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So I recently moved out on my own. Today when I was unpacking the last of my things I found a box a junk from my family's basement. I don't know why I took it with me, but inside was a pair of my sisters worn flip flops.
I've always had a pathetic thing for her feet, but never had the balls to try take any of her footwear while we were living in the same house. But now I've got some, and there isn't anything that be done about it.
How fucked up would it be for me to keep them as my personal fap too? I can't be the only fagoot that...
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It's weird and would freak a lot of people out if they knew but I can't see the harm.
>>16787535
How old is she? Any pics of her feet?
19. And I don't have any pics. There were alot of people in the house, too much risk.
Can I get some tips on instigating a threesome with two bi-curious women who have plainly stated that they are down?
I think that really the only thing stopping it from happening is that I need to create the opportunity, they both have busy schedules. The three of us are going to a bar this weekend and I am not sure how to get past the little flirting dance that the three of us do with each other and get them to come back to my house.
The last time I tried to make it happen girl B started conversation about how she doesn't know what to do to another woman...
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>"Hey you two should come over to my place, lets get a couple bottles of wine and I'll cook for you"
I almost walked into this situation with my girlfriend and a friend of hers (it was a trap though, kek) but that's where a threesome would naturally occur between three people stated to have been interested in it.
>>16787533
I meant that I need advice for this specific situation, we're going to the bar because they both want to go there. Killing that plan and changing it to my house isn't an option, but it can be parlayed into a night cap.
What do you mean your situation was a trap? They were testing you? I really hope you're not with that woman anymore...
Last one
So I was just fired from my job after 13 months.
The management was god awful, and is done from another country. The guy acting as manager is never here and is officially a salesperson.
Anyway over the course of the year I ended up taking on an assload of responsibilities to make up for the over employees' shortcomings (I was the only male there so I helped with 3 departments daily as well as running my own department with no help)
It got to the point where I was lucky to be able to take a break, often working 10 hour days without one, all the while making...
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You know how the other employees did the bare minimum, because they were smart enough to recognise that they weren't going to get recognition for doing more? You should have done the same.
It sounds to me like you should be glad to get out of such a shitty workplace.
>>16787523
Yeah as I mentioned above I was the only one asked because I was the only guy working there, so anything with heavy lifting or anything went to me.
They were presented as temporary duties until hiring someone else, which never happened. Then they added responsibilities which I couldn't do due to never having time for a break, and fired me on the spot upon telling them that
>>16787593
Oh, I definitely am. The fact that they're going to lose...
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I'm dating a girl who is very hot/cold and I'm not sure how to interpret the situation.
She seems to enjoy my company and appears enthusiastic whenever we make plans, but whenever we're not together she is terrible with communicating to the point where I question whether or not she is in fact interested. I'm not expecting a text conversation throughout the course of the day, but her replies are so sparse it's awkward to arrange anything. I wouldn't mind so much, but she uses FB a fair bit so I figured sparing one minute to reply to my message...
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Don't judge people by their Facebook habits. I'm speaking from experience. Every idiot with a smartphone will log into Facebook every 15 minutes, but yet take hours/days to respond to an actual message send through it. Almost everyone. It's a modern addiction for idiots with shortened attention spans.
If you've sent her a message like "I finish work at 6, wanna come over to mine and have dinner at 8?" or whatever, and she doesn't get back to you til 7:30 just to say "soz bae, buzy" then you need to talk to her about it
>great in person
>terrible when apart
this is common in certain situations where people are busy/aren't consistent communicators. If everything is great in person, everything's fine and you're being paranoid.
nothing to do but battle your insecurities quietly, bro
>>16787490
I say try to text her, but if she doesn't respond quickly enough to you asking about hanging out, give her a quick call.
Draft Script:
Hello
How are you?
Comment on their day.
What you want to do?
When you do you want to do it?
Cool
See you then
When ever I'm dating someone, I feel unstable, crazy, weak and vulnerable. That I'm not good enough and that I'm just someone you settle down with.
As single I'm strong, stable, confident and consider myself as sort of a catch. I got a positive image about myself and I feel generally good about myself.
But once I start dating someone, it all disappears. I don't enjoy dating cause I'm constantly feeling anxious and if I get rejected or something, it would ruin the image I have of myself. I'm okay if I please myself, and I just feel like I can't risk that.
Will I ever be able to be in a relationship? How can someone overcome these strong feelings?
bump because I feel the same, it makes me neurotic as fuck
your ego is farther than pluto
How to get over the fact that I'm no longer in her life? She broke up with me three months ago but I know she's having depressions right now. I cant help, I can't text her, I can't hug her...nothing.
I feel bad that I wasnt the one who'll free her from this. I always felt with her, even now...is it creepy?
She's the one who sent you away, respect those wishes and move on. Find someone better.
She wasnt happy from breaking up...it just happened. I still feel connected to her and don't know how to let go even if I'm trying.
She's probably getting fucked by a big-dicked Chad right now and is incredibly happy. Don't worry about it, bro.
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It's official. I am now legally autistic Only socially though, so it's straight up Asperger's symptom-wise, but it's now a part of ASD.
Should I start disclosing this on job applications where it takes the "voluntary" info? On the one hand it's saying I'm disabled, but on the other, I bomb interviews left and right and maybe documenting it means I can claim discrimination if something goes wrong.
What do I do now, both in applying for jobs and overall?
Yeah, because what employer WOULDN'T want someone who's socially inept, right? You can't claim discrimination, they're just going to say that you were shit at interviews, which you were.
Op were you officially diagnosed by a doctor?
Word to the wise: Don't disclose disabilities until after you get the job.
Are you considered a bad friend if you couldn't convince your boy out of the whole hood shit path?
Nah, you're only a bad friend if you stop offering that path out. People make their own decisions and you can't change it, but you can help them keep their options open. Hard situation though man, good luck to you
Guys:
If your most recent ex that you quickly moved in with ended up being crazy and making you miserable would you be leery to move in with your current long term gf, even if she stayed with you typically four days a week, and was nothing like your ex, took care of the house, made you happy to be around ect.
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half and has mentioned us living together before but is seemingly backing it up now, when we both need to start looking out for new houses/appartments. Could the situation explained be why?
Possible reasons:
1) He greatly values the time he spends independent of you
and/or
2) he's not as serious about you as you are about him
>>16787480
Or he remembered just how much hair girls leave everywhere
>>16787484
Holy fuck, this. I'm near breaking up with my girlfriend because of this. I didn't believe it was a thing until my soon to be ex gf moved in.
The pillows, the bathroom, the goddamn couch, everything has her hair on it.
I think I have an inferiority complex. I've heard plenty of tales of delusions of grandeur, which makes me nervous, because somewhere inside me I have to know I've achieved something rigorous and difficult, something I'm satisfied with. The Wikipedia article for inferiority complex has a good part; "...experience of being unable to reach a subconscious, fictional final goal of subjective security and success to compensate for the inferiority feelings."
The point is I'm in high school and have shit grades in everything. I got accepted to a...
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affect* sorry
>What should I choose?
Your major or career choice isn't exactly something you should leave the hands of this websites Anonymous denizens.
Do you really want to be a computer engineer? Then go to uni. Would you prefer to start working? Then do that.
>>16787448
Right but a part of posting this is just to try and feel some solidarity with other similarly afflicted people.
Or people older than me who may have gone through indecision could help
I've always gave up on everything i've tried to do.
I've though it was because i was a weak minded person and would need to live with it till the rest of my life. But no, i think that's not the reason.
I have severe anxiety, and watching something about how the time is relative, important and has a end, i think i understand everything now.
I give up on things because i don't know how to use my time. Like, tomorrow i have to go to the orthopedist at 5pm. So, the whole day i can't do nothing, "because ill not get to it in...
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just relax man, when you feel overwhelmed just sit down and calm down, focusing on breathing, deep calm breaths
i know what you mean though, if i have to do something then i am living in the knowledge that "i have to do this later" at all times it seems and it does taint the day in a way.
>>16787974
That's the sensation. I'm trying to control it when it happens but sincerely it's very bad
> And with the sensation that's no time's left
But that's right. You don't know how much time you havhae. You may plans for next week youre worrying about now, but what if you died today? Wasted your time worrying about the future.
Sad way to live
