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Hey /adv/
So I got fired today over a poptart.
Yes I know this sounds ridiculous
But hear me out....
So I worked at a factory in Texas that makes excavator and loader buckets, some of these things are fucking gigantic... like 40-50 tons. Anways there's three parts of the factory, one is a loader shop conjoined with an excavator shop, and then there's a small machine shop in a separate building. (On the opposite side of the loader shop)
I mainly spend most of my time in the Loader shop, but a couple days ago there was an occassion where I needed to work in the machine shop on the other side of the building.
I'm a type 1 diabetic and I had left my glucose tablets at the loader shop that day, and I also stayed a couple hours late and was completely unsupervised (Nobody was around to see or hear me if anything were to happen) while working in the machine shop.
At about 4:10 I went into a locker; the locker was standalone and full of tools, and it was unlocked, I had assumed it was a tool crib and not someone's personal locker, so I went in and grabbed the pliers. I noticed a poptart was in the locker, but I ignored it. Then at about 4:20 my bloodsugar dropped extremely low; I was on the verge of having a diabetic seizure, so my first instinct was to go to the locker and grab that poptart and eat it.
Being the person I am, I naturally felt guilty so I left a note "I ate your poptart, I'm sorry, I had a diabetic emergency, I will pay you back"
The next morning I was sent back into that machine shop, the other machinist there immediately started charging me up for going into his locker and invading his personal privacy. This 60 year old man ratted me out to the entire staff and I was sent home that day, before going home I went to walmart and bought a 16 pack of poptarts and brought it back to the machine shop to make up for it.
Well the next day (Today) I was told at the end of my shift that I was being let go for stealing food.
cont.
Note that I had no knowlege or signed any contract acknowleging a zero tolerance policy for food theft. And Y'all can harp on me about being unprepared as a diabetic, but essentially I was terminated for taking immediate action to resolve a life threatening medical issue. Is this worth consulting with a lawyer about; given that I recieved no copy of the employer handbook, signed no zero tolerance policy contract, paid the man back, and owed up to being the one who took the snack? There has to be some type of rights that have been violated for me essentially choosing...
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Tough to say, but you should talk to a lawyer and a doctor about it. If the doc can sign off on the assertion that you'd have died if you hadn't taken the pop-tart, and your employers knew you had diabetes, you might have a case. Or you might not; I'm no lawyer. But you should ask one.
Texas is an at-will employment state, which almost certainly means you're fucked.
Go call a lawyer or two and tell them your story (wont cost you anything), but I'm pretty sure you're fucked. Medical emergency, doesn't matter - employers couldn't give less of shit if you dropped dead. Labor has zero power in this country since unions are more or less non-existent.
Just be glad they didn't go to the police and you're not getting charged with theft and thrown in jail (since it wasn't company property lol)
I need some serious advice
Let me start by saying that I acknowledge the fact that my killing myself I would be being selfish, and a horrible person , and whatnot, but as of late, I've been seriously considering it. Ever since I was ten I've had family issues. My mom kicked my dad out, and it killed me to see the one person I love only once a week, and to see him financially struggling. My mom went batshit insane and she cut off everyone including my half sister who I loved so much and haven't heard from since I was fifteen. I missed both her and my dad every...
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Gee idk
>>16773754
>Has anyone been in a similar situation
I have, and my advice to you about the depression is this. It sucks, and it never really goes away. I think what helps is just to focus on something you really like or something you really want to learn or do. Develop it into a passion, and into something you can talk about. Honestly just having something your passionate about can help you make friends.
>rejected from colleges
Don't worry about it...
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>>16773806
I am a girl actually =) and thanks, anon. I'll try. I guess my only opportunity is to go to community college. It's cheaper anyway.
after i successfully torrent and install a game i wish to play, it works perfectly fine for a few days, then, when i try to run it again, it will give me an error message about a missing dll or api file, or being unable to start correctly. i am usually completely unable to replace the file without redownloading the entire game, what can i do to stop this from happening?
>>16773683
sounds like a virus. you should torch the pc and buy a Macintosh™.
Help /adv/.
I don't know what to do. I love someone I work with and she loves me but we're both in relationships. She's the most beautiful person I've ever met. She has the most amazing eyes and when she smiles I'm transfixed. We can't be together because we feel guilty about leaving our current relationships (especially her). She's quite a bit younger than me. I feel her Friend/s have influenced her in making a "smart" decision to stay in her current relationship.
She looks a little bit like a young Sherilyn Fenn (Pic).
I...
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> I love someone I work with and she loves me
obviously not, or else you'd actually take steps to make it happen
>>16773661
I've told her how I feel. What would you recommend I do from here?
>>16773671
take the initiative and dump your current girlfriend
life's too short to stay unsatisfied and in this case regretful. if you liked your current gf more you'd forget this other girl
My boyfriend's depression is at a low point. He's visiting me from university (he lives 2 hours away, visits on weekends) and all he's done since his arrival is lie in bed curled into a ball. He barely responds to me and he doesn't seem to want any interaction. It's frustrating because he claims nothing is wrong but clearly he's depressed. On one hand I know the depression is out of his control but I feel like him ignoring me disrespectful, for lack of a better work.
Not sure what to do. How does /adv/ deal with the crippling depressed?
bone him
if you cant outright bone then ask what's wrong and seduce him into boning
if you cant seduce after asking what's wrong then... no, you can seduce him, it's not hard (yet IYKWIM)
>>16773635
Just be there
offer him tea, food if you make it, ask him if he wants to watch a movie with you, just make no pressure offers
just be there
and try not to be too offended, I know it is hard not to
I think he's being very selfish. If he was feeling shitty he shouldn't have come to visit you. By travelling two hours to see you and then acting all depressed, he's wasting his time and yours. He is not giving you any respect by doing this. He should realise that this is not how you want to spend your limited time together, yet he still chooses to do it.
If he actually wanted to see you and talk about his problems, that would be fine. But acting like this is not acceptable. I would be tough with him and say that he should either talk with you, or go back home because there's no point him being there and bringing both of you down.
Hey /adv/ this girl wants to give me head. She's 19 and goes to college. She hooked up with 2 guys before (her exs) and gave a blow job to a guy last month. My question is should I take the offer? She told me she got tested and is clean. I'm a virgin and she's willing to put up with me. So should I go for it or stay away from her. I'm also 18 years old and a male obviously. Thanks guys
what a fucking pussy coming to adv asking whether you should fuck a girl or not
>>16773594
Odds of std aren't all that high via oral sex. If you wanna get sucked, go for it.
how do I lighten the fuck up? I take everything seriously and it's made it hard to keep friendships since I rarely ever joke around or laugh.
>>16773552
>it's made it hard to keep friendships since I rarely ever joke around or laugh.
If you did all that shit they'd tell you to grow up.
Peoples are assholes always looking for someone to be the bad guy they can pin the blame on.
So my question is; why fuckin' bother?
Fuck friendships. Do whatever you want or whatever requires minimal effort and don't give a fuck about people because most of them are lost causes anyway.
well if you're posting here you're not trying hard enough to change
really, you're contested about whether you should put effort into not being genuine or just make new friends. for which i give you a new alternative, which is to make a new genuine that incorporates both serious and social. for this, just put effort into being approachable when you want to be social and continue being a prude otherwise. pretty easy
>>16773552
Quickest way is to take the stick out of your ass.
He /adv/
So my English teacher started saying "hi anon" in the halls a lot lately, like a week ago. Sometimes she says "hey buddy" She also calls on me in class a lot, about 2-3 times in a 35-40 minute period. She is 40-55 years old. Anyone know what's happening?
>>16773544
You got ass burgers bro. It's called normal social interactions in society for normal people.
Did you think she wanted to bang you or something?
>woman says hi
>"hey dont you think this is kind of weird"
>"what should I do?"
>"how do i proceed?"
Never change 4chan
...she's a teacher. She thinks you're a good student and likes you (no, not "like likes".).
>>16773586
This isn't even "am i autist" behavior, it's legitimately something that people with Aspergers would ask.
I'm an 18 yr old guy and I have no real friends and never leave the house except for school. Should I just kill myself?
no, what are you, retarded?
No, but you should consider making some friends and leaving the house from time to time.
I keep going to bed without the covers on and it's really cold some nights and I don't like being cold. Should I just kill myself?
What do you do when having a crush on someone is depressing you?
I already am depressed enough before, and now this snuck up on me. It kind of made me realize I don't even really want to be in a relationship because I'm a terrible girlfriend, and I think I'm scared of commitment.
But I have a huge crush on someone at work and I like talking to him a lot. I always want to just ignore him but he usually comes up and talks to me anyway . I've talked to him on Facebook a few times too, and there's some nights where I want to send him a message...
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>>16773523
ask him out
get upset when he rejects you and get over it in a few months
or be temporarily happy if he says yes.
in china there is saying 乘风破浪 means ride the waves and break the winds. you know what must do.
>>16773556
surf and fart?
>talking to girl from Tinder in January
>we hit it off really well (through text anyway)
>ask her out
>she says she's only available february 13th
>then says she'll be busy that day and we'll have to go sometime later
>like mid-february then
>says I'm her favorite guy she talks to on Tinder
>we talk all day...
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How about you meet people in a more normal way? Such as face to face?
>>16773517
How about not posting stupid shit that doesn't talk about the subject at all?
>being mad at a whore for fucking some random guy on a hookup app
You're being irrational.
Dear /adv/,
I lead a life of many variables. Due to the nature of my work as well as my ever-changing personal life, a lot of my days (but not all of them) are structured differently. In example: I might work 9 to 5 on Monday, Tuesday and Thursday, but on Wednesday I don't work at all and have to do 3 hours of X, 2 hours of Y and then next 3 hours of Z. Then on Friday I don't have to do anything.
So the problem is, this keeps me disorganized as fuck and I often end up just wasting my time. I've tried scheduling days to make sure they're varied...
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If you gotta get something done now, do it first.
If you gotta get something done later, do it after you take care of things you need to do now.
Rinse and repeat. Scheduling is only good for when a lot of things need to happen in a short amount of time, which is rare. Prioritizing is key.
does anyone have a good way to keep track of all of their assignments and work load? i've been told Trello is a good site, but don't like the ways its configured (lists are all in one horizontal row, so some lists will be off the screen). i've also been told to use OneNote, but couldn't really find a good way to format everything. right now i just have a white board in my apartment, courses or teams i'm in, and assignments for each group underneath them. and each assignment has a priority weight next to them. does anyone know of a good program or site...
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>>16773430
If you are organizing events and need to have crucial data available to you in an instant that can be displayed to other team members then a Google Drive doc. would be recommended after you create the necessary formats. This is due to an ease of availability as most android phones have drive built in allowing you to edit on the go as work assignments and variables change. Keeping track of day to day assignments i've used a whiteboard built into my room's wall and the reminders feature built into the calender...
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>>16773462
>forgot something
Traditionally a Docs Spreadsheet would be perfect in team organization as it too has the same versitillity as the regular Docs files.
>>16773462
i use Drive for pretty much every group project. really convenient. i'm looking for something just like a whiteboard though. ive almost made a program similar to one over my winter but i figured that there was probably one i could find online with a cloud already made for me...
How to cope with failure and gradually improve myself?
I can hardly function without feeling depressed over my failures and regrets
Read the book Meditations by Marcus Aurelius. It's about a philosophy called stoicism, which is based around accepting that your advantages and disadvantages are natural and purposeful.
You're given disadvantages because they're necessary to become who you are destined to be. If you didn't experience loss or failure, you wouldn't progress towards the better person you are becoming.
>>16773372
There are no failures, just experiments that successfully told you what doesn't work.
>>16773393
>You're given disadvantages because they're necessary to become who you are destined to be. If you didn't experience loss or failure, you wouldn't progress towards the better person you are becoming.
very well put, anon!
>don't have PC that can play games
>eating too much because I'm bored
How do I control myself? Help
>>16773353
I hear a nice full glass of bleach helps control those cravings. You should try it, OP.
All I try to do is drink water/tea when I'm hungry and it's not meal time and not have lots of carbs like bread
Any games? What about really old shit?
KOTOR and it's sequel; Jedi Academy and Jedi exile; the original Deus Ex; Morrowind; Baldur's Gate and it's sequel; virtually anything from GoG...
That shit can play on my net book. Unless your computer is from literally 2000 it should be able to play these games (and even then, some will play.).
Also, Netflix is $10 a month and is the shit.
