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Why does a girl not reply?
I asked for this girls number yesterday, we understand very well and I don't why'd she ignore me like that, we texted yesterday but she hasn't replied to my last message since yesterday night, she's been online almost all day and it feels like she doesn't even care.
What should I do, message her again or do something, I don't wanna sound needy or cringey or anything, I just kinda wanna have a relationship whit this girl but as it seems she doesn't share the same ideas.
What should I do, ignore her or send...
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>>16779141
I dunno man, maybe you need to realize there's a million other women out there and realize that maybe she doesn't like you
>>16779154
This. Don't chase her up. If she hasn't replied, that's pretty clear message
>>16779141
She didn't reply and she been online all day? Don't bother with her she's a bitch.
Hey guys, as a senior in high school, how can I prepare myself for a computer science course? Any links to tutorials or videos would be greatly appreciated. As of now, I know just about jack shit.
Anything you find on Google would be sufficient. Just pick a language, choose a project and start coding.
What modules are on the course? There's a lot of pieces involved. I guess if you want to get up on the coding side join HackerRank.
Also this https://www.google.co.uk/about/careers/students/guide-to-technical-development.html but it's missing stuff like CPUs, networks etc.
Times when I'm tired, like now, I feel so incredibly sad that it's basically agony. Then it dies down and I feel happier, to the point where I'm laughing and smiling and enjoying life completely.
Then the cycle repeats. Over the course of 12 to 16 hours.
The sadness has ruined a lot of things in my life, it's only gotten worse since I drove my girlfriend away.
Does this sound like I have mental problems?
I'm sorry.
I'm feeling better now
Alright it's been over a month and I'm still not over her. I've tried fucking new girls and all I can think about is her. Even though she hurt me in the worst way, I miss her.
Should I tell her?
>>16779107
This would give her power over you.
The only way she's ever going to have a slight chance to come back is if you stay silent to her and act like you don't care.
Hang in there friend. It gets better. You're at least better off than most others because you can in fact fuck other actual girls.
Its been a year for me. We havnt spoke for 6 months.
I still think about her every day, and it still hurts just as much.
The thought of her fucking her new boyfreind makes me want to vomit, Even though ive been with 5 girls since.
I hate her. But i still love her.
It doesnt get easier.
It wont ever be the same.
Remember this OP.
/adv/ please help.
I'm 29 years old. I always moved around in life a lot (military, switching schools, etc.) so I have been in a lot of situations where I have had to make new friends without having any social connections.
However, since breaking up with my ex 2 years ago I haven't made any friends. (She was sort of the last link to the last social group I was in.) The breakup hit me hard (I thought I was going to marry her) and I was in a really deep depression for about six months.
But now it's like it's so much more difficult to...
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You probably fucked up in not developing a strong motivation to construct your own satisfying lifestyle. This is very common. It's just that most people enjoy the luxury of social lives to sort of cover up that mistake.
You're 29. There's no reason why you shouldn't have every little detail of your personal life exactly how you like it. You should eat the foods you like, travel to the spots you enjoy, play the games and sports which interest you, etc. 24/7 your life should be "The OP Show." That's the whole point of having the freedom...
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I sympathize with your story because I feel like I am heading in your direction. I don't think you "fucked up", as life goes on friends often begin to drift apart, They come and go.
What do you do outside of work? Do you have hobbies or anything that have you going out and attempting to communicate with people outside of work?
Try not to worry to much, it's easy to feel like the rest of your life will be like this but nobody knows when you're going to find your next friend or partner. You could even try online dating if you're looking...
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>>16779581
I'm not really sure what you mean, honestly?
>>16779584
Most of my hobbies are more or less solo activities (writing/drawing/doing my own little programming projects) although as I said it's like I have no interest in those anymore. I do like to go for long walks in the forest, although that's not really something you meet people at. I'm not really sure what kind of activity or anything you can go to that wouldn't be weird just showing up alone by yourself.
I've never really needed a lot of friends - there have been points in my life where I only had maybe 2 or 3. It's just that having none at all is driving me out of it.
Right now dating is completely out of the question for me. I don't feel nearly stable enough at all for that kind thing.
How do I friends?
The last people whom I thought were my friends was a couple who just wanted to have a threesome/me to fuck his wife.
When I turned them down, they stopped talking to me.
How do I make friends as an adult?
putting out helps, to be honest
I'm into this girl. I wanna be a thing with her. I'm too busy this week with exams to ask her out on a date right now. However, I don't wanna blow my chance and take too long. What do?
>>16779020
Make time or study together?
I have terrible luck with love.
It seems like I can get women to really like me at first, but then after a while they leave me.
I was dating a girl recently for a couple of months, and at first she was saying shit like, "I can't believe you've been single so long", "you're an amazing guy", or "I'm lucky to have met you." She was pretty much smitten with me and was extremely kind and generous to me. I wasn't used to that kind of treatment, so it caught me off guard but I did my best to reciprocate.
Then...
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>>16778988
Not every relationship is a winner.
Keep at it until you find someone you love and lover you back.
Sounds like you may have an annoying trait that is not obvious right off the bat. But don't stress about it. Good relationship are build by people who are oblivious to their lovers annoying traits. Just keep at it.
dude, people are embroiled in their own lives. What they do is not usually about you. I wouldn't have any reason to doubt what she's telling you, both that she likes you and that she's not in a place for a relationship.
>which is basically code for
this is the phrase that should scream "the following statement is a massive projection of my own insecurities!"
>>16779027
you can't tell me you've never been on the receiving end of a hidden message like that. People do it all the time. They claim they do it to protect the feelings of the person they're saying it to, but in reality they just want to protect themselves from the backlash of being honest while technically accomplishing the same goal.
my gut is telling me somethings not right with this girl at the moment and here's why.
I met this chick about a month a go and everything was going great, dating, flirting, talking dirty over the phone, sexting, it's was all really hot passionate stuff.
Im quite a cold guy by nature and for some reason women have always just attached themselves to me because of that. I'm guessing it's because they can't work me out or I'm not confessing my love to them, no idea. So this is why this problem is all new territory to me.
So for...
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Anyone?
Im being sent somewhere for psychological evaluation, what should I prepare myself for? I really don't like talking about my feelings.
Why (are you being sent)
>>16778968
>>16779119
okay i guess OP's making coffee or taking a dump or something. i had 2 psych evals.
first one
> i'm from mid EU
> every man, after he turns 18, has to do 9 months of civilian service or 6 months of military service
> before that there's a physical exam and a psych eval
Psych eval was two parts; first you sit in a room, everyone's...
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>>16779199
>and do any extraordinarily stupid shit
*i meant "don't do", of course
>tfw I realize the only reason why I want human relationships is being fine with my ego
How should I feel?
>>16778951
>fine with my ego
define ego
>>16778974
Selfsteem
>>16778986
so, you realized that all you do is driven by making you feel good about yourself? yeah, that's normal and healthy
I am a young guy and I had a son with a Korean lady (older by four years), I've been knowing her for three years, but we couldn't make it work out. We both love each other but have destroyed ourselves treating each other like crap. I'm from a Spanish culture and we're very romantic and attentive to detail, while she appears cold, uncaring, and materialistic
Now I met this girl younger than me (by five years), she's pretty, sexy, and dedicated and devoted to me, very passionate. Problem is... She showed me how immature I was with my ex in many...
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>>16778893
None of us can tell you the answer. You're on your own.
In all honesty, you're probably going to regret whichever you choose. Just choose the one you regret less.
>>16778905
This is a great answer. I'd regret more seeing my son be pulled from side to side in the Hollidays and every day for the rest of his life.
Any idea how to let this new young girl off easy? I dont want to make up a story and take the sleazy way out either
Given likely advances in medicine, if you were born in the 1990s, it is more likely than not that you will live in three centuries.
Does that excite you or scare you?
Doesn't make me feel anything. I have the ability to choose when I don't want to live anymore. If it feels too long I can just end it.
UK lads help.
Need to fucking move out lads. I'm 25 nearly 26 and I still live with my dad, and every single fucking conversation revolves around what food he's bought, what food we're going to have for dinner, what food not to eat etc. I can't stand it anymore.
By the end of this month I'll have £1500 in savings. Is that enough to move out? Should I move out with mates or get GF first?
I live in North West area around Manchester.
>>16778872
If you have a job that's enough. That will get you the deposit on a small flat. Then just keep going.
I'm on 15k and I have money left to save.
You're not in London so you should be fine too.
>>16778953
I'm 13k a year sadly, but I think I'd be able to manage anyway. I save £300-400 a month so could change it to £200. Aiming to get a new job but easier said than done.
Just not sure if I want to live alone, or with mates or find a GF first. Preferably the latter but feel like I need to move out to get one first. Hmm.
>>16779001
Talk about it with a mate, I'm living with 4 girls at the moment and financially I'm secure as fuck with a job that pays about £12k a year (Sheffield) - beware of student areas would be my advice, its unreal the price leap they make there. Also random but when looking to buy/rent a property the bedroom is nowhere near as important as the bathroom and kitchen. My room's lovely but our shared amenities are just impractically small for 5 people. Best of luck in any case bro
Sup /adv/
Thinking of making a motivational poster. How does this look so far? Pic not related.
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Have you ever said to yourself, "Why didn't anyone tell me these things"? Well then, here we go.
A long, long time ago, back before cell phones, computers, cars, or even houses, people lived in caves. Or if they were lucky, they lived in caves. If not so lucky, they lived in trees, or slept on the ground. Life was hard. If they found food, they ate. If they did not find food, they did not eat. If they got sick, there were no doctors or medicines....
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School is the modern day way of teaching kids so they have a better chance of survival.
But survival is not the only goal. You can summarize all goals down to two main goals. survival and the stimulation of your senses. People eat and work to survive. People eat, listen to music, have sex, and do drugs to stimulate the senses, although doing drugs can work against the goal of survival.
So let's look at sex a little more closely. How can you have really great sex? By attracting a really great sex partner. So how can you attract a really great sex partner? By...
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Is there a question here someplace?
>>16778875
Sure. What is your opinion of this work in progress?
