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Not asking for advice, just venting my thoughts.
I'm a guy, and have a male friend I've known since highschool. He has had all of two GFs that have both ended with him depressed and lonely. I, myself, am into most clean and sane things. Him and I are great friends now, as he now has access to resources I enjoy, while I have an income that keeps me more then happy, and can spend on him time to time (movie tickets, lunch).
I would like to push our friendship into one with benefits. Clearly my friend is a fan of girls, and I have yet to ask him head on (I'd never do so when he in a relationship). Now, he is talking of girls online and asking me if he should even bother. I've told him to "just buy a fleshlight as it has worked for me", which he took as both "lol" and "maybe you are right".
Tonight, while enjoying our vices, I told him we should hang out sometime and "vidya and chill". He took it as "oh you don't know that joke lol!". I mentioned it again after a few hours of other fun discussions, he just lold.
I'm either expecting him to say "eh I'm not into that, but thanks", or to say "Let's hang out more". This simple LOL is putting me on edge.
Thanks for letting me vent. I don't feel bad, just kinda excited.
>>16784821
>known him since highschool
>choose now to tell him I want to slap weiners together
lol dude just fucking get on grindr like every other faggot out there. Don't sacrifice a core friendship just because you're not getting any cock elsewhere.
HE SAID YES
I ASKED HIM IF HE WANTS TO VIDYA AND CHILL TOMORROW AND HE SAID YES
>>16784964
Really? :D does he know you want the D tho?
I feel lonely, all I do is go to college, study, eat and go to bed. I tried to make friends but most people I've met have been complete utter idiots or I've been unable to connect to people. What should I do to make more friends?
I can already tell you are an outcast because you're a frog poster. Stop thinking you're better than everyone and maybe someone will actually want to be around your pathetic ass.
Also make like a frog and hang yourself faggot.
>>16784814
Lighten up, Francis.
OP, find some interests you like to do; do those interest with other people; talk about said interest with those people. Boom...friends.
>>16784802
It doesn't actually sound like you've tried to make friends. Maybe don't think that people you've just met are utter idiots and you'll get along better faggot.
My ex keeps sending Snapchat vids of her hanging on, kissing, doing whatever with guys. They're all frat boys so I don't feel sorry for the rape that will inevitably happen in the future, but still, she's pissing me off. How can I retaliate?
>>16784789
>my ex is actively trying to make me jealous. what do?
Lol, this means she still likes you. Also, if it bothers you so much, just delete her. Problem solved m8. Don't be rustled.
>>16784811
She's the one that dumped me.
>>16784842
So?
So /adv/ I got a question. For the last 3 years I have gotten a girlfriend in the holiday season (December) dated for a bit and broke up within a week of Valentines day (2014 and 2015 was the week after, this year the week before). So why does this happen? Obviously I can get girls to date me but its never long term. Those 3 were my only girl friends. 25 male btw. Does this just mean I am a boring boyfriend or somthing that gets old fast after my humor runs dry after a month? Sorry for the run on sentence, i am drunkish. Pic probably not related, cant see whats in the thumbnail. Also I noticed there is a national sucide prevent hot line number right under where you post. I know why its there, but is it really that bad here? First time posting.
>>16784780
You probably weren't a good fit for them. They wanted to date you for a few months, which is good; but they could have broken up with you for a bunch of reasons.
If you're boring, no problem; there are shitloads of mind-numbing boring women out there to be with.
Pretty much all relationships which aren't meant to be will fizzle out in that time span. It's also not shocking that you meet women during a time in the year when people most realize and contemplate their loneliness. Your situation is unremarkable. Just keep trying to date more often.
>>16784780
Did they say why or went ghost?
Rationally I know sex is stupid. Why are holes fun anyway? They're just stupid holes. But I feel desire and need and I can't shut it off. Should I just kill myself before I submit to an earthly life of flesh and sin?
>>16784776
Yes.
>just holes
u know what hell is
>just holes
do it anon. you can't escape.
I am looking for assistance in starting life with "a clean slate". Quite frankly I have no idea where to start as far as the people to know that have the resources to help me.
I can fix you up. Buy an air ticket to Peru. Post your flight number, date, and arrival time. I'll be waiting at Lima airport with a sign that says "Euan Owen".
I'm broken right now.. I liked this girl for 3 months but haven't even talked to her. She recently got a boyfriend too, whom is just like me too.. I asked her out and she told me she currently has a boyfriend. Except that it was alright and that I knew that she doesn't like this guy. I believe me, I wouldnt ask her if I knew she had one. Except that instead of that piece of shit boyfriend I was thinking of, just today I saw the person who is just like me hug the girl i like and proceeded to class.. I thought I had a chance, but I blew it. I should've asked sooner, she seems perfect for me.
My heart is broken and I don't know what I can do so please how can I feel better? One of my friends (who doesn't know her at all, fyi) said I should keep saying hi to her. Good idea?
I've been obsessing for awhile, and just the day I asked her out it seemed like she got asked out by someone just liked me before me..
Image is of an INFP.. Which I am classified as
Sorry it's hard to read.. typing on my phone. If I could make corrections I would
>>16784728
There are tons of women out there. You're young and therefore stupid, so you think you're broken because some random chick is dating someone else.
You'll be fine, sport.
Ignore her and don't obsess over one girl. It's not healthy. Also don't put women on a pedestal, talk to them how you would talk to your friends.
i just need some help aboury my illness... i have hallucinations, i see shadows everywhere and have and horrible anxiety for them watching me, this is a serious mental pressure i can barely stand and it's eating my mind. i hear voices and see doubles of the people i know
all this kinda-schizophrenic stuff it's driving me nuts but i can't go to psychiatric or psychologist again, i hate'em with all my soul, many of them say i'm a society danger, psychopatic disorders, multiple personalities, and a large etc.
even my mental health record says i'm unable to work
I don't smoke/drink/drug/hurt/dope myself, but i'm running out of patience to tolerate myself and in multiple times i thought about kill myself, but this is not the solution
i think the help can came out of unexpected sites, so i'm here(sorry for my bad english)
what should i do?
there's a way to take this illness away? some self-therapy?
Your problem is medical and you won't get the solution from 4chan. See a doctor or a counsellor and address your issues instead of hiding from them. Godspeed anon.
>>16784759
>Your problem is medical and you won't get the solution from 4chan. See a doctor or a counsellor
This. Sorry dude, I know its not what you want to read, but I think Its best. You should either go to a pro or find some way to help yourself.
Or if you really cant see a pro again, Meditation perhaps?
>>16784725
Geez man, take your meds. The other guy's got it right. There's nothing you can do on your own, right now.
No magic pills, words or trinkets here. Afflictions like that are for life and meds are the way to have a normal-ish existence.
Need some help guys..
Not getting into too many details, I think I'm falling for one of my good friends wives. I would never ever act on this, but I have some serious feelings for her, and I'm not too sure that the feeling isn't mutual.
Is there any scenario where this doesn't end in disaster? Should I simply distance myself from said couple?
I feel like a bad person just typing this, but I need to vent to some objective third patties
Don't feel bad. Men want to fuck. Women want to fuck. A huge proportion of marriages end with adultery. It's just your nature. Saying that, there are plenty of women out there that you could be fucking instead. Why is this one girl so important that you have to seek advice from 4chan?
>>16784699
It highly depends on your own values. Do you value a romantic relationship more than friendship? Do you value your friendship with said friend more than you value the chances you have with his wife?
If you let his wife know, she'll have to deal with those questions herself, but remember instead of friendship, she'd be in a conflict about ditching her husband for a friend of his.
If you don't value your friendship enough not to end up acting on this, do distance yourself from the couple or you could ruin their marriage. Your friend would likely be really depressed for a while, might even try to murder you[both].
The situation where you distance yourself from the couple is one which avoids disaster. That doesn't mean you need to avoid the guy. Just don't hang around her so much. Invite him out separately. I'm sure their marriage will survive him having a guy friend of his own.
I might of upset a guy who had a crush on me.
This past Friday our convo went like this.
Me: what are you doing this weekend?
Him: nothing really you?
Me: my friends having a party and I have to work sunday.
Him: oh (dissapointed)
He wasnt at school today...
What do you guys think? what should I do?
You deeply, deeply insulted him you whore
Do you like him? Call him and see if he wants to hang out.
Do you not like him? What do you care then?
>>16784705
Fuck
>chest is tight
>arms are numb
>throat is swollen
>felling of nausea
Is a heart attack or heartburn?
>>16784689
/adv/ is like visiting the dr
we need more info
what is your age
weight
male or female
how long have you had symptoms
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just like the dr
people cant just guess without more info
>>16784826
But unlike going to a trained and board-certified physician, asking on /adv/ will not provide you with any useful information or accurate diagnosis.
>>16784689
Call doc sire
Hey everyone,
So I am a student and I am currently fluent in 2 languages (English and French.) I am also studying Spanish and in less than 2 years I am near fluent thanks to my French. Starting around last September, I began studying Japanese by myself as there is no program in my school or anywhere near. I have not made much progress, but I know 1 of 3 alphabets and I am working on Vocabulary, phrases etc. I am also "involved" with a Korean girl and I have recently been watching lots of Korean TV. I have not started learning Korean whatsoever, but I wondering what I should study. I originally wanted to study Japanese due to the culture, women and a close friend of mine was also studying it (and still is.) Now that I have been introduced to Korean culture and language, I am at a crossroad. I am very good with languages so It may be possible to learn both Korean and Japanese, but considering the fact that I would have to use my own time, it would take a LONG time. I am currently considering a few options: 1. Drop Japanese for Korean and continue Spanish 2. Continue Spanish and Japanese and disregard Korean 3. Try to study all 3 4. Drop Spanish and Study Korean and Japanese. I am seriously confused on what to do and I would give anything for some advice. Thank you so much for reading till the end.
>>16784685
Korean is marginally easier to learn than Japanese (speaking from experience). You will have a better time with Korean until you get into the harder grammar/honorific systems. If the girl is your reason for studying Korean, ask her how she feels about you learning it and maybe helping you study sometime. If you do not know both phonetic alphabets for Japanese, what are you doing. It takes a week, tops, of flashcard use to pick up both alphabets. If you've been studying for like 6 months, you should be trying to pick up some kanji by now. At this point, if doing Korean will further your relationship with this girl and you don't have any strong attachment to Japanese, why not just switch to Korean.
Spanish is a language with high utility. I would recommend finishing out studying Spanish to whatever level you are comfortable with before picking up the second Asian language.
I cant reply for some reason.
>>16784724
there's literally only one post - if you're too new to work the reply system then just write another post
I want to ask this girl to a school dance and then hook up with her at the after party, but she doesn't drink. Should I still try to go through with this? Could I still drink, or is it best if I don't because it could make her uncomfortable.
>>16784667
Don't plan sex.
Don't plan the evening.
Just ask her off the cuff if she wants to go to it, like its no big deal.
If she says no, its fine.
See where the night takes you.
Drink if you feel like drinking.
tl;dr Do what you want to do.
I'm camping this weekend in a tent. The forecast is a high of -18 and a low of -25, no snow though.
I know all the basic tips for keeping warm like pee before going to bed, wear lots of layers and eat hot sugary foods.
Any extra tips for a comfortable sleep and avoiding hypothermia?
Put a rock in the fire to get hot, then wrap it in something and put at bottom near your feet in your sleeping bag .
Put lots of layers beneath you as well in your bedding. If it's around and can be laid flat, put it under you. Everything that separates you from the ground is a plus.
Also be careful about moisture. There's bound to be condensation in the tent from your breath alone, but make sure the sides of the tent aren't sloping down toward your bedding. You don't want to get wet because you really can't afford to take stuff off.
native reporting in
northern cree who had trapper parents
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if you have a wood stove in your tent
cut down a 10 to 12 foot skraggy pine - skraggy, deader the better
dont cut any branches and do not cut into sections
just drag the tree near the front of your tent with base near the entrance
sleep near the stove with a small axe
in the morning - just reach out grab the tree, drag part of it in, break off the branches use for kindling
cut into log lengths as you move it in
use smaller pieces to start fire
use large pieces to get fire going
by the time the tree is all used up and burnt, you are ready to start your morning
- -
this is how most trappers went to bed at minus 40 and 50
My dick itches after I have sex with my GF. Has anyone else had this happen.
Yes. Wash it off afterwards.
>>16784643
My dick itches after I have sex with your GF too.
Seriously bro, get tested.
My groin area does itch a little if she's on top due to fluids leaking out + friction. Shower or clean yourself well with a towel afterwards.
