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Sup /adv/ i need some help
Recently i had undergone spine surgery and i have some problems with walking (Namely my right leg is slightly paralyzed)
I'm not quite familiar with interview ethics, and don't want to create an embarrassing situation for myself.
I was wondering, is it worth signing up and going to interviews with a crutch in my hand, with my current situation, or should i wait till i get fully healed?
Will the interview look awkward at me/ disqualify me just for not having full health?
thanks in advance.
Interview for what kind of job?
I reckon you should avoid burning any potential bridges, and concentrate on rehabilitation for now. As with any neurological problem, the key is use it or lose it - work the nervous system with gentle but precise movements and you'll quickly regain full functioning. A good idea for this kind of recovery practice is to take up a manual skill such as carpentry, allowing you to regrow damaged nerve fibers and relearn dexterity skills.
>>16782657
Internship at a library for a fancy english speaking club
>>16782659
Oh i can still walk. It's just that my Vastus lateralis and medialis are non-responsive yet, but in time they'll recover
How do I tell the difference between the normal ups and downs of life and Bipolar Disorder /adv/?
I'm too embarrassed to see a doctor in case i'm just being melodramatic.
Full blown bipolar manic episodes leave you acting very odd - wild flights of fancy coupled with extreme actions, tirelessness without sleep for days, risky and uninhibited sexual behaviour. If you're even wondering, you're almost certainly not bipolar.
However, if you're looking for more stability in your life, there's a lot you can do. Try to keep to a sensible routine of sleep, exercise, and meals, and make sure you're spending your time well. Try taking up an activity that involves both mental effort and physical activity, like a sport or, best of all, carpentry. Once you're doing a couple of hours of woodwork each day, you'll find your emotional swings are on a much more even kilter.
>>16782651
To expand on the OP. I seem to meet the criteria for Bipolar 2, but I don't personally believe that to be a problem. It's just that my life is a mess, lol.
Carpentry though, yeah.
I'm starting hating school so bad, I don't know why it started that feeling I used to like going school before but now everything seems so bad to me, I don't like my classes, I hate doing homework, months ago I could do that without problem, now everything has changed..
Think about why you started school in the first place.
Get some sleep, people get the feeling every once in a while, i know i did, get sleep and exercise
I had the same problem, started hating it and then i started uni went to uni for 2 years and failed my classes, so now i just went on a trip for 9 months working overseas and traveling.
Now i feel like starting school again, so i'm gonna move back and go to uni again.
Try taking a year or half a year break.
First time on /adv/, I usually only go on /pol/, so bear with me. Not a native speaker either.
I have somesuch diagnosis called PDD-NOS in english and GUA in danish, which im sure you can read up on elsewhere. As got it explained, it essentially means that I am autistic (which I find rather upsetting as I have an asperger sister who is nearing crazy status) but do not fit in any established category.
In my case, it means that I have trouble dealing with ''feelings'', that is, getting depressed easily.
I use my computer a lot, and everytime I see something I find completely and utterly stupid, senseless, illogical, or cruel, I become so very upset that I retreat down the dark chasm that is depression.
Now, I have had the diagnosis for a while now, and have known about ''it'' for far longer, and I have been there, done that, so I came to /adv/ in hope of not only finding like-minded individuals, but also people with the excact same diagnosis. I have tried to reach out, virtually and in reality, to other such people, and it was absolutely horrible, as the PDD-NOS diagnosis is so wide we got nothing in common.
TLDR: Shot in the dark, anyone with PDD-NOS who got tips on dealing with negative emotions? Already talking to a great shrink, but to no avail.
> inb4 man up
> inb4 sperglord
> inb4 op is a faggot
In hindsight, is also need to get this off of my chest.
Emigrate to Sweden - I hear they'll take anyone.
>SWEDEN YES!
Little about me. Bad with disappointments, impulsive, small tolerance for bs, easily depressed. Circling thoughts, self-hate, apathy. Even alright memories of interactions with people oftentimes threw me in fits of self-doubt and anger to the point of having to whisper "forget, forget, forget". We are probably not the same, but I think we have some things in common. Nordic also.
What I've found is that imageboards are really bad for things you listed that upset you. Lots of stupid people, lots of frustrating stuff, many many people who are just out there to get any kind of reaction from you. And what I've found helpful is kind of obvious things, stuff you might even find obnoxious but here's my two cents. Interesting hobbies (for me budo-stuff and martial arts, essentially samurai-larping), and surprisingly, attending church. Went with orthodox, protestants are a bit too, how to say it, down-to-earth with dull churches. Yeah I know, religion for someone who hates illogical stuff, ridiculous right? Well, I think it's something that doesn't have to do with any of that. And people who genuinely wish you well are helpful to have around.
Hey guys.
I'm wondering if there are maybe any books/advice that can help me deal with emotional pain that someone can recommend for me. To be honest I'm done school and waiting in limbo for a while until I actually graduate. I've never had a girlfriend and I've never fallen in love or actually cared deeply about another girl and I acknowledge that it's a possibility that I never will. Normally I'm OK with it but there are times when I basically go into hardcore depression mode because of it. I think that if I can learn how to control these negative emotions I'd be much happier in life.
Thanks in advance for any suggestions.
Books from Haruki Murakami
How do I move out when I don't have a car or a shit load of money? I live in a shit house with my parents filled with mold lead and asbestos and they refuse to care or even acknowledge it. I'm constantly sick and tired and can't do shit good or right. They also constantly mentally abuse me and keep me awake and ruin my sleep.
I can't do shit here and it's ruining my life id rather live in a tent or something honestly holy fuck. I want to go somewhere warm where there's at least somewhat good public transit or bike routes.I don't care if I sleep in a closet or on a couch and work some shit dead end job every day. I don't want to go to college because that means I'll have to come back on breaks
>>16782552
Your house is not your home anymore, you must leave. Where is that truckerfag when you need him?
helpx or workaway.info are your best bets.
just leave, find a job (when applying ask for correspondence by phone as you are unable to be on-site for an interview) and move.
if you're over 18 you can just do it, it's a weird feeling but you can.
I just turned 19 and I want to get it off my chest that I'm going to kill myself very soon
I know 4chan takes suicide very insincerely but this is the only properly anonymous place i know that also has a decent amount of traffic
I tried sex and letting go as a solution to constant unhappiness and it worked for a while but it's a major source or regret for me now (personally, and not for the other people thank god) and it's definitely done more damage to me than good
Then I tried alcohol and I severely misjudged a couple of situations and I think I alienated a few of my former friends
I'm meant to be starting at uni and the end of the month but it's a bridging course, not an undergraduate course, because I need to fix up the effects of my really negative high school experiences. But I tried another bridging course at another uni 3 times last year and I failed all three. And I'm really am not convinced that I can do it this time or ever.
Anyway my life is officially rock bottom mentally and socially as of Sunday the 6th Feb. and after 7 years of depression and negativity I'm convinced that it's really time to pack up
>>16782548
Tried going to a shrink yet?
Instead of killing yourself, have you ever considered a serious drug addiction?
>>16782548
Can I have your computer and money?
You are going to off yourself anyway.
I'm 19 years old. I'm 5'6" and weigh 130 pounds. Overall, I'm a pretty average sized girl. My boobs are a 40DD and I've really been considering a breast reduction. I get really bad back pain from my boobs, let alone working a night shift at work. Sometimes it's difficult for me to fit into shirts of different styles such as tube tops, cami's, low cut shirts and sometimes even v-necks. It's almost impossible for me to find a bikini top that fits me and actually supports the weight of my breasts. I've been considering a breast reduction since I was 16 as this is a major factor in my life. Having big breasts is really awful. They are super heavy and make it hard to fit into certain types of clothing. Sometimes I even cry to myself because of how BIG they actually are and how much they hurt my back and ruin my life! Can anyone from surgery experience or even any knowledge on breast reductions tell me, Is getting a breast reductions really worth it? Is it worth the thousands? Is it worth the time? Is it worth the change? Is it worth the pain? Please and thank you!
>>16782499
Are you sure it's not an ill-fitting bra?
>>16782499
If you think you'd rather have a big scar under your boobs up into your armpit is better than the back pain then do it.
If I were you, I'd consider buying better (probable most expensive) bras to help with support, investing in that can maybe lower the back pain you're experiencing.
Good luck with your boobs, OP.
Post pics.
Seriously. /adv/ may be a place where many have their minds already made up and come seeking others to confirm their opinion. But for me it's more.
I really want to thank anyone who actually takes the time to help a nigga out once in a while.
agreed.
Sometimes even the thought of saying something ANYTHING, can help you out. Makes you re-evaluate your own situation and make you realize that things are not as bad as they may seem.
No, Anon, you da real MVP!
On a separate note, you strike me as the kind of level headed and caring person who could really make a go of it in the fast paced and lucrative world of carpentry. Have you considered a career change?
yar this board is pretty great <3
Can you learn to love someone? Let's say a male and female friend were friends for so long, could they fall in love? Or is love more objective than that?
You'd have to ask the long arm of Chromosome 6.
>learn
No, you can grow to love someone.
>objective
No, it's subjective.
How old are you?
What's the best way to achieve an apprenticeship. I'm 21 and really want to get on track with a decent career. My robotdom or perhaps failed normiedom (and the subsequent feeling of melancholy/worthlessness 24/7, I feel, stems completely from my lack of prestige and value in a career.
I really want to work hard, on a project with others and gain worthwhile skills. Any tradesman here that can give me advice?
>>16782464
>Pepe as a wagecuck
Weird, sickening even. And this is coming from a fellow wagecuck.
>>16782465
But look, see how he smiles. He's skilled now; and accomplished.
Find an apprenticeship and join. What state do you live in?
My sister ditched school today and the school rung the house, my mum phoned her and apparently she's been walking around the town for a couple of hours since she left the house.
She says she was depressed but we all know that's bullshit, was she really just walking around or did she go somewhere?
>>16782453
She's smoking pot and walking around Safeway idiot. Tell her to prepare for community college. This is normal if she's that type of girl.
>>16782460
She's not that type of girl, and rude dude.
>>16782475
Cry about it.
Holy fucking crap, I hate looking for jobs. I fucking hate it.
I don't mind having one and just going and wasting my time for money, but looking for one here in Norway is like playing the lottery. The ads are pure formality. People get the job through knowing each other. My friends won't help me and I've got no money for next weeks rent.
How low can or should I sink in for a quick buck?
Inb4 sucking dick.
not sure what the situation is like in Norway, but finding jobs only through others is pretty common.
are you holding out for a job in your field or do you just need money? in any case, just keep pushing till you get at least an interview, then just show your employer you have a really good attitude and work ethic (don't come out and say it though)
My current drinking status is roughly 6 beers in one night (1.3/4 standers each so around 8 standard drinks) maybe twice a week, I rarely go out and get hammered maybe 5 times a year.
Lately i have been feeling dumber then usual, can this be connected with my booze consumption? I didn't think what I drank was that much.
Some extra info i weigh 60kg (about 130 pounds) I'm 20 at the moment and I only started drinking at the age of 17.
stop drinking for a bit and see if the fog clears.
you really shouldn't be drinking that much anyway.
It sure as hell can't be making you smarter.
Disrupts sleep heavily, flushes out key minerals in your body including magnesium that serves over 300 biological functions in the body, dehydrates you heavily making you sluggish, taxes the hell out of your liver, disrupts your hormones, causes vitamin deficiency.
You tell me pal. There is no such thing as moderation with alcohol, it is a poison.
I'm a freshman in college, second semester here. I'm 18 years old.
Since senior year, I've had a crush on a girl that was two grades lower than I am. She's a cute, pure, Christian girl. She's turning 17 soon.
I never tried to really get into anything with her because everyone sad "dude when you get into college, the girls are everywhere" Well they're all whores. I've learned a lot about these people and I want nothing to do with them.
So I really need advice on whether or not I should pursue this girl? I'm debating maybe asking her to dinner or out for coffee but I want to wait until she's 18 before a relationship.
Is this weird, or should I keep up with it? What should I do?
No, don't pursue her. Don't pursue the college whores either.
Find a woman who is 30 and take her out to nice dinners, drinks, get with her. Trust me it's amazing.
First thing:
a) Well they're all whores. I've learned a lot about these people and I want nothing to do with them.
Disregard this mentality now. It will not help you now, nor will it in the long term both with normal and sexual relationships.
Girls are just girls.
Christian girls APPEAR to be pure, but most of them have the same sexual drive as girls. I wouldn't be suprised if shes had sex a couple of times already.
Takehome message is, if you want a specific girl, stop waiting to ask her out, and just ask her out ASAP. She may or may not reject you, but there is always other girls in that case.
>>16782457
I know it's a bad mindset, and there's nothing wrong with the girl having a sexual mind.
This girl is a virgin, I know that.
I need to act on it, you're exactly right.
