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How do I fix this problem? Whenever I want to post I always get this message after my 10th comment. I don't know what it is, but it's annoying. Don't know if this is the correct board to ask for help, but it's /advice/ and I need advice so here goes. pls help
>>16778646
4chan is full of bugs, and the false "connection error" comes up randomly. The best bet is to leave 4chan for some other site and then come back. If that doesn't work, close your browser and open it again. 4chan will then think you're someone new.
Hm, thought I was the only one. The way I get past it is just typing whatever I want to say in the non-popup box at the top of the screen.
Though it's pretty annoying.
What are some good sites for apartment hunting? My living situation is fucking awful... Asshole neighbors, absentee landlord, the whole nine. I have used Craigslist twice before for apartments but there have to be other options. Half of the listings on there are hot garbage with no pictures and bogus numbers for rent. I guess back in the day people used to use the newspaper. Does that even work anymore?
>>16778619
Padmapper
>>16778619
Don't just rely on the web.
Ask at real estate agents. While they mainly sell homes, many also manage or rent for apartment houses.
Check notice boards at local universities and colleges.
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Ok, so I've been chating with this girl for week - week and a half, and I guess we've been hitting it off, or whatever.
We've met once, had a meal, and chatted. Everything seems to be doing fine.
I invited her over so I can cook a dinner for her. She accepted. It will happen in a couple of days.
How sure can I be that she is interested in me romanticaly and not just as friends?
It's just I am kinda afraid of scaring her or some shit.
I am not afraid of getting "friendzoned", I am afraid that I might be moving too fast or something.
I know that probably sounds retarded as fuck, but I am just not that good at human interactions.
I think she knows that I am into her, I've been giving her compliments and what not, telling her she is pretty and stuff.
bumpu
bump?
You flirt with her.
>I might be moving too fast
You aren't. This is proven by the fact that she accepted an invitation to come over for dinner. She wouldn't do that unless she felt comfortable. You have a clear green light.
Don't just flatter her. Tease a little. Use suggestive language. Act as though she was wearing a big sign around her neck that says "I want to ride your dick."
I sent a girl I've been crushing over for a while a friend request on the facebook, but I logged on today and found out that she declined the request. should I hero?
No bro, deal with the rejection it will pass. Have a beer or two, paint, run, work out, do something. Don't sit there and feel like shiet, get up and be active.
>>16778611
Well if that's the girl rest assured she's peaking early lol. This will be the sexiest she'll ever be, maybe a bit in college. Once that girl hits adult hood, the ugliness of her face will really be on point and it'll be funny to watch.
She'll need to wife up early to a guy who cheats on her as she gets uglier or, if she's smart enough to see that coming, she'll nail down some mediocre kinda guy who won't cheat.
That face. Euuuuuh. Hello Mrs. Grinch.
>>16778654
>random girl
I haven't slept well this weekend because I keep thinking about it all the time, I really need and want this job so bad. I know I am not entitled to it.
Any tips you guys could give me? Saying to wear a suit and stuff like that won't work because it's for a position in a school.
I am very nervous, trying to keep it to a minimum though. I Know I can do the job very well, I just don't want to seem insecure. Thing is I am insecure at new places for maybe 4 days (adjustment phase), then I am the confident person I have always been.
I been running to the toilet with a nervous tummy for the past 16 hours or so...
How do I do good?
Stop overthinking it you faggot. Nobody is entitled to shit but they chose you to have an interview. Yes wear a suit, you always wear a suit to an interview. They're humans just like you, don't pedestal them, walk in there and chat with them politely.
>How do I do good?
By turning your brain off.
>>16778642
Okay turn brain off, how does one turn the brain off exactly? How do people stop obsessing over something? Just do it isn't detailed enough.
How to stop over thinking it?
>walk in there and chat with them politely.
That's good advice. Thank you.
Bump
Is it true that for some adults, it is impossible for them to learn a new language similar to how many adults become lactose intolerant?
>>16778577
I don't know what science says and, in this specific case, I don't really care.
Learning is possible at all ages. I would argue that the process of learning is more important than the knowledge because it "works out" your brain. I think there is evidence to show that it might be more difficult to learn new languages, but as a language major I don't believe for a second that the learning mechanisms of our brain just "go away" lol without the brain itself having some sort of decay or issue like Alzheimer's.
>>16778577
Not impossible, but likely to be difficult. For various reasons, the ideal time to learn a second or third language is pre-teen. So of course most school systems don't begin to teach languages until teenagers have begun to lose the ability.
>>16778577
Learning a new language is similar to remembering something. If you don't, it's because you're not interested in it, you don't want to remember it or to make the effort, you'reso old it would take longer or too long to acquire a moderate proeficiency, you have some serious memory issues or another medical problem, or a combination of those.
I'm a 19 old virgin and im going to be 20 in 3 months. all of my friends have had multiple girlfriends/partners. I always feel guilty and left out when they talk about sex or relationships because i've been lying to them about my sex life. I've never even kissed a girl haha so I know how it feels it sucks. i just dont want to be that loser who didn't lose their virginity in their teenage. so i have only 3 more months to finally lose my virginity and im planning to hire a hooker so it would be easy. is it a good idea or should i try looking for normal people?
>>16778557
Listen to me motherfucker, the more you worry about being a virgin the more stressed out/anxious you'll be around girls.
So, you have two choices, either man up and deal with the fact that you're a virgin and there's nothing wrong with that, the circumstances behind why you're a virgin are the problem.
OR hire an escort and rid of your virginity, only to find out sex isn't something magical.
That probably won't fix why you never had a girlfriend but hey, at least you're no longer a virgin right?
Either way having sex isn't going to magically fix your life, so it's ultimately up to you.
>>16778557
Boo hoo
>>16778669
Also, you dun fucked when you lied to your friends about your sex life, that's gonna backfire sometime if you're not cautious and there's a chance your friends know you're bullshiting them and are playing along with your lies.
I have Proteinuria, the new results are 540 mg/24h(for a 24h pee collection, if you know what this entails because I don't)
I have no idea if anyone here had something similar or could comment on what I should do or expect, my family doesn't have a history of kidney issues but my grandma does have diabetes.
I'm going to the doctor soon, but if anyone here could tell me what I should do, what I should expect or whatever, any help would be great.(This isn't the first time that I had too much protein)
I don't want to have the need for a kidney transplant desu.
>>16778537
Son, even if everyone here was House MD they couldn't possibly give a diagnosis with just one test result and not knowing your life habits.
>>16778575
I get that I just wanted to maybe get someone's story or general idea of the possibilities.
I'm not fat, I eat quite alot of choclate and I'm not very active, I'm also 18.
At the very least someone could tell me what a 540 mg/24h result should tell me, if it's really extreme or still mild.
Maybe some info on how something like this progresses.
Anyways, I don't expect someone to change my life here, I just want something to calm me down a bit and get to understand the situation that I am in.
>>16778600
>Proteinuria
>I just want something to calm me down a bit and get to understand the situation that I am in.
You may or may not have one or more of:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Proteinuria#Conditions_with_proteinuria_as_a_sign
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Proteinuria#Conditions_with_proteinuria_consisting_mainly_of_Bence-Jones_proteins_as_a_sign
>I'm not fat, I eat quite alot of choclate and I'm not very active
Doesn't add up. Define 'not fat' Define 'quite a lot of chocolate' Do you drink, smoke, do drugs (which drugs)? There's too many questions to even google for a possible problem let alone speculate a diagnosis or what you can expect.
>something to calm me down
Go and ride a bicycle.
I had a girlfriend for very little time and she broke up with me, now I am suicidal and am not taking it well.
How do you take breakups well, I am autistic and I doubt I'll get another chance. I am 25 and it was my dating experience. We went out a few times and than zip.
I feel like shit, I could have handled better but I wasn't ready for a relationship, I was dealing with rejection from a church who disowned me because of my autism and pretty much told me I going to hell for it. No this, I am about hang myself, anything I should consider first?
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Being autistic means social relationships should not carry enough weight to you that you'd ever consider suicide due to one ending.
Fake autism confirmed.
>>16779024
Thats a misconception and I just had a fuckin argument about that earlier with some idiot. You can be extroverted and autistic. Autism means you can't have relationships, it doesn't remove the fuckin desire, I am not a psycho path.
But either way, maybe I am not autistic but the dx still has some merit. At the very least I have bad social skills.
>>16779040
Yeah, this is a fucking aggravating misconception considering I'm autistic.
I just went to Wix and started with a blank website. What should I make? I'm just doing this for fun so any advice is good advice.
>>16778474
>What Should My Website Be About?
Your hobbies and interests. Or you can be like 99.9% of internet and copy/paste shit you know nothing about and was debunked 5 years ago but present it in your own, highly opinionated way.
Is giving yourself nightmares something you should get over by adulthood?
Not really
>>16778466
>giving yourself nightmares
Elaborate. Are you having a reaction to something you saw/heard during the day or what?
>>16778531
Basically. Watching things that creep you out intentionally then losing sleep over it.
Is that shit stupid after childhood?
So I'm gonna ask this girl out today, or tomorrow. We knew each other when we were very young, then didn't see eachother until she started working at the same place I work at, and I can tell she's interested in me, and th efeeling is mutual. We share a lot of the same interests. For example, the movie Deadpool is coming out in a couple days, and I was gonna ask her out to watch it with me, considering she's as much of a fan, if not more than I am of Deadpool.
I've heard that movies are bad for first dates, because first dates are for people getting to know each other, but since we already do, is there any reason I shouldn't?
How do I get over my ex? It's been 3 weeks. I've been talking to a few girls, made a ton of new friends, but man...it's weird, I don't miss the sex even though it was the best I've ever had. I just miss the conversations and being goofy with her and discussing auto and robotics. How do I find another girl into that?
>>16778388
>It's been 3 weeks.
>>16778394
I don't wanna end up being a guy who doesn't get over a relationship for half a year or a decade, I've seen it happen. I'm trying to start getting over it now. This girl was amazing, even if we had never slept together she would have easily been my coolest friend. I need to get past that.
>>16778400
Why did you break up?
So last night I had just had sex with my gf (it was her 1st time) and I was able to get her off but like my 1st time, I was unable to because I'm just taking to damn long (1 hour or more going at it). We do plenty of foreplay, even before that I avoided masturbating for a week but idk why and this is a problem. I don't have that deathgrip syndrome where ive conditioned myself to only cum by hand but idk what the deal is. I've been reducing the amount of habitual masturbation also, and my next fuck session will be this valentines obviously so.. Tips to actually cum in at least 15-30 mins during sex?
Yeah, relax, anon. You focused on her pretty intently. Now you can relax a bit. You'll be OK.
Consider it a gift, most guys can't last long enough.
When you want to cum, have her do something that reaaalllly turns you on. Like give you head while she plays with her tits, or something.
What I do when I'm ready to cum is fuck my gf doggy style while staring at her asshole. For some reason it just blows my mind, then I cum on it.
>>16778979
It's still almost just as bad because we both end the session leaving kinda disappointed because shes invested time to also get me off but she can and I'm obviously disappointed cause I didn't get the climax I wanted.
I just moved to Spain a few months ago, was lonely and decided to hit people up on Tinder for friends/dating. Ended up meeting an amazing guy on there, we chatted for a few weeks and I hung out with him a few days after New Year's.
Well, since then we've kind of been inseparable- texting/messaging consistently and seeing each other in person, spending hours and hours together, around 2-4 times a week. We had the most romantic kiss at the ocean as well as holding hands/doing stupid cutesy stuff. I asked him last week if this meant that we were dating and he clammed up a bit and said he liked me but felt he needed to get to know me better, which is understandable. I can tell he genuinely likes me BUT I am respectful of his wishes, I will wait.
On Friday we slept together for the first time. It was very quick and passionate and a heat-of-the-moment thing. Saturday night (yesterday) rolls around and he's at a going-away party for one of his friends. He gets absolutely plastered (while insisting he's fine) and ends up saying "Love you. <3" out of the blue.
I asked him if he meant it for someone else and he spammed questions like "would that bother you? what if I feel that way?" etc. and then I responded with that those kinds of terms were reserved for people in relationships. He then asked "would you mind if you and I were in a relationship?" and went on a tirade about how he likes me and that's why he asked me out for Valentine's and consistently swore up and down that his "FRIEND" sent the message. His friends don't even know English! Regardless, I told him that I reciprocated but felt this was an inappropriate thing to text and we should discuss it in person. This led him to profusely apologizing, saying "it was my friend I swear" and then leaving. I wake up to him saying his jacket/wallet was stolen this morning (Sunday) and I just have no clue what to make of it.
Yeah, he seems real responsible, trustworthy and mature. Definitely boyfriend-material. Get pregnant already
>>16778322
I guess I need to elaborate on the advice I need, sorry.
Do you think he popped that out because we slept together? He knows that I am MUCH more inexperienced and this is my first time doing such outside of a serious relationship. Maybe he is saying them out of guilt.
WHY would he tell me just a while ago that he wants us to get to know each other better but then continually act in a way pushing for a relationship and later even ask me if I would "mind" if we were in a relationship, as though I didn't just bring it up a week ago.
I mean the inconsistencies are just baffling to me. I have been very open and comfortable with taking things his pace but he is very confusing. I asked him what he was doing for Valentine's and he clammed and then said he'd leave space for me. I felt kind of disappointed that he clearly hadn't thought of it, but was satisfied that we'd spend the day together. A few meetings after this discussion and he outright asks me on a date for Valentine's. I asked him why he didn't before and he said he was afraid I would say no. BUT I OPENLY ASKED HIM OUT FIRST?
His behavior is so perplexing. What purpose does he have in acting this way? What does it all mean? I need assistance.
>>16778328
>Responsible
In Spain, people drink often. It is simply a fact of life. Him having his items stolen while at a gathering with people he is supposed to trust is NOT his fault. No victim blaming, even if the victim was being stupid and drunk.
>Trustworthy
I have confided in him with utter security and he's not once broken my trust. He simply has inconsistencies between his actions and what he says. I am simply unsure of why this cognitive dissonance is occurring how it is and was hoping /adv/ would bring a bit of clarity/outside perspective.
>Mature
He is in most aspects. When we discussed our relationship status initially, it was done very calmly and politely at a Japanese restaurant. I have never seen him get drunk like this but it was definitely a special occasion. I am not going to discount the majority of times he acts in a very mature way simply because he got drunk and acted immature. I understand if I am painting him in a bad light, but that is not my intention. I simply want advice on how to proceed/maybe some insightful comments as to WHY he could be acting this way (from people with similar experiences).
He is definitely boyfriend-material-- strong family ties, intelligent, computer programmer, degree, attractive, kindhearted, gentlemanly, etc. etc.
We were both using birth control, it was very safe sex. Thanks for the completely unhelpful comment however, people like you really contribute to the overall quality of this board.
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