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would anyone date this?
>>16777377
no, sorry
come back when you want advice
how can i look up a post.. one that i was just looking at is their a place i can type in the number or something
>>16777345
Have you checked up your butthole to see if the posts are there?
Last time I was looking for a post, I found it up my ass.
their it is...thanx guys
Hi /adv/, I am a very happy and carefree person so I'm afraid my own experience is not helping me here. Long story short I have an online friend who I care about who is in an abusive and manipulative relationship. They seem very depressed about it periodically and the rest of the time just seem totally numb about it. What should I do? Previously I've just told them I'm here if they need to talk and have avoided telling them to fuck the guy off (I'm also a guy so I don't want to come across as trying to get with her) but it seems like the situation is...
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What's abusive in the relationship?
>>16777332
Basically has alienated her from all her friends, making her feel worthless, useless, inferior etc etc... the usual sort of stuff when you hear about this kind of thing... there was a couple of incidents where it got physical but not really bad as far as im aware... Im at a complete loss as to how to help because Ive never really encounteered this kind of situation before
is it illigal to have a fake Fb acount if it isnt to defraud somebody just to have a fake life...not to do anything bad....ps if somebody knows wear i can get picturse to use as profile ones like a set of a 35-45 year old guy it would help but im not tryng to impersonate anybody real...
I doubt it's illegal since fake accounts pop up pretty regularly, but it's pretty fucking weird dude.
i just want to have a internet persona pretend i live somewear els and am somebody els not person that exist either
One of the saddest things in my life is that one of my best friends has abandoned me. He was a guy that I legitimately considered to be someone who would be the best man at my wedding, regardless of our occasional fights over the 16 years we've known each other. We used to live together, we were Pokemon trading buddies in middle school in the Red and Blue days... we've been through a ton.
He's 30, I'm 29... and he hates me for being friends with someone he doesn't like. He's struggling with a lot in his life, and as much as I want to say...
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>>16777297
He's probably got some serious issues going on right now. I'd say that you should find a way to figure out what's wrong and try to help him or just give it time.
>>16777315
It's been about a year. He does have issues - he's raising his girlfriend's kid from another guy, and she broke up with him years prior.
He loves the kid now, but he's stuck, there's no escaping. I'd love to help, but he won't talk to me. A year seems like a lot of time to get things right, though.
Our friends say he's just projecting onto me because I'm free and happy, and he has all of these issues... but still, I wish I could be his buddy.
is it wrong to date someone you know really likes you if you're still hung up on or still borderline in love with your ex?
I'm 19 and broke up with my ex in December (merry fucking Christmas) because we wanted to go in drastically different directions in life, physically and professionally. it fucking ripped me apart, even though I put on a brave face and said I was fine with it. we still talk, snapchat sometimes, but not that much. but when he does I still get that rush and butterflies from when we first met, and still sometimes can't help but think about...
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>>16777287
Sometimes you can't help how you feel. Don't lead the other guy on and tell him you're not ready to date so that guy can go meet someone who can give them 100%.
>>16777287
Relationships are drug addiction.
The love chemicals and hormones are like heroine, and when you break up you have withdrawals. Thats why you can be so fed up with someone youre used to and comfortable with, but once you leave suddenly they're the only thing you ever needed (Hung up)
Everything above is actual science..
Truth be told, sleeping with someone else is almost an instant cure, and dating someone new really helps a lot.. because theyre essentially going to signal your brain to continue the release (Plus a lot of better stuff that comes with new love).
What Im saying is if you do date him, you wont be hung up on your ex much longer at all..
The only foreseeable problem is this guy may not be as great as you think, you're not exactly thinking straight right now...
>>16777293
so you're saying I should date him or just have sex with someone?
>>16777290
that makes sense I suppose
How do you stay normal and social when most of your classes are on line?
>>16777256
You don't. You threw away your last shot at gaining social relationships before entering the long, slow, lonely decay towards death known as adulthood.
>>16777269
People make plenty of friends in adulthood, You need to get out of your house though.
You know when people always say find a hobby and go out and meet people with the similar hobby? Yea that's how you make friends and be social and normal.
>>16777256
Why don't you stop being a faggot?
Is this girl playing me? We met on tinder.
Day 1: We chill all day and everything goes extremely good (no room 4 details), she spends the night and we fuck, she hints that she's into me.
Day 2: She's digging me hard and treating me like a boyfriend, I won't get into the details. We walk on a nature trail and smoke. Instantly when the weed hits me I have a panic attack. I try my best to hide it but I think she can feel it because she hints about making out and I dont even go in for a kiss or touch her at all, basically we walked around and left the...
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>>16777234
She sounds like she just wants dick. Nothing wrong with that. She's probably younger, thinks love and like are interchangeable. She just wants dick.
Her saying 'I love you' isn't a 'big red flag' you idiot. It's just what people say when they're thankful for something, like 'omg thank you I love you you're the best!!!!' She doesn't actually mean it. Not a red flag. Pay more attention to the way girls talk to each other.
Wait until she messages you again before trying to start another conversation.
Explain that when you got high with her, you had a small panic attack buy everything's all g now and you'd like to chill with her again.
She treated me like shit so I left her a year ago. I still kinda miss her & I still haven't felt anything close to what I felt about her towards anyone else. Did I fuck up?
>>16777230
No, I was the same way, I pined over a girl who basically shit on me (she was my first gf at age 21). And I was crazy for her for a long while, it wasn't worth it. She was shit, just focus on being a good man.
Yup cliche as fuck but the only thing that really helps with this shit is time
>>16777604
It's already been a fucking year, and it was better for a few months but it just got worse.
So after my ex dumped me as harshly and coldly as possible, after 2 being together years, and then disappeared off the face of the earth, I'm now trying to get back into dating. It was my first relationship, so I'm still not so good at this shit. But I'm having some issues. First, there are like 10 girls in my surrounding vicinity, 7 of whom are very over weight, and trying to hide it.
Second, its near impossible to have a conversation with these girls. On any app/site, all the girls that even give me the time of day are so fucking snarky/defensive about...
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>>16777195
You kinda sound like a big jerk. Try talking to girls like you would talk to someone you actually give a shit about.
Or, like you think they might like, and fake it till you make it.
>>16777228
That's exactly what I do. I'm not being a jerk to these girls in any way, its like they've been tainted by getting hit up for nudes one too many times or something, and are super defensive, making it hard to talk to them without feeling like you're walking on eggshells.
>>16777239
In what way are they defensive? What questions are you asking that could be worded to even provoke a defensive response?
Post some convos or something, that doesn't make sense.
So this is a sort of get it off your chest/experience/story thread. But about a specific topic.
Family. And for me personally, half-siblings. Do you have them? Did you grow up with them? Do you have half-siblings that you suddenly discovered? What's it like?
But anything about family, the good and the bad. Tried to include mine in this post but it got too long, and after I post I'm going to see if it's not too late to get a drink.
(Pic related, even if maybe cheesy)
You can't dig half a hole, you can't have half a sibling. They're either your sibling or not, you either consider them family or not.
My mother is batshit insane. She's the only mother I have and I feel terrible for her general situation and blah blah blah, but for some bizarre reason instead of getting psychological help for her situation and recognising that she is in a bad place, she has turned to woo-woo spirituality and some kind of weird self-imposed martyrdom. It is causing real tension between her and the rest of the family members because...
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My family is super fucked up right to the core and I kind of resent everyone.
Mom - Is dating a dude who beats her but won't leave, angrily denies that he ever hit her but we all know. When she tried to leave him once, he choked her to submission.
Stepmom - When she heard the above story, asked "Well hard did he choke her though" as if there's an acceptable level of being choked by your boyfriend. Awful person. Just the worst.
Dad - So whipped by my stepmom that when I really needed a place to crash (long story) and had nowhere to live, he said I couldn't stay at his place. Because stepmom wouldn't like it. If my sister hadn't stepped in, I would have been super fucked or in deep debt to a hotel or something. Also, he had a heart attack and almost died last year but he still won't stop eating the fried chicken.
Sister - Has acted cold and hostile ever since my dad was in the hospital and my work wouldn't give me time off to go see him. She probably thinks I didn't care even though I've yelled that it wasn't my fault to her about it a million times.
>>16777162
What about never even knowing of the sibling's existence until you're both young adults?
Half sibling as in one parent in common. Parents didn't keep in contact. I can't say they're siblings in the same way as the ones I grew up with. They're just people I talked to recently. Online only even. They are family, they are strangers, they are blood relatives to me.
And for you example of how I meant half siblings, you CAN did half a hole. If the hole is planned to be 4 feet deep...
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Hey /adv/
Been having a period that has lasted 16 days now and it doesn't seem to want to stop. There's no pain anymore and the bleeding is not heavy either but it's still there. I also found some white dried up stuff on both of my nipples. First thing I thought was that I might be pregnant so I took a test but it came back negative. I'm going to the doctor on Monday but does anyone have an idea of what could be causing this?
>>16777123
your uterus probably.
Are you using an IUD?
>>16777128
No I just take the pill.
girl texts me
>hey i havent seen you in forever!
yeah haha its been a while
>so when are we chillen
how about this weekend
>ok cool what time?
sometime after 9
>ok ill talk to you then
now
>hey you still wanna chill?
yeah i just got off work
>ok whens the latest you can chill
whenever before 3am lol
>ok wanna come over to my...
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Oh nooooo oh gooooosh it must be such a burden to have a girl proactively reach out to you and your wiener.
You know she has other options, right? Other options who are willing to come up with plans with her. You want her, you make plans.
>>16777100
Just say "we'll wing it". She's inviting you over to her place, she wants to bone. Bring some wine if you have any.
Hello,
I guess I am concerned. Lately I have been isolating myself from the world. Close friends have started to notice and I am apparently worrying them. I have been noticing behavioral changes in myself also.
I am not unhappy. I think I feel fine. Lately life just seems to loud and fast, I just want it to slow down. What should I do if I keep feeling this way? Should I see a therapist? I do have a history of depression and my insomnia is kicking in. The only sign of depression I am currently experiencing is loss of interest. May I please have some thoughts on this?
bump
>>16777088
ask your close friends that are worried and know you and are worried about you?
>>16777088
or go on vacation
Been in relationship with boyfriend for almost 3 years
Been both the happiest and most terrifying time of my life.
He's a loving person who accepts me for who I am and loves spending time together.
But, has a short temper, is prone to aggresive outbursts and sometimes can't measure his own strenght.
Today I was at his place, I was in my phone when he signals me to come sit next to him in a playful way. I stand up and go next to him.
Before I can sit he jokingly pulls me from my arm to sit down.
Like I said, sometimes he can't measure his own...
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>>16776991
You're turned on by the fact that he doesn't care that much about you, that signals that he can get other women, which again turns you on.
No bigger way of saying "idgaf about you" by hitting someone. Same reason Rihanna hasn't dated anyone since Chris Brown whopped the piss out of her, no one can compare to the alpha male who has no qualms about hitting someone.
tl;dr Biology, you get turned on knowing he doesn't give a fuck about you.
>>16776991
He'll abuse you for sure. It hasn't gotten there yet, but you're well along the path. Not all guys are like this, but this one is. From the inability to accept responsibility for his actions, to the inability to handle a basic conflict without going into a violent rage... please just SEE the red flags right in front of you, and don't ignore them. This guy is not the exception to the rule. If you stay together, worse things than this will happen.
>>16776999
If by abuse you mean harming me physically he already has...
But, I kinda don't blame him... I hurt him really bad too.
We're just kinda unable to let eachother go.
After a couple aggressive encounters we took some time off and he asked me to get back together, that he'd control himself... I guess progress means hitting the area around me and not... me? idk
I really do feel strongly about him, and know this isn't him 100% of the time.
