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Left Twitter, they hired sarkesian to cut free speech.
Proposals for alternatives focusing on free speech?
use gnusocial or use weechat(chinese but best)
Honest question /adv/.
Would buying a fleshlight be disgusting/fucked up?
I mean I dont have a girlfriend and dont plan on getting one any time soon either but im just bored from regular fapping.
Im not obese or anything.
No need to waste money on one. Go to your local bookstore and grab whatever books on carpentry and woodworking they have available and learn to make your own products!
>Would <personal shit involving nobody else> be fucked up?
Who gives a shit?
>>16787686
>woodworking and carpentry
Explain further.
Hey /adv/, need some help here. I'm studying (or was) computer science and I have a year left on my degree. Thing is, I hate university and the city I live in. Because of this I've been looking at jobs in Europe. I actually got a mail from a recruiter about a job I think I could do. I asked him more about it and I'll have an interview. My question is: should I lie about graduating? Will they discover the truth? Again, I have one year left but I do NOT want to finish it. This job isn't temporary so I think me being in the middle of a degree would bother them
Bump. Someone please help
>>16787663
Depends on where you're applying to. In the US big corporations and almost always require transcripts as proof of your education claims when it comes to entry level positions. Government entities always require transcripts all the way to phd.
I'd just finish it so you will never have to worry about it again, always wondering whether you'll be found out when lying about it.
Are you failing out or are you just bitching out because of the stupid reason you mentioned?
>>16787739
I'm not failing out. I just can't mentally handle it. I don't know. I guess that counts as bitching out. Basically I hate my life and I want to leave. It's a small company btw.
Would you trust your 6 month old at a "Kids Club" at an LA Fitness?
I have been leaving her with a friend before I go work out but I do not have that option today.
I am pretty divided - at first, I felt "no way!" but then I toured the area and I saw there is a separate area for infants that can be gated off from the bigger kids. It has a swing, two different rolling walkers, and a bouncer. I think that my baby would really like to walk around in the walker. She will never experience that at home because the apartment is too small.
On the other hand, even when I was with her at a WIC office the other day, a one year old boy ran up and pulled her binky out of her mouth and began sucking on it. I didn't want it back after that, but his mom was nowhere to be found and it made my baby cry.
I only plan on doing 30 minutes of cardio.
Should I skip it or expose her to the potential dangers/wonders of the gym childcare?
(pic related: they have two of these at the gym and I think she would love it!)
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Unsatisfied with my social life, and I'm starting to wonder if me not using social media has anything to do with it.
I have a few good friends from work I go out with, and they are very active on facebook/snapchat. They meet a lot of people/potential love interests.
On the other hand, I've never had a Snapchat, and I'm pretty inactive on facebook (barely post, and just a few pictures). I'll meet some people IRL, and we'll get along pretty good, but from that point on more often than not we never speak again.
It felt to me like Snapchat/Facebook was mostly stupid shit like someone showing himself doing homework and sipping a cup of coffee, but the more I look at them use it the more it seems like a form of bonding when they receive a message or a picture from someone. They interact, and they feel much closer than if they only talked in person.
I'm kind of over-analyzing this, just wondering what /adv/ thinks of social media, and if I should put some effort into maintaining my profile and being a bit more active in trying to converse with others online.
just be more active on fb, i use it to IM people and see upcoming events/parties
snapchat is narcisim central and pretty fucking useless
>improves self
>tries to talk to girl
>gets rejected
>gets lazy again because depression
>repeat
Who else is stuck in this cycle?
>>16787645
Why don't you just skip the "gets lazy again" part, and try replacing it with another instance of "tries to talk to girl"?
>>16787761
Better to replace it with "improves self" first. Each rejection is something that can be learned from.
>>16787645
You havent imrpoved yourself if your happiness is reliant on random women who reject you.
You haven't improved yourself if you let rejection get in the way of improving yourself.
Work on step 1 more.
This person was someone I used to work with several years ago and although I don't work there anymore, we have kept in touch and occasionally hung out. She was always a bit of a drama queen but she used to be someone I could talk to and have fun with. In the last while when we hung out things haven't been as fun as they used to be. She's become more negative, creates stress and drama from nothing. (or maybe she's always been like that but I have a lower tolerance for drama now) There have been unpleasant conversations where, if I have a different opinion than her, she tells me that I am "just naive" and "don't know about the ways of the world". I was getting fed up with her, but gave her the benefit of the doubt because she's been through a lot lately.
The final straw was yesterday when she said, "let's go out for a meal, I'll take you to this restaurant that I really want to go to because they have healthy options and I'm on a diet." I said, "sure, sounds good." It's a bit far away so she said she would pick me up (she has a car, I don't drive) but then she suggested that I meet her halfway so that she could "save on petrol". I was confused and simply questioned her logic on it - for me to meet her where she wanted to meet it would be a 40 minute walk or a £3 taxi ride in order to save the extra 10p in petrol it would cost her to drive all the way to pick me up.
She then got fuming mad at me, saying I was "ungrateful" and that I "took her for granted," and that I was "so rude," and that I shouldn't just expect rides from people, etc. I just said, "look, going to that restaurant that is far away was your idea, why don't we just meet at this other restaurant that is close to both of us so it's easier and you don't have to give me a lift?" But no... she was already going off on how rude and clueless I was, etc.
>continued
>>16787624
I finally stood up for myself. I calmly and politely said that I didn't like the way she was speaking to me and that I didn't feel like going out for a meal with her. I told her that I didn't see how offering me a lift from the next town over to a restaurant she wanted to go to was a favour to me. Also, that it was a small deal about restaurant choices and lifts that we could have worked out calmly without getting into insulting my character or my intelligence. I told her that our friendship wasn't necessarily over, but that I didn't appreciate the drama and how it made me feel and I didn't want it in my life.
Well... I shouldn't have been surprised but she reacted just like my mom did when I asked her to stop bullying and emotionally abusing me.
- She brought up old small things from years ago that I apparently did wrong but I don't even remember.
- She said I am naive and don't know anything about people and their ways.
- She said that she didn't mean anything and that I just took it the wrong way. She minimized her role in things.
- She said that it was me who was being rude.
- She insisted that she was doing me a favour by taking me to the other restaurant because I wanted to go somewhere different (although it was her suggestion and I didn't say I wanted to go somewhere different).
- She brought out the guilt trip of, "but we've been friends for so long and I've always been there for you." (very similar to the parental guilt trip of "I raised you and sacrificed so much for you.")
- She didn't actually apologise but instead made a non-apology, "I'm sorry if I've upset you, I didn't mean to and I'm shocked that you think so!"
- She tried to get me to just forget it all, "just come out for a meal and none of this will be mentioned."
- Then a few hours later she texted me about how angry all this had made her. (I didn't reply to that one.)
>>16787624
>>16787628
Since then, she's gone and told her dad and at least two of her other friends about our conversation and how "rude" I was - and she's unfriended me on Facebook. Heaven forbid I ask her to treat me with a little bit of respect because if I do she can't handle it. I suppose one positive is that because I recognized so many similarities with my mom I was able to grey rock my way through it and not take any of her emotional manipulations to heart.
I feel emotionally drained after all this...
Okay, so I did try to read all of it but couldn't manage to.
You don't need to justify yourself that much. You stood up for yourself in a situation where you felt that you should. From half of what you wrote it sounded like you handled it as you should have. It might have started off in a petty way that escalated but that doesn't excuse shit.
She doesn't seem to be very intent when it comes to changing her way so what you should do is to stop talking to her and ignore her.
Made friends with a girl at college. Asked her out, she said she had a boyfriend but still really wanted to be friends, that's cool. She sent me a (probably) drunk text one night, I responded, and now she hasn't talked to me at all and changed her Facebook so it's clear she's in a relationship.
Did I fuck up? Should I leave it alone? It's been 4 days, maybe she's just busy and I'm overthinking it.
no
yes
correct
>>16787626
Do I wait for her to talk to me though? She's the only person I could have a conversation with as of late, the rest of my friends shitpost
>>16787665
yes
make more girl friends in the meantime
Is being born with a small dick, the undeniable proof of being a beta male?
Hear me out, if a man has a small dick, he will inevitably be anxious or overcompensating around women.
Even if he gets them in bed, women will laugh at his face when they see it and make him feel worthless
Are all dicklets doomed for betaness forever?
>>16787602
1/10. Apply yourself if you want to troll.
>>16787602
I kinda want to know myself.
How/ where can me and my GF have sex if neither of our homes will work?
>>16787594
If you're looking for home improvement tips, head over to /diy/. Pick up some carpentry skills and turn your tired old abode into a veritable shag pad.
My house I got you covered bro
>>16787594
hotel?
love don't give you the answers?
Might have gotten my GF pregnant, we were fucking without a condom for once and I felt I may be cumming soon. Pulled out and immediately came on her stomach. What do you think my odds are and what should I do?
Pic unrelated. I mostly need some people to talk to about this, a little worried.
Is she on the pill? If not, why weren't you wearing a condom?
If shes on the pill that + never cumming in her is pretty damn safe.
everything's going to be okay.
>>16787581
Congrats OP! Fatherhood is one of the most challenging, but most rewarding experiences life has to offer.
I hate myself so much, I have no self esteem. The person I'm closest to takes every chance she can get to jab at my self esteem.
I really hate everyone. That's part of what destroys me. Not only do I hate myself for the mistakes I've made but I feel like everyone is a piece of shit, and will just end up taking me for granted.
What do I do guys. I'm not in this life just to be around for myself, but everyone sucks.
Really leaves little hope for the future and dying seems so nice. I died once before and it was so peaceful. When I came back it was back to the bullshit.
>I died once before and it was so peaceful. When I came back it was back to the bullshit
What
I died, like my heart stopped for a minute.
It felt great.
Got brought back. Wasn't happy about it.
>>16787567
>i hate myself
than take the time to be someone you'd like.
>i have no self esteem
self esteem comes from completing and experiencing positive things, like mastering an instrument, or an art, or simply finishing your hike. do more things and see them through and you will start to see what you are capable of.
>i really hate everyone
you have no reason to. maybe stop being a cunt.
>>will just end up taking me for granted
whats there to take for granted? you literally hate yourself and have no self esteem. to take some one for granted, there has to be something there worth appreciating that gets ignored. if you have nothing worth appreciating (hence why you hate yourself) how can they take you for granted.
>everyone sucks
sounds like you see the worst in people because you refuse to find anything good in yourself.
either get your shit together and make a life worth living, or stop whining.
I'm a 24 year old bisexual guy from denmark. I'm in the closet but I still want to have sex with men.
I'm planning to go to a gay sauna thing this weekend too have look at and have sex with older men.. but I'm scared to meet anyone that will recognize me there.
Let's say I meet someone I know in the sauna,
What should my "excuse" be for being in a gay sauna when I'm "straight"..?
32 y/o gay guy here:
1) Nobody is going to be there who you recognise. It's a fucking sex sauna.
2) Nobody gives a damn that you wanna fuck men. You live in Scandinavia, not Saudi Arabia. Literally the most liberal part of Europe and this fag is worried.
>>16787558
if they are there at the gay sex sauna to have gay sauna sex, then no excuse is going to convince them you arent there for the same reason.
that being said, unless you know quite a few gay people, you wont meet anyone you know there that isnt as closeted as you are. and if thats the case, you both know to keep each others secrets cuz netiher of you wants to be outed.
I hope you get aids.
is chat roulette a good option for social tards to learn to converse?
I'm not ugly, but i cant talk to girls and dont wanna fuck 5s and 6s to learn...
itt i just wanna meet cute asians on tinder..
no, go out and talk u sperglord
i cannot wait til the day you manchilds stop getting money from daddy/mommy, its gonna be a hilraious cringe fest
>>16787550
I'm poor af, in school and semi depressed. welcome to the cringefest
(Pic unrelated)Been through lotta SHIT with her these days.
And felt like i was on a harsh uncontrollable relationship.so my mind took off today and kissed a girl which I just met today for the first time..
I feel good with her.and I cant say I regret doing what I did today.cause it felt satisfying and passionate.Very very satisfying in fact!
Thing is.I dont wanna hurt my gf.
What do?
>>16787537
Did you fuck her
>>16787537
break up with your gf. if you have no regrest you're going to do it again. might as well not hurt your gf in the process. break up with her.
>>16787561
Which one? Ahahahah
