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I fucked up. I lied to my boyfriend when I basically made a deal that we do not keep secrets to each other. I lied about him being my first boyfriend and the only one I had sexual relations with. It really wasn't considered a lie for me because my past relationship didn't count and it was shit. It was with only one guy and we didn't have sex, we just did some stuff. Now that I told him in the most inappropriate way my boyfriend is really angry and wants to break up with me. I don't want to because I love him so much and I don't want to lose him. I know...
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Why do you think your past relationship didn't count?
>>16774655
Because I was young and dumb and it was over the internet.
>>16774659
Alright. When you say you did some stuff, can you be more specific?
Dear occultists,
I read that starting out with just chaos magic will be detrimental to one's magical progression. That is, one should have a basis in smth else before.
Is this true? Why?
Thanks in advance.
>>1677458
Magic is not real so feel free to do whatever you want because it won't matter.
What is chaos magic? Could you tell us what you did and how?
>>16774590
What did >>1677458 say?
(I can't see the deleted post.)
I smoked weed everyday this past month, and for the first time in my life, enjoying life was easy. I also became very cool, mysterious, sexy, ... I got laid, got girls approaching me, and everything.
Then I got a depersonalizations episode that lasted for a couple of days. That shit was scary. After it passed, I went back to my former self.
Boring, annoying, unattractive. Shit sucks.
Is this just my imagination? Can weed actually make someone cool?
>>16774560
no, you slowly become weirder and weirder
>>16774565
Makes sense.
Is there a way to be the person I became at the beginning of that smoke weed everyday month?
>>16774566
Just willpower. I don't know why people think there's a magic cure for psychological shit. Just try to become that person. Mentally say "no" to yourself every time you do something that person wouldn't. That's how this shit works.
I think my friend might be an awful person... and I think I am awful for being friends with her and thinking shes funny. Is there any objectivity to morality? I get guilted a lot by friends, but I don't know if those friends are right or my friend is, how do you gauge your morality.
You have to explain why you think she is awful, or why other people tell you she is awful.
Generally speaking, awful people are funny until they start being awful to you. Something to think about.
>Is there any objectivity to morality?
Why the fuck does it matter?
Regardless of the objectivity, or lack of objectivity, in morality, if you know someone is doing something that is wrong then you should not simply discard it because "muh subjective morality."
I do believe morality is subjective, but that doesn't mean I don't think people are assholes if they do something I consider shitty. That doesn't mean I don't hold myself to moral/ethical standards.
>>16774486
Oh, she just can be incredibly offensive and unapologetic... she shocked a group of my other friends by saying this "I'm native American and I got over the whole rape of my people, mostly because chad down the street isn't marching me across the fucking country, hes flipping my fucking burger, I don't give a shit about the massacres, the world war 2 camps, or the russians fucking up my people... I got over it, its a little wierd that a bunch of hipsters can't seem to pull their heads out...
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Would you date a former prostitute?
>provided she's clean and free from STDs
nope. no sane person would.
How long has she been a prostitute?
>>16774399
>>16774399
that totally depends. do you want me to date you?
I'm 18, a college freshman. I've finally started getting attention from girls but then I always discover that they're still in high school.
The youngest so far is 16. Should I still go for them? How about just for a sexual relationship? Is all of this wrong to do?
Chances are that if they're in high school they're boring and less mature than you and are only attracted to you because they feel sophisticated having an older boyfriend (and because you have accomplishments high schoolers won't have, e.g. graduating high school, and will be a lot more independent than the average high school student.).
There's really no appeal to dating the weird, needy high school chicks who like you just because you're in college.
>getting hit on by high schoolers is like getting hit on by a puppy:...
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>>16774306
you should no problem
Yes, I'm a high school girl and older guys are so hot
How do you become Alpha male? Or does beta male just hard wire into your brain?
Eat and excercise until you are as jacked as the guy in your picture. Boom. Alpha as fuck. Unless you have a tiny dick, in which case it won't really matter how tough you are.
Neither of these things actually exist. They're literally just retarded stereotypes.
4chan seems to believe in the idea, but do you really want to listen to the group of people who coined the term "normies"?
Just be yourself. And try to be nice and a good person. Nobody gives a shit about how alpha you are.
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>>16774200
replace the voice in your head that discriminates and undermines anything you think or do with a reinforcing and encouraging one and you're good to go
If religion is true ( which I sort of feel it isn't) can you make amends for anything you did in life? Say that ur did something terrible but you regret every part of it , can you apologize for it? Or in the bible are there any acts that get you sent straight to hell?
>>16774196
Go on a Crusade and recover Jerusalem from the Mohammedans, or die trying. Boom, plenary indulgence.
>>16774212
Uhhh
>>16774196
Church doctrine says that there are certain sins that send you straight to hell, but for everything else, if you are truly repentant to the depths of your very soul, you will be saved, but what you certainly are NOT is absolved from worldly consequences of your actions. God will know you as a friend at your death, but we humans can't tell if you're a liar so we punish crimes no matter how repentant you act.
Lived in a border town for years
No it has nothing to do with taking my jerbs it's the following reasons
>none of them will ever fight a one on one, they start shit with 15 guys in the car knowing they can pussy out of a fight and let the goons handle it
>the women are so desperate to fuck non Mexicans . most of /a/ could have five kids by any bitch in Tucson
>They are completely unhygenic even ones that take bathes smell like your dad's worst scent mixed...
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>applying a few experiences to an entire population of people
you already know the answer, ese
>>16774068
You sound like a fucking idiot that spends time around horrible hobo Mexicans.
You could say the same thing about whites that live in the Appalachian or blacks that love in Chicago or Detroit. Italians and jews that live in NY.
>>16774068
Nah. I work as an overnight security guard for a hotel, and my experiences over the past few years have led me to actively dislike blacks and working class whites. I still try to give them the benefit of the doubt, but more often then not I'm proven correct in my suspicions.
T. Dominican
Do any of you anons know anything about engagement rings? As in where to find one for a good price, what sellers will/will not fuck me over, and if ordering one online is a retarded idea?
pic is unrelated
I got a 2 ct diamond mounted on a platinum ring that was listed as $36k for $13k just by negotiating.
>>16774057
any negotiating tips?
What were you thinking of on a ring? I'm hardly a jeweler but engagement rings are pretty as fuck and I have some plans.
For instance: what cut of precious stone? What kind of ring -- more typical stuff such platinum, gold, rose gold, white gold, etc or weirder (cheaper and sometimes more durable) shit like titanium? What kind of stone are we talking -- diamond, emerald, ruby, cubic zirconia, etc?
I really like http://touchwoodrings.com -- they have some gorgeous rings in their gallery of stone inlays, and the rings are "only" about $500-$600 to...
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Why is it that some women will say they want a guy like you, but not actually you?
Whether in high school or college, I never understood this.
They mean someone with your personality. But actually attractive.
>>16774022
99% of the time its this. 1% of the time you are attractive but you are a romance slut and they want assholes to act like you but only towards them.
girls wanna feel special. not like every other girl you swoon over
>>16774016
Well it COULD be a looks, thing, but honestly, we all know it's not that easy.
It's an alpha thing. People like alphas, be them men or women.
It's likely what she means is "I wish I could meet an alpha with your tastes and sense of humor".
>gay guy in our group keeps trying to 'subtly' out me
>i want him to stop
wat do? im tryna avoid having a private conversation about it, because i dont want to give the impression that its okay as long as were in private.
is there a magical third option to get him to stop or do i have to make a sacrifice here?
the closets so comfy
>>16773990
It's 2016. Being gay is cool. Consider yourself lucky, fag.
>>16773992
OR, i could be treated like a normal human bean,
Just fill his hole, then he'll get the message.
Faggot.
Was what I said wrong?
My philosophy professor accused me of trying to psychoanalyze my classmate but when I read what I wrote it does not come across that way in my mind. He says not to do this again but I can't help write what I think. Should I just lie from now on?
>>16773989
>the fact that you (the student)
>lost your parents (an event you experienced)
>was most likely a traumatic experience for you (literally analyzing your psych)
>the human brain etc. etc. (more of me analyzing your psych
gee idk why theyd think u were psychoanalying him
>>16773989
You literally crossed several lines. You professor was being nice.
>>16773989
Yeah, that was pretty dickish of you, tbqh
I will give some backstory to help you guys and girls out.
>I've been with five women in my life.
>Straight but I have always said to myself I'd be happy with either gender.
>Met a guy back in October at a Halloween party.
>Think he's pretty cool we start to hang out a lot.
>Couple of days before Thanksgiving he comes out to me and tells me he's gay.
>"W/e no...
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Yes you're gay.
Part 2
One of my concerns is that he is or was now a virgin and he might become too attached to me. My second being is just because I am ok with being with whoever I want to be with doesn't mean my family will be. As a matter in fact I know they won't be. I know they also will never drop this, I could basically cure cancer and solve world hunger and I'd still be their "their gay son". So I guess my question is to you /adv/ is do I come clean with my parents in a couple of weeks after I see how this goes with (Richard is his name btw), or do I...
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>>16773833
>One of my concerns is that he is or was now a virgin and he might become too attached to me
Well, don't lead him on if you're just playing around. He seems like a great person.
>just because I am ok with being with whoever I want to be with doesn't mean my family will be
It's not their business, and so you should keep it to yourself until you feel comfortable talking to them about it. Most people don't come out to their families until many years later, and some, never speak a word of it. They just let the family guess. If you're dependent on these people, and they're very judgmental, keep silent.
Can any girl explain what goes through their minds when they show interest in a guy, he then acts awkwardly or insecure in response, and they change their minds about him? I mean within the span of several weeks, when you lose interest in someone because they act differently the moment they know you like them.
I ask because men usually see awkwardness as kind of cute in women, and don't seem to make behavior as crucial an issue as they do.
>>16773773
Imagine a retarded child looking for a balloon
They just go after the first one they see
As soon as you say something awkward they're ditzy useless brains just like haha lol I'm going to just talk to this other guy I've been keeping around lol haha
>>16773773
Step One: You meet someone.
Step Two: Based on the initial meeting, he seems the kind of guy you like.
Step Three: He behaves in ways that don't attract you.
Step Four: You lose interest and move on.
>>16773773
>he then acts awkwardly or insecure in response
Are you suggesting that this is supposed to be attractive to women?
>I ask because men usually see awkwardness as kind of cute in women
First of all, that's a generalisation. Secondly, most men prefer a girl who's confident and secure in herself over the awkward shy one.
