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Anyone else feel like they listen to way too many podcasts? Sometimes I think about what a waste of time it is to just listen to other people talk about shit for hours. This also brings up a bigger conversation about consuming vs creating. I feel like I'm spending too much time consuming other people's creations (podcasts, YouTube vids, etc...), instead of actively challenging myself to produce and improve creatively. It's almost like I'm just passively floating along, not present in my own life. Problem is, whenever I cut out the podcasts, I feels like there's...
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the sound of human voices soothes loneliness. Lots of people listen to the radio, etc. What's the difference between this and jogging or reading a book? Practically fucking nothing. What exactly is wrong in your life that you're blaming podcasts for?
this a non-problem.
>>16772555
Depends on if you're learning from it. I listen to comedians podcasts but I want to be a comedian and comedy writer and often learn advice about it.
I listen to so many podcasts now that it feels more like an obligation and get anxiety when they start to stack up. Whenever some new current event happens, I feel like I need to go to all my podcasts and get their take on things.
Then I ask myself... Why do I give a fuck what these guys think about "X, Y, & Z"? Why can't I just form my own opinions and be content with that?
I do think it's probably a cover for loneliness though. I don't really get out much these days, so listening to a group of guys shootin' the shit in a room...
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There was a girl who was very unjust to me. We were close, but ended with a spectacular falling out. After this falling out, she went around telling everyone that her entire motivation for the event was to get me to commit suicide. I've talked with counselors about her, but to no avail, so that really isn't a solution in this instance. How can I forget about someone I cared about doing her utmost to nudge me into suicide? It's a deep wound which won't heal.
It's clear that she's got a real nasty streak in her, and this probably won't be the last time in her life that she does something fucking terrible. Most people would never say something like that no matter how angry they were. You might not have fully understood what kind of person she was in the earlier stages of your friendship/relationship, but now that you've seen this side of her, surely you can understand that you're lucky to have her out of your life.
When someone deliberately tries to hurt you, it's always going to shake you up and...
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>>16772541
...Yeah, you're going to have to go ahead and tell us the full story on this one.
>>16772541
You could try killing yourself.
How can I breakup with my girlfriend that I love, because I feel too young to stay in a relationship and get married?
A little background, we've been dating two years now and we're both 21. I went bonkers for her when I first met her but now, two years out I find myself thinking of other girls more than I should.
We live together, and I care about her a lot, I just can't see myself being in a relationship through all of my twenties, much less married. She wants to settle down and have kids in the next few years...
What do I do /adv/?
>>16772536
>I love my girlfriend
>After two years I love her less
>Maybe i want other girls?
>How do i break up with someone I love?
Basically the first stage of "love" usually ends in first year. You managed to double it. But even if you find someone as cool as your current gf, the history will probably repeat.
>I just can't see myself being...
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>>16772765
> Just remember you might never be lucky again to get such nice girl
Bullshit, there's plenty of fish in the sea. Plenty of nice, beautiful, loyal, kind, sexy fish
"I love you, but I've got really bad FOMO and my impulses are driving me to dump you flat so I can fuck like a bunny and grab as many orgasms as possible with as nany people as possible, because I don't think my life will be complete if I don't do that".
Does that work?
>Get in online relationship
>Pull away cuz she's on the otherside of the world
>Decide to just follow my feelings like a faggot and don't cut it off.
>It's been 5 months and we're too deep in love to cut it off now.
What should I do? And why am I such an autistic cuck?
>>16772468
>Online relationship
she would inevitability cuck you.
Don't waste your time, find someone nearby that would let you put your pen0r in them.
>>16772468
Where are you from, anon?
Is there any possibility you can make it a real relationship and either she moves to be with you or vice versa?
If not I guess you can continue it in order to get some nudes and whatnot.
>>16772468
>we're too deep in love
I don't understand why you can't just enjoy it for what it is. You've got a pen pal, not a girlfriend. There's nothing wrong with that, you can talk to each other, you can be friends, you can have strong emotional bonds and connections. But I'm sorry, you're not "in love" without the element of sexual attraction, tension and affection, and you can't really have that if you've never met in person....
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Hey /adv/, so I don't really know who or where to ask about this sort of thing but I'm hoping maybe there's some people here who will be able to give me some advice on this. Basically, my father just got diagnosed with type two diabetes. He's pretty overweight, eats junk all the time (like soda and potato chips), and right now is completely sedentary as he currently doesn't have a job. (He had to quit his job because he also had extremely severe migraines and they were so bad he simply couldn't function in a work environment).
Admittedly...
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I'm sorry in advance if this was rambly or didn't make sense or something but between the anxiety and sleep deprivation (I only had 3 hours sleep last night) I'm having more difficulty than normal wording things and explaining and yeah, but I hope you guys get what I'm talking about here.
Also sorry this was so long.
Oh, and since this had to do with healthcare I figure it may be useful for me to mention that I live in canada and not the united states.
Thank you in advance for any responses.
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>>16772457
I dunno man, maybe get off your ass and go to the hospital?
>>16772475
Huh? He has a doctor, who diagnosed him. There is no sort of emergency going on here. So I'm confused, why a hospital? I'm looking for information and personal experiences than anything else, so that I'll be better able to help my dad deal with this going forwards.
I feel restless. I feel like I want to claw myself out of my own skin.
I'm constantly anxious and I constantly feel like crying
How do I stop this feeling? All I want to do is kill myself
I'm medicated, but nothing is helping anymore
You can't do it by yourself all of a sudden
You probably already heard this but : get sunlight; take D vitamin/magnesium supplements; talk to old friends
go on therapy.
>>16772383
I planned on going out today
I can't afford vitamin D because I'm paying off credit card debt
I should probably visit a friend while I'm out
I feel like it'll only help so much, and then i'll be what I use to be
>>16772388
the problem with depression is that you feel like you're not sick and that being depressed is your true nature. But it's not. You will get out of this.
I have a serious problem with wanting revenge. If anyone ever wrongs me, i have this strong rage and I begin thinking of ways to get back at them. Generally violent ones.
How do I cure myself of this? I have this ideology in my head that says if I don't retaliate, I'm opening myself up to be walked all over later on.
Advice from strangers on the internet won't help you much with dealing with RAGE. My armchair psychologist degree is telling me that there's a deeper reason for your anger though, but knowing nothing about you I have no idea what it might be. Try to figure it out and deal with.
Anyways, you should know that retaliating for the possible wrongdoings of your peers will actually open you to being walked on. Of course, you need to stand up for yourself, but you need to do that in the moment, not after the fact. Taking it like a sissy and then burning down their...
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>>16772371
nothing in this world matters, stop caring so much. just enjoy your time here on earth and try to not let anything get to you.
>>16772371
Were you molested as a child?
I've recently had an interview and I was wondering if I got the job. I've already called twice about the status of the job. Should I call again?
>>16772326
just wait. follow up a week after the interview.
they'll call you.
or never call you.
it's up to them.
It's been 3 months (they said it would take three months ) I called last week and this week on a different subject. Should I wait another week or...
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Am I on the spectrum?
I've always known something was wrong with me but I was never quite sure what, but now that I put the pieces together it's starting to sound a lot like what people autistic/asperger people describe.
1. Violent outbursts which involve a complete loss of rationality and self-abuse, usually hitting myself on the head or other parts of my body
2. Difficulty controlling and expressing emotions
>I laugh when people are very upset or angry with me, even though I really feel bad for them
>If...
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>>16772273
The only way to know for sure is to get tested, like I did
>>16772401
this. they may first give you an mmpi which will screen you for shit like mood disorders and personality disorders and shit. but I don't think that specifically looks for autism. I believe that is a separate test.
I will say, if you do any testing and they give you a copy of the results, be prepared for it to sound harsh. the tests are designed to look for what's wrong with you, not what's right. so the results can sound like a big laundry list of "HERES WHY U SUCK LOL" when they're...
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>have fucked escorts numerous times (never had a gf though)
>fap to all sorts of stuff on sadpanda
>fap 2-3 times a day on the reg
>still get a chub from just asking a girl out
>hugs are full blown rock hard, even if I've fapped a half hour prior
How do I stop from getting a boner all the time? Normally I wouldn't care so much but I'm actually seeing a girl and don't want things to be awkward...
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>>16772268
>fap 2-3 times a day
Found your problem. Limit it to once or twice a week, dude, for fuck sake.
>>16772313
If I do that then it just makes the problem worse tenfold
>>16772318
When did you last try? For how long did you do it?
You're stuck into a mindset that your sexual desire is something that constantly builds up like a bomb. That's not the case.
Try it for a month - it's all in your head.
Is it normal to become waaayyy more upset when someone defends themselves when you're upset? Like it usually goes like this
>Slightly upset or mad at someone
>Bring it up with them
>They defend themselves and it's usually a shitty excuse or an argument of semantics or simply "I don't remember telling you that"
>I go from 10 to 100 and just want to tell them to go fuck themselves
>More than that...
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>10 to 100
is generally not normal. Being a self-serving idiot doesn't justify a 10 fold increase in emotions.
I do that too but I'm a social fuckup. It's propably best if you stop doing it OP.
>>16772230
It's an expression.
I'll go from being slightly pissy to "go fuck yourself"
Help me get an internship, /adv/
I spoke to someone last night who worked at an IT company. It just so happened to be the same one i tried working for/ getting an internship with.
However, he himself isnt hiring or looking for interns, but someone else in the company might be.
He added me on facebook and told me I should come by soon.
How do i go about this? I dont want to sound like an autist.
He wanted to give me the other guy's phone number but I thought it would be rude to randomly call someone and ask for an internship/ job.
One...
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>>16772222
call him and mention that his college gave you the number as he heard he's taking interns
ask for interview for internship - that way you won't sound like you are pulling some strings
pls respond
>>16772244
This
All you have to do is mention the guy who referred you to your potential hirer.
I've been in a relationship for 9 months now. Everybody says it's me that's out of her league, I don't think so, I think that she's beautiful, it seems not so many people do.
She also hates herself, is incredibly paranoid, and will accuse me of the most wild shit (STD's, cheating, lying) despite the fact that she indeed lied to me about somebody and cheated on me (kissed somebody at a party) early in the relationship.
She is currently mad at me for following another female on a social media app.
It's surprising that I still...
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>>16772197
I get it, you're emotionally invested. But it's time to sell your shares.
Metaphor aside, dump her, dump her now. Holy shit, dump that crazy fucking bitch.
>>16772197
She sounds toxic as fuck. Hell, she even cheated on you - doesn't matter if it was early.
There's better people out there.
>>16772213
>>16772217
Thank you. I can tell it's drawing to that point. It's just a shame really, because in my eyes these problems are so easy to avoid.
What kind of jobs can pay the bills, but allow you enough time to pursue what it is you really want to in life?
>>16772193
Porn
>>16772210
If you're a gay male, maybe. Not anymore for anyone else, though.
What do you mean by "enough time"? How much are you trying to work per week, do you want a set schedule, etc.
Freelance/contract work or seasonal jobs
So I was just cleaning up my room and I just came across this handmade birthday card from my ex-girlfriend at university.
I fucking loved that girl, like 'the one' kind of love, she will always be beautiful to me, I'll never forget looking into her eyes, the memory of her is burned into my fucking soul, I've never felt the same about someone, I never did before and I haven't since. I've moved on but it just isn't the same, I almost felt as if our souls were intertwined and honestly I feel like if our relationship hadn't gone south
Ultimately...
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Self bumping I MUST KNOW
frame it and put it on the wall
Burning stuff from an ex feels great
