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How do I be less needy and so in love with my girlfriends? I act like the girl of the relationship it's so bad
Stop depending on your partner for happiness. Your happiness depends on you.
Find a hobby, or focus on your career. Your girlfriend is your partner in life, not your possession.
Accept the fact that your relationship could end horrible, either through cheating or something else. Face this fear and be prepared for it, and you're free.
Just be a fucking man, dude. No girl likes a clingy guy. Focus on having fun and making your partner laugh. Form a connection. Don't suck the life out of her and expect her to keep you happy forever.
Am I pregnant? My boyfriend and I have had non-protected penetrative sex (only for about 5-10 seconds, no orgasming from either of us it was just a short penetration) on one or two occasions this cycle about a week ago. Since then I've been having these symptoms:
>food cravings (specifically salty, spinach)
>irritable
>breasts seem like they're getting bigger/fuller
My period is in a week so I'll know for sure then but I'm curious what are my odds? For reference
>My boyfriend is circumcised and I don't think he precums at all. He doesn't seem to think so either. I've never seen it when giving him a handjob or tasted/felt anything when giving him a blowjob
>Even if some precum did leak out I read that precum doesn't have sperm in it if the guy didn't orgasm in the past 24 hours and pees frequently, is this true?
You are being stupid, you could very likely be pregnant.
Precum isn't a full load of cum. It's a tiny dot of moisture that sticks out of your dick. It's invisible if you're not looking for it, even then it is hard to notice unless your dick is 100% dry.
Every man precums.
And yes, precum contains sperm.
As a woman you should have at least ten pregnancy tests ready for use. You can order them cheap online. My gf has over fifty of them and hands them out to her friends because they do dumb shit like this.
>>16788639
That's bullshit. Not all guys precum, precum doesn't have sperm in it unless the guy didn't piss after ejaculation.
>>16788647
Yes, all men precum, but only about 50% of precum contains sperm.
Still, 50% chance that you're risking impregnation. Don't be stupid. Use a condom.
Ok adv
I'm a girl and I have this female friend who is driving me mad. Here's why:
>whenever talks with me talks about boobs (she has none, I have G cup becaue I'm fat and she bangs on and on how terrible it is to be a flatchest
>always mentions her ex, some guys she currently obsesses over (and there's plenty of them)
>complains how she misses sex, cuddling and having a bf
>is terribly shallow, talks about boobs, ass, make up and clothes all the time
issue? I don't give a fuck at all. I mean, I heard these things already so many times it bores me to death. Her elaborate essays tfw no tits, or summaries of her dreams about and ex she was with for 3 nights five years ago...
I have other girl friends and we talk about boys and sex and make up and cute clothes and all that girly shit, but they can talk about other things to; this one is always focused on her looks and tfw no bf and it makes me feel uncomfortable like hell. I don't even know how to respond to half of her messages
what do???
>>16788602
Is there a good reason why you're reluctant to cut off your friendship with her? It doesn't seem like either of you are suitable friends with each other.
>>16788602
Post your tits
>>16788602
Some women can't stand the endless shitchatter that women do; try making friends with guys and see if you relate better.
Which field will have more prospects in the future? Electrical Engineering, Mechanical Eng, or CS?
>>16788593
Cotton Field
>>16788593
Everything you mentioned is garbage. Chemical engineering is the best.
None of the above.
Become a writer if you want a job
I got stood up by a girl who I already had sex with. She was supposed to come over tonight and she's been to my house once before she didn't return my text or my phone call and totally blew me off.
The facts
>we had sex only once
>she agreed to come over today
>she has a boyfriend
>this is the second time she's done this
>I've only texted and called her once today both of which I know she's seen.
>I have class with her tomorrow and I usually sit next to her
I'm really mad right now but and I don't really want to go out with her again. But i don't know what the right play is for tomorrow. Do I be assertive and tell her "hey look you could of just said you didn't want to come over you really made me feel like shit" something along thos lines OR do I just completely ignore her when she gets to class and pretend like I don't give a fuck? The only problem is that I do give a fuck and I want some fucking closure I'd like to know why and then explain to her that she made me pissed but we are fine now.
What's the right move??? Plz say your gender with your advice.
Dude, if she's fucked you behind another man's back, basic logic dictates that she's probably an insensitive cunt that cares for nobody but herself. Fuck that bitch right off.
Male:
Getting attached to a girl who cheats on her boyfriend is beta as fuck.
You already are a loser for hooking up with her and not having the nobility to inform her boyfriend.
You're pathetic. Fix yourself.
Tell her boyfriend that she's a slut and that she cheated on him with you, and that he should dump her. Then never talk to her again.
You really expected to milk a relationship out of this? laughing out loud
Also, you're a massive fucking beta for getting attached to a chick who clearly has no issue with fucking dudes around.
Someone here has already join the army?
I'm from Argentina, and i'm thinking about go to the USA to serve the army and gain citizenship. I wonder how the army of the United States is.
>>16788528
We're full
>>16788528
Why not join your own country's military, Che? You could have another go at the old Malvinas.
So I've never done anything with facebook and haven't touched any social media since myspace over a decade ago. I've never really felt like I was missing out since I was a loser and a loner for years but recently I've started making more friends, being more social, improving my life, etc. But I'm still that guy who doesn't have facebook.
Actually, I technically do but I only logged on once years ago just because a family member had me make it to join a crew in their game or something. Either way it's as blank as can be.
So I guess I'm wondering now, as I've had a few friends say I really should get one to keep in touch with everyone, if it's worth it or not. And beyond that, how do you manage friends vs family with something like facebook? I'm really oblivious to how it works but it seems to me there's stuff you want to keep to your group of friends and stuff that you want to keep to your family. Is that a thing? Or am I worried about nothing and does nobody care about or expect any privacy when it comes to facebook?
Am I really missing out on that much socially by being pretty much the only person I know who doesn't have one?
>>16788527
upload a pic and a cover, make your account private so no one can see how many friends you have, and you pretty much have a normie fb account
>>16788527
I don't think you're missing much. Facebook can be a lot of trouble. I used to check it often and waste a lot of time. The people on my feed that use it seem to be self-obsessed with crafting their image. I've never been good at participating in non-anonymized online communities but I keep a really low key profile on Facebook for events and for university-related groups. For the people that I actually want to be in contact with, I communicate with them by other means. If I were you, I'd keep a basic profile but try not to get wrapped up in it.
I don't have a facebook account. I deleted it years ago.
Facebook is useful as a glorified address book, and as way to find out about events that are being held. But that's it.
You see status updates from people such as photos, news etc. but they're carefully selected, heavily curated, and completely unrepresentative of what's actually going on in people's lives and thoughts. They give very one sided, 2 dimensional representations of people, which is why I stopped using it. Social media is a public platform for self promotion, that doesn't lend itself to intimacy.
Anyone else gone through a stage where you have bad dreams. Every night for over a week I've had really depressing dreams that make me feel like shit. They aren't scary just really depressing like my family is in a war zone and I'm trying to protect them.
I've a few things going off in life which aren't terrible but not great. I try to watch funny or relaxing stuff.
I usually have one of the same 3 nightmares. I don't really mind them because by now I know Im dreaming pretty much immediately and I just ride them out and wait for a nicer dream induced lucid dreaming a few times was pretty cool.
As soon as you realise its a dream try to stay in it maybe you could lucid dream a positive outcome
Why do your dreams make you feel like shit? Nothing in your dream is real. Why can't you disregard them the moment you awaken?
>>16788635
I wake up feeling like I did in the dream with my stomach in knots, this mornings was bad and it took me 20 minutes to calm down. I feel like the dream lasts for hours.
Hey /adv/
I was recently offered a chance to apply to work as a bartender at this micro brewery. I've never done anything like this before and it's definitely out of my comfort zone but I know the place well and it fits with my schedule nicely. I'd be working by myself on a busy night and make good tips. It just scares the shit out of me. Any tips? I'm in my early 20's and a dude.
Bar work is stressful, underpaid, and the hours are seriously bad for your health. Think of this as a stopgap job for while you train in a better long term career, such as carpentry.
Also, be sure to get plenty of vitamins, as late nights working at a brewery mean you're going to need more to stay healthy, and you need your immune system on point.
>>16788511
Only a night a week and yes I'm in school for something grander
Anyone ?
What's wrong with my face/head shape?
>>16788488
You appear to lack a third dimension
Seek a therapist, hit the gym, get new hobbies and be yourself
>>16788494
You forgot to mention taking up carpentry
I'm going speed dating tomorrow, going to put some good threads on but what sort of stuff is appropriate to talk about? Is it ok to ask about past partners, or are hobbies the limit? I get that you're meant to try and make it flirty but I don't know where the line is. What about something like:
*looks at namebadge quickly*
"I'm sorry, I was looking at your namebadge but it's in an awkward place, didn't want you thinking I was looking down there"
Also I'm going to go in with some lines to break the ice like this, open with something like:
"so you're single, tell me what's wrong with you"
"what are you doing here, a girl like you doesn't look like you need to speed date"
Any other ideas? I'm actually not too bothered about actually getting a gf from this, I'm just interested in boosting my confidence. The way I see it is that if I can use the same one or two lines on everyone, it shows that the same bit of confidence can work on anyone.
Don't use lines. All of the examples you gave are terrible, they all sound like lines, and fuck man if you use the same line on different women in the same room all night, you are just setting yourself up for humiliation.
Don't go in with prepared material in your head. I can't fucking understand why so many guys do this. Try to learn something about the person sitting across from you. Speed dating is awful, but make the most of it.
>>16788438
Do you have Aspergers? All your lines sound really awkward...
>>16788438
>"I'm sorry, I was looking at your namebadge but it's in an awkward place, didn't want you thinking I was looking down there"
9/10 trolling I literally cringed and shuddered
How to kill a conversation in one sentence
The past two weeks I've been having multiple dreams somehow including my ex-girlfriend either coming in randomly and trying to have sex with me, or her slowly deteriorating. I don't understand these dreams at all, and even though how we split was fucked up, I don't want to be having dreams continuously like this. Help?
Oh gosh I had that too! And at the time i had these dreams I had a new partner and then I felt really guilty, but I somehow had the feeling that I got over it better or at least I have more empathy for him now. But they can fuck up your day big time because you just dont want to be reminded of the sex etc.
i guess its normal. I talked to a friend about it and she had these dreams about her ex aswell...
But I have no Idea how to help you except for telling you that your not alone with this
The wanting to torture and kill people is psychotic. I want opinions on what one of these psychos should do. Do as in mental, psychological, or emotional help. How can any potential damage be prevented? The psycho has no intentions of killing himself.
See a therapist and they can at least help you control your violent or homicidal urges.
>>16788418
Some people can't be dealt with in that way. Reaching out to them only fuels their jealous, zealous hunger.
>>16788418
You sure that this person is serious? I also have few people that I would want to torture for destroying my country and I would do it but I also know that this is beside my reach. Does this person was aggressive, had problems with self control?
After a year with my gf,she wants to split.
Now when i found her she was like...total whore. I was older,smarter but ugly.She was everything but not smart and good and...I dont know.I fell in love. I just finished school but she just started,we fucked,loved,everything.
Now she was my first girl so,it is hard for me.Threw out nearly 3000€ on her.Took her for jobs,everywhere.My whole family hated her.She was a liar.And looked like a whore. and behaved like some sort of street junkie.
My mom hated her the most and made my life hell.Her mom was using me as ATM machine and a slave at their shithole home.
Then she started to lie about not smoking,flirting with other guys,sorta not telling me shit.But i had to tell her every fucking thing and detail.
One day she got prego.I insisted to misscarriage.She flips but does so.
About a 2 weeks later she wants me to marry her or at least propose.I refuse,After school I say.She flips heavily.I said We dont have money,family backup,nothing.
She now wants to split because "she cant imagine future with pussy like me"
Alright...i love her but i use my head,wich she clearly doesnt.WAT DO /adv/ ?
I love her but i feel like its toxic and its killing me to left her or be with her. We go to same town and..jesus its so heavy,All year just with her.
You accept that she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you and move on?
You deserve better OP. Tell yourself that and that's all you need to know. She doesn't deserve you.
Well, find somebody else.
Needy people piss me off and I end up making an ass of myself
How can I become a kinder person?
Should I only associate with self-suffecient people like me?
I met Gira once. He's really kind and funny, I was surprised.
>>16788790
You can only be mean for so long, i bet he gave out in the late 90's
Same to you OP. We all get lonely, you'll crack and start accepting people for who they are
>>16789202
I don't agree with this. There are a lot of old, curmudgeons/hermits who never grow patience for others. I am 33 and despite having a family, I have no patience for others, am insensitive, and am generally emotionally unavailable. I need nobody to help me process my feelings or help me with anything and I expect the same in return. This is also partly because I am impatient and partly due to selfishness in this area (most other areas I am selfless). The other factor is how I was raised - rely on nobody.
I purposely do not keep friends and shut out peers who have expressed a desire to get closer to me. I don't have a desire for these relationships. Oddly, I am very successful in my management position earning $112K last year, though my refusal to play politics and associate with others will likely keep me at this level or cause me to eventually self-destruct. I do not fit as a sociopath as I can empathize with others and work to avoid hurting people. All the same, I am generally regarded as aloof, robotic, and perhaps as a jerk. Ironically, I almost became a therapist until I realized I have no patience for others despite being a great problem-solver. Insight is a bitch. Sometimes how I am bothers me knowing I'll likely die alone and few will care, but most of the time it doesn't.
It seems like it does bother you, however, OP. Maybe try getting involved with charity? It may give you a new perspective and help you appreciate things more. Maybe if you fake it long enough, it'll become genuine? Either way, it's good you think a bit about how to be better because most people don't and certainly don't act on it. Best of luck!
