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hey guys.. I will probably get a job next week as a seller in a computer and entertainment store. on one side I'm happy as I will finally get a job and will be able to work in a field that i love - computers, peripherals, vidya etc.. on the other hand i have a case of social anxiety so I'm worried how i will deal with clients and so on..
Was anyone in similar situation? I'd like some advices.. I'm 21, Thanks in advance
>>16778312
Well.
I worked in an office supply store that specialized in computers,phones and god damn office supplies. Had a small case of social anxiety too, but mostly solved after that.
Interested in listening in?
>>16778323
Definitely, please share
focus on your job. Speak using your knowledge, rely on your strengths. You'll be fine.
'mild social anxiety' is well within the range of normal. You'll be fine.
How to get rid of a crush and stop being infatuated? It's a stupid annoying feel and its ruining my comfy apathy.
>>16778299
I'm in the same shoes as you are,
I've tried to cut contact, i.e blocking them, but i always end up getting back like a runaway dog. I've also tried quarreling with the person said, didn't work out. It's so damn distracting, and i feel as a much weaker person when i'm in love.
Sorry no advice.
>>16778299
>>16778784
>find another gril you beta xD
That's the only answer you'll ever get here
>>16778299
Meditate on the thought that girls come and go. There are lots of them and since it's only a crush, it's not like you're passing up the one and only. Might be a can of worms instead.
Or just ask her out and hit your apathetic rock bottom cold turkey.
TL;DR; Focus on all the other pretty girls.
I really need some advice, i just had a conversation with my girlfriend of 3 years about us and it just made me feel like crap. Recently i've noticed she has been seeing her friends a lot more than usual and re-connecting with older friends, going to festivals, getting high all the time and the time we spend together has felt like filler until her next hang session with her friends.
I brought it all up with her because it has started to get to me a lot, and she basically confirmed my fears, she has noticed it too and believes its because she has felt like her friends...
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>>16778282
A little more info, she says she often feels like shes missing out because her friends nearly always are together, and sometimes when shes with me we dont have a whole lot to do.
>>16778282
>she has noticed it too and believes its because she has felt like her friends lift her up and are generally more fun to hang with because they share similar interests.
Well shit OP. This has happened to me too and it ended with us breaking up over it amiably.
>it got more serious she started back peddling a bit and saying it could be a phase and that she does actually enjoy her time with me and is conflicted a lot of the time as to who to see.
Ehhh....
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>>16778313
Thank you, this is such a strange feeling. I don't doubt that she wants to stay together and does love me, but i dont like feeling second best. But at the same time i love her and dont want to break up, i almost wish she would do it for me so i dont have to, but she doesnt want to, so i'm left with just seeing how it goes from here...
My ex hasn't replied to me in 11/12 days now since we sort of half-assedly broke up/got into an argument. I left a few kind of lengthy-ish messages saying "hey im worried pls message me" or "this isn't fair please lets talk this out" etc. *At this point I've realized it's over* HOWEVER, I wanted the last thing said between us to be bitter sweet. I'm aware it might seem pathetic (too late) but i don't want to seem like i'm still holding on, or super bitter, or sad. Something like "you might not read this but i know it...
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>>16778207
just leave your ex alone
OP here honestly at this point I am ready to let go, but reading the actual message I conjured in notepad made me tear up a bit and think of the good times and it's always so hard to say final goodbyes no matter who it is...
>>16778212
i just wanted to say a final good bye :/ to feel like the air is cleared and no hard feelings
Trying to come up with ideas on financing the restoration of a 1886 home. It still has the original wallpaper, floors, 30's kitchen/bathrooms, original woodwork, original wood windows, etc...
It is going to be expensive, any advice on ways to help raise money to afford it?
>>16778202
The state of Illinois used to have a special grant and/or cheap mortgage for just that sort of thing. Your state might have something like that.
Prostitution is nice
>>16778202
2,408 Sq/Ft
1 Acre Lot
4 Bedroom 2 Bath
Finished Basement with Den, 2 Bedrooms, Kitchenette, Wash Room, Boiler Room.
We paid $55,000 for it, and it is in great shape other than needing a new roof and some minor water damage repair.
Updating, another issue. 1930's kitchen, 1940's bathrooms... *sigh*
i just realized that i haven't had sex with my boyfriend for four days
we usually do it every two days
what's wrong? we probably would have fucked yesterday but he had to go drive a friend home from a drink up and i was asleep by the time he came home
Nigger chill, everything is fine.
>>16778199
relax girl. If you are worried by this much just jump on him the next time you see him.
If youre really this worried, talk to him about it. What man would say no to a discussion of "do you want more sex???"
Damn you emotional.
>>didn't have sex with gf for 4 months
>>didn't really feel like it
>>at some point i recalled she never initiated anything
>>so i decided to wait until she initiates
>>didn't happen
>>broke up with her over some bullshit reason
don't worry 4 days is nothing
Beanbag chairs: are they good for your back?
Are they comfy? I've never met an office chair that I felt comfortable in, probably because I am a tallfag, and I don't want to get back pain later in life.
>>16778195
Talk to a doctor about this. Its good that youre at least thinking about this.
>>16778224
I don't trust random doctors and I don't really know any good ones unless it's related to sports injuries. Not really an option.
>>16778253
Youre a hyppocrite. You dont trust people that worked 8+ years to earn their license to work this profession, but you trust random faggots on an anonymous imageboard?
Are you retarded?
Look up doctors in your area and their reviews and then go and talk to several. Or maybe read papers on the subject over the internet, i dont know.
But a medical question should only ever be answered by a practitioning doctor, what is so hard about that?
Other night was first time i meet girl in bar. I was very weird and didnt know what to talk, can someone give me tips ?
Someone help me pls mf
>>16778204
Hey man just start with the basics like name and such, then ask if you guys would like to meet up somewhere :^D
Here you go
/adv/
Which is better?
Scenario 1 - a partner who is settled, will look after you, loves you unconditionally and will take you down the standard life path (marriage, children, etc), but with whom you have very little in common and absolutely no spark
Scenario 2 - a less settled partner with whom you have an amazing connection, lots in common, who may not be as reliable but will make up for this in amazing chemistry alone.
>>16778132
Neither.
I tried both before and they both suck. Scenario 2 is harder to get over. I pick Scenario 3, stay single and masturbate until a girl meeting your standards enters your life.
Have you ever given or received the advice "just be yourself" unironically? In regards to what? Was there any input or was it a one liner?
Did the person who received the advice actually felt better when he/she "started being themselves"? How did they change socially, did they turn into tactless autists or become more friendly?
>>16778110
Yes i have and it is true to a certain degree.
What "most" people that i value search for is genuinity. As in, people that are comfortable being themselves.
There was this huge turbonerd in my class last semester and i was talking to this one girl about him, who i considered would trash him because he was a low-beta guy.
But she blew my mind when she actually stated that she really respected him for being who he was and for being so genuine about his views.
When i asked her what she thought about me she told me that she thought that i think too much and that one can feel that.
That really blew my mind at the time and i have now come to accept this worldview while trying to be more genuine myself.
However, the gist of the message is also to try to accept that failure in interacting with some people will happen if you are unwilling to conform, which is what happens when you are genuine.
As such: be prepared for people to laugh behind your back for as long as they dont clap at you.
Change may come, but you will have to work on it and your attitude.
These are my 2 cents on it OP, i hope it helps.
okay 4chan, I'm intoxicated enough to think this is a good idea so let's go
>be me, 18 y/o guy
>beta as fuck, very quiet but book smart/nerdy type
>in first year at college
>play video games a few hours every day
>smoke excessive amounts of weed every day, also sell a decent amount
>say that it's self medication and it helps with depression/anxiety/sleeping problems/suicidality...
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