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Is getting an apartment with a feminist a bad idea?
>>16784244
That depends. Are you a woman?
>>16784251
No, I consider myself to be an MRA activist.
>>16784293
Then no, because from my understanding you would be more likely to attempt to start some type of debate. It's just not good for either of you. If you're really having a tough time getting a place by all means go for it, but never bring politics into your daily life.
My parents are crazy - how do I deal with this?
I'm the oldest of 3 bros. Always was the best in school, respectful growing up and well-liked. Close with middle brother who's near my age, but youngest is a rude dipshit. He's received blatant preferential treatment his entire life, and it has ruined his personality.
They've always treated me like a baby, even though I'm mid-20s and finishing fucking law school in a few months. When I got my first GF, in fucking college, parents went apeshit. I maintained near-perfect grades, never got in trouble, but they still went crazy (lived in same town). Installed a GPS on my phone, followed me around on weekends, hired friends to spy on me, monitored if I bought alcohol, monitored finances to not let me pay for anything that could be for her.
They still keep up the same shit now. Refer to my current GF (really hot, now pharmacist) by "Bitch" instead of her name. Call her racist names (she's the same race we are). Make up stories about how her family is crazy (they've never met them or known them). Even wrote threatened to write letters to her family. Still drive 100+ miles to show up at my apt unannounced to crash us and verbally berate us.
My little shit brother - who has gotten everything he wants his entire life - is 17 and in a "long-distance" relationship with some little shit HS girl. They love her - she's over at their house weekly, they fucking buy HER shit, and they let him sleep over at her house. He came home with an STD and they never even gave him an ounce of shit for it. She's legitimately ruining his grades and dragging him down, yet they don't give a shit.
What can I do to make them see this hypocrisy? I don't want to ruin the relationship with my family, but this is insanity. Even coming home to visit, mom puts limits on me taking showers too long (little bro took a 45 minute shower other day), going out too late etc. Do I just accept that I'll never be close tot them? They're great besides this.
>>16784220
The contradictory ways in which they treat you and your younger brothers is unfortunately pretty typical shit, and while it might improve it will probably never go away.
However, the way you describe their treatment of your girlfriend is way over the line, and sounds childish at best. Put your foot down and tell them that you will absolutely not tolerate them talking about the woman that you love that way, and once you finish school, let them know that they are not permitted to show up at your home uninvited. Remember that regardless of their status as your parents, you are a legal adult - they are no more "allowed" to harass you than an unhinged neighbor is.
Might cause a shitstorm, but your long-term mental health (and the health of your relationship) is something that you and they should be more concerned about.
>>16784220
It seems your relationship with your family is already ruined anon.
Be a fucking man
>>16784259
Yeah it's horrendous.
They literally are talking about which Valentine's Day gift to buy and send to his little shit GF. Of course the little douche (who has no concept of money whatsoever - never had to get a job unlike the rest of us) pulls up some $50 Amazon Teddy Bear bullshit. "What, come on, it's only $50! Geez" - and I can hear them crack and say okay sure. Is going to go spend the night with her and her family on some trip over that weekend too.
Meanwhile, they caught a box of condoms in my apt a couple years ago and went i-n-s-a-n-e, threatening to disown me and making me feel like trash for a week. And yes I'm strongly considering proposing when I graduate, so this is really pissing me off that I'm still treated like a child and belittled daily. They completely deny any mistreatment and throw a bitch fit when called out on this.
Can't wait till I'm making my own money and out of here. Still, it will kill me to never be close to them over this shit. But I feel like if I let them win, they'll just do it again with my next GF for some arbitrary reason.
I really need to find a post from about January 2015 to March on /fa/
The problem is warosu is dead and the new archive only goes as far as October 2015
Anyone have any ideas?
>>16785245
Suicide?
Is it possible to turn yourself gay?
I'm finding it virtually impossible to even get a date and I'm just so fucking tired of being alone.
It's not.
source: You don't want to know how low I've been.
Well we had a joke among our friends when we were teenagers
"Are u gay?"
"No"
"How are you so sure did you try it?"
One day one of them said(not seriously ofc)
"Yeah ive tried it and i didnt like it"
But i guess thats the whole point, if you want to be gay you should like gay sex, thats all, nothing will make you gay except fucking other men
Nope take it from someone who tried. I don't have to describe it but beyond friends with a man for someone who is hetero just feels like theres a big void, like it is fake and feels very mechanical.
Meanwhile sex and relationships with a female has all this intense lust, feelings, electricity that makes you want to get on a roof and scream.
I know how you feel though OP, life would have been so much easier if I was gay.
How do I make the pores on my face less visible? Lately they've been really bad for some reason, and I've also broken out into acne, which hasn't happened in a while.
An alpha hydroxy acid product (like one with glycolic acid) to keep them from filling with gunk, then moisturizer and drinking lots of water to keep your skin plump. Plenty of sleep too.
What is the point of living if life is inherently meaningless? Even if one creates a meaning, once one dies that meaning will be gone and won't mean anything anymore. Why bother living?
The impact you have on others' lives and the things you create can live on after you. In many ancient buildings and cathedrals, one can marvel today at the works of create masons and carpenters who have been dead for centuries.
>>16784203
I see your point. But even then you won't be alive to take any pride or notice in the effect your accomplishments will have on the future. And once the universe inevitably dies, nothing will ever remember you or the work you did.
Have you experienced life? Have you done everything worth doing? Have a six pack? Fucked an 50 year old? Seen the Tian Shan? Partied in Moscow?
Didn't think so. There really is no point to life but to challenge your intelligence and experience it
I'm a high school senior aspiring to be a pilot for the military. They require you to have a degree before enlisting, so I am going to head to college first. What major is best for this kind of direction? I was thinking about Aeronautical Engineering, but I'm not sure if I'm smart enough fro that. What's a good fall-back major to get if I cant keep up with engineering? Also, how smart do you have to be to become a pilot?
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My Girlfriend's friend tried (and failed) to kill himself because he sucks at what he does in school (trumpet performance). She is devastated af and she is also a little unstable herself. I am scared she might hurt herself. I use to be very suicidal so I know what this is like. Now I am on the other end and I don't know how to help. She haven't respond to texts and when I visited her she cried and kicked me out. please give advice.
I've been on both sides of this coin. A good friend of mine was suicidal and made an attempt on his life. It's hard on the outside looking in its hard to find the right things to say. You need to give space as hard as it might sound. You can't smother her or she will think you don't trust her not to hurt herself. Stay by her side morally let her know your there for her and that if there's ever anything you can do ANYTHING all she has to do is ask. Make sure she understands that your there and understand she might need space. Tldr you have to be there sometimes from a distance as hard as it might be.
>>16784176
Playing the trumpet is a lot harder than killing yourself. This guy clearly way overestimated his level of competence when he picked a major.
>19, graduates high school in 3 months,male, never had a gf
>slept with a girl (no sex) on my birthday last week, next morning she said she'd rather bang my best friend than me.
>feel like I fail at being a human being
>want to kill myself again (not directly because I didn't score on my birthday)
hoooo boy, here we go again. tips, advice, anecdotes are welcome
Maybe she said that because she was upset you didn't make a move on her, if it was your birthday it was obviously intended to be a gift or something. You could try to make it up to her. Also don't think that.
Okay so at my job there's this girl I like and I would like to get her something for valentines day. We talk whenever we have the chance but we work in two completely different departments so its hard. I'm not sure if she like me like I like her but thought valentines would be a good day to see. So I was thinking about getting her a rose, one of those cheap little bears holding a heart, a card with a tiny little poem I wrote and leave it on top of her locker at work. A friend who I work with told me not to do a red rose cause that stands for love, and that different colors meant different things. They said I should get yellow cause that means friendship. I looked it up and decided I would go with an orange rose, which means fascination. So my question(s) would be is this a good idea? Is it too much, or too little. This will be my first valentine where I actually did something for a girl. I'm not scared about her knowing how I feel, I'm just scared about the poem. What if she hates it or something. Maybe I'll just omit the poem? Whether I do the poem or not I want the card to express how I feel. Any advice?
Roses are very clichéd for Valentine's day. Why not get her some nice orange lilies instead, for a more personal touch?
>>16784163
I didn't want to get a whole bouquet. I know u can do single roses, can u do single Lillie's?
>>16784249
Dude, I was messing with you. In the romantic language of flowers, orange lilies mean "I hate you and want you to die"
My girlfriend's family invited me to come along with them to go skiiing in Valentine's. As awkward as I feel it would be I said sure knowing I would look bad if I said no.
I've met and am on okay terms with her siblings, some cousins and her mother, but her whole extended family is coming along with her aunts and uncles and cousins I've never seen before. Not to mention her dad who's conservative af and thinks she's too young to be dating (she's 18 I'm 19, just a couple months apart).
I'm freaking out guys. How do I not look like a disgusting spaz in front of them and help me keep my dignity? I only need to last those few hours
Two words: man up. Earning respect in this situation requires only giving zero fucks the entire time. Just keep telling yourself that literally nothing they think matters. Whatever else they remember about you, the most important impression they have to get is that you were comfortable and unfazed. You're just there to ski with your girlfriend.
Say as little as possible. Be very laid back and do not try to impress anyone. Try to stay busy skiing.
Can anyone please link me to a legal page explaining current US law(s) on loli art? Bringing stuff back from Japan and don't want to get fcked in customs over something stupid. Thanks!
i hope you get fucked over
>>16784196
Lol, thanks for the valuable input as always :)
For the record though, it's my wife that's interested and she's not considering anything hentai at all; nothing super creepy or anything like that. Just content similar to the image above (which FYI came from a martial arts MMO recently released in the US by NCSoft -- the same people who publish WildStar, Guild Wars, Aion, etc)... She prefers cute, childish stuff (including figurines and so on), but some of it can sometimes appear too young or "ecchi" on the covers/box-art.
I'm just considering getting game art and manga that's no big deal in Japan but could possibly elicit the same kind of knee-jerk reaction >>16784196 had in the States.
Unfortunately(?) there's tons of stuff in Japan targeted for young children that can be easily misinterpreted at first-glance (e.g., Sailor Moon, Lucky Star, etc), and we don't care nearly enough about this stuff to risk anything. But if it's not actually a big deal in the US law-wise, she'd love to do more shopping in Akihabara.
>>16784258
Im a girl and I was an exchange student of Japan.
My host family found my stash of shota-con comics and doujin and dumped them.
Embarassing but brief confrontation.
Whoops.
But i was 16 at the time so
>Girlfriend is 17
>I'm 19 (so inb4 pedo)
>Lately her mom has been giving her a needlessly hard time about everything
for example:
>Girlfriends boss is an emotionally abusive psychopath
>One day she finally has enough an gives her boss her 2 weeks
>Her mom was pretty much demanding she finds a new job before she did it
>When she told her mom the only thing she said was "Well I fucking guess you better hurry the fuck up and find a new fucking job then."
>When she first gave her two weeks her mom just straight up wouldn't talk to her she was so pissed
>Now she won't shut-up about how she needs a job
>Like this one time, she was talking to her brother about going to visit her grandma this summer
>Her mom instantly cuts in the conversation and says "He won't be able to go because unlike SOMEONE in this house he has a job."
>Since it's the middle of winter all buisness's around here are slow and not a lot of places are hiring.
>She's pretty much spending all her free time searching for jobs for the sole reason to get her mom off her back
Another example:
>Girlfriend never did the best in school
>The college program she wants to get into is kinda competitive.
>She's really buckling down to do well at school this year so she can get in.
>Her brother was doing something that required assistance (I'm not sure what)
>"You should be helping your brother, since when do you give a shit about homework anyways"
>She's literally bitching at my girlfriend for doing homework
Her moms always been like this, shes just kinda a bitch. But as of late it's been really really bad for some reason. She always seems to get the worst of it for some reason to.
Anyways should I be getting involved? Should I be stepping up and straight up telling her mom "you need to treat my girlfriend better". What should I be doing this, it's really stressing out my girlfriend.
>>16784111
No. She has to learn to stand up for yourself. The last thing you want to do is get involved and give her mom another thing to bitch about.
>>16784141
This. It will only make things worse and you don't want to be the bad guy.
Ever thought of getting an apartment together?
>>16784159
I wish, however where she wants to go to college is going to be at least 2 hours away from me.
Guess there are tons of young, not bad looking, insecure males out there who are worried because they don't get girls and don't really know how to do it. Give them some advices that can be recorded in stone.
I'm 21 average looking guy. My hobbies involves playing games and watching random shit on the internet.
90% of the people at my job are men. I'm starting university and the same thing is going to happen.
How do I meet women if everything I do and enjoy doing is infested with men?
>>16784138
That ain't no advice mane.
Also I think your hobbies are shit when it comes to both social and individual development. Get new hobbies, be less hedonistic.
I think my life is being controlled by my addictions. I don't have an extremely destructive addictions, but the ones I have are taking hold strong. I'm spending too much of my time on the Internet, eating sugary food, drinking caffeine, smoking weed, and jacking off.
I want to devote more time to reading, meditation, creating things, and just generally leading not a more productive life.
I quit vaping nicotine lately, so I feel like I'm channeling that former addiction into other addictions.
What do I do?
>I quit vaping nicotine lately, so I feel like I'm channeling that former addiction into other addictions.
that's the problem
you want to reading, meditation, etc
you have to actually do them, just removing your addictions won't help you achieve the lifestyle you want
Well eating, Coffein and jacking off isn't a addiction. Stop smoking pot. Find something to do and continue to smoke cigarettes.
