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I have one goal in 2016 and that's to find a group of friends. I have none so I will be starting completely from scratch. If I can do that, then I will feel totally accomplished. I'm 22, going on 23. Is this actually possible or should I give up now?
>>16780372
Take up a real life hobby such as the gym or any other thing youre interested in which does not include anything online. Make friends through there as they will already have something in common with you
>>16780383
What if my only hobby is videogames
So, I've been smoking pit since the age of 16,I'm 18, and I only used it to get rid of suicidal thoughts or even anxiety. Self medicating. My phycatrist has prescribed me mood stabilizers and she is totally against pot. Honestly right now I feel really down and I've been sober for two weeks. My therapist thinks I'm addicted but I'm not, the only reason why I haven't been smoking for two weeks to prove her wrong. Anyways I can't get a medical marijuana card because it would effect my family and my phycatrist doesn't trust me with a pot card. I would smoke tonight but I fear my parents would catch me. Honestly I'm like a 7/10 depressed and this is usually the time I go smoke so I don't like try killing myself. 4Chan, what do I do. Continue pills that haven't worked for me since two years or keep smoking pot. I live in california
From the website of the Royal College of Psychiatrists:
>Depression: A study following 1600 Australian school-children, aged 14 to 15 for seven years, found that while children who use cannabis regularly have a significantly higher risk of depression, the opposite was not the case - children who already suffered from depression were not more likely than anyone else to use cannabis. adolescents who used cannabis daily were five times more likely to develop depression and anxiety in later life.
^^^I was depressed and suicidal so then i smoked. Not the other way around my dude
>>16780461
His point is is that it's not helping.
Has anyone ever reached the stage of being single where they are almost content being single, or feel like they have very little interest in pursuing people? Perhaps content isn't the correct word. I've just grown accustomed to it, but probably not content. I don't know how to describe it. I'm 28, I've been single for over a year now.
I would like a relationship. But I have nothing to offer. I'm going back to college this year (UK), and I'm overweight and I don't think I'm attractive.
I used to be active on dating websites. I would treat them like job searching. Browse through until I found someone I liked to message. I could easily spend hours every week looking. Now I just don't have the energy. No interest. No girl stands out to me, either on the internet or real life.
I would like a relationship. I know I would. But I don't feel like I'm meant for relationships. I have had them. But it's usually resulted in being cheated on/screwed around, and I get very little success. Perhaps that's the cause? I'm not sure. It doesn't help Valentines day is coming up.
Screenshot just whatever I found on my desktop.
>>16780355
Stop jacking off and you're good to go
I was in an on and off relationship for about five years. My experience of relationships is that they're double edged swords. I was happier at an earlier time in my life when I was by myself. I've decided I want to try living independently.
My advice to you is be very honest with yourself about why you're choosing to stop pursuing relationships - if it's because youre hurt or angry and this is your protest against that or a self pitying resignation then you wont ever be happy. It's a toxic mindset.
To be happy living independently you need to accept that you will, at times, feel lonely and isolated. But so does everyone, even those people in relationships. You need to feel a genuine sense of optimism about pursuing a life of independence. You need to throw yourself wholeheartedly into everything that makes you happy.
I have transcended that into no human interaction. I just gave up and been content being a hermit in the urban jungle. It's just not worth it anymore.
Hey, /adv/, I need some suggestions for fulfilling one of my boyfriend's fantasies on Valentine's Day.
He's fairly vanilla, and I've been trying to get him to tell me things he wants to try for years now. He finally gave me "sexy cop". But that's about it, nothing specific.
So I was wondering if you guys (and girls, if you have experience with this sexy scenario) could give me any tips on how to pull this off. Even just decent porn with a "lady cop" thing to review for ideas would be great help. If this is your thing, tell me what you like!
>inb4 just ask him
I don't want to give away that I'm doing this by prying for more. I'll cherry pick the things I think he'll like based on what I know about him and go from there. If it helps at all, like I said, he's fairly vanilla, but we're definitely a couple that likes to be a little silly in bed and have a laugh, so don't be afraid to be goofy or over the top with suggestions.
Thank you!
My fantasy is for you to get out of my life. We didn't hook up or date. You're just a crazy person. You should stalk a therapist.
>>16780364
Babe, don't be like that. I'm just trying to give you a nice Valentine's surprise!
Tbh I think trying to act out something like a porn scene in real life is awfully cringey. My advice, just dress up in the slutty cop outfit and jump him. Maybe get a pair of those fluffy handcuffs sex shops have and cuff his hands to the bed frame for a bit and just ride him. From my own experiences, guys love it the most when they just see that a girl's really horny, and they don't care that much about fancy costumes and shit.
Can I go to the same eye doctor with different insurance? I recently went to the eye doctor under my mom’s insurance and had the annual exam and order some new lens and frames. Now I’m starting my new job and I plan to get vision coverage. I was thinking about getting contacts. Can I use my vision coverage to pay for contacts? Of course I would be using mine because I use all of my benefits under my moms.
It depends on whether your new insurance covers the same doctor.
Call and ask.
>>16780339
>Can I go to the same eye doctor with different insurance?
Usually yes, but you will need to tell your doctor that your inasurance has changed, and you'll need to figure out whether or not your doctor is still in the new plan's network.
>I was thinking about getting contacts. Can I use my vision coverage to pay for contacts?
That depends on the plan. Many plans do cover contacts, but some (especially the cheapest ones) don't.
I'm sorry we can't be of more help, bit at least I can point you at who to call. You need to talk to your doctor about whether or not they're in-network for your new plan, and you need to talk to your insurance provider to see if they cover contacts.
How do I come to terms with the fact that while knowledge begins with experience, it doesn't necessarily arise from experience? It's ruining my life.
Would you like to elaborate on that a little more?
>>16780319
This. Do you feel like you're just not getting anywhere personal growth wise? Or do you mean something else?
>>16780319
>>16780325
I mean that I always considered myself an empiricist until I realized that there's actually something to a priori rationalistic metaphysics. How do I reconcile these two sides of myself?
I have this problem involving my family
I moved to the US about half a year ago to live with my father and step mother. Im 18 going on 19 and I think the drinking laws here are stupid. In my home country im the legal age to drink so I just have my friends buy me alcohol and I drink at home or others home. This pisses my father off because he thinks its morally wrong for someone under the age of 21 to drink alcohol. I was drinking beer after work and my father came in and started bitching and I told him he's just a stupid american and if i can join the military at my age i should be able to drink at my age.
How do i make hime see through his ignorance.
>>16780263
>he's just a stupid american
>how do i make him see through his ignorance
I'm in a somewhat LDR (My boyfriend and I see eachother 1-2 times a month), and last night I stayed up until 4am watching movies with a friend and ended up putting my head on his shoulder and kinda leading him on.
It's my first semester in college, and I did this because I was lonely and miss having someone to have a personal connection with (family members hugging you etc), nothing more- I wasn't trying to get laid or anything.
regardless though, I've been feeling incredibly guilty and I'm not really sure what to do.
How about you stop doing that you big dummy. Nothing to fix now, just stop doing it.
You already know this, but you should just end your relationship.
Long distance relationships are a drag. Especially so in college. As somebody who was in a relatively similar position, it really was a relief to end it as amicably as possible and then not have to constantly worry. The odds of them being your partner for life are pretty slim anyways.
I would be surprised if your boyfriend didn't at least feel some amount of relief from the break up as well.
>>16780230
>College
>LDR
You will cheat on him soon or later, just break up with him and avoid being a cheating cunt.
Hey /adv
Ive never posted here but i need advice.
let me first just point out my problem,
>be me
>19
>got small testicles
>cant grow facial hair
>little pubic hair
>voice is still deep somehow
>I poot out about a spits worth of jizz
This is serious, i want to have a fire hydrant, facial hair, deep as voice. It will also helps with my gainz.
Is there any way to but testosterone legally in Australia, or overseas and make it legal in australia.
Help me, I want big balls.
>pic unrelated
Fix: buy*
You're thinking "Sure, another one of these in /adv/" but it's not quite what you're thinking.
I have a healthy, loving relationship with my girlfriend of almost a year. We enjoy one another's company, laugh a lot, have a healthy sex life, etc. Except there's just one issue, my stomach. For whatever reason around her I get extremely nauseated or sick around her (not consistently but frequently). Especially whenever we go out to dinner. At best, I usually have a very small appetite when we're together. When we're apart, everything goes back to normal.
I have depression and anxiety, but I take my medication and go to therapy and so on. I've had these for years prior to our relationship, so it's not like she's the cause of any of those disorders. It seems odd that someone I enjoy being with so much would result in me feeling ill. Has anyone else experienced this?
>>16780223
You have Robsman's Syndrome. It's a reaction to female pheromones that causes nausea and excessive sweating. There are prescriptions for it, like Qualavil, or Roxyl.
sounds like you're nervous around her but I'm not expert so i could be wrong, plus you have been together for a long time. i get like this when i start going out with a girl i like but it normally goes away after i get comfortable with her.
>>16780233
That doesn't seem likely though as this isn't my first relationship. I've been in four relationships prior to this, and never had these symptoms.
Clicking on certain links on 4chan is opening porn windows. How do i deactivate this.
By getting rid of the adware you have installed. Does middle clicking do it? Look in extensions for anything fishy
To put it simply, I made and have friends over Facebook. I know them and they know me. Some of them have my phone number and I have theirs, but nobody bothers to text me or call me.
I'm legitimately afraid of texting them or calling them first due to self consciousness of not knowing how and worried they're doing something as well as appearing needy, I'm not good at initiating that (never was). I want them to text me or call me and they never do.
What can I do to alleviate this? I lived alone all my life without anyone, so I'm used to it. I'm also sick of it, I want to talk to them beyond facebook
>>16780191
>I made and have friends over Facebook
These aren't real friends, you know. Go out and meet people - make friends the normal way
>>16780199
It's been 2 years so they're friends, we have talked a lot. We mostly talk through FB messaging.
Going out and "meeting people" isn't an option; I don't meet the right kinds of people and I have no other Koreans (I'm Korean) in my area
Bump
I'm not letting this thread die, can anyone help me with my dilemma in the OP?
How soon should I text back a girl hooking up? If I have nothing so say but I am just trying to be polite is it important that I bring up good conversation or is the gesture alone enough?
>*after hooking up
fug
Music taste is an excellent conversation starter, if that doesn't get a conversation started nothing will
>>16780171
I'm a pleb when it comes to music. I'm actually not even looking to start a conversation I'm just trying to be polite and not make her feel used.
Hey /adv/, I got this bumb on my hand today. And it wasn't there when I woke up. I'm actually pretty sure I know how I got it. I was trying to open a Gatorade bottle and I struggled for about a minute. My hands felt like I got rug burn and 20 minutes later it was there. Should I be in any way concerned or will it just heal itself?
>>16780154
ER, now. Hope you have your will planned out in your head. Jot it down as you wait for diagnosis.
>>16780154
Pop that shit
>>16780154
It's called a blister.
I started a relationship with a girl a month ago - my first real relationship (though not hers). She's really nice to me, she always cares about my feelings, and she tells me she loves me a lot. I make sure to tell her that I love her as well, because I really do love her. I care about her a lot, and her happiness means the world to me. I feel safe with her, I feel loved and cared for in a way that I've never felt with anyone before.
But her and I don't really share many interests. We have the same values and the same personality, but we don't share any of the same hobbies, nor do we like discussing the same things. We can talk about our feelings very openly and honestly, there's no problem there, but there's not much beyond that. We can't be together physically most of the time, so all we can do is Skype or talk over the phone, which means that all we have is our conversations. They usually result in silence. Neither of us minds the silence much, but I'm afraid that someday I will care, that I'll get sick of it and will start to crave some deep conversation. That's what scares me, I don't want to get too invested into her and then realized that things won't work out, and more than that I don't want to waste her time.
I'm also afraid that I'm going to be missing out because of this. I've never had a girlfriend before her, and I'm afraid I'll miss out on perhaps having a partner that I have genuine and interesting conversations. But I'm also afraid that I'd be making a big mistake if I broke up with her. Because like I said, I care a hell of a lot about her, and she's so sweet and kind to me - and I know that's not something you can find easily in this world. I don't want to lose such a great and terrific person over something that could be so petty.
>>16780140
Just fuck her you faggot
>>16780157
That's not what this is about desu
>>16780185
But it is the solution
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