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A guy asking a girl relationship advices is more often than not wasting his time.
Thoughts?
>>16790144
>hey, how can I make someone happy, but someone else, not you
>ok, let me give you a 100% accurate solution
Getting a different perspective is good. Taking it as gospel truth is bad.
>>16790144
Well if you ask a girl who's longest relationship was a month then I wouldn't ask. Altho same goes for guys.
Ask people with experience in long lasting relationships.
Going to go to the movies with a girl this Friday, we've been messaging each other for while
Through some slight miscommunication or the fuck ever, was joking around, but now I think I made it so I'm suppose to make or bring her a gift.
This is a casual kind of date and I honestly don't know her too well, what's something I could do or get that's lighthearted and not cheesy or creepy?
>>16790132
Have you discussed things you both like? If you have a video game in common, get her a figure from that game. If a show one from that show. If a book, something relating to that book. Keep it cheap, you want it to be a knick knack, not something expensive that she might take as you trying to get her to owe you something.
>>16790146
Haven't really gone too in depth in those things yet, wanted to hopefully learn that stuff in person.
Still a good idea though
Buy her chocolates
Getting over virgin complex? I know it's petty, but I find myself getting hung up on it being morally or even tactically/strategically wrong to have casual sex, and a poor background giving me a fondness for conservative and self-preserving/over-protective values. How should I start looking past that to expand my dating pool?
but yo seriously I want to fuck, but don't want to feel like a loose slut for asking to fuck. Whether it's some random hookup or a close friend, it still feels slutty either way. wahat do
boy or girl, op?
assumed boy but saw the word slut pop up.
if you're a girl post slutty shit on facebook. niggas will be asking "dtf"
if ur male go drinking or some shit
Need genuine ways for revenge (that don't involve jail).
P.S. he lives under me.
P.S.S. he's also a fat mexican who kind of stalks me.
Don't.
Wrote on here a few days ago. Anyway, I got a guy friend whom I've known for 6 years in just a month. We started out as friends, then got together but that failed multiple times. We eventually came to the conclusion that we weren't meant to be more than friends. It's been hard but I've accepted it. I make sure I'm not all over him, I've always respected him and his schedule. We mostly chat via messenger and from time to time over voice. Although hes the one who initiates it, asking me if I want to and every time I say yes, giving up whatever I was...
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- I'm not needy, like at all. I respect him and his life. I respect that he has other people, friends, perhaps a girlfriend. And I more than anything want him to be happy. But at the same time, we both agreed to be friends and I'm not going to let myself be neglected or neglect myself for someone. I've been nothing but selfless and self-sacrificing for years. I gladly give up my time to talk to him, because that's what friends do. They sacrifice time and other things, they show support and help. But it doesn't seem that he shares those values and ideals...
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I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I don't think you're in the wrong. Everyone deserves to be heard and five minutes is nothing compared to a lifetime. I hope your struggles with cancer and everything else turn out for the better. Hang in there.
>>16790126
I sincerily wish you the best. Of course you are not wrong here. Hang in there and godspeed.
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Should I message her?
We made out last weekend, we talked about going on a date and I do really want to, but I'm going to see her again this weekend anyway; we're both attending the same party. Should I keep silent until I see her in person? or maybe just check in with her? or maybe I can see if she wants to hang out between now and the party? or maybe see if she wants to hang out after the party?
Leaning towards the last suggestion, because I want to show interest without overexposing myself to her
I'm usually good with these things but this...
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Don't be a faggot who can't make a plan and carry it through by himself. There's no rule book for this. She'll respond to you better if you just act with clear purpose and intent
I will be receiving a sum of money around the 4700 range by the end of this week and I'm considering some envestments and purchases.
1. Considering buying my first laptop, any advice on something around the $700 range?
2. I'm 23 what would be a good investment to place some money in that will appreciate?
> 1. first laptop
Depends on what you want to do with it, OP, more details please
> 2. investment
Depends on where you are from, investment in immobilities is almost always safe. you'll need more money for that though... Maybe stock market for starters? Just get background info before doing anything
>> laptop.
Sure if you like pissing your money away on something that's already obsolete. Use 1500 to build a good desktop. It'll last longer and keep up better with changing standards.
>>16790071
Buy guns. They're easy to maintain and will most likely gain value over time.
Cars and electronics are the opposite so limit your spending. Buy the cheapest laptop on ebay that looks like it'l do what you need. Thinkpads have a reputation for being very robust.
My girlfriend's art is fucking embarrassing and the fact she posts it online makes me not want to associate with her. I love her to death but I really don't want to support her as an artist or support her art. Am I a terrible person?
>>16795316
Most people will call you an asshole, but if she is legit that bad, then she is that bad. You should still support her, as in you shouldn't oppose to her doing what she likes but you don't have to like it either.
here's the deal, anon.
if you want to tell her you think her art sucks, she'll have to be very respectful of you.
i dont know how she sees you, but if she doesnt naturally respect you, you'll need to do something in order for your gf to respect you, so you can tell her her art sucks and she'll understand it and because she respects you she will stop. but how do you make her respect you then? get a respectable, well paid and honoujrable job. my suggestion is carpentry. it makes you strong phisically and mentally.
>>16795322
It isn't just bad, its also the stuff she draws... its all really spaghetti as fuck porn.
i dont get it my new boyfriend put my hand on his privates and make me go up and down and squeeze it... then he took my shirt up and took my boobs out and was squeezing them
he said i have big ones
what is this mean?
Was he wearing a condom? If not, you are probably pregnant now.
>>16790077
whats that?
>>16790064
Call the marines we have a orc infestation here
What do I do?
3 Months ago my company sent me to Brazil to work on a project. My wife wanted to stay behind. She doesn't work and didn't give a good reason why she did not want to go. So I went alone.
While I was in Brazil, my wife and I had pretty regular contact and I never noticed anything wrong.
Well a few days ago I came back and my wife was supposed to pick me up from the airport. While I was waiting for almost an hour outside with my bag, I expected to be picked up in our Honda. Well, they comes up in a brand new Mercedes, before I can even ask why...
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>>16795147
Wow dude. Go talk to lawyer.
>>16795148
I am not even sure if I can afford a lawyer, she emptied out the bank account and savings.
>>16795178
Kill her.
No, seriously. She fucked your life over, now you fuck her life over, permanently.
Is it vain/unbecoming/useless for a 25 year old man to get a chin implant and or neck contour surgery?
It really affects my self-esteem and makes me feel like a different species. Like an untermensch.
What do you all think? I just want to be happy and I wouldn't want a potential mate to think less of me since I seem to be the only one who got shafted into having a bitch chin and shit neck.
I think it can only help in my professional/career life, and the romantic side of things are just a perk. I just wouldn't want my friends to think I am some...
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don't implant on chin, botox instead. Tonify your body and neck floppiness will disappear.
>>16790029
>I wouldn't want a potential mate to think less of me since I seem to be the only one who got shafted into having a bitch chin and shit neck.
If you're fine otherwise, and you have a great personality, just don't. I'd never be able to take someone seriously if they went through with something like that.
>>16790029
If you want to look better then work out. Unless you're really disfigured, plastic surgery is a silly option. Plus there are all the other health benefits to getting in shape. And for looks it does more for your entire body, not just your chin/neck, so it's all positives.
So this guy in school called me a racist fucktard in front of a 35 people class.
We were discussing the refugee crisis and I had said: "I think we should reduce the amount of refugees we take because we already lack jobs and even apartments. I think the refugees would be mostly a burden to us". He stood up and said "that was an incredibly stupid thing to say in this situation, no need to be a racist".
After class I went ahead and talked to him. The conversation went like this:
Me: "Hay I just wanted to ask, what exactly did I do to make...
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No, now drop it.
>>16795076
Why do you believe they way you do? If you have a solid belief in what you feel/think then there's no need to apologize. If you can back up your points then, again, no need to apologize.
Another refugee from /pol, do you get shot down because of your flag?
So I came out to my friend a couple days ago, thing i s I love him like crazy. He is not gay tho and I have been feeling really insecure and acting out a lot lately.
I can't go to sleep until 4 am when I had a good 11 to ,7 before
I starve myself because I feel fat and then I est tons of food
I treat people like shit and the beg them to come back
It feels like every new day is a new low to me
I have been feeling incredibly sad too
How am I supposed to deal with this? I can't stop thinking about him at all
Suck him off while he's sleeping desu senpai
>>16794987
I'm not a rapist ha-ha even tho I would love to cuddle him in bed
>>16794983
Well tell him. The fact that you like him already ruined the friendship.
How do I stop being so scared to talk to people and start conversations and
J U S T
D O
I T
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I constantly see cool people in my classes who share similar hobbies and seems chill as heck, but I've been too shy to approach them. I don't want to miss opportunities to make friends and meet new people anymore.
>>16790009
Give yourself more selfworth and accept that you might get rejected. I have made an attempt to talk to people in my class too, and some people are cool to talk to while others are not. Honestly its all about building up courage and kind of winging it.
just do it bro
>>16790508
This
Its not going to be pretty, and it will cringe as all hell at first but youll eventually get better at it.
Had a friend take her life while on webcam and just wondering why someone would do something like that.
>>16789974
pic related? where can i see this?
>>16789996
Yes it's related and it was on periscope
>>16789974
Screwed in the head and didn't get help in time.
Kids don't have the self awareness to pull themselves out and see that they're lying to themselves and setting themselves up for failure.
Once you start down the negative reinforcement spiral, it can just be a matter of time.
Its like cancer or car accidents. Can happen to anyone. Almost happened to me. It's nobodies fault.
