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My son won't accept any gifts from me. What do I do?
He told me not to get him anything on Christmas, and his birthday is coming up in a week. I asked him what he wanted and he said nothing, so I told him I'd just give him money, and he said he would donate it if I gave him anything.
What do I do? What do kids want these days?
>>16760878
how old is he?
>>16760878
How about asking him why wont he accept gifts?
It could be because he acknowledges the efforts you parents put into him, or maybe he feels guilty about asking for gifts or stuff.
Bitch i don't fucking know, just ask him.
ok so i tried to talk about this on r9k but i got shunned so im here for some /adv/
i have struggled with my mental health for a couple of years now however recently i have been experiencing auditory hallucinations which i thought to be caused by anxiety but i now believe it may be schizofrenia... but i may be wrong.
i live in council house and while i have carpet fitted the family living under me do not. this means that i can hear their conversations somewhat but they can't hear me. for a couple of months i thought they were just mean people and were talking about me all the time however even when wearing headphones i could still hear them. the things i hear them say are extremely personal as if they know what makes me feel bad. now it has got to the point where i am doubting the reality of it all and am considering asking my doctor for some antipsychotic medication.
does anyone have experience with schizofrenia? does this sound like it?
>over the past three years i smoked weed every single day sometimes in my flat, thinking this may be why they hate me so much but im really in a pickle with this
thanks anon x
>>16760840
Hello OP.
Firstly, I am sorry that you have been having such troubling experiences. I am not a mental health professional. However, in my opinion, you sound like you have definitely been experiencing some mental health issues. You should contact your doctor and talk to them about what you have experiencing and get some advice.
Schizophrenia is very manageable once it is diagnosed and handled correctly.
Good luck.
>>16760876
thanks man, told him about my anxiety and he referred me to therapy, really want to work to get my own place and studio equpment though.
Stop smoking so much weed, it can cause anxiety.
I used to smoke and dab daily, it was fine for a while. Now when I get high I get super anxious about my job, future, etc. When I'm sober I feel confident and relaxed.
I only get high if I'm sick, watching horror movies, or having sex with my gf. Otherwise, I don't need it. Only get high if you need to.
I'll be transferring to a 4 year college soon (compsci) and I'm afraid that I won't fit in with people. I don't go to parties, don't drink, don't want casual relationships or hookups, and I'm not really okay being friends with people who do that kind of thing. I assume like minded people group up, so what kind of thing should I be doing to make some friends and maybe even a girlfriend who's more like me? I'm okay with most things as long as they are appropriate and legal but I personally like games, drawing, programming, jogging, tennis, etc... really as long as it's something decent I'm okay with it.
>>16760839
>compsci major
>hobbies include video games, programming, art (throws in physical activities rarely performed to not seem too aspie)
>worried people won't be able to relate to his interests
>compsci major
join clubs on campus. find the one with a few cute girls. be the first to make a move.
...have you tried lightening the fuck up?
I mean, not being friends with people who do hookups... why? What is the reason?
I'm a jesus freak who isn't interested in casual relationships or sex before marriage but I don't give a damn what anyone *else* does.
>>16760839
>compsci
I would assume everyone going for that major plays games and likes programming..
I'm getting glasses for the first time /adv/
Need tips on what kind of frames to buy.
Don't know why the image flipped. Tried to take a neutral face pic. But this is morning time before coffee, so ignore the serial killer look lol
>>16760769
why the long face?
but seriously, you're rather good looking for such a long face. assuming you arent a troll id recommend not styling your hair up. maybe grow it out on the sides a bit more. ur still handsome
>>16760773
they flip a lot 4chan does that
>>16760769
go to something like warbyparker and order trial pairs. walk into a retailer and express interest in purchasing, just don't actually buy anything.
sorry about the zika bruh.
So there is a girl that I really like we talk alot, we share ALOT of common interests shes cute and has a adorable laugh so sadly this is more then liking her for her looks. The issue here is a couple things
>Her ex is a good friend of mine, were all in the same friend group
>Pretty sure but not 100% sure she doesn't like me
>Told me she had interest in another friend of our group,but then told me she doesn't feel that way anymore
Now I really want to get over this because its come to the point of me just looking at my phone and seeing a random text notification I get excited hoping its her. I need to move on its hurting me just thinking of her being in another relationship because if she did and I was there to witness any kinda PDA then I would get torn up inside.
>>16760624
>Ex from a dude from the group
>Was interested in a different dude from the same group in the past, possibly still is
>seeing a random text notification I get excited hoping its her
Back off, for real. You need to meet new people.
>>16760670
I know I need to back off, and I make up my mind not to pursue her for a relationship. My issue is that I want to keep her as a friend really badly because I enjoy talking with her alot but I don't know if I should do that. Also if she ever does get in a relationship with that kid from our friendgroup I will have to avoid them all or else I won't be able to handle it. I know I need to meet new people but its very hard for me
>>16760685
> I will have to avoid them all or else I won't be able to handle it
Trust me, you just need more friends. You're overly-attached to this girl that A: Already has a past with dudes from your imediate social circle and B: hasn't given you reasons to believe the affection is mutual.
I know this shit isn't easy to swallow when you like someone, but this girl isn't unique. Start going new places like the gym or internet cafés and seeing new faces.You only care that much about this particular group of people because you think you can't replace them. That's not the case.
My sex drive is gone. The last time I fap was three years ago. I tried it with porn, pictures of naked women etc. Nothing helps. How do I get it back?
>>16760603
three years my ass.
how many wet dreams have you had since?
>>16760603
Go to a whore house and have a woman suck your dick for an hour straight no stopping even if you cum
Are you depressed? On medication? How's your energy and health otherwise?
Are you single then?
>met a girl on an online dating platform
>texting went really well, we both found each other very sympathetic
>quickly started to talk about sex and what not
>sunday i visited her
>2 hours later we started kissing, not that later we ended up having sex
>think i brought her to orgasm twice
>after that we cuddled a bit and a bit later I went home
>after that the texting began to be really weird, she was more repellent and didn't really wanna talk that much any more
>a day later it was her birthday and she didn't have time that day to see me, so I called her and wished her a happy birthday and asked if the first date was alright for her, which she agreed to. So I thought everything was going good.
>a day later (today) i messaged her again asking how she's doing and if everything is alright. asked her if she wants to do something with me the following days
>she says the entire week is bad for her (tuesday-sunday) pretty weird
So I begin to think that I was only a one-night-stand for her, could that be? But why would she even have sex with me if she doesn't really like me at all? Makes no sense to me.
>>16760397
Dude, you had a one-night stand. Maybe it was something you did, maybe she planned it to be that way since the beginning but this girl is clearly pretty cool with having banged you once and that's it.
>>16760410
we talked prior that we both have interest for friendship+, so being fuckbuddys, and if that would work out we both agreed to get into a relationship. since she did have sex with me, she can't really hate me or dislike me that much, right? so I don't understand why she wouldn't want to do that again.
you were an awful fuck and shes ditching you
move on
Is this believable?
I'm the LDR guy. Gf 2500 miles away, we fly to visit every month.
she's cheating
>>16760309
how long has this been ldr?
>>16760316
6 months.
What's something I could get my girlfriend instead of roses?
Go on ebay or amazon and buy one of those make up packs. She probably hasn't updated that shit in awhile. Win for both of you.
hire a mariachi band
or buy a hitachi
What is she into? If she's a basic bitch, jewelry. Other than, we need more info on her to give good suggestions.
I think i may have deliberately jumped into a snake pit /adv/ please help.
>3 months ago
>be me 22 yo virigin, got back to college after screwing over 2y of college and working for a year.
>Get "university dorm room" not far from my college, people there seem nice.
>One chick, 7/10, 19yo , studies physics, the jolly type (this type normally get's on my nerves pretty hard, she does too but in moderation).
>get the feeling that either she likes to babble or she's into me.
>Asks me several times to go out with her and friends.
>She's the i have 1 million friends type.
>One of the friends is a cute, yet slightly chubby 7/10 blonde from my class whom i talk with from time to time.
>For some reason she tells me that physics chick isn't the "good girl" she looks like (she looks rather nerdy) and that i should not underestimate her.
>"That guy she's talking to at the moment, yeah you can say stuff happened."
>Blonde chick is wasted af but i thank her for her tips anyway.
>Last month, exams, see physics chick occasionally on dorm or in library and due to the fact that i'm on ritalin 24/7 i always seem to chat with her (is it weird that this stuff makes me crazy social btw? Normally i weigh up people for at least an hour before i start extensive conversation with them.)
>She has started sending me the occasional text, I look at my cellphone three times a day max. so except for the funny remark here and there we don't really get into long texting.
>>16760073
Day before yesterday :
Sends me a text to ask me when i'm back at dorm ( it's a weeklong break after exams). Long story short i was going to go out with friends yet she tought that i would come with her and other girl from dorm to watch some comedy show.
>oh it's ok, just text me when you're here.
>yesterday, 22o clock, playing WC III. Get a text from chick asking if i'm not coming today after all.
>Oh i'm actually here just chilling.
>Knock on door, hey anon "small talk small talk" I'm watching the Matrix you should come and watch too"
>Ok, she leaves
>Is this a hint? I'm so bad at this, i just want to play WC III, this undead campaign is cash.
>she texts me during her movie, i decide to go take a look (this is where i fucked up guys)
>watch Matrix one, she blabbers through whole movie, i get extremely nervous from it so blabber along.
>she says she's tired so i tell her it's ok i'll go back to my room.
>No wait Anon stop we should watch the second one
>>16760073
>>16760077
>15 mins into second one, she falls asleep on lap. WTF is happening.
>slowly move pillow with her head on away and try to close her laptop.
>she wakes up and asks me to stay the night
> I freak out and tell her i've never done this before, she laughs at how awkward i make it.
>Decide to stay anyway, i'm 22 it's about time i lose this shit.
>5 mins in her bed she's just stroking my chest. Fuckit.jpg . i start making out with her.
>sucks my dick ,rides me then sucks my dick again for about 10 mins ( she sucked at sucking dick), decide to do my part too,i have no idea what i'm doing but she seems to like it. She gets crazy horny and decides it's a good idea to ride me without condom, stops in the middle of it and just jerks me.
>in between the sex she makes weird comments like : "wow we're going to have such amazing sex"
>This wasn't as good as i expected it to be.
>gives me random compliments, i reply with some slightly forced compliments too.
>She falls asleep next to me but never stops clinging to me until the morning when she had work.
>randomly kisses me and gently strokes me when she wakes up at random times in the night, i have no idea if she knows i'm awake, but she's giggling while doing that.
>i didn't sleep the entire night, just realize that this chick may be crazy in love with me while i don't really feel anything.
>6 am i go to my room because i'm burning up and i may have a fever. (a sign from whatever deity you like) I say goodbye but this part seems a little rusty.
>What do i do /adv/? This chick seems nice but i don't feel anything for her and i'm afraid she's in love with me. Do i just ask her?
>>16760073
So she lives with you and you fucked her. ok.
Option 1, keep fucking her
Option 2, say no to her advances and...I don't know, dont do that again dude
Option 3, dunno, think something dipshit.
How do you lose an accent without traveling to an english speaking country?
With great difficulty.
Hire a dialect coach.
>not wanting to have perfect mastery of the language coupled with an accent
>wanting to lose that unique touch
Unless it's an Asian accent don't do it son
>>16760049
Attend an international school or work in an English-speaking environment. I've never been to the US yet I have an American accent. Oh, and I'm Italian.
Okay, I'll start by saying I LOVE spicy food, and I like going a step higher every time.
Before last time I had some rice dish with madam jeanettes and ate too much, my anus felt like it was engulfed with hellflame.
Now this time I ate something even spicier. Didn't think about the consequences. It's been 5 hours and I'm afraid to take a shit. Is there away to make it less painful??
>>16760033
Cover your anus in milk.
>>16760034
That sounds ridiculous.
Just stop eating spicy food because you will get hooked and it will never be spicy enough.
I've been depressed since I was 14 years old. I am 21 now and still think about suicide daily, it is only recently that I have told this to my parents and they have booked me and appointment with my GP.
I wanted to know how to get the best out of this appointment. Shall I tell him that I think about suicide everyday? I am really worried that they will not take it seriously because I am perfectly willing to make myself feel better. I work and play as much as anyone, but nothing works. Am I gonna be pilled up for the rest of my life?
>>16759950
pls respond
What do you expect from the GP? A referral to therapy? Drugs? Focus on what you need to heal rather than worrying about not being taken seriously. If GP's an ass, go to another one.
That's really awesome that you reached out and told your parents whats going on with how you've been feeling for so long. I hope you feel good about that cause it can be a hard thing to do.
You might not be given any medication at all, they may give you tools and resources and exercises to do instead. There is a possibility you will be medicated but no one can make you take anything you don't want to honey, you're 21 and you will probably find you have a lot of say.
To get the most out of it I'd suggest just being completely honest and as open as you can. Don't put too much pressure on yourself or stress too much about the first appointment cause it will be mostly background and family history questions. To make things easier write down everything you want to say in advance in bullet points and bring it with you and check it when you forget what you were going to say, they are used to this and won't mind.
Lastly, even if you are medicated the exercises and tools and stuff are important and often need to be put into practice for things like anti depressants to have a higher effect so have an honest go of all of them and write down any problems or questions you have about them so they can be resolved and put to better practice next session.
Take your time, know that it doesn't matter if you don't mesh with the person that it's not weird to see a few before you find the doctor that's right for working with you
Good luck honey
Something happened to me on LSD, and I dont know what.
It happened 2 and a half years ago and Im just still really confused
What's your question you dumb faggot?
Medibate, niggerfaggot.
>>16760472
>Medibate
meditate and masturbate at the same time ?
hmmmm interesting , how do ?
My crush is dating a bottem level fatty, what do I do
Get fat and crush your crush's crush.
>>16759913
Figure out what the fatty is doing right that makes him attractive to her and try to become that sort of good person.
>>16759929
You think he's into bloated women? She seriously is fat as fuck and ugly as fuck.
