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What is the best way to get rid of a friend without making them upset or hate you?
Slowly drift out of their lives.
>>16779526
Please elaborate.
>>16779532
Say you're busy with something else and you have no time to hang out anymore.
...but only for social acceptance. The only reason I feel the need to get a gf is so other people won't look down on me. I would be fine with just fucking escorts till I die but I feel like a loser around other people. I feel like people will see me as some kind of fucking faggot for never being in a relationship at my age.
Should I still pursue relationships or what?
If people look down on you for being single, it's because they're critical of the REASONS you're single.
In other words, you're not a fucking faggot for never being in a relationship. You're a fucking faggot and that's why you've been in a relationship. If you want respect then stop being a fucking faggot. A nice bonus is that you'll also find it easy to get into a relationship.
Grow a fucking spine. People aren't going to look down on you for being single half as much as they will for being crippling insecure and prepared to lead a girl on because you're scared of people judging you.
After having real sex I've realized how nbd it is. It actually broke my mind on the whole thing. It's like I could take it or leave it lol. Now I realize I probably want to have a relationship with someone that truly meshes with me. But I have some questions.
Sex is just a thing to do, are women likely to view it the same nonchalantly? I don't even care that much I could just as easily do anything else with her. But how often does random nsa sex happen between buddies?
Is spark mutual? Like of I really like a person and really get out of my shell...
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Any insight at all? I'm kinda lost. Being desperate for sex gave me stuff to do, beating that I've got like nothing to chase.
>are women likely to view it the same nonchalantly?
Some do, some don't.
>But how often does random nsa sex happen between buddies?
It varies. I can't quite put into words how you feel out a person's willingness or attitude toward it. You just "know."
>Is spark mutual
It should be. Especially now that you've realized how sex isn't a big deal, and can therefore have patience to enjoy it with shared enthusiasm.
>>16779547
Ty so much for replying.
Holy fuck i'm about to fucking kill my fucking self. I fucking hate old people, i can't do this shit anymore, I can't work in FUCKING CUSTOMER SUPPORT ANYMORE LIKE JESUS FUCK CHRIST HELP. The jobs pays to fucking well to leave, idk what to do i'm so ready to fucking end it
What kind of work do you see yourself enjoying OP?
Dude it's a job, you're not gunna be there for the rest of your life
>>16779490
Anything that doesn't cater to wiping customers asses or holding their fucking hands for the most FUCKING RUDIMENTARY OF FUCKING THINGS. I just wanna die, I can't do this i'm so tired of supporting entitled dumbasses
>>16779502
time to an hero i guess
I'm about to be homeless in seattle, with a couple hundred bucks in my wallet.
Any advice on a safe place to sleep?
homeless shelter, there's tons of them in Seattle and the people there are cool too
a hotel
Hey /adv/ there's this girl that told me she liked me in highschool, but I never really moved in on her. Now 4 years later I was at the gym and saw her again and she's /fit/ as fuck, but I've gained a bit of weight not like obese just not skinny. She seems to hang out with all these fit guys but also seems to be single at the moment. Anyways my question is do you think fit girls really only want a fit guy? Should I wait til I got some muscle on me before I do anything or should I try and move in on her quickly? She did add me on facebook again (I had deleted my...
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No. You should move in now.
>>16779439
What about you ask her for advices and for help to become fit again?
You'll get to spend time with her, to get back in her life, know more about her.
At the same time, she'll be the first witness to you getting more fit, and part of the reason you became more fit/sexy.
You'll get plenty of opportunities to thank her for her help by inviting her to whatever you want, that would turn into thinly veiled dates.
That's more than two birds for one stone.
>>16779467
That seems good I just feel like I don't look that attractive right now.
>economy is shit
>both parents (divorced) are unemployed
>dad insists I continue with college since I got a scholarship
>because we're slowly growing poorer dad is moving away for a recent job he managed to get
I'm currently only a source of expenses and have been so for the past 19 years, yet now more than ever I feel my existence amounts to nothing more than a big bother. I'm not even motivated enough to keep on living and give...
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because your parents spent 19 years of love, sweat, tears, and effort to raise you and you'd be destroying everything they worked so hard for, toughed through their broken relationship for, and their hopes and dreams for the future. You ever play a videogame and die right near the end of a level? Multiply that feeling by like a billion.
You should be striving as hard as you can to succeed, make them proud, and help their lives be easier. Even if you fail, watching you try will make them happy.
See a psychiatrist, jeez. Suicidal thoughts are not a symptom of a healthy mind. You have a problem and it's not that you're a waste of space.
How to find a mental health provider: http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/mental-illness/in-depth/mental-health-providers/art-20045530
How to find a therapist: http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/how-to-find-therapist
Dealing with suicidal thoughts: http://www.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevention/suicide-help-dealing-with-your-suicidal-thoughts-and-feelings.htm
>>16779364
I get it, but I see how much they're struggling and how better things were before I was born. Right now me and my brothers are probably the only thing keeping our parent in contact, and they don't get along that well. It just pains me a lot to see them live their current lives. It's like they don't find it enjoyable anymore, it's all a matter of survival which seems pointless and a sad.
Obviously I have tried to make it less hard on them by at least trying to strive as a student, but...
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Is it better to have friends you don't like or no friends at all?
My friends like me, I just don't like them.
Perhaps you should find people you have more in common with. In high school I had a lot of friends, but we had virtually nothing in common; they think I'm awesome (three years later), but I'm not that interested in hanging out with them because, like I said, we have nothing in common.
>>16779348
Where do I find people I have something in common with when I'm not really into anything?
I keep hanging out with this bunch of weeaboos because they're the only ones who don't look down on me. A bit pathetic, yes, but it's nice to have company you don't feel like a lesser in.
>>16779368
Maybe you should find some hobbies, then. Experiment with different things until you find something you really enjoy doing. Then find other people who also enjoy doing those things.
You could also find some kind of topic of interest, like philosophy or politics or religion, and find like-minded people that way.
Should you continue to date a guy who says there's nothing wrong with your appearance, but nothing good either? And that plastic surgery would be a waste and that I should focus on my personality/who I am inside?
I mean he's right but the truth hurts, why say it to someone you're meant to like?
No, you shouldn't date someone so tactless. The fact that you're even asking this question shows that you're capable of doing better.
>And that plastic surgery would be a waste and that I should focus on my personality/who I am inside?
This is a fucking great opinion that you should be listening to.
You could dump him for his lack of tact, but finding people who love you how you already are AND speak hard truth to you can be harder than you think. Comforting lies are nice, but they don't change how you look.
>>16779320
Lol
So at my work we started testing our products on dogs. I feel really bad about it and I'm not sure it's even legal. Should I just quit, or could I talk my employer into other testing methods?
>>16779312
What products?
>>16779799
dog food
>>16779808
10/10 post
How do I get over the thought of my girlfriend cheating? its always in the back of my head. I trust her with everything but I just can't get over the thought of her cheating on me. She told me she had sex with another guy while on a break in her last relationship but told him first. She's very attractive and quite a few guys hit on her on Facebook/Instagram but she tells me every time they do and we laugh it is.
She's very honest with me and tells me everything she does but every time she's hanging out and there's a guy around, I always ask her and get a little uncomfortable. Nothing serious, I just ask her exactly and tell her to call me when leaves ( we talk on FaceTime 24/7 ). She said she likes it when guys are protective of her too though.
Is it because I always hear of girls cheating? I browse boards like /fit/ and bodybuilding.com's misc so I always see stories of supposedly loyal girlfriends cheating.
Am I just insecure? How do I get over this? I don't worry about this 24/7, just whenever she does something like smoking in a group and there's a couple guys there. Is this normal to be wary? I've never been in a serious relationship until now btw. Sorry for the shitty grammar and layout too, I posted this on my phone.
Why does someone fear losing something? Because they put too much value on it.
If your girlfriend is everything you have in your life, then naturally the fear of being cheated on will come.
It's fine to put values on the things we like, but it's also important to relax and realize that even if something goes wrong, you will still have another chance with somebody else.
>>16779282
I don't want to change who I am just because or forcefully though. I love her and she loves me back. She's definitely not everything in my life. I've got if things coming up with my career and that's would I place about anything.
I get what you mean but I don't like thinking of 'what if' we break up I can find someone else because I know I can but I don't see a point. Which is kind of ironic to say on my part because I this thread is about a what if
I need advice /adv/. I recently found out that I have schizophrenia, and long story short my life was destroyed because of it. As of now I have lost all my friends, my job, I don't have hobbies or emotions, and I am a terrible drug addict. I'm living with my parents now, and my question is how do I get a relationship? I can barely understand what anyone is saying because of the illness, and when I leave my house everyone outside tells me I should kill myself. Does anyone have practical advice on destroying my soul crushing loneliness? I feel like I have nothing, inside...
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>see a psychiatrist
>get on some antipsychotics
>apply for disability (SSI or SSDI, depending on your work history or lack thereof); get a lawyer
Schizophrenia sucks, but it's hardly a death sentence. Most schizophrenics can't work but they can definitely live and have meaningful relationships, and at least hobbies.
The chatroom I go on for mental health has a lot of schizophrenics. Most of them can't work, or can only work a limited amount of the time,...
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>>16779278
I play Starcraft all day, its not too bad. I'm more talking about a having a relationship with a girl, I've never had one and it is killing me. What kind of delusions do you have? I don't think I have full blown schizophrenia I probably have schitzoaffective disorder.
Ty for your post
>>16779278
Yes like me I live on disability support. I sit at home wishing I was dead with no interest in doing anything anymore except shit-posting on 4chan to piss off the country and the world that won't let me die because I'm not considered mentally fit to make that decision. I live in Canada btw.
I can't bring myself to message her, I type the message put and just can't send it and I have no idea why. There's literally no reason for me to be nervous, I'm literally just asking how things are going and not "ey bbe wan sum fuk", so I know there's nothing weird about it. Yet here I am, how the fuck do I get over being a pussy ass bitch?
Just take a deep breath and hit send really quick.
>>16779257
I know that feel. It's only awkward if you make it awkward. Just act like texting her is not a big deal and no matter what she answers you can just pretend the texting didn't happen. Also if she doesn't like it, never say you're sorry for texting her, you'll look more like a man if you don't.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZXsQAXx_ao0
Context mother fucker.
>how well do you know each other
>are you related
>your ages
>online or irl
Seriously. Fucking all the posts on this board provide no related information
Is it wrong of me to think that little lies being told often (weekly, maybe more) is enough to kill a long-term LDR?
>>16779238
Only if she realize that you are lying, if not, it's all good.
>>16779342
It's the other way around. I caught her in a lie. She hadn't replied to my text in awhile and I saw she was online on Facebook. She claimed her phone was on lock and she left Facebook open, but I went on her account and saw she searched two guys. So I called and asked if she was lying and she kept saying no, told her I saw she searched two guys and she got all pissed off that I went on her account although we both told each other our passwords close to a year ago because we had nothing to hide. I'm...
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>>16779238
>>16779389
It's completely unacceptable to lie about anything in a relationship. I would break up with my bf if I found out he was on Facebook and searched up some girls and lied to me about it. Same as you, its not the searching up the opposite sex. It's just the lying. I hate liars so much.
So after reading that you can get mind-blowing prostate orgasms from one I bought a vibrator.
The thing is, as soon as i stick it up my ass, basically i feel nothing but constipation. I feel the pressure, but none of the tickly-tingly pleasantly arousing buzz, i do when i simply stroke it around my balls, dick, stomach or anus.
How can this be? Am I doing something wrong (e.g. not hitting the right spot), is the thing too weak or wrongly shaped (straight 3/4inch tick rod), am I not sensitive to this kind of stimulation or there is something wrong with my nerves?
Is...
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Is this your first time
>>16779237
Of what? I guess.. well I've played with fingers before. IMHO they feel somewhat better but are hard to reach and make for uncomfortable position.
>>16779261
Keep trying
Your body just isn't used to it
When I started it felt like I needed a shit too but it got better
