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Hey guys I really wand to get a tattoo... And need some advice. I got some ideas where and what... But I'd like something particular... Searching in Google sucks. I'd like an Karashishi (a dog or someone call it a lion) symbolizing protection and courage... I have 2 dogs and I'd kill for them. If you anon can help me out by linking me some good stuff.
I want my tattoo in my left forearm
I want to cover it all around
I'm not sure but maybe black and white looks cooler.
What do you guys think?
(Picture downloaded from the net)
My forearm
>>16774531
Find someone to translate this into Japanese for you:
"I am trailer trash and will be embarrassed about this when I'm 50"
>>16774609
Dick head
Hey /adv/
What can I do to stop feeling jealous of my former classmates and well off friends?
I studied in a high school with lots of people from extremely affluent families, and Im probably from the poorest one (by a good margin) within my circle of friends.
Most of them never had to raise a finger in thier life to earn anything. Barely passed school, are currently failing at university while I have been killing myself with work in order to get the top grades and run around networking events just to have a chance to get an internship. Meanwhile they have 6 figure entry level jobs waiting for them, or their parents companies that they will inherit. Not even going to mention real estate that their families own.
I know its a toxic feeling, but its just not fair. Why do I have to walk to uni from my shitty dorm, while they drive a corevette from their own apartment in the city. Furthermore they can just flash their money and get girls while I have to control my macros and lift, engage in self improvement, etc? Hell, some of them got liposuction just to avoid exercise and getting on a diet!
Worst part is, I will probably never get to their level of wealth no matter how hard I try while they live off inherited money...
![ac9585a9dfb1448cb087e3771249d106[1].jpg](https://i.imgur.com/HptZ6cW.jpg "ac9585a9dfb1448cb087e3771249d106[1]")
>>16774529
1. You don't need to be top in college, no employer ever asked for your grades. Unless you get hired by a company specifically looking for these.
Stop worrying so much, you're already better than them, take it as a challenge instead. After the college you'll be drowning in money (atleast from your point of view).
2. If i were you, seeing as you're so adamant about getting resources, make a company. When you're grabbing so hard for being the top, i think running a company should be a nice challenge. Do not forget to finish the college tho. gl anon :)
You probably will never stop being jealous of them.
Which can be a good thing actually, come to think of it. Jealousy is a perfectly natural feeling and can be very motivational as long as it's not overwhelming.
Also some bullshit study proved that above 70k a year (I think?) money and happiness aren't correlated anymore. Find yourself somewhere else.
Other people's lives always seem more interesting. Everyone is fighting a hard battle whether you realize it or not.
How do you improve your self-confidence?
Get good at whatever it is you do. Work out.
>>16774510
Do things you think you can't do.
Look yourself in the mirror.
See what you like and don't like.
Work on it.
Be happy with the reflection of yourself and confidence can stem from it.
My girlfriend and I are both into light BDSM, but we're not very experienced and I'm afraid we may get injured. What are some good, straightforward books on safe BDSM that we can read?
Notice we don't want a treatise on why kink is fine and we're not mentally ill. We know we're not.
Some recommendations I've found on the net are:
- SM 101
- Screw the roses, give me the thorns
- Learning the ropes
- The new topping/bottoming book
Are those any good?
>>16774462
Google BDSM For Beginners and find not only the books (some with reviews) but also some websites with advice.
greetings from /r9k/
i have come today for i met a girl, solid 7-8 that is showing interest but i am socially inept
i cant hold a conversation with anybody for a long amount of time.
Question is, how do i do so. How do i into conversation
Welcome to the slow-moving and nice board. :)
how did I do?
My gf and my future side chick have the same first name. Is this an advantage or disadvantage to me?
>never shout out the wrong name in bed
>might confuse them texting/getting a phone call, or speaking to other people
also "future", kek
your gf know or are you an asshole?
>>16774422
She's not actually my gf but we're sleeping with each other frequently. She decided to forego becoming exclusive but I know she likes me a lot.
>>16774414
advantages as fuck. now you dont have to worry about calling them the wrong name during sex
Help. Please don't judge me, serious replies only. I am fearing...
I fucked up. Some girl on Twitter was asking for domiatrix services. (I like that shit). I sent her a message asking, and she reversed my request and threatened she is going to send our conversation to all of my contacts on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. She requested £25 to be sent to her email via Amazon Gift card. So I did.
I have the receipts and pictures of our conversation.
I'm stupid that I was using personal accounts, but she has access to my family photos and friends.
What I've done: I've reported it to Twitter. I deactivated my Facebook, blocked my Twitter, and changed all of my legal name on my social media.
Somebody that can help and counsel me, please help!
It's unfortunate, but it's done now. Just use the experience as an important lesson on how to conduct things in the future. "She" probably does this to many people many times everyday, so try not to think that it's you personally that's being targeted.
this is called extortion and you should find out her physical location and notify the police, or your own location - as they should be able to request from twitter her IP/physical location, and then they can notify the local authorities
Dude sounds like you need to stop giving a shit about what your family think of you. So what she leaks the conversation to people you know irl. They find out and what? Stop talking to you? They judge you? For what, being a human being experiencing life for the first time. Just like them. I'm sure if you dig deep enough you'll find some nasty shit in there too. I mean fuck so what you like it when a chick screams unsettling shit at you and kicks you around, Dog bowls are cool I guess, but you're an adult now (I hope) you're entitled to your life. If they only care enough about you to insult you maybe it's best to cut them out. Worse case scenario you're out that 100 bucks they shell out every Christmas they send because they didn't know they could go to a sex store, close their eyes ,spin around and point, and you'd have been happy with what ever was in that neatly wrapped dildo shaped box. Bottom-line people who care stick around no matter what.
>19
>neckbeard
>would probably be a 6 if I worked out
>haven't touched any social media since hs freshman year
>haven't been in any relationship ever
>have nearly 0 experience with interacting with strangers
>dropped out of college because I wasn't motivated enough to learn and I was wasting money
>have tried tinder many times just to waste time but nothing came of it
Am I doing something wrong or do people just not care for people like me
You sound like you're either not making an effort, or half-assing everything. Why would success come to someone like you?
>>16774365
I'm not expecting it, but I would assume I'd get at least something
>>16774370
You "get" nothing in this life. You work for and earn, whether it's money, job, friends or romance.
>have gf
>go to party
>spend most of the night chatting/flirting with hot redhead
>casually mention gf a couple times
>ask if she has bf
>we joke about relationships
>constantly in the back of head knowing/thinking that I have a long term gf that is hotter so I'm just practicing/enjoying the flirting
Is this bad? I feel bad. I didn't ask for her number but she added me on facebook.
She's not even as hot as my current gf.
nah, a little social flirting is literally nothing other than being nice. You mentioned your gf and you did nothing untowards.
Why is it that I'm funny, energetic, full of life, outgoing, and bubbly when around friends and strangers I've no romantic interest in? But when it comes around to the opposite sex, I'm often quiet, sluggish, and barely active?
I've been spending the past fifteen-plus years trying to break this cycle, only to get nowhere or become worse. If I try to see them the same way as friends or coworkers, I'm still as untalkative and listless as often. If I'm not trying to be anything other myself, I still act as silent and distant. Regardless of any mindset I try to put myself in, intentional or no, or despite if I'm just trying to be me, I'm still lethargic and like a statue around the opposite sex. Not only that, my mind goes completely blank when I'm around them. And I can't get myself to formulate a deep thought with a member of the antithetical gender to save my life.
With a friend, I'm cracking jokes or having extensive and detailed conversations with them. With a romantic interest, I'm just reticent, reserved, and like I'm in the early stages of some kind of Romero-esque zombie virus. And I don't think it's shyness, because it doesn't feel anything like other times I've been shy. Just slow and mindless all of a sudden.
Wish I could help OP. I have the opposite problem where I'm shy and reserved around the same sex. Don't even know if I'm gay or not because I can't get anywhere close enough to somebody to see. I'd say there's an 80% chance I am.
>>16774351
>Just slow and mindless all of a sudden.
Surprisingly, there's some science to explain that.
http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/why-interacting-with-woman-leave-man-cognitively-impaired/
I am the same exact way if I am attracted to you I will just stop and I literally have to think about what to say if I am not attracted to you then it's easy talking to you
I've discovered I'm kinda alright with the thought of fucking a trans girl and I feel a little uneasy about it since I spent most of my life thinking I'd only ever be attracted to cis women
I don't consider it a bad thing but it's like, confusing and stuff. Thoughts/comments/experiences please.
too bad attractive trannies only exist in pictures where none of the other sensory information comes into play
also congrats you just realized human sexuality is complicated and fluid
deal with it faggot
How do I know I really LOVE someone?
I've been with a guy for 5 years, we're usually fine and relaxed but we fight and breakup very often, only to come back after whatever was wrong got "fixed" but it always ends the same way, like beaten dogs.
I've been talking to this guy online for months and he's really nice, gives me confidence, makes me believe in myself and he's getting me into new things.
He feels really...special.
Problem is I still "love" my boyfriend, but then I think what love really is, he's not helping me enough, he gets really upset and fights me over things I can't control sometimes I feel like he's just keeping me for sex and some small talk while he financially "helps" me.
I really like this other guy but he also lives extremely far away from me, I want him but I don't know if I'm really "done" with my boyfriend...and honestly I'm scared of taking the leap, there's something there I'm sure of it but there's so many what ifs.
I'm currently suicidal, depressed, moody, slowly putting on weight because of all these problems and my boyfriend "tries" to help but at most he just gives a small talk while this guy has been there and talked me out of doing some stuff I rather not mention.
What are my choices? How do I make up my mind? How do I know it's not just a phase and things will get better with my boyfriend?
I've been with him for years but I never felt LOVED.
>>16774326
Youre being kinda a birch
How would you like it if he was talking to some grill behind your back about all his problems with you? What if he is going through some shit? You aren't really supposed to shop around for a new guy before you dump the other, because that makes you an asshole. You obviously dont give a lick about him just about being woth him so find a new guy to load your issues on and try to be faithful to him.
Your honestly sounding like a ninth grader anon. Dont be a Cuck
Tell him exactly what your wrote at the bottom on your post and if he responds positively then you can work with him and try to fix things.
If he doesnt.
Then leave him (you should have already done this seeing as your cheating on him emotionally and the only thing stopping you from doing it physically is distance. ..) how would you feel of it turned out this new guy had a gf or fiancé and was talking to you like this.2 chatting you up, whatever else and then when you finaly meet him he has a SO ? Theb what? Are you the kind of slut that would fuck another womans man ?
>>16774345
>>16774349
I've tried talking to him several times but it always ends with him getting upset.
I've been talking to the guy as a friend, but as a friend he has been a better boyfriend in some months and gave me more support than anything my boyfriend did in 5 whole years.
This made me realize how much I've been missing out and how it feels like he never cared much after the second year.
I care about him, I care so much that I've been debating what I should do and debating if there's something wrong with me, I've been blaming myself and it's just making things worse, I WANT THINGS TO WORK OUT but he's never there for me, and out of all my friends this one is the one that puts his neck on the line for me, if it wasn't for him trying to help me in an act of friendship and actually caring I wouldn't be here.
I don't want to have feelings for him, I tried my best with my boyfriend but it feels like he's not trying to put up his best face for me.
What can a person do when they're on the verge of suicide and the only help comes from someone else while their current "best friend" just manages make himself the victim? What can I do if that person is extremely nice and makes me feel like a real person again with dreams?
I have an online friend. He goes online when I am about to fall asleep (12 at my area). I used to waiy for him to be online, but now I have early classes every day of the week and I can't really wait til 12 when I have to get up at 6 the next morning. What do?
>>16774318
Exchange emails and start writing letters.
Its cuter too
>>16774338
We mostly communicate via emails already
You can't change the time zone and you can't change your class schedule. That means you have to adapt to the situation. It seems hard because it means doing things differently to how you're used to doing them. Keep emailing, and even though it might take longer to reply to each other, you can still maintain your friendship.
Hey /adv/
My fiancee heard recordings of me singing and wants me to sing to her. I don't really have any good reason not to but I have kind of an irrational fear of singing to her for some reason. I'm not sure why, but I'd like to get over the fear and sing for her. Anyone have any advice on the situation?
>>16774298
just do it, man.
i used to work in the music industry. and, yeah, it's easy to sing to a crowd. but doing it right in front of just one person, one person you know, is always way more daunting.
no real tricks though. you just gotta start and eventually the anxiety goes away.
i suppose you could try looking away from her. kind of kills the intimacy but it might help ease the process.
as a music major, I'd much rather play/sing for my hypothetical fiancee rather than for my professor/studio-mates
I think it would totally help if you started by singing from another room first, like in the kitchen while she's in the living room? And then gradually in the same room, til you can sing in front of her. Talent should always be celebrated and shared, but I know it's difficult when the person you're sharing with /means/ something to you.
I'M GIVING 4CHAN SOME ADVICE HERE. FUCK OFF WITH YOUR CAPCHAS, YOU JEW FAGGOTS.
>>16774288
How do you know their religion?
>>16774403
I know their race, not their religion. Most jews are non religious.
>>16774430
And Judaism is not a race.
