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Yet another, 'woe is me' post, but...
I'm almost 21 years old. Everyone that I am acquainted with seems to have something going, as in, a reason to wake up.
For the past 4 years, I've been living the neetlyfe, and here's the thing, despite everyone telling me eventually it leads to depression, I'm so content.
And it makes me wonder, will I ever want more? For a relationship, to move out, to get a job, give birth and nurture, and be wed?
Is there a magic age I reach to want normality? Or am I doomed to eventually rot away...
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what will you do when your mom doesn't want you to live in your childhood bedroom anymore?
The way you live does not matter. You will regret the options you did not take, regardless of which ones you have taken.
>>16782219
i have this lack of ambition problem
however i live in my own place, feed myself, and have my own car, phone, internets...
i just want to be a pizza delivery driver and screw around on the internet after work
Will I ever want more? not OP
I'm in college. I genuinely think they at least had some interest or pretended to for attention, but I'm clinically diagnosed as insane, so yeah.
1. She talks to me about how she lets her partners cum in her because she's on birth control. She tells me about how she's a dancer after I advise my friend to keep the dancer side bitch because they're flexible (I said it in a blatantly pervy way). She tells me about how she's a B cup and sometimes doesn't even wear bras after I tell my friend about how I think women can turn B cups into Cs...
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>>16782216
1st one wants to fuck.
2nd and 3rd could go either way, but there's no clear answer from the situations you described.
>>16782216
1 probably talks like that because she has already written you off as "safe" with no likelihood of romantic involvement.
2. doesn't even know you exist. Minimal eye contact in a public place is merely crash-avoidance. Or she might be thinking "Who is that creep staring at me?"
3 asked the nearest person for a standard gym assist. If someone else had been handier she would have asked them.
I'm afraid you're grasping at straws, my friend.
I work for this employer that sucks ass, they pay good though but I'm sick of this chaos that is my current place of employment, so I've been looking for other options recently and it payed out the other day when I got offered the probobly coolest job in the world!! (Rollercoaster technician)
Allthough they only want to offer me a 6 month-tryout contract at first.
During those 6 months my paycheck will be barely enough to keep things together.
After that they mentioned, at the interview that my monthly salary would be around 2800€, wich is still slightly...
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>>16782211
So in there try out they want free work?
Sounds like bs
>>16782217
No, not free..
I get payed by the hour though..
11€ per hour... Wich means I'll get around 1300€ monthly
>soon to be 23
>going though some emotional shit
>been in the mood for changes lately
>growing out my hair for the first time too (8 months)
What do you think of the septum piercing? I've been thinking of getting a thin ring, nothing flashy or bulky, I reckon it's less expensive and permanent than a tattoo and less 2002 than the eyebrow piercing. If I don't like it or get bored of it, I can always take it out, right?
Y/N?
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piercings are for homosexuals and vegans
Do it if you really want to, not because someone on an anonymous chinese woodcarving board validated your desires. Also, all piercings look like shit imo. Whatever floats your boat.
Okay, so I've been dating this girl for 5 year. Been engaged for a year on V-Day. Toward the end of last year, things got rocky. She was constantly a cunt for literally no reason. Said she hated my friends. She said just my presence made her angry. She was just always angry or upset with no catalyst. Her excuses for this were always bullshit too when I'd ask why. All I would do s try to make her happy or calm her down to no avail. Fast forward a bit later, and I'm a depressed wreck and want out, but I'm a giant pansy, and can't just break up with her...
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>>16782196
You cheated on your girlfriend. Stop trying to make shitty excuses as to why you were "driven" to cheating by her behaviour. You weren't driven to anything. Step up and take some responsibility. Also, stop saying you won't break up with her for fear of her mental health. You didn't give a shit about her mental health and the consequences if she found out you cheated on her, so don't act like suddenly you're the adoring caring soul. If you don't want to be with her, dont be...
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>>16782203
You would be surprised as to how depression and self loathing can affect decision making. I realize it was fucking wrong and I've dealt with that. It's not something I would normally do or condone. It just happened. I don't know what to tell you. And yes, I still very much care about my fiance. I wouldn't have spent 5 years of my life with someone I didn't have feelings for. That's why this shit is hard. I am consumed with fucking mixed emotions and if I felt like I could actually be...
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>>16782213
>>>16782203
>You would be surprised as to how depression and self loathing can affect decision making
What a surprise. Everyone goes through this. You're no different and this doesn't excuse you.
>I realize it was fucking wrong and I've dealt with that.
But this isn't about you. It's about the person you cheated on.
Look OP, cheating...
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Okay,so this seller has my name and address, after I did not receive the product I payed for, I filed a dispute, he then went on to threaten me saying I have your address blah blah.
What do I do?
>pic related
Also, I have started a Dox on him, should i stop that or continue with it?
maintain dispute save messages as evidence submit them if possible, through customer support or whatever
Keep everything as evidence and if it gets to the point where he damages your property of shows up at your door then call the police
I am 32 years old. My mother has been married to my step father since I was... Say 13 years old. My teen years were rough, but he is the only active grandfather for my children (and an exceptional one)
He as two daughters older than I from his previous marriage they both have children and ave limited contact with him as a direct result of their mother (bitter mother employed by court system. Step dad is STILL PAYING OUT for both daughters who are in their mid to late 30s)
ANYWAY:one of his daughters has contacted media FB asking me to give him her #. He has started...
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The modern day broken family, everyone!
No more of that "stay married until death" shit. Let's have step-children and children from previous marriage drama
>>16782170
This is how shit is. I believe that my mothers mistakes have helped me in my choices. I have been married for 14 years and I am happy as can be. My mothers third marriage, although somewhat sudden is still going strong, lasting longer than her first two together and they courted for less than 6 months to boot.
This goes to sho, imo, that you never can tell
>>16782174
If you're 32, your mother should have been married for >32 years. Instead it's 19 years. Hardly anything to be bragging about.
So theres this girl that might be coming over my place tonight.
Thing is I have a little bit of a history with her. I lost my virginity to her, then realised how big of a slut she was and we stopped talking. I let myself catch feelings for this girl at that time stupidly but I learned my lesson and moved on.
Forward to now, a year and a bit later, we've seen each other a few times since then but not much at all. I got a phone call from her on Saturday at 2am over some stupid shit then she said she's coming over Monday night (tonight). I'm torn between...
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>>16782148
Any other prospects on the horizon? If so, man up and put her out. If not, bag your dick and put it in her.
>>16782163
If you mean do I have any other girls on the cards, no I don't.
But I am working on my future. I just passed my driving test and have a car coming. I'm hitting the gym. About to get a new job. Hopefully going to move house this year.
Those are all prospects.
I like this girl at work but I barely talk to her enough to be her friend. We have had small talks but just simple convos. My question is, would be okay if I ask her if she would like to hang out with me anytime she is available? Is it wrong or what?
>>16782133
That's how it's done,meathead.
The next time you're chatting, close with something like "It's fun talking with you but we have to get back to work. Would you like to get a drink/coffee/snack after work so we can talk some more?"
I feel like I will never fall in love again, and I will be alone for the rest of my life. the depression from those thoughts just about completely drain me. really trying to change how I think but I can't stop these hopeless feelings I have. I try to have faith that the universe will bring her in my life at the right time, but still, the hopelessness.
i was in the same situation as you, feeling the same until literally yesterday
go for a walk, preferably when its night and cold out, listen to some angry music and just let it all out in a park or something, it'll help
theres not too much to really do, try to fill time with hobbies and friends, it'll take time but it'll stop hurting eventually, maybe you'll get lucky and find someone else special
it'll get better anon, dont worry about it, live your life and be the best you can
>>16782142
yeah, im trying. thanks for replying
>>16782144
also, if you dont, try smoking some pot every now and again, it really takes the edge off. extra points if you have some buddies to do it with, put on some comedy and just laugh
What does "put yourself out there" mean?
doing things that you wouldnt normally do or are used to doing it.
Getting outside of your comfort zone; taking risks; exposing yourself to situations that made you uncomfortable, hurt you; etc etc etc
>>16782118
It means get off your computer, take a shower, shave your neckbeard, put in clean clothes, go outside and go interact with others IRL
>>16782128
this
wherever you're at just get out of your comfort zone, and keep pushing it until you're completely comfortable, being uncomfortable
Im debating wether to move out or not. Currently 21, living with parents. I got an okay job (ten bucks an hour), dont go to school (not untill may) and also pay a share of bills (car payment, insurance, etc)
Would it be a good idea to move out now or shoukd i wait? I guess i should mention i feel sort of trapped here at home. I feel like alot of opportunities for me are limited due to relying on my parents and such. And with school coming up, id also like to live closer to campus rather than driving an hour every day.
Still though, im not sure if i would be able...
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you should definitely move out for school, wish I did that
>>16782087
Can you take proper care of yourself?
Can you cook, do laundry and clean?
If yes, move out of your house.
(Sorry for poor english)
I think you should try it out for your first year of school; it might not be financially tenable for longer. It's good for social opportunities.
my friend needs to know the best way to take a large amount of money to puerto rico. the money is for his family but it isn't very legal. anyone know the best way?
wtf
>>16782083
Assuming you're in the US, you evidently don't know that PR is too. You don't cross any borders or go through any customs. Get a bank check that they can deposit in a bank there or just carry the money in your pocket.
send it in the mail stuffed in something
Is it normal to approach girls in public? What should i say then? It feels very creepy personally though.
>>16782044
define public.
a bar?
a bookstore?
a coffee shop?
okay.
the street?
the gym?
the laundromat?
nah.
>>16782044
It's only creepy if you're creepy.
Topic starter: something relevant to current surroundings. Can't ever go wrong with weather.
If you're naturally charming and good looking it doesn't really matter too much where. If you're not? Then it's pretty much just ok in bars and even then it's questionable. Most of the time you need some kind of pretext to just start talking with people. Just seeing a girl and going over and saying 'ur cute, hows weather?" is stupid as fuck.
Self advice/how to life thread?
Here's a list of stuff I wrote down to help me succeed again. Post anything you see missing, I think I covered most of it
Let's change our NEETness
***********
1st get a job
Once you get a job you can start scheduling yourself
Things to include
-sleep
(Always asleep, not in bed, by 11)
-Always workout before or after work
-reminder to keep carbs low and stop drinking soda
-hobbies
Guns
Skateboarding
Music
Hank
Try to do hour long scheduled blocks of this
-supplements...
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I gave up on life OP, but im bumping your thread.
Althought, I doubt people will take interest in it. They are busy discussing why their Oneitis is Fucking Tyrone instead of them etc.
>>16782050
That sucks man. I really hope this thread takes off. I want a routine that will help me feel like a success regardless of how its measured
Thanks for the reply at least bud
>>16782033
If you're a tall skinny guy trying to gain weight working out, then carbs aren't a bad idea. Easier to stuff yourself with calories.
