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Apparently I must fucking suck at texting girls, because every time I get one's number or so they just slowly stop talking to me and not responding. My friend from Austria finally sent me a message after being absent for two months and I don't want to lose her again, I really don't have any friends let alone an actual girl to talk to. How do I not be boring or offensive or whatever when texting? Or how do people text in general? I fucking hate text.
Hilfe
>>16776204
Girls don't really want to be friends with betas. If you're not flirting with them they'll get bored and move on.
>>16776546
I'm supposed to flirt with all of them? I fear I'm way too blunt rather than beta.
I have a crush on a friend who most likely doesn't like me back. Telling them is obviously out of the question. What should I do?
>>16776163
Gib more details 4 a good advice
>>16776163
Nothing. Keep living life.
>>16776163
Tell her. Its the ONLY option. I've been there myself. How the fuck are they meant to know how you feel about them?
Hey guys, first time poster here.
Now, my problem is that I have Sleep Initiation Insomnia...meaning I find it REALLY hard to fall asleep, even if I am knackered.
Now, I havn't been to the doctors about this in perticular because I dont really want to be doped up each night and I have tried all the advised herbal remedies and they dont do shit.
I've found through experimentation that weed (indica strains), alcohol, tramadol, valium and cocodamol help me fall asleep. Now, I can get weed easily enough, same with booze, bit the codein and tramadol are harder to get a hold of. I've even tried CBD vape juice which cost a bomb and done fuck all.
Now, its driving me mental so I'm coming here for some advice before I go full Machinist mode and kill a bitch.
Cheers in advance...
I know I said I dont wanna be doped up but I take cocodamol and tramadol in low doses...not like whatever the fuck extreme shit the docs will prescribe...fuck sake, they gave me horrible parkinsons medication for my restless leg syndrome that fucks your liver and kidneys!?
Typing this out seems really dumb but today was quite a day after weeks of no action...
Me and my ex gf dated for 3 years and then we broke up a few months ago. I was pretty heartbroken, but we broke up due to distance and I knew it was for the best, and she wanted it.
So, for a month we didn't speak at all, and it was super hard. Then we reached out to each other and reconnected a bit, and remained actually pretty close, friends for a couple of months. It was nice and we shared a lot of more laughs and memories etc...but it was still just a little...muddy. And I still had some feelings for her.
So, I basically stopped messaging her first, and over time I suppose she noticed and stopped messaging me.
Now, it's been a month almost since we spoke. Yesterday was her birthday. I message her a quick "happy birthday!!!". Now, today, she messages me all "You don't message me anymore ;(((" and then acting all like, mad and upset with me like "You said u wanted to be friends" etc. giving me shit...
It's such a headache. I loved this girl and still do. But she didn't need me anymore. When we talk she takes forever to respond if we're not in a call. And I was starting to stalk her tumblr and accounts again so I just stopped messaging her, and now she's giving me shit.
What should I do? I can't just ignore her, but I don't know how to make her happy.
She's also been showing worry about me going on dates, even though she doesn't want to date me. I actually funnily enough had my first date since my breakup today. And it went really kind of well. I didn't kiss her or anything but she asked to meet me again soon.
So yeah idk...it's just all hard right now. Just wondering what I should do. Thanks.
she just want to make sure that she still have you by the balls, this is just some woman ego bullshit, don't fall to her game, focus on the new girl and move on completely from her.
also
>tumblrina
why op?! ...
>>16776203
Lol jesus you're probably right, why the fuck are bitches like this?
Ya, what the hell ever. I was kind of an idiot and responded too nicely like "I'm sorry if that hurt you, I've been busy" blah blah and when she probed me I admitted part of it was because I needed to get over her still and part of it was because I was busy trying to set up dates and things. And she's all like "oh ok" and shit. But I was being fully honest, so I guess I don't need to regret it, whatever.
You're right I'll focus on the new girl
Lol, good point about the tumblrina thing. Should always be a red flag...
>>16776216
Glad that i made things clear for you, good luck op.
>been with gf for over a year now
>just moved in together
>sex isn't that exciting anymore
>not turned on a lot anymore
>red light district nearby
>see hot prostitutes on the way to work every day
>seriously considering going to one
The only reason that I haven't gone to one, is because I don't want to risk getting caught and face the consequences. So I won't. Going for a walk in a moment, though. Check out the place on foot and go for a look so I have something to fap to when I get back. Maybe bring some money with me, just in case...
God. It's so goddamn tempting. What do you think? Just the once? See what it's like and get it out of my system?
Kill yourself to end this degeneracy
>>16776141
If you're going to do it, break up with your girlfriend first. Don't cheat.
Also you all are moving in kinda quickly.
>>16776178
>Also you all are moving in kinda quickly.
What's 'normal' to you then?
Will having a weak bladder be a turn off to potential boyfriends? I pee myself very easily. Something as simple as tickling will make me pee everywhere.
It can be trained, but if it's not very serious and you don't leave a mess after yourself it's not a problem.
Will having a weak bladder be a turn off to potential girlfriends? I pee myself very easily. Something as simple as tickling will make me pee everywhere.
is this bait?
most of them would love it
at least the ones who visit this board
Hey I need advice, my nose is crooked to the left , and my left nostril looks bigger than the right one.
I want to get a rhinoplasty done to get it straightened, but being realistically ..
How much can it improve?
I don't expect a 100% improvemente , but at least a 30%
>>16776108
Idk anon. It looks like you have super smooth silky baby skin, so at least you have that going for you.
It will probably look very straight if you have a rhinoplasty. If it means that much to you, then definitely go for it. Plastic surgery is very reliable nowadays.
100% honesty I didn't find it noticeable at first glance, and upon further examination it's really not that crooked (at least from this pic). I can see it being something that becomes an endearing quality once someone gets to know you.
>>16776552
Yes, it means a lot ,I have become very self concious about it, and my self esteem has been affected by this too and maybe my breathing too .
So my heart been acting weird lately. Beating very fast or thumping very hard for no reason. It makes me feel kinda shaken, weak and nauseous at once
I'm only 23 so i don't think it's a heart diesease or something. I cant go to doc but I have to make it stop. How??
sounds like you have a panic disorder. get to a psychiatrist and enjoy them xans.
>>16776105
M8 it happens when I chill and dig in my nose, it isn't panic or anxiety related I think
As the other anon said, sounds like a panic attack/anxiety disorder. I used to suffer from very bad panic attacks, and for a time I thought I had heart problems (though I'm quite young, I had no other ideas). I still get anxiety from time to time, but I've been taking Zoloft for about a year now and it helps lower the effects of it significantly.
Which online dating site is the most likely to work?
The one where you actually go out with friends and meet a girl coincidentally or through a friend
>>16776081
No one ever met their wife in a bar.
>>16776095
>going out means you have to go to a bar
No anon stop
Although bars and clubs are a great place for a first date since there are enough people around she'll feel comfortable and it's incredibly easy to avoid any awkward conversations or silence in such social environments
The one-on-one of dinner is too formal for a first date it'll feel like a job interview
Hey /adv/.
Things have been pretty difficult for me lately, and I'm pretty sure I'm losing my fucking mind. This would be the second time I've succumbed to a complete nervous breakdown if it keeps going the way it's going.
I'm not on meds, but even on meds I felt very hollow and was prone to do some antisocial behaviors.
Anyone with a psychotic mental illness that can tell me from experience if things get better or will I just kamikaze like they all seem to do in the end?
>>16776076
What illness
>>16776084
psychotic depression and PTSD
>>16776103
As much as I want to say that you should do what I did and start off by forcing yourself to try and act like a normal person, I'm not really in a position to talk since I've had nothing worse than some mild depression and family issues.
How do you confess your love to your best friend. That best friend also tells me they love me. Thanks
If they tell you they love you then it's pretty much a done deal. You just gotta say it. try saying it in response after they do if that's easier.
>>16776058
Give us more details senpai. I also don't quite get what you mean, did they confess to you or what?
Sounds like you don't need advice
Should I stand by my ideals and principles or ignore the red flags?
Trying to make long stories short here:
>be normal type guy, last summer I broke up for good with ex, after 5 years (last year of that with some breaks, but always monogamous)
>had two one-night stands, made out with a couple other girls, but generally never play games or be an asshole
>basically I am of the rare non-dickhead species
>have clear principles in terms of watching out for red flags in girls, but through that really high standards
>big party with everyone from my uni, end up helping a girl to get home at 8am
>know her quite well, find her really attractive, but know that she had a boyfriend for years, had other guys during breaks with him, had crazy drug experiences in the past, generally a bit mental
>spend day with her, we get along really well (deep conversations, lots of cuddling) and she is actually what I never found in other girls in terms of being generally straight-forward
>she tells me she broke up with her boyfriend two days before this
>the first time we fuck she stops because of that, the next time its fine (though ripped/slipped-off condom issues)
>keep spending time with her, staying at each others places
>we are both not sure what this is
>I can really feel that she likes me a lot and she also says I am different from anyone she had before (in terms of being sincere, positive, and honest)
Today is the first night alone since Monday and I started thinking... I extremely enjoy the time with her, at the same time its a rollercoaster, she is very different in many ways, and there are several red flags. I don't even know what I am trying to say or ask, I am just overwhelmed by the situation...
every time the story is the same, just different names and places
good men, intelligent, dissuaded by normal relationships because the internet has jaded them
in reality you're only here because you are happy and are looking to not be happy
but in reality you can always make decisions later down the road
Don't question it, that ruins things. Just roll with it and see where it leads.
>>16776051
... She will fuck you over. But if you can be patient and ENDURE you and her will get peace in the end.
Last night I got way too drunk and brought a guy home. We had unprotected sex. I don't know his history, and he got crazy obsessive after so I blocked him on Facebook. I have the implant so won't get pregnant but obviously I'm terrified of getting an std. I'm going to a gyno asap. One thing though - his smell has really hung around my genitals. It's pissing me off. It's a slightly sharp, tiny bit metallic, mostly musky smell. Is it likely to mean something bad? Why can't I get rid of it? I've had two showers.
Scent is tied to memory. It's probably not there, you're just remembering it. Of you're convinced it is there bring it up to your gyno.
You could also consult us by posting pics on /b/. If there's a problem we can tell you in a professional and courteous fashion.
As far as him spazzing about facebook, he's probably trying to figure out what he did wrong and it's driving him nuts.
We're insecure about sex and he probably thinks he fucked up or came to fast or hurt you or that you think he raped you
Doesn't realize you regret fucking him for reasons pertaining to you and not him. Send him a message that reads, "I was drunk, shouldn't have fucked you. You were fine, but this isn't going to continue."
I really hope you're right about the smell. Fingers crossed.
As for him freaking out on Facebook, it wasn't an insecurity thing. He wanted to meet me today for dinner, I told him pretty much what you told me to tell him and he started to tell me that he loved me, I was breaking his heart, that he was going to come to mine etc.
Try not to get into this position again, getting so drunk you have unprotected sex is very dangerous behavior which could end quite badly for you.
I want to download sexy porn pics on my computer but I can't unless I know the girl is 18 in the pics and I can prove it in court.
Sounds stupid? Probably. But in my country the CP laws are strict beyond your wildest imaginations and I want to rest assured.
Basically I can only download stuff like Playboy playmate pics so I can always prove that the pic is from a legitimate source and made by a company that keeps records of their models' ages which is always over 18 at the time of the photoshoot.
What about places like MetArt, MLPart, Amour Angels..?
Do they guarantee that all models are adults?
Please help me fap.
Sites that have this are safe I guess:
http://www.mplstudios.com/title18.htm
Is it bad if my new girlfriend is able to do stuff like deep throating, eating my cum and she enjoys it? She seems to love to do anything like that with me, im not really sure if she just loves to do that with me or if she is a slut?
Or if it something she does to try and impress me, because she says that she is nervous and doesnt want to do anything to scare me away.
Sounds like she's gonna bite off your dick next.
>>16776024
>excessive porn viewing results in a population of men who have twisted and fucked up
perceptions about what a sex life should entail
>women pick up on this and do their best to be good partners, because men have made them feel that they need to do crazy shit in bed to be a good partner
>OP comes in and wonders if his girlfriend is a slut when she's just doing what society has told her she ought to
Kill yourself OP.
>>16776039
I never made her feel like she had to do that though. Is it something she feels she has to do? She seems to want to have sex all the time but I don't want to feel like im pressuring her into doing it?
Im really nervous its my first relationship.
