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GF's dog recently died.~7 years old
She's been closing herself off to pretty much her best friend and me. However, even so, she hasn't talked much. It's been almost a week since and all she ever does is cover it up by smiling 24/7 and laughing everything off. I'm very worried /adv/. Before we were all pretty close and we'd have conversations that would keep us up all night. But now she's just been going to bed crying.
I'm not quite sure how to comfort her or even talk to her anymore. I'm scared /adv/. She means the...
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:^(
>>16781843
With a 7.62
Why are white people obsessed with fucking dogs
Show up unannounced and hold her.
Just hold her and have her cry.
Me and my bf barely have sex anymore, and when we do its not that great.. I tell him to be more aggressive and stuff but he doesn't really change his habits... he is kinda boring and he doesn't really go out of his way, he will give me a sign when he wants me to grab his dick ect. His idea of foreplay is rubbing my clit half heartedly, I can almost never get wet. He doesn't moan or talk during sex either and that's a huge turn on for me. I almost always have to initiate the sex. I don't want to tell him the sex sucks or anything and when I ask him or...
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Sex therapy maybe.
Otherwise either leave him, or accept this as how things will always be with him.
>>16781846
Leaving him isn't an option we just moved across country together... we can't afford see therapy and he would not agree to it
We have started foreplay and rubbed each other's genetitals only to just stop and cuddle and sleep...
Hey /adv/,
Should I leave my girlfriend? Pic related. I don't have anyone else to fall back on.
I've been with her for around 8 months now, there's very little that I see "wrong" with her or not what I want; she's a bit over-weight, body is a bit meh.
What should I do?
Leave her for her sake, if you only want to cling on for looks then save her the heartbreak down the line.
so her aesthetics aren't up to your standards so you want to drop her? what about how well you get along with her? Also I've run into an issue where a girl i was dating nuked her aesthetics and sex appeal because of the safety of the relationship, so i brought it up and we started working out together.
>>16781702
>what about how well you get along with her
That made me think a bit..but I mean I'm still a virgin, I want to lost my v card to someone who's also a virgin.
Is it even worth it to keep my virginity until marriage or is the shit just overhyped?
Why and should i tell my doctor tomorrow about my anxiety attacks and severe depression/suicide attempts/having nobody to love? Please reply i need to know tonight before tomorrow
Bump, this is the only time i asked for help during browsing through the board for months now. Also what do i get out of this if i tell my doctor everything? Pills? Therapy? Is it even worth it?
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>>16781678
Suicide attempt? Anti depressants and maybe a stay at a psych ward. If you're not quite ready for all that, consider calling the suicide hotline and see what they think.
There's no way I can talk you into or out of anything but if you made an actual suicide attempt you need help. Best of luck.
I fucking blew it. I fucking blew it. I fucking blew it.
There was this girl I liked, I liked her for 3 months. She was the one, we both had same interests and same looks and everything but I blew it. Fucking blew it. She doesn't know me at all and I don't know her. I basically told myself if I comb my hair back and look good chick's will be all over me but no my brain. That's not how it fucking works, and I just now realized that. We talked for a little bit for the first time and I straight up asked her if she'd like to do something sometime...
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I don't understand. Where did you mess up?
We can't fucking falk anymore. Every time I talk to her she'll be like "oh hes just thirsty" or some shit like that. I know I had a chance but I fucking blew it.
>>16781677
So you're expecting to go on forever being just friends and never getting anywhere because you could mess it up? Jesus Christ dude, life goes on
am i cheating on my boyfriend if i have strong feelings for a NPC character in a video game, and married him too
Hahahahaaahahahhahhaaa....ha... No...
Not unless you buy a robotic dildo that's integrated with the game I guess.
>>16781602
Yes. You're a slut. This is what #GamerGate is against.
Basically, it happens a lot that my bf gets all horny, but can't cum. He almost gets there, just not quiet. It's as if he's well on his way and then something throws him off and it's an instant mood/boner killer. I was brushing this off, but I just read somebody confessing that they can only cum with the gf when thinking about their ex. This hit close home and now i'm all insecure and shit. Is there another possible reason for this than him not being attracted to me/not over his ex?
>>16781596
I have trouble cumming with most women because I'm incredibly insecure, suicidally depressed and believe I'm a woman inside. Some guys suffering from anxiety experience similar problems.
How long have you been with him?
>>16781596
What is sex like between the two of you, if you don't mind me asking?
>simple answer is that you should hit the gym. It might just be that he isn't attracted to you...
>>16781604
Hm, ok. He is a bit insecure and can also be awkward sometimes. Just mildly, but still. But how does this affect his ability to cum? What are the thoughts going trough YOUR head when you can't cum?
It's only been 3 months.
I sometimes get into these phases where I feel like I'm in heat and need a thousand dicks in me. However, I'm super bashful about sex and don't have the heart to go get laid.
How do I work up the nerve to actually get railed like the scrub I am? I don't wanna be a loose slut, but I'm scared of asking my close friends to bang, too.
>>16781413
If you're somewhat attractive just go to a bar or club and wait until someone approaches you/make the fist move and talk to someone you find attractive.
If you just want a random fuck just install tinder and pick the chosen one.
Don't forget to make the guys wear a condom.
Get a boyfriend and make him a happy man.
>>16781413
Where do you live?
Have you noticed any differences dating girls who self-identify as feminists, vs girls who don't?
>>16781364
At least the girls I've known and called themselves feminists are just way more insecure about life in general.
You can expect a lot of conspiracy tumblr shit and dumb pledges to fight patriarchy with armpit hair dye. Also, a couple of the feminist friends I have used to (or still do) cut themselves due to selfesteem issues.
Maybe I've been meeting the wrong feminists, I don't think you can make a general judgement about shit like this.
I've dated a few who did and a few who explicitly didn't and there really was no difference. I mean, yeah, a lot of feminists can be pretty fucking obnoxious, but almost every woman -- like literally almost every single one -- has at some point been subjected to some kind or other of shitty treatment because of their sex. At least once. All most of them really need to self-identify as feminists is to think to themselves, "Wow, that was shitty, I'd really like for that not to happen again."
There's things that suck about being a man, too,...
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>>16781440
Didn't realize I accidentally went to tumblr instead of 4chan
I'm a fucking lesbian and all I see are fat ugly black fucking lesbians everywhere I go. I have fucking abs, I am slim, and fucking athletic, don't have ugly pastel short hair (I keep it long and natural colored)
It just bothers me that there's no fucking white pretty looking lesbians. I'm fucking good looking and I'm a nice fucking person. I feel like a fucking neckbeard saying all of this... Why are so many lesbians ugly?!
Also how much can I make stripping because I fucking hate my life.
Post pic and we'll answer that for you.
post a pic
>>16781290
>why are so many lesbians ugly
Because being gay is a choice and all women usually realize the mistake they made at some point. Just stop thinking you need to be different and admit you like dicks.
i've been with my current boyfriend for 4 years, since we were 15
long story short he's changed a lot, i dont like it
how tf can i end it? i've never had a serious relationship before
kill him
Ill try to condense it so dont expect to have all the facts.
Im not a virgin but I plan to wait until marriage but really I feel that if I was with a girl I planned to marry one day Id have sex with her so I can see myself having 3-4 sexual partners at most in my life. So far Ive only had sex with 1 girl and we were planning on moving in together after we graduated college and thought about getting married when we had stable jobs. But she moved acrossed the country for grad school and the ldr didnt work out.
Not heres the thing, I was pretty devastated breaking things off with her and havent been back in the field for a long time, but Ive recently met a new girl who was able to pry through the barriers I put up to keep her out. In doing so I feel like Ive started to fall in love with her.
A few days ago we were together cuddling to netflix and she mentioned how nice this is and how she wanted it to last. Then she freaked out and told me about her heavy past because she knew about my view on sex.
Basically she was raped by a guy her first time. I dont know the details of how so dont ask. After that she said she slept with 7-8 guys her freshman year of college because at the time it helped with the pain. If I had to guess her sexual partners Id put it at around 11 or 12.
Now I really feel like people should stick to dating others with a comparable sexual history to them. My ex had slept with 1 guy before me and I was a little salty but she explained that she really loved him at the time and it felt right so I let it go. But this is different.
At the time I told her that I was okay with it to calm her down but Ive been thinking about it and Im not really. Its just too much. I kinda understand and want to be more forgiving of her past because Im sure being raped did traumatize her, but I really dont approve of that behavior and dont want to be with someone who does that.
I dont know what to do here.
>>16781139
Just remember that it won't define your relationship if you choose to have one. It really is up to you, but try to weigh in how much it means to you to get back on your feet with someone you've grown to care about.
>>16781182
If we were in a relationship without sex I probably would easily overlook it. But thats not the case her. If everything went well one day we would have sex and I know that if I see her the same way I see her now sex will be empty and meaningless and I dont want that.
>>16781139
>don't want to be with someone who does that
You used present tense. Does. I'm betting she'd use past tense, did.
I think you've already made up your mind. You know it's her history and you can't let that go, it's probably better to break it off now.
If she was willing to tell you her story, why not say all of this to her? She seems to understand where you are coming from so far, so talk to her directly and see if you can work it out together.
Where do I meet girls that aren't total bitches or SJWs?
One to have a long term relationship and stuff.
>>16781121
literally everywhere. while SJWs may have tumblr as a home base, its not like they stick to only tumblr approved locations.
go out to where people socialize and meet people. dont go straight for the flirt. only women who want to bang respond to immediate flirts. if you want a real relationship you gotta actually get to know someone before you decide you want to 'get to know someone'.
dont pick up college girls and you'll have some luck
>>16781136
This this this. The SJW bogeyman is the most annoying fucking thing to happen to the Internet
I guess you can use this thread to vent or, just ramble really.
Was gonna ask for help but /adv/ seems to have a low success rate, so I'll just talk to no one particular.
Seems I do that most of the time anyway, carry out whole one-sided conversations in my head.
It's funny, I'm actually looking forward to work tomorrow, I mean, I despise working there and don't really talk to anyone but I have so little contact with other people that I look forward to going to work.
It's kind of unreal seeing time and life just slip past you.
>>16781091
Yeah, /adv/ is a bit too full of people willing to pretend they have degrees or know what theyre talking about when they dont. But half the threads are about love lives and significant others or lack thereof, so what do you expect?
Talking to yourself inside your head is probably pretty common... It's called thinking. You realize that right?
>>16781105
> It's called thinking. You realize that right?
I realise that, but since I don't really have anybody to talk to, most of the day spent like this. I've come to a point where I verbalise it occasionally. I've never that before.
>>16781118
Like I know some people like to verbalise their thoughts, but I'm a timid introvert who keeps things bottled up and to have thoughts just escape from my mouth...I don't know, just rambling I suppose.
What does it mean when a girl does oral with you but wants to wait to have sex, even though you've both had sex with other partners before? Am I being cucked?
She doesn't want to add another number unnecessarily for fear of winding up in sloot territory
Source: I do this.
>>16781079
She's on her period, but doesn't want to gross you out. Just face fuck her a bit, and then ask if she's alright with anal.
>>16781079
She wants to have sex, but doesn't want to be seen as slutty. So she is making you wait but attempting to satisfy you sexually, and take care of her own urges without having actual intercourse.
