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I think I have water poisoning
>trying to get more /fit/
>lifting religiously
>drinking near a gallon of water every day for 2 weeks
>nauseous
>fatigued during lifting
>massive headaches
>all I can taste is tap water
>mouth is dry
>light headed
Am I kill? Horrible taste in my mouth right now
>>16784454
/sp/ trip left on shaking my head to be honest family
She'll be about 2 or 3 hours away, and she's always dreamed about college being a "fresh start" for her.
While I completely understand why she wants this, it's still hard to think about. How do I come to terms with it? Should we break it off now or try to make every last second we have count?
This has been having me down in the dumps for a while now.
>>16784440
Emma it now, you are worth more
>>16784440
>Should we break it off now
Fuck yes. She can't wait to hop on somebody else's dick and that's just the excuse she's looking for.
It's all over, buddy. Time to move on.
>>16784440
>Should we break it off now or try to make every last second we have count?
No one can tell you which is better for you. It's entirely up to the way you handle loss. In my case, I knew a year in advance that I'd be moving to another country for grad school. I told the guy I was dating at the time and we both agreed we'd be cool just riding it out til I had to go. Sure enough, the day I left, I kissed him goodbye and we called it quits. Totally amicable. But both of us were 25+, so we had the maturity to know ourselves and what we would be happy with.
If you're really emotional, overly attached, or if you think it'd be harder on you to wait til she leaves for good... maybe it will be best for you to break it off. You need to do some soul searching. But ultimately, yes, your relationship is doomed.
>extraordinarily low sex drive male
>feel like I never really want to have sex with girlfriend
>not sure if girlfriend is problem or me
What do?
>>16784393
Well for females masturbating increases libido, is it the same for males?
Whenever you feel the need to masturbate, stick it in her.
Is she too loose or something?
>>16784393
Are you over weight?
>>16784521
Nah, 5'10 and 140 so pretty normal, why?
>>16784508
I hardly ever even want to masturbate unless watching porn in the first place
So I have a job interview tomorrow. Got the call this morning and setup the interview and now that I'm home, I'm doing a bit of research.
Turns out the place is a total fucking scam. So I need to call them and cancel the interview, but I was wondering, how does /adv/ think I should do it?
For anyone interested, this is the company:
http://www.ripoffreport.com/r/Signals-United-Inc/Orange-California/Signals-United-Inc-Signals-United-Smart-Circle-brother-scam-company-Smart-Circle-1265780
I'm specifically linking this because, holy shit, that guy's story.
>feel shitty last night
>boyfriend tried to comfort me
>he makes me promise him that ill tell him if I ever feel shitty or bad or if I feel like crying
>ok
>he tells he's gonna leave
>ok
>he notices the sad tone in my voice, stays a little longer
>leaves finally, doesn't really give me an option
>okay, goodnight baby
>i cry immediately after he leaves
Should I tell him?
You should show him this post.
>>16784394
Kek
I can't even tell if you're sad or not
Woman really are something
my gf has struggled with anxiety and panic disorders since high-school. i'm convinced she has PTSD due to a rape by her ex-boyfriend but she doesn't believe so. we're nearing our anniversary and i can't say with any confidence that she has become better at managing any of her emotions. i'm at a loss as to whether or not she will get better. she is currently seeing a counselor from school and has formed a healthy relationship with him but the cognitive techniques and meditation he's utilizing don't seem to stick when she begins to panic, she just forgets it all and reverts back to breaking down and getting stuck in her own thoughts. she was seeing a therapist for a few years but her parents refused to pay for the visits because they weren't seeing any progress. her dad is also skeptical of any real issue being present and just chalks it up to her being a young, weak woman. i can understand where he's coming from to an extent but i also think there are some very real, very challenging issues present that require more than a "toughen up."
she's sick or has some acute physical symptom at all times. literally, there's always something going on. numbness in her arm, pain in her elbow, pain in the fingers, throat pain, neck pain, back pain, nasal congestion, throat congestion, headaches, ear pain, discomfort in her eye(s), hip pain, knee pain, and i'm probably forgetting a few. it's exhausting trying to keep up with it all and it gets to the point where i almost resent her for being so weak akin to her dad. i'm not suggesting it's weak to get sick but these issues pop up seemingly randomly and then simply go away with no medical intervention whatsoever. she has been to specialists for the arm pain (thought it was a nerve issue), the throat issues, and the ear issues. they always come back saying "we can't find anything wrong with you." blood work comes back clear. MRI is clear. throat cultures are clear. everything is normal. (contd)
>>16784370
(contd)
but she's convinced there is something wrong and these professionals are just missing something. it has gotten to the point where an issue pops up, i advise that she goes to a medical professional, and she jokes that "i bet they won't even find anything wrong with me." i've pushed her when she says this and try to reason with her that these doctors have devoted their lives to studying their fields, see thousands of patients a year, and if they tell you nothing's wrong then you should trust their judgement. if they can't find a cause then i challenge her to find an explanation that wouldn't be physiological and she shuts down cause she knows where i'm going. she begins to breakdown emotionally and i have to pull back else she elects to keep it all bottled up and not communicate with me.
this is just one of the issues that pop up. she has a problem with jumping to worst-case scenario conclusions whenever something happens. she gets caught up in "what-if" scenarios that lead her to depressive outcomes. if she is feeling uneasy about an exam that's coming up then she starts panicing and becomes anxious about not being able to transfer to a good university cause of bad grades which would cause her to have to stay home longer with her emotionally abusive parents (they seem like nice people to me but she resents them and the things that her parents have said to her do cross into emotional abuse). she worries that people will view her as a failure and stupid. she gets anxious about me leaving her cause she would be a burden on me or that i get fed up with her issues. this is the train of thought she rides from her feeling less than confident about an exam. she sits in her room, crying and breaking down about these potential scenarios instead of studying.
>>16784374
i try to show her how ridiculous this is, that she needs to be able to take things in a step-by-step fashion, and that none of this is going to help her with the exam but it only leads to her being more emotional. she repeats again that i'm going to leave her and that i deserve better, that she's broken and fucked up.
am i just positively reinforcing her unreasonable behavior? do i need to be tougher with her? if i don't coddle her then she distances herself from me and i can't help from there. she's 21y/o, she isn't a child but i feel like she still acts like one when it comes to real world experiences.
i have been thinking of us taking a break after the anniversary passes. maybe she needs time for herself? an opportunity to focus entirely on herself and not split her attention? it seems like a good idea to me but i don't know how she would react to a break or if she would read too much into my intentions and get wrapped up in her thoughts. i don't know if she would even take the time to better herself or just go deeper into a depression since i "left" her.
please help.
no tldr faggots
>bump
Is it normal that the partner will get interested in the hobbies of the other person? My gf always asks me what I'm watching or that we should play something together, but the problem is that all the media I consume is pretty cringey, I always feel awkward watching anime in front of her for example. It is the same with building Gunpla, these are just autistic japanese robot kits, she shouldn't get into it. How do I tell her that it isn't worth it to get into any of my hobbies? It is just all autistic and awkward stuff, she will probably think worse of me if she gets a closer look of that stuff.
>>16784364
If she can't accept the stuff you like, how will she be able to fully accept you?
Dont be so hard on yourself.
You like what you like. Fuck other people judging you because they think it's uncool. Your gf might enjoy it too, and even if she doesnt there must be some common ground... cooking? Going to walks? music?
>>16784375
I don't know, I don't even know why she is accepting me so far, I'm a terrible person with no redeeming qualities. I don't want to give her any reasons to dislike me more with my hobbies
>>16784376
We have common ground, we go to concerts and always talk about music, we also talk about books and read them together and working out is our thing too, but she still seems to be interested in all my other hobbies, which is all that manchild stuff. I don't want to share it with her, it just makes me look bad. I know that I should stop liking this hobbies at my age as I get older, but I just can't.
What's a good excuse for missing a college class in advance that requires the least amount of creative explanation? I have to go to disney world in 2 weeks. My mom planned the trip without taking my schedule into account and it's too late to reschedule. I want to ask my professors for the work and what I need in advance but Disney world sounds like I'm not taking things seriously. If I lie and say I'm flying down in two weeks to visit a sick family member he might ask what's wrong with them and I can't lie very well but I'm really anxious about getting grief if I tell the truth.
>>16784341
I don't think any professor would ask that but you could just say "cancer".
>>16784341
You're in fucking college. Tell him you need the coursework for the next two weeks and see what he says. You're an adult, don't use excuses.
>>16784341
Sorry dude, you don't get free vacation time anymore now that you're becoming an adult. Shit sucks, but it doesn't work that way. I'm coming to the end of my 20s and I've had to sacrifice my job or my vacation many a time (spoiler though, vacation has won), but you have limited choices here. A professor probably isn't going to go out of their way to provide you with the coursework in advance, because they're working a job, and it's not their job to accommodate you in advance.
Sorry for not giving you a solution here, but maybe honesty is the best policy. It depends on how cool your professors are. I had a lot of classes back in the day that didn't have an attendance policy, it was just graded on exams. If you have an attendance policy, maybe ask if you can get some leniency?
Yo boys, just broke up with my Girlfriend recently and I hit hard. So I'm going for a rebound, there's this girl in my art period that's pretty fine. I'm just having trouble on deciding if I should talk to her or maybe send her a quick message online to maybe interest her a little more. Any help is good thanks
Girls like a confident guy. Go talk to her be genuine let her know what's up you'll be fine.
I have scars all over my body from cutting in the past, and am thinking about getting some scarification done to sort of hide them. Is this a good idea? I worry about discrimination and having to keep like my arms covered all the time while at work, but that's something I already do to hide the scars I have. Still that's something to think about. I'll post more pics later but this is my right thigh. Before this is want to get my left arm done but I gotta go for a bit. Will post the rest of my scars later :/
>>16784314
youre making the problem worse, just get some bio oil for your scars
>>16784325
I've done bio oil before. It's great for the skin but does nothing for the scars. These are all several years old and not going away, trust me. I take amazing care of my skin now and the scars haven't improved at all.
That is a thought, though. That I'd be making it worse. You might be right but I think I would rather my scars be body art than just self-harm. I was thinking id make a consultation appointment with a highly rated scarification place and ask what they thought they could do to work with the scars already there. I saw a fish piece done to cover some scars and it looked like it turned out well.
Idk so undecided.
Man I was hoping there would be more interest in this, or someone that had done it. Google doesn't seem to bring up too much yet. Guess I'll keep at it
Why are girls so lame?
I hate them expecting me to entertain them.
>doesn't ask about the mutual interest
>spouts maymays from a burmese basket-weaving website
>she doesn't understand
>immediately rejects her like an autist for not liking something she's stated she likes, and something she didn't understand the question about
0/10, 2's are out of your league anyways
this was mindbogglingly bad dude
10/10.
>>16784312
as a bisexual man I have to state for the record relationships with men are like 10x more straightforward and simple. at least 10x, if not 20x.
Sometimes I get depressed with how shitty using Tinder and dating apps is, fire up Grindr, and before I know it tons of guys are telling me how handsome/fit I am, begging for pictures of my cock, and I can probably find a decent looking guy in 2 hours or less. Compare to the arduous ongoing process of trying to date women... Yeesh.
I'm glad I'm bisexual. It's nice to know at the very least a ton of gay guys want my dick. Plus I can always find some twink to suck my balls if I'm in the mood. I mean, if some girl dumps me or stops calling back or whatever, usually I'll just have sex with a dude to help me forget about it. It's so much easier it's not even funny.
Dating women usually requires much more wooing, seduction, mind games, bullshit and the sex isn't even guaranteed.
If you ever thought being gay was easy mode: it is. Don't let ANYONE tell you otherwise. It's fucking easy to get dick.
Already posted this on /g, they told me I should post it here for better advice.
Part 1:
First off, sorry for my bad english.
Second, I thought about posting this on /b, but all I'd get there was probably an "OP is a faggot", and right now I have no desire for kiddie shit like that.
I am a programmer from Germany, mid-20s. Never seen an university/college from the inside, I taught myself everything I wanted to know. Over the course of the last past years I have learned how to use Linux, Gentoo specifically. I can compile kernels, I can compile custom software, I mainly code in C (more on that later), but I know jackshit about mathematics.
Whenever I look up news about IT-related topics I fall into a depression, because there are so many people who seem to be way more productive and knowledgeable than I am. And then, there are so many people who know nothing about computers at all. It's like I am directly in the middle, too dumb for being "good", too good for being "normal".
C is my language of choice. I first learned C++ at the very beginning of my "career" (when I was 16), but it always was overly complicated, the standard library rarely provided my with what I needed (same thing with C, though), and compiling larger projects takes for-ever. And templates are just a clusterfuck beyond measure.
I took a glance on Java some time ago, but it contradicted everything that I have learned to value in C - like the zero-copy concept. In Java and C++ people just don't seem to care about proper memory management - but that's another story.
Part 2:
I also don't have a job in IT. I have been trying to get some freelancer jobs here in Germany, but there are rarely companies who want to have something programmed/designed by a C-freelancer guy.
In Germany you can take a so-called "job training" in which you partake for three years. I have done so for "application programming", but my training was more centered on practical education (administration of servers, programming of productive interfaces and so on - never focused on theory). Also, this training was what basically pushed me deep into my current depressive state, which might explain my inferior complexes from which I am suffering.
And whenever I met another programmer, I feel utterly insecure, because I haven't "properly" studied programming, while these guys did. They also have a lot of confidence - which is strange, because the moment they write down some code I usually can find something that they did wrong. Then again, maybe I am just overcompensating for my lack of confidence.
Going back to school is not an option. I hate school. I literally hate it. Even several years after I last visited the regular school I sometimes have nightmares from it. My only choice would be to learn stuff in my free time - school is out of question.
Does anyone of you have to deal with the same situation?
>>16784306
>falling for a meme OS like gentoo
You goofed
>>16784319
Really helpful.
People with penises: what do you normally do with your PC muscle during masturbation or sex?
Supposedly the PC or Pubococcygeus muscle is the one you would use if you had to stop peeing mid-flow. DESU I'm pretty sure I can't tell it apart from a lot of the other muscles in the pelvic floor area so tell me about those too if it seems important.
What do you normal males normally do with your normal muscles during sex or masturbation? Is it tensed or relaxed or does it do both in a complex pattern?
I'm not looking to hear what tantric masters or sex gods do with their finely honed parts (rules out 90% of you, sorry). I just want to hear what the range of standard practice is, because I'm worried I might have been doing something non-standard.
>>16784304
When I masterbate but feel like I'm gonna pee, I cum anyways. Only a little pee comes out. That muscle usually stops it during orgasm anyway.
I think the same muscle used to stop pee is also used to stop semen, which I contract right before I cum to try to hold back my ejaculation. Every second I hold it in means a bigger orgasm.
Yeah, I think? Makes me cum faster than just jerking my cock. I didn't use it much when I first started having sex (took me 2 hours to cum) because I thought women liked getting fucked for hours. Turns out I take too long so when I use that muscle for sex, I cum fast.
>Supposedly the PC or Pubococcygeus muscle is the one you would use if you had to stop peeing mid-flow
Perfect example of what it is, I would have no clue if it wasn't for this.
Question for normies:
Am I a loser if I haven't had sex, let alone kissed a woman in 2.5 years? If I revealed that in a social setting, would others think poorly of me?
It entirely depends if you're in the company of judgemental assholes or not.
>>16784328
This.
I wouldn't say that, though. Absolutely nothing good can come out of it. After a certain age people stop asking you that anyway
That depends. If you've been mourning a deceased loved one, certainly not. Likewise if you've been recovering from some severe trauma. If you've had other things on your mind, that's fine too.
If you're so scared of rejection that you refuse to approach women, well, that's another matter. But this is also fixable.
>If I revealed that in a social setting, would others think poorly of me?
Yes, but that's less because of your (lack of) sexual escapades, and more because it's not really appropriate to bring up in most social settings. That's a personal thing, best shared with a partner or a doctor. Or did you have some particular setting in mind?
Am I just insane or are my parents literally following me around and stalking me?
>sit in my room
>parents do nothing
>go downstairs for 5 minutes to eat
>mom comes into next room and starts doing shit right next to me
>go to kitchen to finish up eating
>she's in the next room next to the kitchen
>go upstairs
>4 minutes later she goes upstairs
>go back downstairs again
>she starts doing laundry and following me around
>if I stay upstairs I don't see them at all
>if I go downstairs they get in my shit every 3 minutes and constantly bump into me and do shit next to me and are always in the room next to me doing shit
>>16784266
it's their house anon
>>16784266
They just want to have some human contact with you, captain autismo
>>16784266
Sounds like youre a victim here OP
