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Today I fucked things up for myself, for no apparent reason but my self destructive behaviour. I don't know what to do.
I woke up early to go to an appointment with a professor. But I got lost cleaning my mail inbox and it got too late and I just felt so shit that morning. So I wrote him an apology that there was some unforseen event. He asnwered in a kinda angry tone.
Later in the afternoon there was the class with that same prof, but I didn't go, I was angry at myself and at him (he actually is an asshole, others say it as well) and was pale as a corpse...
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Well, damn, Anon, you really seem to be sabotaging your own career. You've lived your live on the rails - school, college, following expectations. But are you realizing this isn't the life for you? It sounds like you're hating it now, and it's getting worse.
This would be a good time to think about what you want from life, and how to attain that. You don't have to graduate college, get a 9-5 job, and stay in a field you hate marking time until retirement.
To pick an example out of a hat, would you be happier learning carpentry? Working...
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>>16788129
What exactly did he write that made you think he wrote it in an angry tone? Was it something he ACTUALLY wrote which would suggest that, or was it all in your head?
When I sometimes read stuff during an intense moment, I always paint it in bias and imagine things. Then I re-read it later on a cool head and notice there isn't really as much emotion put in the writing as I'd originally thought.
I say this because professors have a lot of students and 1) it's unethical to be openly mad...
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>>16788129
You're just being a dumbass.
You need to experience failure- it will motivate you to actually do these little things that make a big difference.
You're too complacent.
My advice is to learn from this experience. Next year as you're having to repeat the class, think about how much it sucks. Next time you "don't feel like" going to class or to a meeting or to the doctor, think "is it worth it? I'll have to do _____ if I skip. Is saving myself this little effort now...
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>be me
>Last month grandpa died
>Few days after, my mother went to the hospital
>This month confim she have a little tumor, but can remove it with "simple" operation
>still worry, mother looks very sad all the days
>School don't go totally good
>More tired day after day
>Bf isn't bad, but he's ignoring...
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>>16788123
>Boohoo school is so hard and my other boyfriend is mildly happy and waaaaaaaaa!
Shut the fuck up. These aren't even problems. Fuck off.
>>16788123
Sauce on cutie manga boy?
How can I develop a sense of empathy and sympathy? I have been like this almost my entire life. Whenever someone tells me about their shitty life I can pretend to care but in my head I am just like " stfu pussy your life ain't that hard" i also cannot put myself in their shoes no matter how hard I try. Sometimes I can but only if I have gone through the same but again, it is SOMETIMES. This has been starting to affect my marriage as sometimes I am a dick to my wife and I do not realize I am until she storms off mad.
Help.
stop being 14
>>16788097
you could be a sociopath, look a bit into that and if you find yourself a bit too often in other sociopath's experiences and stories, you should maybe get someone experienced to work with about it
>>16788147
Where can I find such a thing?
hey guys, anyone familiar with the law here?
am i allowed to share information on the internet about step by step how to do illegal activities? eg. make a private game server business, how to cheat on license exams, how to con artist and forge legal documents
what about selling these information in a ebook?
obviously i don't condone doing any of these. they're terrible things to do. but i want people to know how to do them
Freedom of speech m8. Just say that the information is for study pourposes and that its illigal to out any of it to practical use and away you go ^_^
>>16788148
sure there is freedom of speech but i think what OP is doing closely mimics publicly inciting others to do criminal activities, which is a crime
honestly, not sure
>>16788083
had a buddy who was buying DRUGS from a website which claimed they were "chemicals for research purposes"
then there's tutorials on everything illegal out there, from making bombs to cooking meth to robbing banks
the worst that could happen to you, even if you paid for hosting with your credit card, would be having your website taken down
this implies you'd have enough traffic to catch the eye of a morally-triggered enough person to do what's necessary to report you
what...
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I'm 19, male, I've had 3 jobs and got fired from all 3 in under 2 months, I've never had a relationship, I don't have a driver's license and have barely ever driven, I have no future plans for college, and at this point I feel like I'm so far behind in life that there is no shot of me ever catching up in any meaningful way.
My first job I got I lost in my first week because my feet hurt so badly that I couldn't stand at the end of my third shift, that was a year and a half ago. I used to have a BMI of 37 and have been obese my entire...
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Sounds like you're not finding motivation and fulfilment in your work life, OP. Think about what careers interest you, and have solid ongoing job prospects. Probably the best thing to get you out of your rut and into the big money would be to start training in a rewarding skill-based segment such as carpentry and woodwork.
>>16788077
>I've had 3 jobs and got fired from all 3 in under 2 months
How the hell does that even happen?
>My first job I got I lost in my first week because my feet hurt so badly that I couldn't stand at the end of my third shift, that was a year and a half ago. I used to have a BMI of 37 and have been obese my entire life so problems like this are pretty normal for me.
Being obese doesn't help, but that's something you deal with...
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I feel like one of the main things that prevents me from holding a job besides constant physical pain from bad feet bad posture and bad knees, is complete lack of any desire to actually make money. For all of my jobs so far, despite them being literally the 3 easiest jobs on the market probably (stocking shelves twice, unloading trucks once,) I have found it so mentally and physically taxing to actually work 8 hour shifts 3-5 times a week, that minimum wage is not even close to enough pay to make me actually want to do it, yet at the same time the actual quality of my work is...
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what's a good way to bring up sex with a tinder date?
We went on a half assed date last week and we haven't really gone on other dates but she's been flirty with me. Its obvious the only thing that's gonna happen is a quick fuck, how do I bring that up?
Lmao, you're supposed to ask them if they want to smash or not straight away.
>taking a tinder slut on an actual date
Are you fucking retarded? She's probably already taken a few different dicks from tinder while you're being a fucking beta pussy.
Taking a tinder slut on a fucking date, holy shit I can't breathe here.
>>16788089
this
shes probably over you by now and will probably ignore any further approach
find -another one-
tinder girls are like every other girl, you just put yourself in a situation where fucking is expected and then you either fuck or you don't
>asking if they want to smash
>p-p-please can we have sex
Hey /adv have question?
I'm 20 year old male, have girlfriend since I was 17. We are three years in a relationship and I can really say that I love her. But, like there is always but in every story like this, I feel that I need to be single while I'm young, and that I will feel bad about not "getting" everything from my youth and that there is many things in life to do right now rather than being in a relationship. I met this girl that is with me on college, she goes all flirty on me like other girls did before but I just ignored them, I don't...
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always option b
>>16788046
Believe me I was say to my self milion times you need to be most important to yourself but I just dont know can I do that to her. She is still and I think will be for a long period of time, madly in love with me.
>>16788046
You feel like you need to be single because that opinion has been forced on you by your peers.
There are no guarantees that you will ever find a love worth keeping at your intended 25, and there is a guarantee that you will never have a love exactly like the one you have now.
Ask yourself is it worth it giving up on a real true love for ideals of narrow minded society and destroying life of a good person and gf?
I would say to keep her anon, loyalty and love are really undervalued nowadays
Yo adv, me and a friend of mine want to start selling amateur porn videos/do cams with people/satisfy some fetishes. We are both 18 yo and in good shape, I've been doing muay thai for three years, she's thin.
The question is, what are some good sites where we can sell our "productions", take requests and everything involved with gaining money by filming ourselves doing perv-shit?
>>16788028
How to spot a normie 101
You will examine they use "yo" instead of years old
You're looking at a highly competitive and ill-paid segment, where many people will try to take advantage of you, and that may have a severe impact on your future potential in a wide range of fields, including problems in work and family life.
If you're looking to make some extra money, think about doing so in a more lucrative and wholesome field, such as carpentry.
>>16788031
OP here, seriously concerned by your opinion.
Can anyone tell me what this means?
It means you aren't pregnant.
>>16788026
It means that the person being tested is probably pregnant, or was until very recently.
>>16788059
Sorry; I misread the results. Probably NOT pregnant.
Why do employers have such a double standard of only wanting experience but none of them ever help you get it if you don't have it yet? Not everyone can honestly do well in a job like fastfood/retail. If I could I would do something like that but it would be a complete waste of effort. Makes you really have no confidence when nobody wants to give you a chance.
If you don't get an internship or connects in college or grad school then you're SOL, and then you can look forward to 12 dollars an hour being a customer service rep or some equally shit job with no upwards movement
What kind of job are you looking for?
>>16788024
You're looking at fields in which your personal value added is very hard to judge, as a small part of a complex system, so they use experience as a proxy.
Try getting into a business where your own skill and capacity is easily demonstrable, such as carpentry.
I need some advice
I don't know really where to start so I'll just go with it
all my problems started when I met my ex, our relationship was always a bit weird and we did argue a lot but we always promised each other we loved each other, I have great memories with her and all the best things in my life came when I met her. she changed me for the better. she is so good looking and amazing, way out of my league. Anyway, we were together for almost two years, during that time she dumped me to go on holiday to Zante (everyone knows what goes on there) she dumped...
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>>16788012
Before you even finish, if you're still seeing these people, cut contact. That child will never be yours, if she's spewing vitriol to anyone that will listen.
>>16788012
I'd say work on sentence structure. That's a a god damn run on to the moon. Seriously man, commas aren't periods. Also, use paragraphs. No one wants to read a huge chunk of shit, but one might read 3 smaller pieces of shit.
sorry about lack of grammar and structure.
after baby was born and we was all at home (her dads house) we lived in a tiny room, with her pug, she treated that thing better than me I swear, even the way she spoke to it.
I would actually call her out sometimes about the way she treated me and if she really wanted to be with me, she would always say that her doing "things" for me proved that she loved me. she would always talked to me like she was really pissed off, sometimes act like I wasn't there, be texting away to god knows who. I was feeling more...
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Will being Cambodian help my chances of getting into college, or being adopted? I've heard that African Americans with a decent GPA have a higher chance of getting into their preferred universities versus whites.
yes that is correct
>Will being Cambodian help my chances of getting into college, or being adopted?
I'm sure you'll find someone to adopt you, just hang in there OP.
>>16788009
Nope. There are so many qualified Asians that apply for US universities that it's the hardest for them to get in.
I remember my college counselor specifically telling me not to put "prefer not to state" for race in my applications because they would assume I'm Asian.
Many colleges try to fill diversity quotas, and the Asian bracket has the most competition.
Any of you guys out there refuse to get married and have kids because your genetics are quite literally shit?
The only thing that bothers me about this is that I have failed the most basic goal in life which is to reproduce.
>>16787997
Your cells undergo mitosis all the time
You made it brother
the most basic goal??
foh breh
>>16787997
>most basic goal in life
Kek, your sense of self importance is funny seeing as how pathetic you see yourself. Not everyone wants to have kids, you choose your own goals in life. Serving your preconceived notation that all life must reproduce is extremely simple minded and ultimately your impact on this world will be nothing regardless of if you have kids or not. So who gives a fuck? Live for yourself.
>meet this girl in class
>drop dead 3.14 qt completely outgoing, confident and energetic
>I'm the poplar opposite introverted, quiet, and low energy
>don't sit next to her but she said hi to me in the hall
>she's super outgoing and talks to everyone she see's
>in class she keeps looking at me she sits in front and diagonally from me so I can see her
>I...
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This is so cringey.
>>16787991
lol this is above cringey, its so silly and naive that im just smirking here
she likes you just like she likes 90% of people she talks to. dont read too much into it and just befriend her, talk to her and possibly get to meet her girl friends
what you need is pussy interaction, not an outgoing crush
Hey /adv/, looking for some academic advice,
I'm portuguese and I'm currently living in Lisbon, studying civil engineering at Tecnico Lisboa (IST), however I was thinking about moving to the US and start studying there.
Obviously I don't have enough money to afford university there, Is it possible to apply for a scholarship, where do I even start? I have no idea.
Pic related, the shithole I'm stuck in.
You're studying civil engineering in Portugal, but you don't specify what interests you in the US academic world. All branches of engineering are pretty much a dead end sector these days - but there are definitely opportunities aplenty if you're interested in learning the fundamental skills of carpentry, for instance.
It would be a good idea to learn the basic in Portugal, so you can bring contributions of European woodworking styles when you come to the US to study more advanced and specialized techniques.
>>16787973
I forgot to mention that civ eng is not that interesting to me anymore, I'm on the second year of my five year masters and it's painful.
I was thinking about studying computer science there, since we don't have it here in Portugal, the closest thing we have is computer engineering or network engineering.
I know it's a slow board, but I could really use some imput from you guys.
