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How do I get better at life? By it I mean, motivation to do anything. Having ADD/memory problems doesn't help my situation(neither putting all the blame on it like I do), and staying at home all day, everyday just using PC, not working or studying leeching my parents isn't really something that I want to my life. Sometimes I feel really good and want to go out, meet people, study, work, try new things, but 100% of the times that I feel like that I just end up in front my PC thinking on "oh man, it would be really nice if I had a good memory, and a nice job to...
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Have you considered a tag team combo of working a shit job 10-15 hours a week, paying your parents a small bit of rent, and using the rest to pay for therapy?
>>16776998
That's what I want, but I can't stop thinking that I'll fail on another job before I actually get any progress on the treatment. And feels even worse because I don't get any support from my family on this as well, they think that I do this to live an easy life without responsibility/work, while its not true at all, I really miss the time when I wasn't like this.
Sometimes I just see myself as a kid whining for not being able to do things, instead of trying. But I don't know how...
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>>16776987
Your desire to "be better at life" has to be greater than all the bullshit you are currently doing. (Pc/wasting time, among other things I am sure) Understand that with most things in life it becomes harder to get going the longer you wait to do it. You do not get time and youth back, take advantage of it or forever regret it.
YOU MUST HAVE GOALS. These goals much also be specific, measureable and attainable.
This is a bruise
I have to go to work tommorow
Tell me how to manage this pain so that I can walk and move easily I don't care what I have to do
>>16776954
Are you the same guy that thought be broke is toejam?
>>16776954
Wrap the bruised toe tightly with gauze bandage, or something similar that's going to stay put under your socks and shoes. Most of the pain comes from rubbing/pressing the bruise against your other toes, or the bottom of your shoe. If you can keep it wrapped and padded, you can insulate yourself significantly from the pain.
It's not a 100% solution or anything, but it's pretty much the best you can do without painkillers
At pharmacies and such they sell sponge padding you put in between your toes and other areas, usually to prevent a corn or blister from rubbing up. Then you pop a few painkillers and make sure to wear shoes that are slightly larger so you have room.
I have really bad anxiety. I can't focus on one thing. I'm always thinking about school and work and I can't get it out of my head. I spend most of the pacing and on the internet. When I'm browsing shit I have a bunch of tabs open and I just cycle through them over and over. I never get shit done. I've tried just sitting down and doing something like studying or maybe play music or draw but I just can't stop thinking about other stuff. Doing homework takes me way longer than it should.
Can someone give me advice?
See a psychiatrist about your obvious anxiety issues. A therapist would help, too.
How to find a mental health provider: http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/mental-illness/in-depth/mental-health-providers/art-20045530
How to find a therapist: http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/how-to-find-therapist
Anti anxiety medication can help.
>Be with boyfriend for 10 years
>Move to another country
>Get engaged to him
>Break up with him 4 months after
>Meet him 7 months later
>Tell him our relationship could have another go in the future if we were able to correct the things we did wrong the first time
>Long distance relationship is not longer acceptable
>Get an email from him one month later saying he's willing to sacrifice everything to be with me again
I still have feelings for him but I don't love him anymore. I spent the last 8 months re-discovering "single me" and I'm finally OK with that.
I do see myself with him in the long run, just not now. How do I explain all this to him without hurting him further?
If you don't take him now you'll probably never see him again, so keep that in mind when making your decision.
If you do want to reject him, there's no way to do it without hurting him further. Just keep your head up and be honest.
>>16776934
Have you been sleeping around since you broke up
If yes just tell him and he will understand. If hes still willing then he will wait.
If you reject him now but say you want to date him later than hes going to consider you a whore and let you go.
>>16777004
That's exactly what I thought and what I am afraid of to some extent.
Sorry.
How can i get over my fear of being crippled? I think my OCD is acting up, since i'm developing a reluctancy in making this thread just because i think i might get crippled by making it.
I fear going blind, mainly. I also fear losing a limb, dying. But mainly being blind or losing a limb. Then dying. How can i get over this? I've only known a single blind person in my life. I'm also a very careful person. Please help me get over this. Just seeing cases like this one or remembering i have such fear makes me nervous and afraid.
I fear losing my imaginary boyfriend/host.
>>16776925
I'm sorry to hear that.
Hello
Today is Carnival (Mardi Gras) here in Brazil, for those unaware, one of the largest festivals in the world.
I rlly dont care if something considered primitive and outdated. I just like being able to kiss many girls, drink a lot and enjoy the famous bread and circuses for four days.
The problem is I have no friends and only now I realized that .. It is difficult to go out in a place with thousands of helpless people and no one to enjoy with you and chat while you aim a girl or something ..
Also I came to the conclusion that it is hard you enjoy being poor because...
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make more friends and get ready for next year
>>16776840
>I'm 18 and this is the best time to do these things
No, when you're that young and poor, it's not the best time to do those things. But make friends and do it next year. If you can't get with girls solo, you can't do it with your buddies though.
>>16776955
>op here
carnival = Thousands of street parties with Thousands of people and easy all the girls team
With friends any festival is more fun. There is no way to compare. There are many factors: fun, confidence, drink together, outside the protection if there is a general fight.
I regret miss it because it's a unique chance to get a lot of girls and live the famous carpe diem
It is sad to lose the best things of youth for being a nerd and not having...
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Hey adv my girlfriend is having issues with her health.
She is 18 and regularly throws up for no apparent reason. I played tag with her the other day for about 2 mins, the light exercise made her puke.
She is gluten intolerant but we've cut it out of her diet. She just literately vomits for no reason... I have given her a little tickle at times and she vomits from that also. :s
>>16776817
Sounds neurological, go to a doctor.
We use to talk everyday, was called obsessive for wanting to talk everyday.
Everyone else likes talking to me everyday, I'm always doing something wrong somehow
Who? What? Where?
>>16776809
Bf, I thought he was playing that he didn't want to talk to me hardly ever cuz he jokes about cheating all the tinel, but his decided if I wanna even type a few sentences to him a day I'm being obsessive and threatens to dump me.
Well after the initial euphoria of the relationship is over, peoples' flaws are going to start cropping up and yes, familiarity does breed contempt.
Now, as for your boyfriend, if he is the type to joke about cheating and then proceed to flip that shit on you for being "obssessive", then have you considered the idea that this gaslighting may perhaps be a precursor of things to come?
I recommend that you cut contact with him, move on without even telling him you moved on, and finding someone who is OK with constant contact. In all my relationships,...
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I think it might be slowly coming to hate my wife. A bit of backstory:
>Be of mixed race
>Raised by my blue collar family
>Smart, so went to an Ivy League on scholarship
>Met future wife there
>She's from a rich family
>After a while our sex life went from vanilla to kink
>She's REALLY fucking kinky
>Married...
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>>16776795
How does she treat you in private? Does she listen to you, learn things about you, take you seriously?
How does she treat you around her friends? Around her family?
It sounds like you are way, way overthinking this, and the real problem is your own insecurity about your differences in background. If your relationship is otherwise good, you are shooting yourself in the foot.
EVERYONE is fucked-up in the head to some degree, especially when it comes to sexual preferences, and if you really try...
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Gawd, I hope this is bait...
So you've got a hot wife and and good life, but you are fucking it up because you are imagining things to be true that may or may not be really the case, right?
Well Sparky, how about trying this out...
Make up another story in your head where she likes the really hot sex with you because you're a complete Stud and she can't wait to have your children because she loves you and will treat them like gold because they are living expressions of the love she has for you.
Isn't that a nice story, OP?
Why...
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A man who has a hammer in his hands will see EVERYTHING as a nail. The problem in your situation is your perceived inferiority, not determining whatever she thinks.
I am sure your wife lived a very privileged life in many respects and is blind to the casual acts of ignorance or privilege assertion that causes you to feel that she thinks you are inferior to her. I am sure your wife also lived a very SHELTERED life in many respects and her being really fucking kinky is a byproduct of that repression.
If you feel certain behaviours, attitudes or situation statements/actions...
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hey /adv/ i'm a student in a slight bit of trouble basically i got a bit ahead of myself partying and smoking (i'm an idiot i know) as i had a bit more money than usual. I'm 700 pounds short on my rent, i've got a job but i only get 70 a week as i can't work more due to lessons and i need that for food and travel, I just need a way to make more money even if i can just pay part of it weekly and pay the rest with my next loan (i get a spare 300 after the terms rent) can you recommend something for me to do? Thank you in advance
>>16776792
>700 pounds
Gotta lose some weight boiii
>>16776792
Get a loan, donate plasma are your best offers.
Pay your rent with your credit card. You're welcome.
Hey guys. How would I go about getting a free nights stay at a hotel?
Pic unrelated- i dont even know what it is
Work at one, or give oral sex to someone who does.
>>16776781
But i dont wanna. Someone throw me a comped room
After dropping out of college and going nowhere with my life for two years, I've finally decided that I might want to become a police officer. What are some of the requirements for this? If my college dropout status doesn't affect my chances, I'm going to actually try and get more fit before actually going for it, or does training include that? Basically what do
I need to know before making this an official plan. Pic semi related because I want to dispense justice.
Both things depend completely on where you live. Why didn't you do any research?
>>16776767
I did look up my towns requirements.
"Education
Applicants must have a high school diploma and 30 hours of college from an accredited college or university. If the applicant does not have a high school diploma, they must have a G.E.D. and have completed 30 hours at an accredited college or university with at least a 2.0
OR
Applicants must possess a high school diploma AND have four years Active Military Duty with an Honorable Discharge within the past 18 months.
OR
If you...
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>>16776767
>being this lazy
>wanting to become a cop...
Lots of cities require you have at least two years of college, an honorable discharge from the armed services or X amount of years as a peace officer.
I need to know if I'm in the wrong.
I'm fairly certain I'm not but I would like to have some other opinions. Maybe there's something I'm missing.
So my roommate and friend of around half a decade (we met in highschool) told me he was going to try some pot brownies with his friends and wanted to know what I thought.
I said I was fine with him doing it as long as he didn't do it in our apartment and he agreed. They could go off and do mushrooms and I wouldn't care as long as it wasn't here. I think that's fairly...
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Yeah, you're being a bit of a faggot about it. Unless I'm missing something, your roommate is paying rent, this is his home, and he has a right to have his friends over.
I can see how pot smoke would be a big annoyance, but I don't really understand why the pot brownies are a big deal. It's not heroin. Would you react the same way if he had his friends over for a few drinks?
Were they being loud and obnoxious late at night? How did this effect you? You left that part out.
This doesn't seem like a big deal, honestly.
>>16776745
Drinks are fine. I don't really care about them. But we live in a college town and everyone's always getting busted for drugs. I don't want the shit near me.
>Be me
>See attractive woman
>Get urge to creep her on Facebook
>See that she has a lot of friends, a healthy social life, and cool life experiences like traveling or flying helicopters or going to art galleries and shit
>Automatically feel insecure and dejected and know they are too good for me
I dunno, I feel like my life is so boring that nobody could really be interested in me or like me. I feel like I have...
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Your feelings are normal, you know shes out of your league. Either become more interesting to where you feel comfortable approaching or talking to higher value women, or lower your standards.
>>16776753
>Either become more interesting to where you feel comfortable approaching or talking to higher value women, or lower your standards.
Easier said than done. I dunno, I don't really know how to go about making myself worthy. Between school and work, I don't really have much time for anything else. I don't even know where to start. I feel like you need friends to make friends.
And then there's money. I don't have money to travel and see the world. I dunno, I feel like I'm just kind of trapped.
As for lowering my standards, I probably could find someone on "my level" who is one of those loner weeaboo chicks or something who draws shitty anime fan art on DeviantArt and writes fanfic about Marvel movies. But I just don't want that. I know it's selfish of me to be a loser, but not want to associate with losers, but I don't wanna be one of those people that just wants a relationship for the sake of it and grabs on to anything to boost their self-esteem. I don't want to use people like that.
Also, I never want to be in one of those loner couples that only ever interacts with each other and talks to no one outside the relationship. Those are so creepy.
>>16776753
Not OP, have similar issue, just sitting in the staff room listening to people about their 2-week holidays in exotic locations.
>lower your standards
That doesn't really apply to me (and maybe to a lot of 25+ losers), all the women in my area are 7+/10 and everyone else is in a relationship. Literally the only women left are hambeasts on mobility scooters.
