police if it comes to that.
Does he know your circle of friends or do you know him irl well otherwise? If not just tell him. If anything gets posted online, if it's not your facebook I doubt it's gonna affect you in any way
How do I figure out how I'm fucking up with girls? I feel like I did everything I could this time and I still couldn't make it happen. It's starting to really get to me, I've blown every shot I've had for awhile and I'm sick of starting from square one.
post moar pics, tell me where you're fucking up and I'll try and give you a diagnosis. Where'd it end this time?
>>16766339
It's not "over" but basically I was talking with this girl online and we briefly got on the subject of fwbs, then the next day we just kind of chit chatted and got a little flirty. I asked her out and she said she was busy housitting (read: in a house, all alone) so I basically told her I was interested in coming over and she played the whole "good girl" routine, so I tried to play the "bad boy" routine and it backfired and she just flat out told me no. The only thing I can think of is that I was being a *little* pushy.
There's like a million chicks out there dude. The easiest way to get a woman is pleasant indifference.
If the woman is worth anything she'll get you interested. Trying just kills it.
I've been talking to/seeing this guy for about 3 to 4 weeks. This weekend he's supposed to come over and hang out, drink, just a chill night in. The problem I've been having is his nervousness. He says he hasn't had a gf or much experience in a super long time and some of his mannerisms make that a little obvious. How do I get him to feel more comfortable and open up? We have so much in common that I'm concerned about missing a connection just due to this crippling shyness. It will be the first time we are truly alone (like not in a restaurant type setting or a bar) and I really want to get to know more about him than what I have so far.
How do I keep conversations going so he can relax? Am I gonna have to make a move if it gets to that point? It's been super frustrating because I do like him so much but I don't want to terrify him, either.
Pic sort of related.
Well, keeping conversations up is his job as a man. But just be straight forward with him and tell him to not be shy, and that all is good and chill, men are very responsive to direct instructions
>>16766318
>Well, keeping conversations up is his job as a man
Conversations are a two way street, you insufferable piece of humanity.
>>16766362
But men should lead, you dense motherfucker
Hey guys.
I'm a 23 year old female who just moved to a new state where I know absolutely no one other than my boyfriend. He's working currently while I'm still looking for work, so I've got a lot of time to myself. It's been a couple months and even though my boyfriend is wonderful, I need to meet people around here. My friends all live about 3 hours away now, we only have one car for the time being, cash is a little tight and I'm going insane slowly from this job hunt and being cooped up in the house so often. Does anyone have any advice on how or where to meet people?
I found a site called MeetUp and browsed the groups local to my new area and joined one that seemed kind of okay. It's a feminist book club though and even though it's not really my style, I'm desperate to make some friends up here. There isn't much to do in my immediate area, it's kind of remote and quiet, but if I travel to the larger areas about 30 minutes away, there's a ton of shit to do, it's just too far to travel right now with our current situations. Idk, just wondering if anyone has any advice. Thanks in advance :)
All this advice has been bomb, thanks everyone!
-_-
>>16766340
Q. How do I meet people?
A. Go to where people are and talk to them.
Join a gym, volunteer, get to know your coworkers better. Even small towns have things to do.
There isn't a gym in this town, nearest is half hour away like everything else and as I explained, I don't have consistent access to a vehicle and my bf and I don't have the money to throw away on memberships until I'm working. the only library is half an hour away, hour by walking and it's so small it requires a membership fee from anyone who doesn't live in its township, volunteer orgs are all also over 30 minutes away.
I've been here for three months, it's a ramshackle town in the middle of fucking nowhere. I haven't not met anyone for lack of trying.
I've got a girlfriend who I think is wife material. We've been dating for three years, we're both 23.
However, when Im out with friends or family and she's not there, I get a huge rush when women flirt with me, and I flirt back. I've never cheated, though the whole addictive rush of attracting beautiful women really makes me contemplate it, though I know how guilty I'd feel which is why I havent.
I could break up with her, but like I said, she's wife material and I dont want to. Anyone else have similar dilemmas? Did you end up figuring things out or are situations like these disasters waiting to happen?
People like being complemented and paid attention to. The important part is to not put your dick inside of these very nice people while you're in a committed relationship.
If you love this person, stay with them. If you don't, and you just think she'd be a good wife instead of someone you feel genuine affection for, break up and save yourselves the trouble down the line.
>>16766331
This. I get the same. Don't let the confidence boost of having an awesome QT get to either of your heads. I check chick out sometimes cause it's in my lizard brain and I've thought about screwing some of those chicks but that's as far as it goes. I love my QT.
>>16766236
I know the lure of other women. It will never stop, it may go away briefly but that is it.
Pay attention to the feelings. Compare the women to yours. Most of the time it is just a 'grass is greener' effect. Also being young, going "out" is usually around bars and whatever, which is just a hive for guys to look at girls and to think that they are gonna get laid. It's in the air.
Take a scenario to the extreme. Pretend you are single in your last encounter. Yolu would get all those bubbly feelings about what could be and now can act on them. So you either just screw a new girl, or end up talking to one and getting a new girlfriend. If it was just sex, what happens afterwards? Nothing unless it turns into a GF. If you got a new girlfriend, would the cycle just start back up?
Bottom line. Keep it under control. If this is "wife material" you have to start treating it that way and get ready to build your life together. The lure will never go away, but you can keep it under wraps. Make sure you get what you need from your lady, and vice versa. IT can be tamed. Chill.
