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is it really that bad to fuck whores every now and then? As long as no one finds out, you're single and you use protection, does it really matter?
If you requirements stated are ment, no i guess not. Just not much dignity to it. If your a person that doesnt really care about that then its fine too
Used to be a Pimp. My personal view on the subject is that Pimps are a notch in the food chain above whores, and whores are a notch in the food chain above tricks. But from society's perspective that view is aberrant.
that's the purpose of a whore
I have an entire bottle of alcoholic egg nog in my closet. I opened it on January 10th and it has since not been refrigerated. I checked it today, and it appears to be just fine and smells the same. Can I drink it? What are the risks other than puking and shitting my brains out, which I am fine with.
Do it
I have this friend who irrationally hates himself
He thinks he deserves some eternal punishment, when in reality the autocracies he has committed are really petty or not even that bad of things.
Like, heres one, he thinks being clingly to his friends and desperately wanting to be their friends after they rejected him for being gay even dough he isn't
He has even resorted to giving strangers
presents to insult him and belittle him
Please, what can i do to help him. However, were only friends over the internet. What ways do you suggest i can help him?
>>16784958
>were only friends over the internet
>what can i do to help him
literally nothing if pep talks dont work
Nothing at all? What adivce can I get him to seek?
>>16784958
suggest a list of his cringes and tell him to order them. then make a change to never do it again. if he's serious and brainstorms, he will peptalk himself
also hes gay
topkek
My dad is going to off himself and I don't know what to do.
Background: He is a veteran of the US army. My mother divorced him a few years ago due to emotional instability, and has gotten a job from the Census Bureau to pay for child support (even though his retirement checks should cover it). He is an alcoholic. But he seemed to be on the up, so I had minimal concerns for him. Turns out he was laid off for the past six months, his apartment kicked him out today, and he spent his remaining check on god-knows what. So he kept ups this facade of stability even though his everything was going down hill.
He sent my mom a text an hour ago saying he's gonna do it and tell me and my brother he loves him. He then ran away from his house after I couldn't do anything, as mom just told me about half an hour ago. She called up a crisis line and they sent some cops after him. He is currently on the run right now. He is armed with a pistol.
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As of right now (I was briefed as i was typing this) he says he will come to our house unarmed (he sold one of his guns to buy my Christmas present and he is going to hand the other to my mother) to sleep the night away to clear up his head. How do I minimize the risk of harm to us and him? He agreed to dead drop his remaining gun on the porch and let us lock it up. I have a bad feeling about this.
Wat do?
I'll update in an hour at most if a significant event doesn't happen, if not don't assume the worst. (by the way if you doubt this thread, I am dead fucking serious but I understand if you think this is a troll)
-C
Hes five mins away,lets hope this goes smoothly
Call the crisis line and ask. This will most likely end up with him incarcerated in the mental facility. But at least he'll be safe, for tonight, anyways.
gun has been locked up
Recent ex-NEET here struggling to stay ex-NEET. Can anyone recommend me some motivating self-help books? Over the last few weeks, I've felt soul-crushing insecurity and loneliness and I think I just need to toughen the fuck up. Any books that are extremely empowering that can help keep me on my path would be great.
bump for help
College, in my US history class
Teacher wants us to sit in the same seat for a few weeks to take roll/learn our names/etc...
>3rd week in
>get to class 2-3 minutes late
>kid sitting in my assigned seat
>"... you're sitting in my
>"no
>"The teacher assigned us seats"
>"There's other seats over there"
>"I'm not trying to be an asshole, the teacher wants us to sit in the same seat"
>"OK"
>Kid obviously didn't give any fucks
I took some other seat, how am I supposed to approach something like this? This guy wasn't anything intimidating, super skinny guy with unshaven patchy hair. Fighting over a seat seems retarded, especially since it can get me expelled, but I don't want to come off as a push over either.
I don't even care about the seat
>>16784942
Shouldve took your childish instincts and said
>THE INSTRUCTOR SAID SO
>MRS ANON
>>16784951
I don't want to be some snitch either
>that's my seat, the teacher told us not to change seats
>faggot says he doesn't want to move
>Alright then
>teacher asks you why you arent sat in your seat
>say you told fag he shouldn't be sat there but he didn't move
Pretty simple op, if the teacher doesn't comment then who cares?
This woman wants to pretend to be my mom and then fuck me. Should I do it?
No, that's fucking wierd.
Do it
This is an sfw board
>Be me, a hs senior that just got dual enrolled at my nearest community college
>Basically I sit in the same room with the same people all day, get spoonfed basic college courses and get some college credit
>Still virgin and closest experience to getting laid in hs was getting drunk at female friend's house and getting kicked out for making some unwanted advances.
>So my class only has one girl; beautiful hippy-ish girl who has fat tities, smokes a lot of pot, and is weird in the whimsical way (pic related looks a lot like her)
>Icing on the cake is that she really wants to fuck a virgin
>signmeup.jpeg
>Last week tryed to get close to her by getting high with her after school with while a friend was visiting
>Found out 2 days later that after that she fucked my friend when they went home
>She's really obsessed with my friend now and is constantly trying to hook up with him, and she really dosent seem interested in me at all
>mfw I pretty much got cucked
Part of me want's to just let her be since were still friends and just accept my current beta status at the moment until next semester where I'll be around more girls on the regular. The other part is really upset I have to wait like another 7 months just to attempt to get pussy and still wants her badly.
What do /adv/?
>>16784931
middle ground. dont go for her, but look for other ways to supplement your dating and sex life. get a fake ID and go to bars. go to clubs that are for 18 and over. try chatting up random hotties. get (but dont solely rely on) tinder. etc.
give up on her tho. when girls like that talk about virgins they mean qts. if i had to guess, you're not a qt.
I have a big problem and I need your help.
First up, we were both virgins before, this is a 4 year relationship.
So, I have a sensitive vulva, not all of it just a little place in the labia so when im penetrated in the wrong angle it hurts and might get ripped and bleed a bit, hurts one day and then i'm ok.
He knew about this and I told him i'd tell him the best positions and we could work it out some time ago.
The other day he was horny af and we had the chance to fuck all day, so we are going to have sex and I try to tell him how to put it in the best angle so "it doesn't hurt that much"
Turns out after trying some positions he went all soft and there was nothing I could do.
Because I was trying to teach him now he's afraid he will hurt me and he can't get hard thinking about that.
I don't know what to do, he's nervous about other things too, but I know this is an issue with me. I'm getting an appointment to a gyno and some lube, but I don't know what else to do to calm him down.
Do I wait? Do I not start sex unless he asks me to? Do I just try for blowjobs now? (He gets hard with blowjobs but if we are trying sex again he stops getting hard again)
tl;dr: boyfriend with anxiety issues in sex, wat do
>>16784929
Do you talk to him about it?
>>16784935
Yes I talked with him about it, unfortunately he just said he had so much stress and didn't want to hurt me. Other than that it's for me to find out, I just want to know how to get over this or fix it besides waiting which might not work (and he might feel more pressured now)
>>16784929
Get him worked up with a blow job, when he's hard switch quickly to sex. If it hurts, bite your lip and pretend it doesn't. He will probably ask, just encourage him to come and act like you're loving it. You'll probably have to do this a few times.
He's not anxious, he's conditioned to lose his erection when it's in your pussy now (look up Pavlov). You'll have to reverse the conditioning.
Sucks, but it's the best way to do it, shy of just not having sex again. You should consult a doctor or sex therapist about oversensitivity in your vaginal wall, and how to mitigate it.
I currently work for a health insurance company as an underwriter, but I don't really like my job.
When I was in college, I wanted to be an engineer working in green technology, I had a passion for changing the world through renewable energy. But after I failed out of Mechanical engineering, I switched to Mathematics, with the hopes of getting any old decent job to pay my student loans and eventually returning to school for another technical degree of sorts. The problem is I dont know what technical degrees I should be looking into if I want to work in the renewable energy industry.
I had to take computer programming classes for my math degree, and I felt at home working on code projects, and the classes were very hands on as opposed to the types of classes in mechanical engineering and math. I felt like it fit my learning style, more of applied learning rather than studying for the exams.
Now I am 2 years out of undergrad, and time is flying by so I have to make a decision on continuing education asap. I'm trying to decide on which path I should take. I know I'm probably not gonna get accepted into a mechanical engineering masters, or a computer programming masters, and I actually don't think either of those degrees will directly apply to a job in green technologies.
I'd have to start with undergrad all over again if I want to be a renewable energy engineer. I'm most fascinated by solar energy, so maybe I should look into electrical engineering. I also understand that solar energy is more than just electronics, so does that mean I should be looking into systems engineering? I want to make sure I get back on the right path, but the thought of starting another rigorous engineering program makes me afraid of failure.
Carpentry, my friend
Don't have any advice for you, but as a current math major who actually loves his coursework but isn't smart enough to be an actuary, how is underwriting as a career? Is the salary nice enough to pay off student loans? Also what was your GPA and did you do any internships?
>>16785218
Underwriting is a pretty good job, with a clear career path and a very marketable set of skills. The salary at entry level is around 40k-50k depending on where you live. If I stick with underwriting I could be making over 100k within 10 years. My GPA was pretty bad because I wasn't motivated after failing out of mech-e... it was 2.6. I had one internship in accounts receivable, which is just corporate term for the collection department. Typical operations support role. I have come to realize that I really hate corporate office jobs. It's so boring sitting there at your desk all day.
I've recently started a new full time job about 6 weeks ago and I'm really enjoying it. It's an office job and the pay is good and my coworkers and I have already become close. My problem is ever since I started this job ive felt very distant from my girlfriend. I'm still in love with her but I've felt a distance between us. I playfully flirt with co workers but nothing more. I want to stay with my girlfriend but I feel like we're growing apart. She's supportive and kind but I just feel distant. It's not like I don't have other friends either but since this new job I don't know what to do? How to I rekindle my feelings with my girlfriend?
You sound very young. One day you'll learn how to separate work from home and realize these colleagues will drop you quicker than you can expect.
Alternatively you can include her in work outings or invite said colleagues over while both of you hosting together...as a team.
Hey /adv/isors, how do I go about looking for a place to rent?
I'm a college freshman, and I'm staying in a dorm right now, but I want to move to a house next semester, and preferably over the summer as well. I've talked to a couple of friends who want to do this with me, the only problem is I don't know where to start looking for a place. Where do landlords advertise this stuff? In the paper? Online somewhere? I don't really have anyone to ask... or at least anyone who I wouldn't feel embarassed to ask. Also, what should I look for and what should I look to avoid on a lease?
>>16784902
As a college freshman who decided to live off campus his first year, I can tell you that's it's a lot more effort that I expected just to maintain a place. That said, if you're sure you want to rent a place, just google "(your city name) apartments". There's all sorts of websites with basic info on location and price. Once you've found some good ones, call them and ask for a tour. Be looking for signs of age, included utilities/furniture, and their policies on noise, pets and stuff like that. Also make sure you've either got a car or a really good location. Shopping without a car sucks a ton of dick.
Let me just google that for you. There you go OP, glad I could be of assistance.
http://lmgtfy.com/?q=google
>>16784902
google apartments in your area as others said. also check out renting options via craigslist. dont give me shit about being murdered, its 2016, there are security measures in place. my recommendation is sublet for the first year. or at least six months if you can later get your own place.
sublettings good cuz it lets you figure out whats actually important in a living situation before committing to one. you can elave if it turns out to be more than you can handle as well.
for instance getting your own place... are you going to stay there even in the summer? if not how do you expect to get out of your lease? etc.
OK so lately, I've had problems with hearing voices. It's legitimately freaking me out now, I had a doctor's appointment the other day (a physical) and she seemed very concerned about my mental health. I am too. But I was scared to bring up anything about it to her, I have another appointment in two weeks.
It really does feel like hearing people laughing at me and calling me a loser. Like suddenly my whole brain is filled with the laughing even though I'm watching tv, at work, listening to music, outside doing something. I want it to stop and I don't know how to bring it up to anyone without seeming like I've totally lost my marbles or am just acting out like an idiot for attention. Often times I feel like there's a "bad" side of me, like another person bullying me; he even has a name, a very developed personality. Sometimes I'll even catch myself mumbling the things he says. I really don't want to be going crazy.
What the hell do I do? I live in Canada if it helps.
You need to bring this up with your doctor, they will find you a specialist who can help you.
You're suffering auditory hallucinations as well as some other stuff. It's possibly schizophrenia but I am not a psychiatrist and I do not want to speak as one.
See a professional, this stuff is treatable and is not the end of your life or your sanity. It's a quirk of your brain that can and has been handled well. I've known a couple schizophrenic people who are decent people who live normal lives, and you can, too.
the whole problem is the voices are very much telling me to either hurt myself or others, that's why it's so scary. honestly I try to feel more confident, working on improving my standing in life, becoming more fit. I guess a lot of failure in the past has fucked me up. I wish I knew how to build confidence and ignore the fucked up things in my head.
i'm very lonely most of the time
>>16784912
This. See a psychiatrist.
I'm really socially awkward and have a hard time making friends.
But that's not what this thread is about. My bigger problem now is that I've started getting better at making friends but I constantly feel self conscious with them. Mostly I feel like I don't know how to strike the right balance between giving attention and avoiding being clingy. I don't want to hang back or leave them alone so much that they think I'm avoiding them but I don't want to call/see them so much that I wear out my welcome with them.
How do you figure out the right balance? Will it just be really obvious when someone gets tired of you being around too much? Sometimes I'm supposed to call or text someone to say hi or see if they want to do something but then I feel like if I do so I just come across as clingy.
How do I stop being so awkward?
>>16784891
Has someone told you you're being clingy? Because if they haven't and you're still curious just pay attention to see if they're ignoring you or getting annoyed. Not saying you'd have to but if you expand your group of friends you won't feel clingy to that one friend
the best thing you can do is
>limit yourself to certain times
>get them to invest in said hang out times
>gauge their reactions
so first
>limit yourself to certain times.
i see casual friends at most, once a week. but at least once a month. i see good friends AT LEAST once a week, at best twice a week (but more for special occasions). i try not to force things beyond that. if someone gets annoyed seeing you once a week, chances are you arent meant to be friends. and its okay that they get annoyed with you. its not your fault. its just a bad connection. cut em out, or reduce them greatly.
>get them invested in hang out times
a lot of people are having a weird problem where they hang out and its just kinda weird. you just hang out. whats the point? whats drawing oyu two together?
so finding an actual activity to enjoy together, even if you didnt know it existed before helps. me and my friends seemed to LOVE each other when we were forced to work together, but having the mover just for dinner felt weird.
then they showed me some board games, and now we play board games twice a week and its a whole thing. when that got dull i introduced them to this REALLY whacky video game thats set up like a board game (like mario party) and they loved it. now we look forward to and talk about how crazy the last time was and get excited for the next play through etc. find something even if its weird and stupid to make them think 'wow that wa sfun, we need to do this again'. invite people to lasertag or whatever else is around. make a thing out of it.
>gauge reactions
this ones easy. ask to hang out. see how fast they get back to you. do they cancel easily? is it for a REAL reason? if they cancel or postpone a lot they just arent that excited abotu seeing you. maybe take a step back and see what they say to you. maybe limit yourself to only requesting a hang out once a month and seei f they ever request for YOU to hang out.
>>16785046
No, nobody has told me that. I even asked one of my friends and she just laughed and told me I was overthinking things and that she enjoyed my company. Still, hard for me to shake the feeling.
I know if I made more friends I could split my time up more, I just have trouble getting close to people. I can be friendly and make new acquaintances all day but just hard for me to connect beyond that.
I dont know what to do, we've been together for a year, i was unemployed for 2 months recently and I feel like i was taking all my stress out on her, now i completely regret it and I know ive fucked up bad. I love this girl to bits and cant stand to see her go, we have a vacation booked for spain in June, how do i convince her to try and hold on until then before we decide to split?
This is the only real tough spot weve had in our relatoinship and i dont want to fall at the first hurdle
>>16784825
Tell her how much you love her and want to work things out. If she doesn't know about the trip you may have to tell her prematurely.
Ask her how she feels view her perspective and shit.
Its tough going through patches, but it makes you guys stronger if you can get through it
>>16784850
We had that talk yesterday and she said she didnt know how we'd get back on track, she knows about the trip, we've been planning it since november. I've been through stuff like this before but she hasnt and I know its going to be difficult to get her thinking its possible to get back to a good place
>>16784825
is this break up legitimately happening, or is it somethign you see arriving? like is it already at the phase where she said you need to break up, or is it just you guys having some frustrating time together?
if shes already said 'we need to break up' hten its too late. its over.
but if you guys are just teetering on the edge waiting for someone to say its over, you're in luck.
take whatever money you have lying around
>BUT IM BROKE
then use a credit card
>BUT I DONT HAVE ONE
>then sell something
>LIKE WHAT
like your X box
>BUT I LIKE THAT
exactly. THEN, after getting said money, do something special for her. like tonight. or tomorrow. surprise her. take her to a REALLY nice dinner, then out to a movie, and just enjoy her. if you enjoy her, holding her, smelling her, being close to her. she'll feel that. girls are designed to respond to attention. its how they know they are loved.
give her a good night of things specifically she would like, maybe even things she likes that you hate. then take her home and dont expect anything. do something like a massage to top it all off, and just at the end as you're aflling asleep, apologize for the last few months and thank her for being the wonderful person she was and sticking with you.
continue little nice things throughout the week to ween her back to normal relationship mode. make breakfast hte next morning, help her wiht an activity she normally does alone and just smile and say you wanna do it to spend time iwth her. etc.
