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My best friend hasn't contacted me in months (I' male).
Normally when I ask him to hang out, he would respond, but lately there's been no word from him. He once responded a few months ago saying he's really busy and that's it.
Am I right to be royally pissed off about him not contacting me since fucking September?
Or should I just fuck off and wait for him to call me when he's available?
>>16782427
Nah dude with me n my bros we see each other almost weekly
>>16782430
That's how it used to be, obviously the older we get the less free time we have, but still, he could find the time to send me a fucking message or something.
>>16782427
bimp
Sick shit, not for fragile stomachs.
>be me
> Home from work and just had a great afternoon coffee fuckyea.jpg
> Fuck, no keys and have to wait 1hr for roommate for spare set
> Run around the yard trying to find a spare set sometimes in yard
> Give up
> Really need to shit.
> Tell myself, im ok, ill walk to a shopping centre close by there
> REALLY NEED TO SHIT
> calm down, please calm down
> FUCKING HELL I NEED TO @(#$*&#*()@$& SHIT
> omg omg omg cant get in, what do I do waht do I do
> notice lots and lots of mulch
> say to myself, oh no... please no...
> Proceed to plead with my body dont make me do this, please....
> End up shitting on the mulch (something in me just died).
> End up doing monster turd which is stuck together
> try to use hose to rinse it into garden - wont come out of mound OMFG.
> Flys start to come....
> Toss some more mulch over it to stop flies from coming - proceed to hose it down more
> Looks completly normal, except for the patches i removed to put on another heap on the lawn look like a bush turkey has been around.
> feelsgoodman.jpg
> realise that dad was recently gardening here, and will probably be again soon.
fuck.
So, is there a way to completly irradicate the shit without it looking too obvious....? How long do i have to wait for it to decompose?
Should have dug a small hole and buried it. Mulch never works for this.
Are dealing with toxins something you can do diy? I'm pretty sure I have something in my room because sometimes I smell weird shit and it's a really old as fuck house with little maintenance. I wake up with a stomach ache every day I have random pains and exhaustion. I have crazy as fuck dry mouth that sometimes makes my gums bleed I also notice symptoms show up more when I'm in the room
How do I know what the problem is? Should I just buy tests for everything
>>16782394
If you don't know what you're doing, just go to a doc. Health is one of those things you don't want to fuck around with.
>>16782395
But what the fuck can I do moving out is impossible
last night
>wanted to fuck but it was getting late as, tell boyfriend i was gonna sleep off my horniness
>he says goodnight, promises we'll have sex tomorrow (i had an important meeting in the morning)
>p r o m i s e s
today
>head off to bed
>boyfriend says goodnight
i've been laying in bed for thirty minutes browsing 4chan. is something wrong? how can a guy forget promised sex?
>>16782388
why not, instead of passively expecting him to remember, go out and ask him to fuck you?
>>16782388
initiate you dumb hoe
>>16782388
>how can a guy forget promised sex?
Pretty much the same way women can. Why would you expect otherwise?
I didn't mind helping him when I was 'The new guy' there, but months later I find he constantly tries to put the jobs he is given on to me when I have my own work to do.
What is the best way to deal with this.?
He tried it yesterday and I said something like "Mike, I would help you but I have my own jobs to do right now."
I am not the only person there to have noticed this.
It is really pissing me off, but is it worth complaining to the management over?
Nah, just put your foot down respectfully and firmly that you have enough on your plate
Be direct about it
"I can't help you now, I have enough work"
Don't be smiley and giggle, it's not funny. You boss of you, you are the captain of your own ship huehue.
If he keeps going, and you don't do his share won't that get HIM in trouble?
>>16782369
>is it worth complaining to the management over
Not at all, just blow him off the next time he asks for something seeing as he has no issue doing it to you.
>>16782369
Say no politely but do it give him any wiggle room. Saying "I can't help you now" means you can do it later. It seems stupid to add this but your coworker seems obtuse and rude already
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>seeing a girl
>make plans for our next outing
>day before: sorry, im sick, lets try again next week
>next week: shit, my period started, im not leaving bed this weekend
>the week after that: family drama, sorry
>a month after the initial plan: go out
this loop has repeated a few times now. like i get that family drama can be shitty, periods can be shitty, people can get sick. but this is happening a bit too much and going out only once a month isn't cutting it for me
am i being unreasonable here?
>>16782363
>am i being unreasonable here?
no. She isnt into you
>>16782363
Nope. Just tell her straight out that a pattern is emerging, and ask her if she still wants to see you. If she says yes and meets you next time, go on with her. If she says yes but flakes on you again, dump her. If she says no, dump her
Nah. I would not wait around for that.
If you really like the girl, perhaps leave the ball in her court. Ie: Tell her if she wants to hang out sometime just to contact you.
But i would not continue to make plan and hope the girl will find time to hang out with me..
What's better, accepting my body for being weak, or working to improve it and get stronger? not /fit/ related, actually.
webm related
Do both, lift some but accept that you won't look like some dueds that lift because they do drugs or you have poor genetics in that area.
You don't have to go all in to get a tad stronger, anything helps.
>>16782344
but being in the shape of the people that video is totally achievable naturally (without drugs or suppliments) in about 5 months of working out every day.
they were in pretty great shape, if you get there you'll be in better shape than probably 95% of western people
>>16782354
They were probably in better shape than the majority of young fatasses today. Sure go for it, if you want to get stronger do it.
Investing in your body is never a bad move.
i'm both socially and charismatically inept of formulating a witty, philosophic, or an even funny response.
what the fuck do I say?
i dont want to say just, "lol" or "true" or "hahahaa" or any of that faggit shit.
lol then go to hell and cry
>>16782353
fuck off commie
>>16782331
You: no, girls say I'm like a surfboard
her: why is that?
You: they love to strip down, get wet and ride me ;)
Was talking to sex about my girlfriend over texting. She said said I wish i could swallow your cum and then told her I'm starting to jack off.
I asked have you ever done that before? And she said "I have..." And then I sent a sad face and she said I meant I have been masturbating I never swallowed before.
Is she full of shit? If she lied about this God knows what else
She probably swallowed before, if you don't want to know then don't ask. Sheesh man, don't ask questions if you can't handle the truth.
>>16782310
Sounds more like she's full of cum not shit.
>>16782310
how bout you go get laid with a few girls first, and then you won't care?
All I want to do is text her and say I still think she's with the wrong man and he'll never look at her the same way I do.
Apparently my co-worker told her that me and her would be cute together and she's under the impression I hate her after a failed on again off again relationship. Yesterday was the first time I've spoken to her in a few months.
/adv/, is it even worth telling her? My heart is screaming right now.
>/adv/, is it even worth telling her? My heart is screaming right now.
Absolutely not. Not under any circumstances.
She's an adult, and she sure knows her boyfriend better than you do. Someone outsider coming to her telling that she's with the wrong guy is highly insulting, cause that's something so personal and no one wants to have someone else to judge their life decisions.
There's a reason why she is with the guy and you can't possibly know that. You don't know how their relationship is like.
You could tell her you still have feelings for her. But telling her that you are better than his past guy will only make her angry and it also makes you sound like a fucking jerk.
And if she was the one dumping you, I bet my ass that the new guy really is better than you.
>>16782289
It's worth telling her, but its a hit or miss deal. Meaning she'll Shrug it off, Actually agree with it, or try to convince you that she is happy with who she is with. If you enjoy talking to her, then continue doing that and just pop the question one day. All in all, you should tell her, it's just that you need to determine the right time.
>>16782295
He's so fucking boring. She dated him in high school and was there for her when she needed him. But other than that he's a borin fuckhead with anger issues. Now she's seeing him again.
I know I see her so much better than he does. I just wish I could fucking wild my memory of her so this wasn't even an issue anymore. Like I'm always find until I see her again. Now I find out she thinks I hate her or something.
tl;dr Can you be friends with an ex?
>dated for 4 years
>relationship ended very badly, she fell in love with another guy and I cheated
>tried being friends off and on for 2 years, very unhealthy as we'd fuck, then hate each, not talk and the cycle would repeat
>realised that the only time she wanted to hang out was when she wanted money for something
>don't talk for 2 years, move to new city and get a new job, new life etc..
>run into her, she's moved here as well
>grab lunch and talk
>first thing she says is how she's not dating anyone
>ok....thanks for letting me know
>mentions how she's met this guy who buys her stuff but she's not involved with him
>says she wants to be friends, say ok
>don't send her any texts or calls to see whether she actually wants to be friends
>nothing for a month
>crack and send her a text, immediate response
>every time I text her, she'll respond straight away
>then silence if I don't reply
Is it better to just walk away? I will always love her as she was my first love and whatnot; but I have no feelings for her and would like to be friends; but it seems she's not interested in it.
>>16782266
Nope
>tl;dr Can you be friends with an ex?
Everybody likes you think you can be but you can't.
It'll be just better to walk away mate. It has been 2 years.
Women don't have that "first love" feeling or any lasting "love" feeling. You're out of her life and that's that. So ofc she has no interest at all. Better move on. Unless you want to end up go-to-guy when something is lacking financially or emotionally.
I hope someone here can help me with this.
I want to apply for a PhD scholarship and I was asked to write a research plan.
Where do I start ? How do I find a research theme ?
>>16782261
No offence bro but this is the kinda question a PHD student shouldn't need to ask...
Same principle as your research plan for diss / MA diss. Topic > question > how to answer > methodology > predictions > potential problems / considerations
>>16782269
I'm lost in finding a theme that's all. I'm looking for some inspiration
>>16782261
Professor writing here
I second the previous comment. If you're in grad school and have no ideas for research in your field, you have no business going for a PhD.
You don't have to commit yourself to something that you may with further study move away from. But you do have to show that you are thinking on the road-to-PhD level.
Is there absolutely nothing that you've studied and want to study further? Is there any area in which you spot a hole that needs filling in?
If not, why do you want a PhD?
I don't understand how to have a regular conversation, what am I supposed to talk about? I can only hold a conversation for a few minutes at a time with close friends and almost not at all with anyone else. Please help.
>>16782255
What you don't understand is that 90% of all casual conversations are about nothing at all - or, rather, whatever they're about is not their main point.
Follow this digression: monkeys and chimps like to sit together and pick nits off each other's fur. Now, getting rid of nits is good, but money followers have discovered that it's really just an excuse to sit together and enjoy being friendly.
People generally don't pick nits off each other. What we do is sit around talking about nothing at all - the weather, sports, last night's TV, girls, whatever. But sociologists have shown that a half-hour later very few can remember what the conversation was about, because it was just an excuse to hang out together.
Don't worry about being interesting, just be part of the bonding. An occasional "Yeah" or "That's right" will hold up your part of the conversation, and just about anything you add to it will be accepted because WHAT anyone says is less important than THAT they're being part of the fur-cleaning group.
>>16782300
this is interesting. keep posting anon
Sounds to me like you don't have much to talk about, or interesting people to talk with. Try taking up a wholesome hobby like carpentry - soon you'll be nattering away all afternoon with woodworking friends, discussing the latest lumber, tools, and techniques you've come across!
So, when did /adv/ fill up with SJWs and BPs?
>>16782233
Shortly after it filled up with redpillers and MGTOWs.
Always existed, but they've increased in number over the years. It certainly got worse when moot tried shutting them down when they found out he'd been made a cuckold though.
>>16782257
lol
>>16782280
>lol
Well, OK, so maybe not SHORTLY after; this place was full of redpiller filth for quite some time. But surely you haven't forgotten the times when they had whole generals dedicated to them?
A Japanese toddler learning English or a monolingual American adult learning French?
>>16782224
Hang on, just need to go find the results of the research I did on this topic.
>>16782224
Depends on the specific people, but children have it easy picking up a new language.
>>16782237
That's because the child usually has hours and hours of instruction (living with mommy who talks to the child in that language).
If adults also immerse themselves that way, they learn faster because they're smarter. Unfortunate, unless OP moves to France, he'll at most get 2 hours of instruction per day.
