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How the fuck do I get a job?
My dad told me I have two weeks to get a job or he's kicking me out. I've put in 10-15 applications online.
I'm desperate as fuck I will shovel shit for 5 dollars an hour.
>>16758854
Get off your ass and walk the streets of your town, asking at every single business or store you pass.
What's a good way to start playing video games for someone that's never played video games?
>>16758818
I think the 3ds is a good start. That's how I started playing. I like Animal Crossing, Professor Layton, Pokemon and a bunch of others. Just finished Okami Den. So many fun ds games available on the cheap.
My boyfriend just introduced me to Skyrim on pc and I like it a lot.
>>16758818
Something more casual like nintendo or so.
But like the everyday gamer thing download steam and get like a fps or a free mmo.
>>16758818
Don't do it senpai.
You'll waste so much time.
I met a guy at a party on campus last semester. We hooked up a few times and hung out and stuff, but since then he's gotten kind of weird. At times he was clingy, saying how much he cares about me, compliments me, buys me things, etc. but other times he was total jerk to me and said really insensitive things. It seems like he only does this to me because everyone else who we're mutual friends or classmates with thinks he's a cool guy. I've never heard anyone talk bad about him.
After break we got in a huge argument and I told him that we should stop hooking...
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It's what happens when you disregard your emotions in exchange for sex. He obviously has mixed feelings about you. You should expect this if you're going to be fucking around.
find someone whos like water. Not water with jagged ice bergs
>>16758817
Why do you care so much? If anything this guy's just a fling. It's not like you're dating.
>talking to girl who's 17 almost 18
>in all her pictures when she was 16 are hot as fuck (no creep)
>her recent photos don't look as good
>she didn't get fat she just looks like a totally different person
What the hell I looked and her pictures from 83 weeks ago are all hot as fuck and the ones posted 40 weeks ago don't look as good. What should I expect
Post pics please.
Plz no bully
>>16758816
>40 weeks ago
nigga she could look like a different person altogether.
>>16758889
like i can discern anything from either of these photos.
Here is my story. Not long ago, I got in to a relationship, to start off with, everything was great. But things soon turned very bad. This girl was messed up beyond belief, she would beat me black and blue. It's lucky I'm even alive right now. I managed to get away,just about.
But sometimes I still miss her, just thinking what it would have been like had it been different. Is this normal? Have I completely lost my mind? I do not feel sane at all. I feel the need to admit myself to hospital.
>>16758810
Nah its pretty normal to be horrified by your feelings. You were in a relationship and deliberately manipulated to like her but it happens in other situations too.
Paedophiles often dislike their sexuality. Rape victims can be turned on by it and hate that feeling. Even people with dark sences of humour can freak themselves out. The list is endless.
>>16758810
I'm sorry to hear what happened to you, but congratulations on getting out.
>But sometimes I still miss her, just thinking what it would have been like had it been different. Is this normal?
I don't know if I'd call it normal, but it's fairly common in people who have been through this. You certainly are not alone.
>Have I completely lost my mind?
No, but you HAVE been traumatized. You probably don't need to go...
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How do I meet more girls IRL? Tinder and dating sites have had pretty mixed results for me, most relationships last from one night to a month tops. I'm not the kind of guy who pulls tons of chicks on Tinder.
Basically I just want to get some more vagina in my life, not really that interested in a relationship cause I don't think I'm really cut out for that kinda thing. I'm like cute girls of every race and many different body types, so you could say I appreciate a lot of women.
Basically, how do I raise my kill count?
>>16758808
>Basically, how do I raise my kill count?
Shooting up schools seems to be the popular thing these days. Also, don't know why you're bringing up chicks on tinder if this is your question
i lol'd. i'm not an angry virgin, I only want to slay vagina.
>>16758808
Just read up on game/PUA blogs. The best info is out there for free, so don't get sucked into subscribing to something. Rational Male and Mario Favela were the ones that helped me the most. I don't really care for the PUA lifestyle but definitely into ethical game/spinning plates.
I've been seeing a girl for a month now and we're in a mutually inclusive relationship. But I'm beginning to get the feeling she doesn't find me handsome... I don't know why this gets to me so much! She talks about other guys being handsome but never says about me.. And it's getting to me.. Am I actually ugly or something? Should I just find someone else...
>>16758783
If this stuff is eating you up you should talk to her about it. Otherwise once you are a husk the desease will move onto your relationship. Then it will move onto your respect for her. Finally you'll murder her.
I'm telling you Hitler had a bad relationship and didn't deal with it properly...
>>16758795
Solid advice! No it's okay. I get hit on daily so I have nothing really to worry about. It bothers me because I am used to my girlfriend's saying that a lot but this one is special and that's why I am happy to be with her. But still... I busted my ass to mature from that scrubbed out pimply Jackass I was back in Highschool! Lol!!!
>>16758783
I've been through almost this exact scenario. She basically liked every swinging dick that smiled at her. I dumped her because I always endeavored to treat her like she was the only one that mattered, the light in my life, but to her I was just the only one that reciprocated her
How do I overcome sexual anxiety, /adv/? I've struggled with it on and off for years now, and have been having bouts with it the last couple monthes. I'm in a long term and very happy relationship, and am very attracted to my girlfriend but I still get sexual anxiety which essentially winds up with me not being able to get/maintain a boner when the time comes for sex, even when I'm horny as all hell. I just clam up, worry I won't be able to perform and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy; and the more times its happens the worse it gets, I end up remembering the last time, etc.
This isn't with a stranger or somebody I'm not really into either; its my girlfriend whom I'm extremely comfortable and open with and am honestly very attracted to (although I've had this problem far more prevalently in the past with people I'm not as comforable with) . I can literally masturbate fantasizing about her but when the time comes to have sex, sometimes the anxiety kicks it, I get nervous and feel forced or awkward, and at that point I can't get a boner if my fucking life depends on it. To be honest, I don't know how people DON'T get nervous or anxious over sex, especially when its with people they AREN'T as familiar with. Any advice on how to get over this or deal with it, guys? Its extremely frustrating.
Do you masturbate more than once every four days? if so, stop. In your twenties, you shouldn't jack off more than once every four days. If you're in your thirties, once a week max. Forties, once every two weeks.
Not cumming often will give you a huge boost of sexual energy. If you don't cum for four-five days, you will have zero problems getting hard. You may cum fast, but that's fine. Totally normal when you have a loaded gun. Either have your gf give you head or a blowjob before sex, then eat her out until you're hard again. don't be afraid...
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pt 2
Also look up the book The Multi Orgasmic man: sex secrets every man should know.
It changed my life. Google the pdf. It's a short and easy read, and just reading the first few chapters will make you feel way more confident in bed.
I used to have horrible performance anxiety. I also realized a lot of it was coming from my dependance on sex. I didn't want sex for fun or to communicate, I wanted validation. Remove the need for sex, and think of it as just "fooling around." it's seriously no big deal, you're just enjoying the act of fulfilling your instincts. Do what your body wants to do, and get out of your head.
Also huge: BREATHE. Learn how to breathe into your balls. When you breathe, expand your abdomen, not your chest. Breathe deeeeeep into your testicles, hold for a second, and exhale. This will remove a lot of pressure that forms when you're turned on next to a naked woman. Taking a deep breath will give you ten-fifteen seconds of relaxation and confidence. repeat as needed, but don't drive yourself crazy. again, stay out of your head, just make sure you're breathing enough.
The best position for anxiety is girl on top. Your PC muscles will relax, your body will feel more comfortable, and it makes it much easier to last long during sex. I like to start with my gf on top, then missionary, then finish with doggy style.
Always always always make sure your gf cums at least once before you put your dick in her. This will make you feel much more at ease because even if you cum fast, she'll already have had an orgasm so it's all good.
Either eat her out or just use a lot of lube/saliva and rub your hand up and down her vagina with all your fingers until she cums. it's not difficult.
Remember to take it slow, and relax. It's not a race. Slow sex is the best sex.
What you're experiencing is perfectly natural, never feel bad about your sexual performance. nobody is good every single time. doing kegel exercises can also help.
>>16759209
>do you masturbate more than once every 4 days
whoops. i do this daily. but as of late i've tried toning it down a bit. once i get a gf i'll try to start doing it even less, to not at all.
Wtf is this? And should I see a doctor or just let it be?
Congrats, it's a cyst!
>>16758760
I wanted to upload another pic, kinda kooks like a vain
I've liked my best friend for 3 years now, and am looking for a way to ask her out without ruining the friendship. advice?
>>16758731
Ask once, no pressure, move on/keep cool for a date or two.
I had a bestgf like you too i was in love but i never said it (i think she was too).She than got a boyfriend so i lost al my interest in her i became cold asf to her. Since than im happy
>>16758731
Depends how much chemistry you feel with them, if you are friends it should be easy to just go out for lunch and talk to each other and become closer
Where should me and two friends move next year? We're poor and want to rent a house
>>16758726
Philadelphia
>>16758752
We were thinking maybe in virginia
north Korea
I'm an ugly fuck without a future. The only girl that ever loved me was some fucked up broad an ocean away from me, and she ended up dumping me after 7 months.
Everyone else seems to just fade away from my life while my tall schizo chad friend finds himself in relationships all the time.
If you think you're ugly, work on your appearance. Give up the bandannas and army jackets. Wear better clothes. Work out. You can do it bro. You're not ugly for sure, but many of us lack style.
>>16758739
I don't dress that way regularly, I just slapped together a bunch of shitty clothes because I was bored and I thought it'd be funny.
>>16758725
Lose the bandana and military jacket, shave, and dress fucking normally.
I cringe just looking at your pic.
now that I have carpal tunnel is my life completely fucked?
No. There are surgeries you can get to correct it. I'm getting physical therapy for my carpal tunnel, actually. (They couldn't figure out my MRI results so they did a differential diagnosis for carpal tunnel.).
You didn't talk to your orthopedist about treatment options?
>>16758723
No, you can still do pretty much everything you want. And if you can't, just get surgery.
>>16758734
No, I asked for a referral from my doc WEEKS ago and I haven't gotten a message even tho they said they went through with it. They've just been letting my hands degenerate for months and months on end, actually.
Does online dating work? Can I find me a nice gf that way? I don't do any other social media but since getting a job I've gotten better at containing my spaghetti. What are some good sites that aren't scams (assuming there are any?) No tinder shit, I want an actual relationship. I'm fine with ugly, boring or chubby, just not grossly obese or airheaded.
>>16758705
Not sure about dating sites but yeah, you can find cool girls online. It's really dependent on where you look.
I met someone who became my best friend through a fucking MMO game of all places awhile back. We ended up meeting up since she only lived a few hours away and after high school, she moved here and we dated for 4 years. She was cool and I thought she was pretty hot.
>>16758705
I got a girl from OkCupid that was a really sweet, great girl. We were in a relationship for a while, but I dumped her for outside reasons.
Still, that's a good site to get a general idea of the kinds of things a person is into, and try to start from there.
okcupid seems to be a more or less representative slice of the population
OTOH keep in mind if you're having trouble getting dates IRL you're gonna have trouble online too.
I'm a freshman theatre major in college and I kinda wanna ask out a junior theatre major here but she is definitely planning on moving to New York in like a year and a half and I am staying here for at least three years and after college I plan to either stay here in Texas or move to California. Fuck New York it's too cold.
What do? Should I just accept the fact that we'll just be friends and stay a permavirgin forever or try and see if she's willing to have something short term?
>>16758702
>or try and see if she's willing to have something short term
If you're thinking like that, you clearly don't care about her romantically. You should let it go.
Also, a word of advice, many people here are hyped up on the STEM-train so much you might be metaphorically lynched for being a theatre major. You should include that info only when it's relevant to the situation.
