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I am a woman with an overactive sex drive but my boyfriend isn't interested as much as I am. What are some ways to lower the drive?
Try expending your excess energy with a craft-based hobby. Tire yourself out and achieve fulfilment in your home carpentry workshop, and you'll soon find you're on the same page as your boyfriend in the bedroom.
>>16782967
As someone with a very similar problem, focus on sports. I play squash and volleyball every week and it really helps.
And, of course, buy a magic wand.
I have three tests for my computer science courses and I basically know fuck all. How do I study for those three?
If computer science were really the field for you, you'd enjoy studying it. If the course is a drag, you're setting yourself for a lifetime career in an area you're never going to enjoy. Dump the major, and learn the knowledge and skills of carpentry. With a rewarding and enjoyable profession, it's like you never work a day in your life.
>>16782963
I'm interested in more about what you have to say. All the things I'm "interested" in are god awful career choices that I would be really bad at actually working in.
I don't like IT/CS at all as it makes little to no sense to me, but I'm doing it because it means I'll have a good job 20 years down the road and my body won't be shot from working outside. Halfway through my IT degree I decided I wanted to be a forester, did that for a year, and then got lyme disease and...
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>>16783002
20 years down the road, someone in India will have a good job, and your body will be shot from the alcoholism brought on by depressing and serial unemployment.
I feel a strange compulsion to suggest carpentry as the solution to all problems on /adv/, but in your case it's a real option. You can't outsource installing a new bookshelf or kitchen counter.
In any case, you should make a career choice based on a lifestyle you'll enjoy, rather than just where you reckon the work will be. If...
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Hi guys, need some advice and to get this off my chest. I've been in a relationship for almost 3 years now, two of them living together, and we got engaged a few months ago. We have always being very serious about us and we have our whole future planned already. The thing is that we were open (we can have sex with anyone we want to as long as there are no real feelings involved) untill we got engaged, basicly bc he got too jealous of this guy. Since the day I met him (let's call him D), about a year ago, we had this explosive chemistry and were really atracted to eachother,...
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You mustn't define yourself by your relationships; who you are is up to you, not derived from who you're with.
Back up, and examine your life and how you would like things to be. It's never too late for a career change, for instance. Give some solid thought to packing it all in job-wise, and moving to a more rewarding sector such as carpentry. You have no problems in your life if you work with wood on a daily basis.
Fucking degeneracy.
Leave the poor schmuck. It's obvious that you like the other guy better and I don't see your relation going uphill from this point. Better for both of you to leave it behind. Also, in case you still haven't noticed having an open relationship is a horrible idea. They never work. You have to choose between fucking a bunch of people or having a good, old-fashioned relationship.
>>16782955
Are you trying to make a meme out of this?
So I had a really fucked up thing happen to me last night.
>Selling weed as usual
>business is good
>friends/customers always happy
>friends refer there friends
>more people to smoke out and sell to
>everyone's happy
>friend of a friend referred someone else
>3 times removed from me
>dumb...
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This could be a wakeup call that you're in the wrong business. Client transactions tend to go a lot more smoothly in a legitimate sector like carpentry, and you have legal redress in the unlikely event of any problems.
Protip: ask for a downpayment in advance, to cover the costs of materials and transport.
Do you have people that will go to war with you?
> 2 black guys
You missed your opportunity to bail OP. C'mon, you know blacks are violent, you should have known better!
Most of the people in my family, including my parents, think I'm either on the spectrum in a minor or major way. I don't believe I am. Is there any way to tell without getting a professional diagnosis? Is there some way to figure this out, or some list of traits that I can match myself to? I've taken the tests online and they all say I don't have it, but I know online tests can be unreliable.
I definitely have some communication issues and occasionally I see the world in a different way than other people, but I see "aspergers" as being the...
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>>16782937
It is virtually impossible to tell high-functioning Aspergers from run-of-the-mill nerdy or socially awkward guy.
So what does it matter? Who needs labels?
>>16782937
>Is there any way to tell without getting a professional diagnosis?
Not really. No reliable ones.
I suggest getting a professional screening. I had to, several years back, and although it turned up a number of other issues, it didn't find any form of autism. This came as a surprise to a number of people. The same could happen in your case.
How do I know if this girl is flirting or being friendly? She'll causally tell me that she's had dreams about me, brought up Facebook posts I made from months before we knew one another (and she'll like my posts when they're days old, so she probably does her fair share of stalking). I don't think I've ever heard a dirty word come out of her mouth, but the bits of her I've seen around other people seemed pretty cussy.
There's other stuff, too. How do I know if she's flirting or if that's just how she acts?
It looks to me like she's a friendly, outgoing and bubbly person; whether anything's going to happen between you is up to how you respond to that.
If you have self confidence issues, try taking up a hobby in which you can get some me-time, and make beautiful and useful items to validate yourself without worrying about other people's opinions. Carpentry is probably the best option for you right now.
>>16782940
She's actually really shy and has issues getting to know people. On my side, I first got to know her in a really depressing point in my life a few months ago.
At the time, I definitely thought "would" here and there but I wasn't gonna repeat the mistake of idealizing the idea odd a relationship with someone. Now my life has gotten a lot better, I've been going out with my friends more, playing guitar more often, working out, losing weight, and getting straight As in college. However...
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>>16782978
Shoulda woulda coulda
Stop living in a world muddled with potential future outcomes, and enjoy the moment.
Less Would, more Wood!
I study in a very fucking expensive school that my parents are paying for. This school is recognized worldwide but REALLY fucking expensive. I have other options that are literally free and not bad in the education department. I constantly feel guilty for paying so much for education when I have a free option. What would /adv/ do?
Bamp
>>16782924
Get best grades and make your parents proud
You stay in the school, study hard and make friends with others who are likely to be successful. They can give you incredible opportunities later in life. If you play your cards right the school will be worth it.
Ever heard the phrase "Its not what you know, Its who you know."? Well this plays a part here. Its not about the education, its about the people you are being educated with.
You are mingling with the future elite.
You have been given a good base to help you start your professional life, make the most of it.
Two Fridays ago I hooked up with this girl at a party, went to her place. Had a good time. We exchanged numbers, she kept saying how she wants me to come back the next day, etc.
Hit her up the following day, chat a bit. She said she would invite me, but is still hung over. I was kinda under the weather too, so ok.
Talk more on Sunday, she suggested that we could take a tour of a local beer brewery. I said lets do so next Saturday, she said she cant because she is going to a wedding.
So we talked about that, her buying a dress, yada, yada.
On Tuesday I hit her...
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You yourself seem to recognize her noncommital attitude, but you've already got tunnel vision. Why, I can't say--you don't have any faith in her.
Forget about her or confront her in person--not aggresively, just directly. She isn't going to start things, so it's really just about sorting out your own baggage.
>>16782971
I dont remember where she lives, and that's creepy. I cant think of a "natural" way to run into her.
We have a mutual friend, that's about it. I can try hitting her up, and seeing if theyve been talking about me, but that seems needy.
bumpo
So I've never been able to cum from a blowjob. I have a new girlfriend that says she wants me to cum from a blowjob in her mouth and she wants to stare at me while she sucks it.
2 problems. I've never cum from a blowjob before and I'm incredibly self conscience especially with sex faces.
>>16782882
Actually a common proble. Many guys who enjoy BJs can't come from them. So don't think you're weird.
Most likely explanations:
1. Physical - you need a certain rhythm/pressure/touch she hasn't found yet. If you know what it is, tell her.
2. Psychological. You unconsciously feel that BJs are demeaning to the girl and something in you resists "dirtying" her. Let her convince you she really enjoys it and you might let go.
>>16782882
deep throat works well. they cant make eye contact, and it feels a lot more like a vagina.
its the only way I can cum from a bj
Have her play with your balls while she deepthroats.
Do you have to have a cellphone in order to network and make friends these days?
Every time I ask people if I should get a cell phone, because I want to be more social, they start him-hawing and beating around the bush and I never get a straight answer, just smoke blowing.
So is a cell phone necessary and they just don't want to admit it or is it not necessary?
Every time I meet people, me not having a cell phone becomes a thing and then I never collect their info and have no way to converse with them later.
I need to know before I spend 300$ on a smart...
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>>16782880
Yes fucking yes man
I got an iPhone for Christmas and so far I've got a new gf and have been hustling to make money on the side
Been banging and hanging out more so yeah make sure you on that data life so you can FaceTime and message people anywhere
Yeah get a neato phone but don't become that faggot who sends all his friends the same 20 gifs or memes while they're trying to sleep otherwise it's very useful and good for passing time if you're stuck somewhere and bored
>>16782912
No I just want to meet people, make friends and network.
I had a cell phone before once in highscool and it wasn't bad, I'm not gonna lie.
I've just been having a hard time accepting that the reason socializing networking is so difficult is because no cell phone.
(Plus you can't Tinder or anything like that.)
I overthink everything
Then you are a wise man with a weak will.
>>16782870
V E N G E A N C E
Try taking up an activity that exercises you mind and your manual dexterity at once, to help disconnect from your worries and spend time in the now. Carpentry is an ideal option.
/adv/isors please help. There must be a better way!
I used to be an avid gamer but since I got jobs, I don't do anything but rest/sleep when I come home. My boyfriend is sad. I'm sad. We had many great memories together. I don't want to do anything anymore because of my after-work fatigue levels.
If only I could lay in my bed after work and have my laptop too, without it crushing my bladder or legs, or being forced to stay in the same position for hours without moving. It's pretty light but pretty wide, so it pretty much covers my whole abdomen wherever I put it, and gets painful after a while.
If only there was some table I could use in bed, elevating the laptop over me!
This thread was created with a kind of joking tone. I know such laptop tables exist but where the hell do I buy them, and who/what can I trust?
This is a big purchase for me so I want it to last and be meaningful. On a budget so nothing over $100 pls
>>16782868
I'm sure there are tables/trays that you can buy (which are normally used for food) at places like target or definitely online. Also, my laptop is 17'' and almost 10 pounds and I use it in bed no problem, idk what your problem is.
>>16782877
Mine is 17" across too. I'm just a weak girl I guess. Not a lot I can do to change that part. You should see what I do for work. It shouldn't make the average person fatigued as hell. So I figured I'm just weak. That's that.
Anyway do you think this is worth it? It's cheap as hell http://www.amazon.com/Songmics-Portable-Foldable-Breakfast-Serving/dp/B00XBNJM1Q
I've read this in a german forum and try to translate it into English. The thread is about loneliness and somebody wrote an answer that i liked and gave me feels. Maybe someone can read out some answers for themselves.
However recently, someone said something that made me feel emotional: "You know, you 're really differently. Most people notice that. You're like a mystery without wanting to be one. You think, you belong nowhere but that's not true. Rather the opposite. The people you meet want rather belong to you. But you don't let them,...
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>>Vor kurzem aber sagte jemand etwas das mich sehr bewegte "Weißt du, du bist nunmal echt anders. Die meisten merken das. Du bist wie ein Mysterium ohne eins sein zu wollen. Du denkst du gehörst nirgendsowo dazu, das ist aber falsch. Eher im Gegenteil. Die Menschen, die du kennenlernst wollen eher zu dir dazu gehören. Du lässt sie aber nicht, weil du Angst hast. Du strahlst eine Offenheit aus, die viele fast schon nicht begreifen können. Zugleich hast du aber eine derartige Verschlossenheit, dass du dich selbst davon ausgrenzt. Du bist halt...
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1/3 bump
Don't want it to disappear
Bump 2/3
Because some anon wrote it's nice
This may sound weird but here it is:
I can't tell colors
I don't think I'm color blind though, I can tell I'm looking at two different colors when put side by side, but I sometimes can't distinguish a color when I see it.
For example; I would look at a piece of clothing and I wouldn't be able to tell what the name of the color is.
Am I color blind in denial or retarded or is it something else?
any advice?
>Am I color blind in denial
Maybe
>retarded
Definitely not
Unfortunately it's pretty easy to to know you're not color blind, but not always easy to understand that you are. (My mom's ex boyfriend was obviously color blind, but insisted he wasn't). After all, your experience with senses is completely subjective.
This sounds like a job for a neurologist. I'd start with telling your doctor and go from there.
look up an online colorblindness test. this might be able to give you an idea
maybe you arent colorblind but experience color differently like someone with synesthesia (which is really cool)
>>16782838
There are different types of colorblindness. Go to an eye doctor.
Rate my fucking Erasmus motivation letter
Be nice its my first one and i have never worked
>>16782837
>misspells Erasmus
APPLICATION DECLINED
I'm not going to be nice, because you need the opposite of that: a reality check. Otherwise they won't even consider you.
Fix the horrible grammar mistakes, capitalize your I's and add at least 2 paragraphs. Your writing style is shit as well, because for example this sentence:
>to be considered for your chance to Eramus students
What on earth are you trying to say here?
Saying you "want this opportunity because oh em gee traveeelllingg haha amiright lolo" is retarded, they'll throw your application right to the thrash. Replace that shit with something meaningful like "yo niggas I really like the vision of your company and I think I could contribute" or some shit like that. This letter is so sloppy.
What I do like about this is the paragraph about you being friendly - nice touch. Edit out the mistakes, but keep the idea.
>so I'm usually the one that ends up taking care of everyone
Delete that shit, you sound like a doormat, not a friendly, adaptable explorer.
Good luck, kid.
>>16782929
Thanks bro but i have no idea of the company i am going to therefore it's general, but really thanks for taking the time
