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why are cynical and nihilistic thoughts always associated with teenagers? i understand the whole "teenage angst" thing, but why are these not legitimate gripes to have with the world? why are they looked at as juvenile?
Because you get over them and get on with life. Thinking everything is perfect and meaningful is childish. Being disappointed that it isn't is just the next step.
Because teenagers haven't developed enough to fully grasp their surroundings. They have a different mentality that makes it hard to see the big picture and so they tend to focus on the bad rather than see the bad and good.
We grow out of that though and learn to appreciate the world more fully. So it's rare and usually indicative of something more serious when fully developed adult sees the world as a teenager does.
>>16784635
I feel nihilistic about life and see this life as a great irony and im in my 30's
I've tried to see a more optimistic view on life, but I cant shake truths for lies.
There is no real happiness here...it's how it is
How much should I set the starting bid for pic related on Ebay if it was also signed by two of the voices actors for ti?
>>16784624
Set it at .01 and if its worth $ it will get there
Sometimes I get to thinking about something wasted - like a video game I got and never really played, some food I let go bad and had to throw away, clothes I bought and didnt wear. I even got hair extensions once and hated them and took them out right away.
It hurts me deeply and makes me feel like a horrible person.
Do others feel this way?
>>16784616
Stop dwelling on the past.
I regret these dubs
>>16784616
Others with OCD feel this way.
So i don't know if there was anyone remember it but I posted like 2 threads about how to get the guy I like,made some moves. This is the newest update and I think it's gonna be the last.
>Went to his apartment for party with others.
>I couldn't make it so i got there a bit late.
>There was zero moment between us because he was so busy with cooking and talking and drinking. There was a time his face really red when he sat next to this female friend,people keeps making...
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Sounds like you already decided, why do you need advice?
Your moves to get a guy involve insulting him by turning up late when he's going to the effort of cooking for you and your friends, then dropping very veiled hints that you like him, then stating outright that the guy your into is actually someone else, but otherwise communicating in a complex code that each member of the group is making up independently and potentially with diametrically opposite meanings, based on a children's game?
Doomsday hypotheses were clearly too optimistic. This is the end of the human race, as people encrypt their flirtation so securely...
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>>16784618
Because I don't know. I'm feeling like I've lost something. I told my sister i was fine and all. But I'm feeling lost inside.
Anyone know the best strip club in NYC to get some extra bang for your buck. giggity.
No one had stripper fucking advice?
>>16784606
Strip joint? Just hire a hooker.
>>16784832
Gotta worry about getting robbed/shot.
I've been having this problem for a long time.
I'm a relatively attractive man. Enough so that I'll occasionally get approached by attractive women. Being an introvert I would say that in the vast majority of encounters I'm the one being approached. If I'm not too awkward about it then I get a chance to take her home.
But the big problem is in the bedroom.
I can't get it up.
It's been like this for years and it seems to be only getting worse. At this point I never ever find myself getting an erection when there are any...
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Are you having sex for her pleasure or yours? Which do you prioritize?
>>16784605
Hers. A few years ago I would say mine or both but at this point I'm just desperately trying to pleasure the girl to make up for my impotence. It never works though. They always expect dick in the end
>>16784612
Then do the opposite.
How do I fix knowing how to act around others at all?
I have ADHD, aspergers, clinical depression, generalized anxiety and a panic disorder, sadly, all officially diagnosed. I have been bullied in all my years in school (quit 1 year ago) and emotionally abused at home for another 6. I basically don't feel like an equal human being most of the time. I think all of these things are making it very hard for me to socialize, and I often avoid social interaction.
I never really know how to act in social situations, other than stupid small talks and making uninspired unfunny jokes. I have the very social basics down, such as making eye contact, proper posture & body language, knowing social borders, awareness of surrounding, etc. But I can't seem to click with anyone ever. I currently hang with a bunch of social rejects (the kind everyone would avoid - bronies, furries, socially incompetent geeks, weeaboos, generic losers) because we have games, series, movies and occasionally some flat out geek tabletop/board games. That doesn't require any social interaction. Take that away, and I practically fall on my face in any social situation. And even with these distractions, I am uninteresting most of the time, but that seems to be fine amongst the people I hang with. But here's the worst part: I don't even enjoy hanging with them. I'm often told I'm an alright guy, but no one even bothers to maintain contact with. And after a long period of not being so disappointed I stopped talking to everyone, I have even forgotten how to start a conversation and keep it going. It's so bad that depression seems to be creeping in from all sides. I want to become a better guy before the depression takes away the will to, because it all feels like one big downward spiral.
What do I do? Am I a lost cause? Please help me /adv/, tell me what I can do. I am desperate at this point and don't want to live my life this way. I need a way out.
Fix the depression first.
>Exercise, sunlight, art therapy have been shown to work.
>>16784562
I know for a fact that ADHD isn't that impactfulon adulthood than in childhood, don't worry about it.
as for clinical depression, generalized anxiety and you panic disorder, I guess it all start from the same source, and you might have hit the nerve when you speak about your emotionally abuse.
I can't find you the proper answer for you, just hang in there. Don't see yourself as doomed, you're far from it, I'm not going into that cliché speech that's not the point. Just avoid thinking that these are stable condition that will stay your own life.
I don't know how do you live, do you have enough free time to do some exercices, or maybe learn something from books ? My point is that you're getting depressed over the fact that you're depressed, there is not exit for that. Get out of your vicious cycle. You can do anything you want to. Try studies you might enjoy, philosophical, psychological ( worked for me, I love myself here because I enjoy thinking about that)
However you seem quite intelligent, for your own good, you seem to overthink the basic principle of social interaction, take it lightly, it's only a funny moment to enjoy when trying to speak to someone. Shyness, when it's coming from the lack of experience or the fear of abuse toward you is overdone, try to get over it and push yourself a little, try yourself in a place where you don't know nobody, be polite, be funny, don't hesitate to act a little confident because "true" confidence don't come, at least not until you've faked some.
As long as you're not a creepy dude, breaking loose, nobody will blame you for the mistakes you will do, just act natural, not yet relaxed I don't believe you can do that you are overthinking it, but still try to be natural to others.
Maybe if you really scared about it, read a few books about it. I don't believe they're better than your own experience, but it might get you a little confident about it.
Enjoy life, as it is the most beautiful thing ever Anon.
>>16784588
Ur maiing me hungr
how do you bring up the subject of exclusivity with a girl. im 99% sure we already are but i want to have it out there.
i feel like bringing it up cold would be wierd. i might just be over thinking this...
Give her an orgasm, then bring it up the next day.
>>16784577
this was already my plan but i meant more specifically
>>16784557
Options
1. Soo we're exclusive right?
2. Im so glad you're my girl
3. I think its obvious, but we exclusive
4. Wanna be my valentine fo eva?
5. How do I ask you to be my gf?
Idk other ways to ask ::-\
Okay, so I'm a massive autist but I wanted to get a valentines day gift for this girl I know, or at least consider it. She's the only girl that has ever listened to me out of pity but I figured fuck it why not. Even if she never talks to me again, I tried.
She's a chem student I've known her for a bit but some of the old times we've talked are lost on me. She likes the heat and city scapes, fan of 80's music right now, hard to tease though.
Literally no fucking idea what to give her and I've known her for like two years now....
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>>16784551
Just get her a cheap necklace or wristband.
I don't know her style so it's up to you bro. Usually you want to show that you seem to know or have observed her personal taste.
Just get her a generic teddy bear. If you make it too special and personal you might come off as desperate or creepy.
I know cyborgs must be browsing. Any ideas at all?
Fuck me man. Maybe a book? She likes to read.
Alright guys, here's the ordeal.
>19 years old
>Still living with parents
>Going to community college
>I fucking hate school and hate spending time there.
>Can't do shit about because parents want me to be "Something" in life
>I have a hard time with classes, this is my second semester and I'm already falling behind one class
>I...
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bumping for hope
shit cmon guys
I shot the sherrif
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Need to start eating healthier
every day all i eat if frozen pizzas and other frozen products
and lots of junk food
trying to eat healthier by eating fruit and more unprocessed meats
but im thinking of just dropping all the crap i usually eat
i also drank about 2litres of coke a day
i stopped for a few weeks
and started drinking more water
coke makes me sick now
hoping thats a good thing
wondering what kind of diet to eat
foods that are good and filling but are healthy or at least not that bad for you
Rice is good, and easy to cook.
>>16784536
it sounds like youre on the right path, just keep on it
>>16784639
im already kinda skinny,
i feel if i eat completely healthy and cut out all
the usual crap i might become too skinny
How do I quit smoking weed?
I think I'm finally at the point of my life (24) where weed has just become a detriment, it's adding nothing to my life. I've been a pot smoker since the age of 14, so it's pretty much such an integral part of my life... I find it hard to imagine life without weed. I look at other friends who stayed away from weed in high school/college and they've all climbed further ahead in life than me, who dropped out of uni the first time then went back and is still struggling to graduate.
I don't think I can balance...
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>>16784528
I'm actually going on a break.
More often than not its easier on you if you know it's just a temporary break. But if you wish to stop completely, that's your perogative.
Ive been smoking non-stop everyday using my vape for the past 2 years and I smoke 3 more years before that.
The best way to stop is to literally stop. You will feel craving arise, but that's the point. You want to remove yourself from the feedback loop of craving. This will require willpower.
You can...
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>>16784528
Run out of money, donate it all to charity so you cannot buy anymore
Is this "fuck off" in guy language?
>>16784487
Short answers = no good
Thats when I wait for him to Text something to start a convo
>>16784497
had a bad feeling. he gave the old "my life is very busy suddenly" bullshit too. should I just abandon ship now and block his number? I really liked him and I don't feel like being hurt by the slow fade.
>>16784497
This hurt.
How do I keep friends, /adv/? Throughout my life every time two of my friends meet they end up being better friends than I was with either and I am left behind.
>>16784468
ouch. thats a rough feel. that being siad you can't really change it. how can you predict chemicals and random reactions.
>>16784468
Don't introduce your friends.
There's a girl who seems to want to fuck me but I want to have her as a girlfriend. She's always down for casual sex but doesn't want any commitment. I get jealous when I see her with other guys.
How do I get over being so possessive so I can just enjoy having sex with this girl?
You just need to accept that she is nothing to you. Also some people are just not okay with casual sex.
