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A homeboy in my class gave me his old exams from last semester for a class that I am currently taking, so now I can use them for studying. I didn't know he was going to give me them, and he showed up to class with them. How do I repay him for this?
Give him a bj. Just one is probably cool.
>>16773060
perfect, do i swallow?
>>16773064
only if you're cool
New toy
No one? :(
You people suck.
Soup.
Butternut squash soup to be specific.
YUM
Make hot sauce!
Reading pic related and am hitting all of the requirements to have borderline personality disorder.
Anyone here have BPD or know somebody who does? How do you cope?
>>16773018
Ay me too
Is bpd the new MEME?
pretty sure my ex has it
I dumped her is what I fucking did about it. It was manageable for awhile because I'm insanely emotionally well-adjusted, but that shit really grinds you down and I had to end it for my own well-being.
I want to watch serious medical video lectures. Im interested in Pharmacology, Toxicology, Neurology, Cardiology, Gastroeneterology & Hepatology or Ophthalmology..
oh and they have to be VETERINARY ...
so can /adv/ help me study?
>>16773015
Have you considered ingesting a cyanide capsule before starting your study session? It will help with focus.
>>16773016
Will do next time
I'm 19, Kansas, about to head off to college in less than 4 months, and everything in my home life is changing
>Three friendos and I are going to rent a place for college. Great fun
>Absolute best friend that I've known for 8 years is moving away to NM around the time I leave for college because his gf's family is moving there, and this past year most of his ties with his family have been cut off due to step dad
>Usually once or twice a month I reminisce about how great my childhood was. Ed Edd n Eddy style childhood. Pokemon, vidya, old friends, events. Even my early teens, playing vidya like Halo 3, Bad Company 2, and when I was a little boy playing my Sega Genesis without a care in the world
>Now being 19, working a decent job with a good family and never had to worry about poverty. Parents helping me out with college, and getting to live with some of my good friends, I can't help but feel distraught, upset, and depressed over things.
I'm on the verge of tears writing this and it's strange because I'm known by my friend group as unphaseable and emotionless. I'm typically the emotional rock of the group. I talked about it with best friend and I think it's because I'll be in school again, so I can't just up and do anything like I'm used to. I can't just leave town for a day with a friend so easily because now plans complicate. I think I'm also scared of being tied down to a responsibility for the next four years. And with work, not being able to have time to spend with the friends I'll be living with, and continue having the good times I'm so used to. It's scaring the living shit out of me and I've never had emotional uproar like this before. Things like this have never bothered me before. What the fuck is wrong with me, why does nostalgia associate with sadness for me, and how do I healthily process this?
In a few years your gonna look back on college the same way so make the best of it
>>16773005
Look back fondly on those times, OP. However, it's time to make new memories. You can't dwell on the past. You're much too young for that. Go, and enjoy your youth. Please please please don't waste it being sad.
>>16773005
I tend to think back and for a while, I wallow in nostalgia for about a week or so, but then get back up.
It's good to have those memories because they've been integral to the person you're now, but don't let it get in the way of making new memories and being in the present. You're on your way to being able to find a stable place where you can make new experiences and be able to afford even some that others won't ever have the chance to.
Live for today, OP. Live for today.
so i'd like to hear what you guys think i should do in my current situation
im currently unemployed and days away from turning 20
i have a gf who's ridiculously devoted to me for what a shit pile i am, and a decent but fucked up friend group who all smoke weed. my parents are older and more lenient but i can feel the pressure to seek employment
i have the ability to work at places that pay pretty well for my age bracket (up to $20/hr)
thing is, they all drug test.
this becomes a matter of sacrifice in my mind
should i sacrifice weed and my friend group to get a job and let adulthood kick my ass and become an alcoholic (i need a vice to stay sane) or get a shit job and continue in financial limbo for another year or two to enjoy my youth to its fullest with drug freedom.
also worth mentioning:
option 1 family and gf rejoice, friends fade into memory
option 2 family angry and gf probably less happy. friends rejoice
friends also fabricating facts about weed to give me an excuse to smoke telling me weed will be in my system for 3 months so its hopeless to wait (im in decent shape, this is pretty much impossible to be true)
for some of you the option might seem clear but im really indecisive atm
if weed is causing you to fuck up your life for it, you have a problem
it's never good to go down that road. I love to smoke as much as the next cool broham but I wouldn't ever do it in a position where it would harm me like that
yeah it's clear. Don't be stupid. You can still hang out with your friends, just get shitfaced on alcohol instead like a RESPONSIBLE adult
What do I do if I never feel like doing shit until I'm actually in the moment? I need to fuck a girl but I don't really care about sex unless I'm already there making out or jacking off but I don't feel like it and when a girl wants to fuck or something I don't feel like getting out of bed even though I know I'll be horny when we hang out I feel like I won't be.
Same with friends I never want to hang out but once were hanging out I actually start having fun and don't want to leave and just hang out but before I see them I'm just laying in bed and not even thinking about getting out to hang out with people
Everything sounds like it sucks until I'm actually doing it and it kills my motivAtion
I have the same problem, bumpan.
>>16772974
We're just meant to be stressed out weirdos friend
welcome to life. transcending nothing to something is like the ultimate challenge since universal entropy is always making you stay at rest until an external force kicks in like your willpower.
its also a good idea to understand the happiness hormones because you may initiate things more likely when in a better mood.
More than anything I'm probably hoping for people to chat with casually here. But you need like an excuse to make a thread and here's one:
I need to study hard and fast. Shit is complicated. So we have these homework assignments that came out of a textbook different from the one we use. I asked prof why and she said it was to make us work harder and use our resources to find the answers. And I'm like wtf. But anyway yeah the quizzes are loosely based on the homework assignments. She recommends redoing homework over and over to prepare for the quizzes. But it takes hours to get through one homework assignment. And I don't have the time to do that.
Then she has these study guides, which are helpful. Basically they follow the book and you fill them out as you read. This gives you a decent understanding of the material and should help with everything. I try to do all of them and make them all into flashcards. But then this information isn't really used for anything? Because the quizzes are completely different and there's material there not in the book.
And then there's the lab practicals. These are scary stressful exams with anatomical models. And she provides us with a separate study guide for these. It's completely different than the quizzes and everything else. But this I try to turn into flashcards too. She does say that something not being on the study guide doesn't guarantee that it won't be on the practical. And means it.
Does any of this make sense? How fucked am I? It doesn't help that I'm lazy and also work and have other classes and things
Yeah this seems impossible. I have to be in bed in less than 2 hours to get to work tomorrow and then there's some football game my dad and stepmom want me to watch with them on Sunday. Not enough hours in the day.
I'll get to the point right from the top. After I get to the point, I'll give backstory.
What are some things that either myself or my aunt can do long distance to help Grandma? She won't really take money and she might spend it on gifts for other people.
Storytime:
My Grandma is losing her mind. Probably just old age, no disease. She doesn't have a whole lot of money and she's starting to slowly lose mobility. There's hoarding tendencies probably from being a single Mom raising 5 kids.
My Aunt has been getting a lot of pressure from the family to help. I kinda want to give my Aunt suggestions of things to help. Her and I live in California where my Grandma lives in Michigan. So it can be tricky to help.
Things that I notice she struggles with is:
>Diet
>Cleanliness
>Moving around
>Using the TV
I've been rolling around the idea of paying for a maid to come in once every couple weeks or so. Maybe trying to suggest Grandma keep a journal so she can remember things she's done recently.
>I've been rolling around the idea of paying for a maid to come in once every couple weeks or so. Maybe trying to suggest Grandma keep a journal so she can remember things she's done recently.
If you can handle that financially, something like that or something like a social worker that can help her out once a week might be a very good idea, although you have to be careful with it.
Hard when you're so far away. Are there closer family members? Maybe you can help them, to help her.
Hire a home health aide through a service. DO NOT HIRE ANYONE INDEPENDENTLY. A service will cost a little more but then you can be sure the person is having supervision.
>>16772935
>My Grandma is losing her mind. Probably just old age, no disease.
It's always disease, OP. You don't just lose your ability to think/move once you hit a certain point. You do, however, have an increased chance of developing dementia. It runs in families too.
As for your grandmother, it's only going to get worse. Although it would be best for her to have at-home care (especially for someone with, say, Alzheimers), moving to a care facility or living with a family member are your only real options. It won't be long before someone has to feed her, change her diapers, etc. Depending on what's wrong with her, and if she gets the medication she needs, this will probably develop rapidly. She may not even be able to function normally within a year, and in two, there's a good chance she'll become dependent on another person entirely.
I understand that there's not a whole lot that can be done, especially if she's unwilling to accept help.
Okay, let me make this as short as possible.
I left for a few days with my parents on a trip. I came back and called my girlfriend.
I was tired, got mad at her over nothing, I hung up and went to sleep (I was seriously tired).
Yeah, my bad. Acted like a child and I know it, so I texted her the other day, I apologized etc etc...
She didn't answer to me, she answered shortly, etc. I didn't worry that much cause she's usually busy during days and we talk at night. So I went out to see a friend.
I came home later (8-9pm) and tried to talk to her only to find out she was completely mad at me, thinking that after my trip I preferred to be with my friend instead of her. She was, she is.. spiteful.
The thing is her anger is complete bullshit. Why? Because I texted her that day and she was the one paying little attention to me and, like I said, is common for her to be busy during the day with work and school.
So.. that night she didn't want to talk with me, which was already weird. I missed her of course, we couldn't have a decent talk in a while thanks to my trip.
Now, the fucked up thing is that she keeps treating me like this, angry, with spite, ignoring me... and I honestly don't get it. She's not like that.
So.. what should I assume?
>I was tired, got mad at her over nothing, I hung up and went to sleep (I was seriously tired).
>Yeah, my bad. Acted like a child and I know it, so I texted her the other day, I apologized etc etc...
Okay, so you were a dick and she's still upset about it. What's your confusion? Apologizing doesn't automatically get you forgiveness, you're not entitled to it. Maybe she's tired of your poor emotional control, the excuses you make, whatever - only she really knows.
>>16772930
My confusion is precisely that, she seems to be more hurt than mad.
Now, here's my biggest concern. I don't believe she's mad about what happened that night, I believe she's hurt for what she thinks that happened the next day when I was with my friend.
Soooo.... I'm feeling kind of desperate cause she's hurt and acting like a bitch for something that didn't happen, therefore, I can't fix. I tried to explain it to her but she doesn't understand logic.
What should I do then? It's a pretty tense situation with someone is dwelling in resentment, making things worse, for something you didn't do and you can't fix.
I should add something to this that could explain my concern: this kind of happened before.
I don't want to get into the details cause it's a LOOOOOOOOOOONG story.
Basically she started acting like this and treated me like shit for more than a year after that for no good reason at all. She didn't break up with me as soon as this started, for some crazy reason she made me suffer a lot for a lot of time.
Things went to hell, I finally left. Time passed, we talked again, she realized she acted... horribly, and we were doing well.
Now this happens and I can't avoid that uncomfortable feeling that reminds me about last time.
>>16772944
People don't change just because you point out their problems, mate
So I had this experience a few months back that makes my stomach sink every time I think of it.
I was out with some friends for dinner, one of which is a girl I have a crush on, but has indirectly shown she's not interested in me.
Anyway we get to goodbyes and we're giving hugs. When I get to my crush, she kind of reluctantly gives me a very light hug (she's not that comfortable hugging guys to begin with), which is disappointing but whatever. Then another of the girls gives her a hug, and they have this tight, cute hug, and for some reason I felt like she was teasing me. Well, it worked, and I get this huge surge of jealousy.
I'm a pretty jealous person, and sometimes when I'm feeling jealous like this I imagine myself flipping the bird with both fingers and saying "Fuck youuuuuuu!" to the source of my jealousy. The problem was, this time I did it in real life.
Everyone, including myself was like "What the hell was that?"
I didn't really know what had happened myself, so I tried to shrug it off, finished my goodbyes and left.
I haven't been invited out since, and when I see them incidentally I can't tell if it's in my head or not, but they seem a bit more distant, and I haven't spoken to or seen the girl I pulled the fingers to at all.
Uhh yeah. So can anyone give me some advice about this? I feel pretty shitty every time I remember it.
that's a pretty strange thing to do
my advice is try not to do that anymore
Haha, holy shit that sounds embarrassing!
Okay, it's hard to understand the situation but you can try to simply be honest about it. Talk to the girl you flipped off, apologize and tell her you have a crush on the other girl and at the time you felt like she was hugging her to tease you and lost your temper, since you're a really jealous kind of person.
Maybe also talk to other people in the group, like the girl you have a crush on. You made a fool of yourself, so the most adult attitude you can take on is to be sincere and apologize.
I met this gorgeous girl downtown. We exchanged numbers, sent a few hundred texts back and forth in a single night just getting to know each other better. Two days later and I've sent 3 more texts to her with no response. She did tell me she's busy a lot because she's in a nursing program and works weird hours. We have plans for Sunday, I was going to cook a meal for her. How do I go about asking her if the plans are still on without sounding desperate?
TL;DR
A girl might be ignoring me, how do I ask her if plans are still on without sounding desperate.
hint: you're already sounding desperate
>>16772875
"sweetness" = cringe
"Hey, I already lined up a date with another fine young lady, so I'm going to have to push you to next week. Hope that works for you!"
>Be me
>Be coming back to dormroom after class
>Catch roommate about to make out with a friend of ours.
>Both of them are in relationships with other people. Neither of whom go to this school
>I ask them WTF
>They admit it's fucked up, but say they've been stressed and lonely.
>I ask if this is going to happen again.
>They say no
What the hell do I do? I want to believe them but shit. I'm actually friends with my roommate's girlfriend too, but I don't have her number.
>>16772872
>What the hell do I do?
nothing? why the fuck would you interfere?
>>16772891
Because he clearly has a crush on his roommate.
>>16772902
Not your problem bro. Butting yourself into other people's business is going to end you up with no friends in a hurry. Either your these two's friend, or your their SO's friend. You can't have it both ways. And honestly, you'll probably end up neither's friend, because nobody wants to be friends with a narc.
>chick has been promising to go out with me for two weeks now
>I've tried to say "just let it be" but she insists
>keeps saying she's super busy and will only have time next week
>the stuff she's "super busy" with is going out with friends
Am I right to think this is stupid and she doesn't really want to? Why does she insist then?
get over it.
>Expecting girl to cancel current commitments
Just go out with her next week, when she free. Like she suggested.
Don't invest anything into it. If it happens then good. If not then no sweat. Simple as that. Look elsewhere for pussy in the meantime.
Hey /adv/
I'm in a serious existential funk and need help
After some introspection Iv'e come to realize that I procrastinate my responsibilities because I'm scared of exposing myself to the world and being turned down, scared of working hard and coming up short. So I avoid "work" whenever I can.
Iv'e been on and off depressed since I was 14. For the past 5 years Ive been smoking pot daily (up until 2 weeks ago). I was using it as an escape and it made me okay with being bored.
Part of me is just fine sitting at home and being a lazy waste but I have shit to do in my life: A career to build, fat to lose, passports to get, places to go, girls to date.
There's adventure in my heart. But today I havnt left my bed besides taking a piss or licking peanut butter off a spoon.
How do you over come apathy? It's entirely possible it stems from a lack of respect for myself but how do I find respect for myself?
Shamlefull self bump
>>16772925
dunno what to tell you bro, I struggle with the same shit. It really boils down to willpower, but if you don't have any of that then you really will never get anywhere
does everyone deal with this shit?
I'm starting to think this is a problem that Shia has already given me the answer to
