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How do I be a good husband?
Your pic is pretty much what is there to it.
Be kind.
Don't sweat the small stuff.
Make good communication a priority.
Make your wife feel wanted and needed.
>>16784097
Not look at other women with lustrous thoughts
So i got myself a degree and a job.
Now i have a neet girlfriend with social phobia.
We had sex on the first date, that was ok, i was basically permavirgin up until now.
Problem is, she has no money, so i have to buy her tickets and things for her to come visit me.
Is this doomed to fail? I feel like it is, but on the other hand it's the best i've had so far.
She's fun. Morbid. Politically incorrect. I just love it.
It's hard to get neets out of their comfort zone. Gradually try and tell her to find a job, help her look too. Find something that has little to no social interaction, like stocking or data input or something small to start. Its for the best to try and break her out of her shell.
>>16784092
its hard to motivate yourself (even if you are good at it)
it's even harder to motivate someone else
if she needs a push - give her a push - but it requires too much work on your part - break it off - you will be better off in the long run
So I applied for this job and it supposedly for a Swedish Steel company who operates in Canada (Where I live). They want me to operate as their representative here to process their payments with customers located here.
The thing that made me question the whole thing is they want me to open a new personal bank account to move around the payments because they claim it's difficult to open a business account.
Does seem like a scam? I'm not sure because it's my first time applying for something like this.
Yes it is absolutely 100% a scam. Cease all contact immediately. No real business should ever ask its employees to do transactions for it in their personal bank accounts; if you do, you will be breaking the law and may go to jail.
Time to look for employment in a more wholesome and legitimate sector, such as carpentry. No scams in woodwork!
>>16784043
>Does seem like a scam?
Damn, the nigerian royalty is expanding.
What's their name?
What are some good self-help books or texts in general that focus on seduction and/or pickup artistry? I've already read The Art of Seduction.
none
>>16784042 AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
So I visited my boyfriend last month for a week, I live pretty far away. Thing is, I came back and everything was fine until I took one of the pregnancy tests he got me before I left (he mostly does this just in case) and turns out I'm pregnant. I was taking birth control but I was on two strong medications as well so I fucked up. Plus my period hasn't shown up since summer because of an eating disorder. Anyway, I'm scared as fuck to tell him. I don't know what to do. My family already know because my doctor scheduled me for a blood test and before I knew it, everyone knew. I mentioned abortion but my family thinks I'll die or something because of my previous near death experience I had last November due to my eating disorder. How the hell do I drop the bomb on my boyfriend?. I feel like I should be very upfront and just tell him. I did send him a long email with the pregnancy test and everything but I guess he hasn't read it since he just texted me like any other day. I could use some advice...
Be upfront and honest. He's a grown man, he should be able to stomach it.
How did you have a neat death experience?
meet with him in person asap and decide what's best for the both of you. An early abortion won't kill you, but the longer you wait the greater the chance of any complication.
>eating disorder
>being pregnant
If you're going to birth the child, please don't fuck up it's life by starving yourself during pregnancy
>partner with cute chick in class
>afterwards
>tells me she had fun
Then what?
>>16784023
Talk to her tomorrow.
Saying she had fun doesn't mean she's into you though.
>>16784061
Not seeing her until Wednesday. She has complimented me before, and makes it a point to talk to me in class. We did a project where she was asking me questions about myself in German. After the class, I said she "knew so much about me, but I know so little about you". She said she'd tell me anything I wanted to know. I made a joke to brush it off, but she's like 6 years younger than me, and she might be slightly retarded socially.
>we'd be perfect for each other
>>16784086
>she's like 6 years younger than me
>might be slightly retarded socially
What are you doing, op?
How old are you and what kind of class are you in?
I am still so hopelessly in love with my ex who wants me dead.
He was long distance, rarely returned my calls and texts, let me believe he was dead for three straight months, and eventually broke up with me in a text after I gathered evidence that he had been lying to me. I've been battling crippling depression after he left and believing that its all my fault he's gone, that I shouldn't have accused him of lying.
I hate myself so much, all i want to do is talk to him one more time and tell him i'm sorry. How do I get this man out of my head so I can function in my daily life again?
No no no, you're not sorry, what do you have to be sorry for? The guy used you and abused you, he's the one who should be sorry. Fuck that.
Here's what you do. You start getting happy. Pretend at first if you have to, but just do shit for yourself, shit you wanna do, other than land at this assholes feet.
If he sees you're happy, it'll eat him up inside, even if it doesn't show. He wants you to come crawling back, all miserable. Be stronger than that.
>>16784017
You have no idea how much that means to me...thank you
Similar thing happened to me
I wAs depressed for years. One day a friend reminded me
How long it had been (5 years) and I realized I had to move on.
Dude called me up To make AA reperations said he had been drunk off his ass the whole time and Wnted to hurt me.
Hes married now which makes me sad but I have a beautiful daughter so I dont mind too much.
Sometimes I do still wish he woud come back to me and be my childs stepdad
I had a callous-y bubble, blister type of thing on my finger and i ripped it off, then it turned to harder callous and i then again- ripped it off and weeks later of messing with it and cutting of the skin it leads to this. Now theres a hole that wouldnt stop bleeding. What is it??
You ripped off a wart, dumbass.
>>16784004
This.
Go get one of those wart removal kits. Have a doctor handle it if the kit doesn't work.
>>16784004
This lol
i did that once, took ages to heal
Hey, so I love this girl and I dont know how to get her attention. I watch all her videos and I realize im doing the exact same thing that she does with trump but I dont care I love her. Pic related. How should I get her attention? What should I do?
>>16783973
You don't fall in love with someone by watching videos of them. That's merely obsession. Leave her alone and go meet women in real life.
>>16783973
she looks like a fat moomins character
>>16783986
I just want to talk to her.
Alright, I'm heading into uni, and up until 6 months ago life was easy. I had external problems for sure, but mentally, I'd just deal with shit instantly when it came up. Now I'm on my way towards some type of weird depression where I'm lazy, I don't do anything, I can stay in bed for a week at a time, I stopped going to the gym and abandoned most of my pet projects. Everything close to me like friends, girlfriend and, to a certain degree, family, is just draining, and I find myself caring less and less.
>>16783961
So stop it
>>16783961
I'm in the exact same situation. I just can't be assed to do anything. I'm even laying in bed right now when I really should be studying
Advice for women on living in a "swimsuit edition" world?
I saw that phrase in a relationship book, advising men how hard it can be for wife (or gf) to live in a swimsuit edition world where there are scantily clad women and porn everywhere.
I know a few things:
A) not all men actually like the "type" shown on TV and magazines. Preferences vary widely and I see men fall hard for girls that look nothing like your typical starlet
B) I know many of these girls are complete whores and filthy and that turns guys off. I also once overheard a friend saying there are two types of girls: natural beauties and the girls that use makeup tricks to make themselves look like different people. He said when you go home with the latter you wake up and freak out when you see a different person in your bed the next am, with the first kind you wake up and your gonna grow. In the end, its the natural beauties you keep.
Now I have always been told that I am a natural beauty and I never had trouble getting male attention ever. I made long lasting relationships in whih I explored my sexuality.
I have a reputation for being a "tantric master" but not a slut. I also pursued academics and so although I try to take care of my dress and appearance I never had hours to spend learning facial contouring or any of these weird makeup tricks.
Now all through my life up until about 27 I felt great. I knew I was attractive, fun and funny, smart, great in bed, and sporty. I could be your best friend and best lover.
Then I spent a few months living in Oakland and my world shattered. All the girls were cookie cutters and whores and acted like idiots. I still had plenty of male attraction but women actively tore me down for not overtweezing my eyebrows or wearing my hair a certain way.
I havent really recovered.
I dont feel safe and secure.
I also see that as I get towards my 30s men give less and less care to cool girls or fun girls or smart girls and just want some arm candy with no personality.
I apologize for the post being so long but I would love to hear men weigh in.
Also-- I am a white girl, blond and blue eyes. But now I see a lot of white men talking about how "exotics" are so desirable. It makes me feel insecure. Are there still white men that love white women?
> inb4 white girls get married and get fat
So do most hispanic women and filipinos
This whole perspective seems to view relationships through the lens of "the other person's needs matter most." How about you take the same advice I give guys: figure out your needs first and do the best you can to meet them on your own. Save relationships for sharing the fruits of that labor with someone else. As for the personal details, be as good as you can for your own sake. You get to decide what "good" means.
I don't want to date someone whose entire life is feeling responsible for what I want. That's my job and I do it just fine already. That also includes my own ability to look for and find what I'm after. It's not your job to accommodate me. Figure out your own shit and I'll let you know if that suits my lifestyle.
>>16783978
No I am not saying how do I become this kind of woman.
Im saying,
In a relationship,
You still watch TV, look at magazines, walk by women.
And a lot of these women dress and make up with the intention of giving a man a boner.
As a woman, how do you deal with this without feeling insecure?
Should I stop with sarcasm? I have been sarcastic my whole life but people aren't getting that I'm being sarcastic now. Usually they think I'm being serious which is awkward for me and the person.
Surround yourself with less stupid people
>>16783964
It's usually girls and the stupid people that don't get it, should I just not use it around them?
Moderation..... You're being too sarcastic too often.
Just got told I have herpes, type HSV 1 if it matters. Is my sex life over?
>>16783948
Yep. Time to suicide.
You fucking idiot. Do you know how many people have that?
>>16783969
Quite a lot, but unless they have an outbreak you can't see it.
My gf and my future side chick have the same first name. Is this an advantage or disadvantage to me?
>future
>>16783943
>not being able to get a girl
It's in the bag, we just haven't fucked yet. We talk all the time, she sent me nudes. I was a KV not long ago, once you bang one girl a whole new world opens up.
Do you just not give a fuck about your girlfriend or?
I have a friend who is a big girl who is single and looking. The problem is she refuses to date black men. Is she racist? They flirt with her but she brushes them off and rejects them.
She doesn't come off as racist when I talk with her, but if she is I would like to know... Is refusing to date black guys a sign of racism?
>>16783882
Allright listen up nignog, she is letting you down easy.
Seriously, pack your bags and get on the boat back to afganistan since the bitch doesnt want to date you.
Accept that you are friendzoned and stop pulling the race card.
Is it racism to not wanting to date losers?
How many black guys do you know who are actually successful?
Equality doesn't mean everyone has to find everyone attractive. It's OK to have a type, and not racist not to want to sleep with people of a certain race if they just don't do it for you.
