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Alright /adv, I got a question for you.
I basically know for an absolute fact that this girl likes me. We both go to college and she's a year younger than me (her first year in and my second year in). She always talks to me inbetween classes and the times she doesn't she's with her friends and acts really shy. She has been flirting with me and gave me her number earlier today (I guess now yesterday lol). I have always hated people overall, but for some reason I can't hate her, and seem to get a weird emotion around her that seems what you'd consider being nervous. I sometimes stutter around her (I never fucking stutter, I don't understand).
Anyway, long story short, my friends found out I have her number and know I might be somewhat "interested" in her, and they know how I am. Lack of empathy, no cares, never liked anyone more than a friend, etc. This girl I can't get out of my head. Light voiced, cute, shy, innocent, you know the details probably.
Anyway, so they said to ask her out. I didn't know if I should. Still don't. Anyway /adv, here's where you come in. Any first date advice? I am, well, cowardly when near her sometimes, but I never show it. I speak like I do to everyone else, just more to her. Any first date advice guys? I really keep finding the same advice like, "Movies" or "Dinner" or even something as stupid as "Dancing." I CAN'T DANCE. Anyway, advice guys?
(Pic related: my reaction when I realized that I have a small chance of not being a sociopath)
Maybe movies? A bit cliche but easy?
Pretty much the subject line. I've got no problems attracting women. I just can't attract any that I'm actually interested in forming a relationship with? One night stands aren't a problem. But all the girls I attract seem to lack any common interests with me to build a proper foundation for a relationship on, and they can't understand how this is a problem. It's like all the women I attract aren't actually attracted to me, but some weird alternate universe version of me with slightly different characteristics, and whenever I try and point out their illusions or misconceptions or wishful thinking they just can't see it. Idk. It's frustrating. Why can't I attract anyone with actual similar interests and values?
You're obvs gay, fag
Welcome to the world of dating. I had the same experience, all women wanted is to fulfill their imagination through me. It's pretty much luck to find someone who likes you for you. The only thing you can do is try to make them respect you a lot, and they will be much more accepting.
Basics:
>Start volunteer group
>Gain a ton of popularity
>Lots of attention from various cities, organizations
>We are good at what we do, but of course still learning
>In process of filing for non-profit status
A company just offered us money in exchange for them being a "sponsor". Should i/we take it? They would want their image on our website, t-shirts, etc.
We are not hurting for money, and are doing pretty well with a current gofundme account, as well as the county we live in just having offered to pay for whatever supplies we need. Also, when we go non-profit that'll open us up for a lot of grants from the state.
Anyone have any experience in this? Not looking for legal advice, just opinions.
Basically I don't want for someone to become our sponsor then try and influence us in anyway as for as what our business decisions are.
>>16773972
At this stage in your organization's growth you should have a corporate lawyer. Have him research typical sponsorship deals to see the least you have to do for them to get their money. Decide whether you can live with that and see if they'll accept it. (For example, their small logo in the corner of your posters and stationery is pretty standard; having their name larger than yours, like on European football team shirts, is not.
The contract should specify that they have no say in your operation.
>>16773972
>Not looking for legal advice
You should be. Depending on where you are in the filing process (and what kind of nonprofit you are filing to be) this can have legal and tax implications for both you and the sponsor. Get some professional legal advice before you make a legal boo-boo.
>We are not hurting for money
That's good, but you want to keep it that way. You'll find it's much easier to get money when you already have money. If you wait until you're hurting for money, your credibility will be shot. I'm not the most experienced in the development world, but I can tell you that crowdsourcing will only get you so far. If you are growing, your funding needs to grow even faster. Also, you really do need to diversify your funding anyway. It makes your organization more stable.
>Basically I don't want for someone to become our sponsor then try and influence us in anyway as for as what our business decisions are.
They can only do that if you let them, and even then I'm not sure if it's legal under a sponsorship anyway. All sponsorships I've seen are limited to money in exchange for marketing. That's it.
You shouldn't be worried about them controlling you in any way. You can always drop them as a sponsor if they act unethically. What you should be worried about is their image. Is the company in good standing? How will their marketing presence influence your image? Etc.
As long as they're an upstanding company, you shouldn't be worried. They probably just want some cause marketing at a popular new nonprofit.
Also, you may want to consult with someone knowledgable in nonprofit fundraising. (Consider a Development Director at a larger local nonprofit.) Your ideas of sponsorship seem uninformed.
Hey guys, I've been pondering over this for a while about what username I'd like to start a Youtube channel under. I'd like to make content based around GMOD and I'd like to have a short username like "Vanoss" or "Mini Lad" (haha, can you see my inspiration?) - but I'm at a loss as to what to use. I was pondering "Jaybird" but it's used a lot on twitter, then went to "sparkleking" but I don't really like that either. Can anyone help me? You can just jot down a random username and see if I like it - this could help others too.
I'd like to use "Jay" or something in it if possible, since my middle name is Jay. Though I'm honestly up for anything catchy, funny, or otherwise memorable. No numbers if possible.
Not for sure if this is where this thread goes since this is my first time posting on 4chan but we'll see how this goes. If not, I'm sure an admin or somebody will move it to the correct place! And sorry if it double posted, the other post wasn't sending so I refreshed the page.
OP. I FOUND IT OUT MYSELF. I made it "JayHorray" - though I'd still like to see suggestions so others can get help!
>>16774222
Jaybird is good
>be 18yr old senior in HS
I meet a girl(at least 7/10) at my friends new years party and hit it off. I take her out a few times and it seems we are really into each other. Then she starts not saying the mushy goodbyes we have in our texts.A week after this starts she snapchats me a photo of her in a dress, and I say, "Love the way you rock that dress. Are you trying to excite me?" She doesn't respond. Get worried if I came off to strong then remembered we flirted much worse than this. Ask her if she wants to go out this weekend(still nothing), so I check Insta. I find the same pic and she says it is a "prom dress option". She did personal send me a pic of it but, now I can't shake the feeling she might have a prom date. Should I confront her about the issue strait up, ask one of our mutual friends what they think, or should I wait this out? Help a brotha out /adv/.
Best case scenario shes just busy. Worst case is you're "just a friend". I don't have to much experience with this though, so wait for other replies.
I'm wondering if anyone has had a similar experience to me.
Basically, when I was younger, I was fat and unattractive. I got bullied for a while and my confidence today still suffers slightly. I still think I'm fat when everyone assures me I'm not even slightly. Recently for some reason, I seemed to have gotten a lot of female attention. I literally have a handful of girls I could arrange to have sex with and I'm not trying to brag by saying that. To me this comes as a massive shock because at one point in time I was certain I was a forever alone hurr durr fag.
The problem is, it doesn't really interest me. I have a pretty low libido and half the time when I try to have casual sex I can't even get an erection because it doesn't even interest me. I almost wish I could be some kind of 'player' and fuck all of these girls on a rota but it seems I have to build a connection with someone and really like them and feel comfortable around them.
Can anyone else relate to this situation?
tldr; i'm getting female attention and don't even know how to handle it.
Who lives in a pineapple under the sea?
people who just fuck on a rota without forming personal connections have severe mental disorders and are often psychopathic. That's not normal.
I mean I've done plenty of rota fucking, but I don't fuck em unless I legit like them
>>16773910
I cam relate and tell you it won't last forever. Wrap it up and get yourself some ass while it's available.
So, I recently exchanged emails with a woman who is a customer at my place of work. Anyway, she sent me a long, rambling email that was really fucking weird. I can't remember what she said exactly but I immediately regretted having given her my email thereafter. I just ignored it and she sent me another one today after about a week saying that she wished she had heard from me or some shit.
There's a good likelihood I'll see her again. Should I send her email explaining my reasons for exchanging my email with her...namely that I wanted to get advice for getting a job with the state, which she works in one of it's many offices/divisions? OR should I just continue to ignore her knowing I will probably see her again and let it be?
I really want nothing personally to do with her now, so whichever course of action optimizes that would be most preferred.
Advice?
First tell her you didnt understand shit of what she said or sent you
Later do what you wrote
Good luck
>>16773909
Thanks. I will do just that.
I hate to think that she might have thought that I was romantically interested or something.
I work in a hospital. One of the patient's is wasting away from lung cancer, Ive become to drawn to him. I wish I could crawl inside of his skin. I've become obsessed.
>>16773891
Elaborate
>>16773891
No you don't. You're just an idiot. You must be the janitor or something else that requires a very low IQ. If you had any knowledge of health/medicine you would know that dying from cancer is an incredibly awful feeling both physically and mentally. Even when you're pumped full of morphine it's still an awful feeling in waves.
>>16773983
This
I'm sure OP is evs and probably just started working there.
Soo tomorrow I have my first date with a girl I met on tinder. We are going out for lunch. Now I haven't been on a date in about 3 years and honestly forget what its like. any advice welcome
It's going to fucking suck honestly; tinder sucks and you'll likely wind up with someone so fucking akward you want to punch them in the face, someone so fucking desperate they'll say they love you before even meeting you in person, someone so fucking retarded that you want to rufie them just so you can get out of there, or someone so fat and ugly that you want to kill yourself for even considering them.
Let dates happen organically, if you don't get out much, you'll fail dates.
There
Show up naked. Place your dick on the table, and tell her to suck it.
>>16773895
Good to see we are thinking positively
Hello /adv/
Should I kill myself? Been thinking of going to the train tracks and ending it all.
Why? Because I'm so below average at everything it hurts. A parasite to everyone.
This all started when I met someone so remarkably above average, god like even, and realized that I'll never been as nice, educated or socially aware as he.
We are currently dating. He hates me and wants to stop seeing me but can't directly tell me because that wouldn't be nice and would destroy his image. He drops hints, like reading out comments like "we are dead, serious" to me and likening me to his pet dog and other dumb people(trump, recently).
So what do? Can't stay with someone who hates me. Can't leave because he is the nicest, most helpful person I've ever met. Want to kill self because I'll never be close to him on any level.
First
You are depressed = seek friends or therapist
If he hates you then you would be doing him a favor by breaking up
Everyone is worse than someone else
If you feel too average focus on a hobby
Dont do it on train tracks that is the worst
First seek help and confirm what you said
When you are depressed everything feels against you even if it isnt
>>16773822
>He drops hints, like reading out comments like "we are dead, serious" to me and likening me to his pet dog and other dumb people(trump, recently).
> can't directly tell me because that wouldn't be nice and would destroy his image.
Are you mental? Thats not nice at all and you're an idiot. Have some self respect and move on, that will be the start of your self improvement.
>>16773941
It's hard, I love him. But reading this made me feel better, thanks anon.
Perhaps 6 months of this is too much.
Has anyone ever worked in a jail before? I'm considering working in the pharmacy at a jail. Does anyone have any experience? Am I being retarded?
>>16773817
I have been to jail
>Niggers will try to get you to give them free shit
>Niggers will heckle you
>Niggers will annoy you
>Your patients will be 75% niggers
>Niggers
>Niggers
>>16773847
I was a co.
This.
>>16773847
>>16773853
Not going to lie- it will likely make you racist. There's only so much a person can take. You'll end up treating decent black people like niggers because of all the niggerish nigger things that have been done to you. Also a shitton of the jail employees are just as big pieces of shit as the niggers, sometimes moreso. It's a cycle that feeds into itself.
Also, it'll likely make you depressed. Read up on some of the studies about people who have various positions in jails. It's fucked man. If you are in the pharm business, can't you work anywhere? I mean, if it's to get your foot in the door, then sure... but HAVE A PLAN OF ACTION and don't get stuck.
I made a thread a couple of days ago where I discussed my desire of experiencing the military life style.
With my 22 years of Age, I am on my way to finish an Engineering career.
However, I've had this idea on my brain of experiencing this type of life for at least once in my life.
Whatever place I decide to go, the thought of it scares me. I've always lived a comfortable simple life, sorrounded by my mother and sister, pretty much alone and without anything else to do but to study.
Other than that, thinking about going far away or losing my life also makes me feel worried.
So, is it too late for me? is there hope for my type?
Its perfectly normal to be nervous about military service, especially if you're life was relatively boring beforehand. Unless you pick some kinda combat role, you're not really in too much danger. But if you pick combat engineer you get to blow up bridges and drink and bunch of cheap beer, though most branches have plenty of other engineering jobs. Heck I'm 23, with a similar nerdy/boring background and I'm leaving for basic in about a couple months, so its definitely not too late for you.
Sup /adv/ I just bought a Epson WorkForce Pro WF-4630
Thanks for sharing.
>>16773810
>Bought extra ink with it
>Tried multiple times to shake and reinsert ink
>Opened brand new ink
>Same error message
>Called tech support
>Derka Derka Muhammed Jihad
>"We are sending new ink to you send yours back"
>But I tried two sets of ink
Tells me to just try the new ink they are sending
/adv/ halp
>>16773810
bumping
I recently moved to a new town for work and i only have free time on the weekends and im under 21, where the hell can i go by myself to pick up girls when low on time, no friends, and be below average looking without being a total creep? All i have going for me is i have a shitty car and am not extremely poor :(....pick is hungrybox at a smash tournament sitting in the stands if anyone cares
>>16773797
Don't look for girls. Look for a social circle. Hang out with co-workers, meet their friends and their friends' friends. Develop a general social life. Somewhere among them will be girls.
My friend wants to ask a girl out, what should he do?
Hey gurl, you want to go to a bar/drink something this weekend?
Hey gurl, watcha doin this weekend/the next days? You wanna do something like an activity or get a drink?
Hey gurl, would you like to go out with me? Nice. I heard that this bar/pub blah blah we could go there.
Hey gurl, you like music? What music? Nice. There's that group in that bar and we could go there.
>>16773781
What if Anon's friend doesn't drink?
Music, go for a walk, swimming when's warm
Basically everything you could do alone. You can tell her, that you don't want to go alone and would like to go there with her. Honest communication, empathy and so on.
