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Ok, I won't make it a long story.
I raped my gf while I was asleep.
Anyone can relate to something like this?!
I feel extremely shitty for doing it and feel like a goddamn animal. Help me /adv/
>>16786089
Details.
How'd she react for starters?
>>16786120
This
>>16786120
She locked herself in the bathroom and cried.
So i started dating this girl i met on okcupid. We share some intrests video games ,anime same tv shows for the most part and i convinced her to try working out with me so we can spend time toghether it worked. Anyway on to my issue. Earlier today she told me she is really in Magic a Gathering. Ive never played it before. She ssked me if i ever played. I lied and told her i used to (Fuck you pride od mine god dammit). She said this weekend she wants to play. Loser has to do 1 thing for the winner its whatever the winner wants. Idk if this is the right place but if any of you play magic the gathering give me tips. I looked up some stuff on it but it seems diffucult still. Am i fucked /adv/? Should i just tell the truth and say i lied? I might fess up and ask her to teach me and ill just do that favor for her.
>>16786084
it's not hard to learn the basics of MTG. She'll probably school you if she's into it, but you can just say that you haven't played in forever. That being said, if you don't know how lands/casting spells work, the jig will be up. Maybe go to a friday night magic in your area to scope things out
I belive you can learn for free online via wizards of the coast website mught be wrong on that tho ... the other anon is right about mechanics of the game aswell you really wouod want to learn how things get playe dif you want to seem like you have at least played before. I want to know what your goin to do about a deck tho ... is she going to bring on for you ? Are you going to just go and buy a starter deck ? I whould also point out the MTG get pricey fast (12 year vet reporting in i have well over $4k worth of cards split between 20 odd decks ...) i personally would just say you have played before but not much and should do the favour in exchange for a few lessons ...
>>16786112
She said ahe would bring me a deck.
>>16786097
Yeah it sounded like she plays it regularly. I want to try to get into it honestly so i can enjoy it with her.
Help
>>16786070
stop jerking it so much you fucking degenerate
like holy shit, you probably have fucking scabs on your dick by now
Google "blue balls"
tl;dr fapping for too long without cumming will clog your jizz tubes, causing all kinds of unpleasant reactions.
>>16786080
Trying senpai, I'm addicted
No scabs yet
>>16786082
I cum quickly enough though, I just do it too frequently.
>>16786566
Thanks, I guess.
>Me and GF broke up a month and a half ago
>Just now getting over it
>Its 2 am
>Just got a call from her begging me to take her back and shit
>Said she really didn't realize what she had until it was over and she'll never make that mistake again
>Said she had sex with one dude, but that was it, because she felt terrible about it
>Just sobbed the whole 30 minute call
I'm not like super salty about her sleeping with someone else, because we were broken up. But still, I don't know what to do. I never regretted a moment I spent with this grill, and I really enjoy myself with her when we are together, but she was still the one who dumped me.
I told her that she should just give me some time, and I don't know what to do. But that I may say no, and she should be prepared for that. The main reason I said this, is because a really cute chinese exchange student, who is insanely smart wants to date me. She actually speaks pretty good english, and is on some kind of extended program because of her research, so she is here for 2 years.
Am I doing the right thing by giving the chinese girl a shot, and putting my ex on hold? My ex is still killer in terms of looks, literally my ideal girl, but I really want to try things with the exchange student.
You broke up for a reason, you know.
>>16786050
your girlfriend was drunk.
chances are, she does not want you back.
you should fuck the asian and then decide what you want to do.
You are not doing the right thing, though I would not necessarily say you are doing the wrong thing. The Chinese girl is either going to return to her home country and pretend you never existed as soon as her program ends, or even worse, is sinking her claws into you for a green card and will turn frosty upon marriage. And that's after 2 years' worth of hiding you from her Chinese friends and her family and relatives because you're not presentable to her parents as marriage material.
Sure you can "try things" as much as you want, but know that you cannot buy into it.
As for your ex, the reason you told her to give you some time is not because you want to rekindle things with her (if you did, you would have just gone and said yes) but because you want to continue getting over her. With that in mind, consider that whatever response you give to her, you must fully commit to it.
Hi /adv/. I'm looking for advice on how to move out when living with an absolutely batshit parent.
Context: I'm a 19yo uni student in Australia living with my mother. I love her a lot but it's getting harder and harder to live with her. She starts screaming and crying over minor things like not approving of the way I bake cookies or for not wanting to go to the beach with her. Today she threatened physical violence so I don't know how much longer I can be here for.
That aside I have some uni friends who are also looking to move out so we want to rent something together. I have part time work so the rent is covered and I have $5k in savings on me. My two main problems are:
>I don't know if I should tell my mother I'm moving upfront or just disappear. If I disappear my relationship with her is 100% over, no salvaging ever again. If I tell her upfront then I'll have more time to move out things that are important to me and I might still be able to have her in my life. But I don't know how she'll take that or what fallout there could be.
>The only household car is hers. If I move out I need to give my rifle to the people at my range to safekeep, and she could drive me there is she's okay with me moving out. If she gets pissed, I can't just leave my gun with her because that's super illegal. But I can't take it with me just anywhere either.
Thanks in advance /adv/.
Definitely tell her in advance, she's your fucking mother.
As for your gun, I really don't know what the problem is. Just leave it at the gunrange? What sort of advice are we supposed to give you about this?
I would tell your mother but couch it in a "I think my house is too far from uni and/or it is inaccessible by public transport". Don't mention that you're moving in with "friends", she will start shit about if your friends all jump off a cliff etc. Don't start any shit about how she's been treating you.
Your mother is screaming and crying because she is a petulant little shit who grew up at the tail end of baby boomers with no medicare levy and no HECS and thinks that at age 16 you should have gotten a part time job and that would have allowed you to magically move out and get a mortgage because by jove that's how she did it. She probably is aware of the money you saved up, and the money you earn from part time work. She probably resents that you are "hoarding" this money away from her, and she DOUBLY resents you for the fact that in her opinion, you are paying below market rent or no rent at all for the privilege of living with her. It's a bullshit cycle you cannot get through.
However, note that if things do go sour with your friends (living with people is not the same as hanging out with them) and you eventually slink back to your mother's place, she will charge rent AND act just as batshit as before. If I were you, I'd try to stick it out for as long as possible.
>>16786047
Gun safekeeping laws are very strict in Australia. I also suspect that OP does not have an unrestricted full driver's licence (Australia has a tiered system).
>>16786008
It is striking that nowhere in your plans is there "Get psychological help for mother".
Hi so .. I'll keep this kinda short so you can get the idea. Essentially i'm bi and one night a friend came over (male) (Also im male) we got drunk and we did some stuff (Like grinded on him and sat on his lap and kissed his neck etc)
and he didnt resist at all... my question is.... do you think he's gay or? because the next day i messaged him and hes like "You did some gay stuff last night" but the thing is.. he did stuff to me too.. Im confused asf. Pls help.
Suck his dick and if he cums then he's gay.
Alternatively, tell him that you're attracted to him and don't be a faggot(the other kind) and he'll probably say the same thing
Ill be honest are you a small skinny man who is effeminate ( no body or facial hair etc). Becuase while i consider myself mostly straight. there is the potential that if i was drunk i might experimente with said twink. Or a trap. Somthing i wouldnt do when sober.
Anyone here have anxiety and take meds for it? I feel like I've gotten rid of my anxiety, but I was wondering what different meds would be like. I still get nervous sometimes, would those meds eliminate that feeling or just help with panic attacks? I have a school trip almost a whole state away in a little while, and I'm worried I'll have a panic attack like I did two years ago. I have separation anxiety. Sorry for the barage of questions.
>>16785960
Started Zoloft and they bumped up my dosage to the maximum you can get because of my anxiety (I originally took it for depression). And I hated it, it worked I guess but it made me feel extremely apathetic.
>I still get nervous sometimes
Yes, that's human. The only thing that'll remove all your anxiety is a coma. You've gotta learn to deal with minor cases of anxiety if you want to grow into a functional adult.
Keep in mind that this is a worksafe board.
Getting over virgin complex? I know it's petty, but I find myself getting hung up on it being morally or even tactically/strategically wrong to have casual sex, and a poor background giving me a fondness for conservative and self-preserving/over-protective values. How should I start looking past that to expand my dating pool?
>>16785959
Just keep to your morals. I dont date whores and would never even consider one as a friend and Im engaged to a lovely indian woman with moral character. Wish me luck.
>>16785959
you already had the answer
Get laid.
>>16785965
No, that other thread was by me. Not sure what this furfag is trying to prove.
93 ASVAB
You're gonna get stuck in security forces or aircraft maintenance just like everyone else.
Become a male prostitute. You'll make more money and have more respect for yourself.
are there any games to help me learn how to drive fast. Currently really nervous and want to get a feel for the road even if its a 2d game. Something like
https://driversed.com/games/dmv-game.aspx
>implying driving a car isn't the greatest multiplayer game
>not having experienced it
i pity you m8
The only plausible way would be to get a hold of a driving simulator and appropiate equipment (a steering wheel, pedals, the works)
I need a little perspective. I'm a 31 year old man and my wife is 29 and I can't figure out why she suddenly has cold feet about kids. When we first met she wasn't sure she wanted kids but a few years later she really wanted them. She's always been great with kids - she volunteers to babysit and adores kids. When we got engaged we agreed on 2 kids (I talked her down from 4!). We've been married 9 months now and the plan was to get pregnant a year or two after the wedding.
But lately she is not so excited about a family. She swears she still wants kids but they aren't a priority, and doesn't know when she'll be ready. She wants to work a new job for a few years first, maybe do an evening grad program (2-3 years), do some traveling. The list seems to grow each time we talk... I love this list too honey but where do the kids go? She can't say.
We have a very supportive marriage. She had a disability (nerve disease) from age 14 - 24 and missed out on a lot... had to drop out of school several times but now her career is doing well.
But it just seems like kids are getting moved back, back, back... there seems to be something underlying it all.
Hypothesis #1 Maybe she is trying to make up for lost time from her disability, do kids at the last possible moment.
Hypothesis #2 She is usually a conflict-avoider and maybe doesn't want to tell me her true feelings: that she actually is on the fence about kids at all. I love her but no kids is a deal breaker.
Hypothesis #3 She's a perfectionist who usually does a good job but turns in her work late, so maybe she is going to do that with family?
Hypothesis #4 She doesn't talk to her mother anymore... is she afraid to be a mom herself?
Hypothesis #5 She is worried about the complications from her disability. The doctors have cleared her. She has never said she's worried about complications, although I would venture that hers will be a hard pregnancy.
Final note: Yes, I would be fine with adoption. She's not interested.
Hypothesis #6 - she's losing interest in you and doesn't want to bring kids into a relationship that might end. That would explain the suddenness of the baby crazy -> barren womb change, tracking a change in the relationship.
How you two doing?
>no kids is a dealbreaker
>already married her
for better or worse, huh?
Usually I hate it when people comment this, but you reallyyyyyy need to talk to her about this and not us. We are not to know what "hypothesis" is the correct one.
>>16785958
Basically, this. They're a deal breaker to you. You're married. Clocks ticking.
You may come off as an arsehole but you need to tell her they're a deal breaker. It's better to look like an arse now than never have kids and regret it.
Why don't you talk to her about it? Have you guys been actually trying? Also, it could be a combination of all of those factors that you listed that is making her put off having children. It is a big, scary decision to make, not to mention it destroys the female body (sometimes it never recovers.) 29 is still quite young and there's still time for you guys to have children.
So just started talking to a guy and we hung out once he tried stuff but when I said I wasn't ready he backed off. If he is trying stuff the first time do you think he just wants sex? He hasn't texted me since we hung out and I texted him when I got home which was almost 2 days ago. I'm not looking for anything serious I just don't want to be fucked and never talked to again. He's been able to text me I know that. How long would you wait to send a simple hey if they don't text. I texted him after we hung out most like fell asleep after I left.
>>16785913
He probably read the situation wrong. Either his intentions were to get something done the first time, or he tried to read you and thought you would be down/into it.
Disclaimer: I am not telling you what to do, just my interpretation of the situation and what I would do. You need do your own analysis and make your own independent decision.
I think the lack of texting back could be conducive of him wanting something from you (sex) but with the lack of information I don't know how someone on an internet forum could say for sure. He could also feel mislead because he thought you both wanted it. I feel like texting "hey" or "hey what's up" is terrible because you are avoiding inertia and conflict. Face the inertia head on, you can make up some bullshit and [it all happened so fast, I was just surprised about the whole situation, it was just too early]. Facing your dilemma in this way will allow you to probe him to reveal his true intentions. If he responds negatively, then you know it was the sex he was after, if he responds positively, chances are he just backed off because he felt that you were angry/sad/upset
That is what I think. What do YOU think?
>>16785913
well, if girl refuses to come home with me, but doesnt explain anything, then i am not calling her again
just communicate goddamit, why do you cunts feel fine to tell what you think to a bunch of anon morons but cant do that to a person you care about?
>>16785913
You defined your limits, which you have the absolute right to do.
He decided - or may still be in the process of deciding - whether he wanted to work within those limits, which he has the absolute right to do.
He is a bit of an asshole, but not very much. At least he seems to be choosing the option of breaking it off now because you're not what he wants, rather than hanging around and trying to pressure you into what he wants.
Move on. There are plenty of guys who will respect your values and you.
How do you stop worrying about losing your worth?
by building value in other ways
>>16785907
Like what?
>>16785903
based on your picture:
Stop thinking you are only worth something, while you look good.
Otherwise, become a person with a lot of worth.
Getting over virgin complex? I know it's petty, but I'd rather date a girl who's a virgin, which probably has a lot to do with me being one, and Asian background giving me a fondness for purity and traditional values. How should I start looking past that to expand my dating pool?
Perhaps it is your fear of performing poorly with a girl who has sexual experience? Whereas a virgin has no basis to judge?
Instead of focusing on the physical state of being a virgin, why don't you focus on the related positive qualities without the status?
>>16785892
why do you specificaly feel like a virgin is a better dating prospect then a non-virgin?
Am I the only one who has fantasies of sucking on a deities cock?
I've had fantasies of impregnating a deity if that counts
>>16785922
Elaborate.
