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I'm a gay male grad student and there's a really cute undergrad (pic unrelated) in a mixed grad/undergrad course I'm taking. I'm not certain that he's gay/bi but I think he might be. We talk every day before class.
I really want to go out with him but I'm nervous that he won't be gay/bi and I'm nervous about the ensuing awkwardness if he isn't interested. I've never actually asked someone out except online, which was also the only date I had (along with two more with the same guy after). I mainly am just totally inexperienced...
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Not sure because I've never been in your shoes, but if I was, I'd hang out with him outside of class. Get to know him better. Easy to find out if he's open to dating guys. Plus you'll be closer to him. Two birds.
>>16777779
This quit being a faggot and ask that young lad out.
Does he know you're gay?
Like >>16777779 said, your best bet at this stage is just to get to know each other as friends. If you can establish that you enjoy each other's company and he's willing to intentionally spend time with you, you've at least got a chance, and if he's got a girlfriend or something it'll probably come up in conversation.
how do you tell you family that you probably have depression? I have taken many online tests to see if i have it and it is most likely i have minor depression.
>>16777735
Have you gone to a doctor yet? It might be best to do that and they could probably give you advice on how to break it to your parents.
I think you should consult a doctor first though, taking an online test is not that reliable
>>16777752
This desu ask your parents to see a therapist.
>>16777752
doctors are a while away, and i cant drive. so my parents will have to take me. and i dont want to do that.
>26
>Got my masters in health administration, already make $75k/year
>Have my own house, car all that good stuff
So I've only been here at this job for a year, and my pay is already due to increase quite significantly because of the field I'm in, I'm basically on starting salary where I work currently. Now my GF left me recently, and got with some wage slave swagfaggot "I'm on my workflowwww" kid that works at taco bell. Within a week she came...
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Don't respond at all. Let it blow over.
And don't delete your social media it makes you look guilty.
Well, unless it somehow overflows into your work stuff.
>>16777702
Hmm. Okay.
And currently it is not overflowing into work stuff, I was just afraid it would.
I'm bad with girls 18yo virgin.
Too stupid to be successful , too smart to be happy.
Decent with math and basic lvl of c++ but I don't think I got what it takes to push forward.
An outsider , I feel like I don't belong anywhere . Shall I try to give a shallow meaning to my life or accept that there's none ? I feel more depressed with every day that passes , I got 4 more months till I'll finish high school and I honestly don't know what to do next.
And as a last note I also live in a poor european country , so the chances of me studying...
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>>16777651
Get a job and save up to go study abroad or just go somewhere else to make a living. Give yourself the meaning to life, or go see a therapist first. Decide what you really want to do and if what you want to do is live a happy life, work towards it. Make goals
European girls are sluts bro once you get a good job and some money they are going to fuck believe me bro
>>16777651
>18yo virgin
That is normal
>18yo student who isn't a professional-grade programmer yet
That is also normal
>18yo who is questioning the meaning of life and feels depressed
Still completely normal
>18yo who is uncertain and worried about his future
Normal. You're fine, dude. You are every other 18-24 year-old guy, except for the happy,...
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I'm going to be transferring to a college an hour and a half away from my hometown to live with friends and continue pursuing my major. And to get out of my neighborhood a bit.
The only idea that fucks with me is that if something goes wrong, for whatever reason and I feel miserable, I can't just head home like I can living in my hometown. I'm worried about being homesick, and just overall lacking the conveniences of living at home. I honestly didn't think the idea of it would hit me this hard, but it has, and I'm stressing about it, and it's...
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>>16777628
Yes, it is a rather normal thing to worry about.
Moving, getting fired, and divorce are supposed to be the three most stressful things a person can go through.
But once you actually do move, it'll all be much easier. After a few days, you'll let your guard down in your new place. After a couple weeks, it'll feel like home.
And you'll always be able to call your family and old friends and even spend a weekend or two each month back at home. An hour and a half really isn't that far.
>>16777628
You've been given a blessing my friend. Enjoy it. I'm living at home at 21, and I'll likely be 23-24 before that can realistically change and I'm sick of it. Don't be like me.
I'm 24, male. I have trust issues.
I've never asked a girl out, but I've been asked out several times. I've declined most. I had a "relationship" that lasted a month before I broke it off. It's not just girls either, I generally have trouble trusting anybody. Relatives, friends (whatever's left of them), any strangers I just happen to meet. It's not like I'm always thinking everybody is out to get me, it's definitely not that. I just don't feel like people are being genuine with me. I'm too cynical.
Is...
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What exactly will they get from you?
>>16777643
My trust.
>>16777608
Even if you don't trust people you can still interact with them.. If you expect them to break your trust when they actually prove you wrong you'll begin to build up trust with them.
Let me start this off by saying I love my sister..but sometimes I get mad. Me and my sister will get into arguments and she will say something that really strikes a nerve and I get physical with her. I don't mean it and I try to promise myself I won't do it again but I do. One strange thing is when she cries it makes me furoius at her ,I want to hit her I don't know why honestly . She still thinks of me as her babay brother so she doesn't tell anyone but I don't know what to do.
>>16777556
You know who hits their family? Autists and trailer trash.
See a therapist. These kinds of anger problems mean you need therapy, especially if you want to be the kind of person who doesn't hit people when they get upset.
http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/how-to-find-therapist
Don't do it. Since she's family, it would actually count as domestic violence instead of regular assault. DV charges will affect you forever. Remember that.
Need to sleep but roommates are loud as fuck. The rent is cheap so I don't want to move out (I'm a college student btw, the school year gonna end and I will find a new house with new roommates). Any comfy ear plug or something to block the noise so I can sleep/study?
>>16777533
Noise cancelling earphones and play some ambient noises
>>16777533
I've taken to using earplugs almost nightly for at least the last year or so. They're a godsend. The hospital variety are best - steal them from there. Just cut yourself or something so you have a reason to be admitted.
>>16777533
Buy the cheapest kind in a drugstore. If they don't work, try another cheap brand. They're not all the same, but there's not a whole lot of difference.
(19, m), interested in anal play for awhile. Only problem is that i feel that Im causing internal trauma from it. It used to go fine, but now literally every time I try to use a toy, or something similar, I begin to bleed heavily, but only for a few minutes. Pic is of one of those theme park plastic bottles that I lubed up. After four thrusts and NO pain, i pull it out and see this. This isn't just for non-dick shaped objects. Anything besides pooping does this. Should I simply ignore my fetish?
>>16777510
ANALY BLUDGEONED (GONE SEXUAL) IN THE HOOD 2K16
you should go to the fucking doctor asap. Bleeding out of your ass is not normal so you definitely did something, you could get serious infection so gtfo to the doctor, tell him exactly what happened, they get similar stuff so don't worry. Many people fuck up when they masturbate. If you still think this would be awkward then know that bleeding is not awkward at all it's pretty serious thing, going to the doc with "lost" dildo is awkward and it fucking happens more often than you think.
>>16777510
Jesus fucking Christ you're not supposed to stick plastic bottles and shit up your ass. That is disturbing as fuck. What the fuck is wrong with you, this is like cutting your wrists or something. If you like anal play, get yourself a proper dildo or butt-plug and put a condom on it. You can order that shit on Amazon if you're too chicken to go to a sex shop. Why the fuck are you doing crazy shit like this to yourself?
It said this post was too long so im going to finish it in the response below.
I was bestfriends with this girl for about two years and she introduced me to this guy. Eventually him and I started dating and things were perfect. A few months into my relationship with him, I ended up cutting off my friend due to a lot of bs drama that I didnt feel like dealing with. About two weeks later, i was on his laptop and of course, out of curiosity, i started snooping. I came across a bunch of folders, those of which were titled with girls' names and filled with pictures of...
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I know some of you may think i'm overreacting but just keep in mind that I was naive and had never had a clue that guys did this. It still eats at me a lot and now I really question whether i should be with him or not. I feel like it really fucked me up, like I wont trust a guy around any woman ever again. I know he never actually pursued them, but i cant help but think that by fantasizing SO much about other people and having SO many pictures of them, that has to equate to some type of desire. Its extremely hard for me to stomach. Please, anyone, give...
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>>16777454
It's not normal for guys to do that. We usually have folders of porn starts or type of porn, but not for individual girls we know.
You made the right choice.
Picture related. I'm taking a shit and she is still sleeping.
The girl made her choice it seems, so congrats.
if they're true bros, they'll back off.
>>16777450
Tell them you're dating, FFS it's not hard. She flirted with you, you asked her out. No problem.
>>16777450
Get your dick fixed, tell your bros you're going out. This shit is not complicated.
How would you react/how have you reacted before to dating someone who ended up having different political views? Not even entirely but just disagreed with you on something?
I've ruined relationships because of this... I'll be stubborn and it makes sense to me at the time to be mad at the person, but until everything's over then I realize "shit... I forget I once believed differently than I do now... was it worth it?"
Anyway, stories?
If they're irrelevant to our daily lives, we just don't talk about them. Otherwise I think about how much it matters and break up if it's a big problem.
>>16777399
if you liked them before the dispute, chances are its not a huge difference in worldviews. However, you can still have the discussion as long as they are the kind of person who can handle debate. Otherwise its really just your own judgement call on if its worth the relationship and if you dont think they will change views.
>>16777399
It really shouldn't matter enough to ruin a relationship. You judge people by their actions, not their opinions, you'll find there are a lot of perfectly good people out there whose beliefs are very different from yours. And as you mentioned before, beliefs can change, a person's general nature and values and attitudes towards the relationship are much more important than what they have to say about today's current events.
Though these issues are weighty, you have to admit that most...
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Why can't I be with a girl?
Why do I have to masturbate to porn? My mind thrives off of fantasies. I distance myself from women purposely. My fetishes (BDSM, Female Domination) have evolved to the point of me being unable to get off and normal people find it unattractive.
I just want to be normal. Why can't I be? Do I really have to smash my laptop and force myself to restart that way? How will I survive without it? What will I do when I come home from work or school?
i dont think you know how many people are into BDSM and female domination lmao.
>>16777729
This, and >>16777396
Because you choose to, you can choose not to beat it to porn and not to distance yourself from women.
>>16777396
At least you don't want to be a girl
>GF and I broke up two weeks ago
>She basically told me she was falling out of love
>Dumped me, and then ended up with a new guy in 3 days, and then moved halfway across the state
>Haven't spoken to her since
>She just called me out of the blue tonight, and left a message telling me that "she is okay and not to worry about her"
>I tried calling back but no answer, sent me to...
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Why the fuck did you even call back
Dude you need to learn when you're getting played. She called because she's trying to fuck with you to feel better about herself. Jesus Christ.
>>16777401
She didn't even pick up so it doesn't matter, Its not like I'm sitting here trying to contact here over and over. She hasn't even tried talking to me since.
If she is trying to play me to feel better, for what fucking purpose? She never behaved like that before.
>>16777413
>She didn't even pick up so it doesn't matter
No, it does. You don't get to just wave it off like some Jedi mind trick. I know you did something stupid and I'm calling you out on it.
>for what fucking purpose?
>to feel better
I don't think you're even listening to yourself. I guess there's no hope that you'll hear me either.
I'm leaving this to warn other anons...
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I live in an apartment and we share washers and driers. The drier has been acting funny lately, but I used it anyway and it was working okay. I paused it to throw in a pair of pants that were still wet and it wouldn't turn back on.
Now it's stuck in the "In Use" phase with the orange light lit up, but it won't turn and its bothering me. Should I unplug it? I don't want to cause a fire.
Thanks for the advice.
Sure.
>>16777387
Is it an older model? Newer model? Unplugging it and plugging it back in certainly wouldn't hurt.
Fuck that dryer. You should take a sledgemahher to it.
