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I work Fulltime and make about $65,000/yr. but I still live in my moms basement. Which is nice because I've been putting almost all of my money into savings. I just feel really unmotivated in life and some people told me I should move out. But I can't find a good enough reason to. Then they said it's weird I still live at home. Is this actually weird? I'm 26. But my mom gives me almost total privacy. I buy my own groceries and do everything myself. Just live in her basement.
Am I weird that I choose to live at home even though I make good money?
It makes financial sense, but socially it's retarded. Almost all women are going to be hugely turned off and guys will make fun of you for it. It's up to you though.
>>16785405
It's basically free money you're making by not moving out. I mean I wouldn't bring home women or anything but I don't think it's anything to be ashamed of. Just make sure you treat your mom well and get her nice gifts for her birthday/holidays.
>>16785418
>>16785420
I havent had the time for girls the last few years anyways, and probably won't for the forseeable future. So that's not really a issue. I just am annoyed people always look at me funny when they ask about where I live and shit
We think we've narrowed down our choices to Travis Vincent Tagg for a boy and Carrigan Margaret Tagg for a girl. We wanted strong first names that sound nice when paired with the last name, but we also like the combination of names to repeat letter sequences without getting too rhymey-wimey. What does /adv/ think?
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>Tagg the fag
What are words or phrases that would make you feel loved or cared for?
>>16785390
If it doesn't come natural there's no point
>>16785407
I just wanna know how you all feel. But your right
>>16785390
That's a good question.
I can't specify words or phrases that will work on me because, how do I put it? It has to be something written by someone else, you know? Like if I told some girl to tell me she loves me in any way, any possibly written script or line, and she just happened to do it, it would feel superficial. What would need to be said to me would need to be specific to me; personally. Because that's the only way I'd genuinely feel if the person gave a shit.
I think if they...
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I'm starting to think that sex isn't this great thing.
When I do end up having sex with someone, I don't cum, orgasm and generally it's feels like nothing.
I recently lost my virgibity last year and idk I'm kind of disappointed, if I knew it was not that great I might've just saved myself.
Does any girls (or guys) feel this way? Physically sex does nothing for me like nothing and i end up feeling horrible for engaging in an emotionless and empty act.
>>16785386
>I'm starting to think that sex isn't this great thing.
Sex is whatever you put into the sex. Without putting yourself into the sex, it's just a mechanical act kind of like taking a piss.
>When I do end up having sex with someone, I don't cum, orgasm and generally it's feels like nothing.
Learn to make yourself orgasm first. Then teach your partner how to do it too.
>I recently lost my virgibity...
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>>16785416
What do you put into it? What do you do that makes it exciting?
>>16785416
I know how to make myself orgasm but it seems like they can't hit the spot well enough and it's just lackluster and then I feel real bad about it and fake it (I know I shouldn't and it's wrong but I feel so bad)
Only place to turn to since /b/ niggas being not so helpful.
So /b/ I just got kicked out by my parents, I have 10 days to get out. I'm a senior in HS, I graduate in about 1 month and I have a part time job delivering pizzas. B student and every manager I've worked for loves me, but I smoke weed and I've gotten caught by my parents quite a bit. It seems like they're the only Ines that have a problem. I know when to smoke when not to, if I had a job where obviously I'd get drug tested I'd go clean before even applying, that sort of thing.
Tl:Dr...
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How old are you? Also what highschool ends in March?
>>16785414
JUST turned 18 on the 3rd. And I go to a charter school and its at my own pace online.
>>16785419
You're kind of fucked then. Since you deliver pizzas i assume you have a car? If so and you do end up homeless, you can ask a shelter if you can park it outside as then sleep in it. This isn't the safest thing, but it's safer than sleeping in the shelter. Other than that, ask to start going full time at your job after you graduate, save up, get a cheap apartment, etc. Or just stop this stupid weed shit and see if your parents will take you back, at least until you graduate.
in my friend group, im really close to two guys, but one girl on the periphery, whenever we hang out, likes to mock me/humiliate me in front of the group, and my friends never back me up, one kind of uncomfortably laughs along, the other who is a nice guy but he laughs along in earnest, but the girl hurts my feelings, and then tonight me and the two guys go out to a bar, and some random stranger starts talking to us, and the dude legit mocks me in front of them and they didnt even defend me.
now, i'm basically feeling like these guys won't ever back me up now,...
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>>16785373
do you stick up for yourself?
Tbh bro it's not very often we find ourselves having to "get backed up" so u wouldn't sweat it. As long as they're really cool about other things and "have your back" on things like getting kicked out or needing a ride. Not when you're getting made fun of and won't stick up for yourself. Just go with your gut.
Wait I didn't read that last part, was he laughing at you or just at the situation?
Can someone be in love and still cheat?
>>16785357
yes. but that does not mean you yourself are worthy of love.
i dont believe cheating is so black and white and think sexual liberation might be better for the human race in the long term.
but to boil it down as simply as possible, if you are cheating on her against every better judgement, then your love for her isn't that strong. and her love for you is artificial
>>16785368
It's not me, it's my girlfriend. She shared a drunken kiss at a party with a guy she used to have a fwb thing with. She hid it from me until I found out accidentally, but she said they immediately knew it was wrong and split when I asked her to explain. I know she cares about me, but I don't know what I'm willing to forgive and what I'm not. I do love her but we're living 300 miles apart and trust is everything
Cheating is super complicated.
I cheat on my gf of four years, but it's because I don't want to leave her for her low sex drive.
I feel like it's worse to dump my gf of four years because she doesn't suck my dick often enough than to stay with her and keep her happy while keeping myself satisfied without hurting her
Why do I fuck all of my friends girlfriends? Why is it that they all want to fuck me and I do it gladly and without remorse? Is this a problem or am I just an alpha out fucking all of your girlfriends.
>>16785355
You don't see your friends as your friends.
No, it's because you're an asshole. I've been approached directly twice, and another friend nervously confided in me that he thought his wife wanted to fuck me. I'm pretty sure another's fiancee stays away from me because of this, too.
But I don't fuck 'em because I'm not some insecure asswipe who needs the attention to feel attractive (since I get bitches), and I actually like and feel loyalty to my friends like a normal human being.
Or we could all just fuck eachothers gfs?
I'd like some creative ideas for sex and foreplay for my gf and I on valentines day. We typically use ties and blindfolds but that's about it. Even some kinky blowjob scenarios or interesting roleplays would be great. Thanks /adv/!
On valentines morning, how about you try to wake up before her and get ready to pound her. then when you're ready wake her up and shove it in. it can only get better from there
A little while ago, I met someone I really started to like way too quickly. I don't know why but she was the only person I've really been attracted to for a while, and I fucked it all up insanely quickly. I don't know what part of my personality fucked it up, whether it was my general anxiety and depression, my fucking spergy habits and shit, my general inexperience with really communicating with anyone. I'm fairly certain she doesn't like me at all now because of those three, and I don't think she even liked me at all from the beginning, I think...
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>>16785320
well its out now. perhaps if you want to gain better confidence, start talking to strangers. anyone and everyone. you'll figure out whats up the more you do it. male, female, old young, just talk to them. hten when you meet the right girl you'll be used to just carrying on conversations with new people and not messing shit up as mjuch
I graduated college last year, start my job last month.
Have decent income with benefits (around 55k yearly after taxes), no debts (gonna buy a new car soon plan to pay it off in a year or two at the most), still living with parents so bills are minimal.
Problems I'm having is that my other friends my age are still in school full time, broke, or work way more then I do (I only work 3 days a week).
Leaving me well...bored.
>Also I'm 20 years old, turn 21 in 4 months
I want some advice on hobbies I could pick up to fill...
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>>16785306
creative hobbies tend to be the most fulfilling, even if the person isnt very creative. you can either consume or create. consumers tend to get bored with consumption cuz the pay offs are too easy and limited.
its the difference between watching a movie and making one. reading a comic and drawing one. listening to an audio play and writing one. watching a play and being in one. drinking during the super bowl and tackling a fat guy who holds a ball.
things that have goals are the best hobbies because...
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>>16785327
Holy crap actually good advice
Thank you anon.
>>16785330
glad someone likes it. most responses i get are
>im not good at stuff
only thing i recommend on top of this is just not being afraid to go from one hobby to the other to test it out. see hat you like the most
maybe commit to writing a short story before a novel. then draw one issue of a comic to seei f you like that. then try making your own table. little things. when you find something that really excites you. escalate that situation. when you complete something try another beforej umping back in, etc.
if you arent pursuing these as a career there is no reason why you cant jump around when one loses its spark either.
So, I've learned that my boyfriend is extremely manipulative; he'll blame me for having a "bad mood" when I set a boundary or that I'm cheating on him because he "hears things" in the background when we're on the phone, and that there's "someone's hand" when we're on video chat.
Today I told him to get help and grow up, that's when he said that I was blowing it all out of proportion. -- I'm sorry, I'm just not going to take defending myself of being accused when he won't listen anyway.
He'll...
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>but I won't break up with him
Then there will be no useful advice we can give.
This is not "a bad bump" behavior. This is obsessive, paranoid, jealous behavior. That doesn't "go away". No matter how much you think you can, you're not going to be able to "fix him" or "work it out".
He will always be this level of crazy. It will not stop. When you're both 60 he'll scream at a young waiter for "hitting on you" because he asked if you'd like something to drink.
>>16785289
Lovely.
Thank you, kind Anon.
>>16785279
>I won't break up with him because I feel that this is just a bad bump in our relationship
totally reasonable.
>one that I feel we'll never get over
Completely unreasonable. A bad bump is by definition temporary. If the bad bump isn't a bump, that means you have a bad relationship.
Sounds like you are afraid to be without a boyfriend, even if he's paranoid and manipulative.
Been too long since I've seen a good one. Lost most of mine but will will bump with what I do have
Come on guys I know you have things to contribute! Hacks, guides etc
So I just wanted to talk about something thats been on my mind lately.. just to get some input on it and hopefully a bit of insight.
At 17 I was living in my dads truck outside of his apartment. After 5 months of this my best friend killed his mother while I was outside of their apartment waiting for a ride to my fathers truck. I heard the entire thing but assumed it was a movie at full volume. After he came out with a crate full of stuff and said he was moving out I bought us both mcdonalds and loaded some bowls for us. I asked what was wrong and he said he and his mom argued about me sitting on the steps.
Then the hood of the car flew open on the highway, he saw that as a vision from god so he crashed at 60 into the nearest exit divider trying to kill us. Totaled the car so as were walking he swallows about 30 trazodone and I put the other 30 in my pocket so he doesnt take them. We make it to walmart and he disappears so I hitchhike to the truck. I wake up after my dad drives home from work to two police surrounding the truck with guns out. They search me and find pipe and pills, I have the weed in my sock.
I get arrested and sent to a questioning room ive never been in and ask about friend but give no details. They uncuff to make me comfortable and leave the room. I turn away from the camera and stuff the weed in my ass cuz im definitely gonna need to smoke after this. So he comes back in and I get processed and see friend in jail lobby. He couldnt talk but spelled out mom and god with his hands so I assume he beat her up. Im out on bail in a couple days thanks to dad. On the walk to dads I see candles on his doorstep. Sitting on dads steps the downstairs neighbor asks if im the guy that killed his mom and I realize whats happened all once.
After visiting him in jail I learned he was looking for a rock to kill me with the whole time. I think as a 6' 4 basketball scholarship to ut havin mf he couldve done it too.
Thoughts to start?
>Crashed at 60mph into an exit divider
>As we were walking
Nigga what. Get the fuck out of here with your attention seeking livejournal bullshit.
>>16785268
>totaled the car
Fucking faggot learn to read and sorry my style of narrative doesnt fit within your acceptable range you uppity bitch
>>16785259
You sound like a faggot who hangs around faggots OP. Give it a few years and you'll probably be a heroin junkie and getting ready to die soon.
I need help /adv/. I am at my wits end with women. I have no idea what I am doing and I am 25. Never had a girlfriend. Anyway, I was going to attempt to ask this cashier out at a store I go to often. However, I have no idea how to approach it.
I was just going to be honest with her and say
"Hey, I know this sounds out of place but I want to get to know you better but I don't really know how to do it." Basically, I was just going to try FULL BLOWN HONESTY. Because its the truth. I want to get to know her but I have no fucking idea how!
So what...
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Is it even appropriate to talk to cashiers like this?
>>16785248
I don't think that's a good idea. Instead, I would try to just talk to people about nothing. This isn't a joke - start conversations with people all day. You have to learn how to talk to people.
It'll feel strange at first until you learn the ropes of what works and what doesn't. After you practice, you will be able to start conversations pretty much at will with most people. THEN you talk to the cashier lady.
>>16785292
But the issue is that talking to cashiers or people on the job.. you gotta be quick. You can't just stand there and chat away. right?
