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>34 year old virgin
>Family getting hostile with me because I don't want to get married
>Treat me like a piece of shit
>Every time it's brought up things immediately devolve into an argument and insulting me for not having kids
Why is it so important to them? Why can't they just be happy that I'm happy? All this pressure man. Any other wizards have to deal with this?
They are trying to help you, in their own way.
Almost 31 here. Be water my friend.
>>16797628
the thing about arguments is that it takes two people. as in, them vs. you.
assuming you dont live wiht them its as simple as this
>make dinner for them
>tell them you are not getting married, you dont want kids, and thats the way it is
>it is not your job to have kids for them
>tell them taht anytime they bring up this issue or try to argue, you will simply leave
>stick with this
>dont engage
>dont answer
>dont respond
>simply say 'love you guys, gotta go, bye'
What university degree should I study? I'm pretty dumb I'm thinking english teacher.
>>16790731
If you're dumb why are you going to university? Do a trade and make a killing.
>>16790731
Don't know the job situation in Australia.
In Germany, I would go for Medicine, Pharmacy, Electrical Engineering, Computer Science or something that gives you a government job.
>>16790731
Economics.
Is it wrong that 2 months later I still want my ex gf of two and a half years who dumped me to be miserable and depressed because she's already got a boyfriend?
I hate her with everything in my being and I want her to be miserable
Am I wrong
>>16790729
No it's normal to go through this. Hate is one of the steps towards redemption. Just be careful to not focus too much on this by seeing your friends /other people. It will pass
Perfectly normal. Everybody go through this, especially after a long relationship
>>16790748
What are the other steps?
I have feelings for the guy I've been sleeping with. Am I shit out of luck for it to go anywhere because of the way it started? I can tell he's interested in me...it could just be purely sexual. I suppose it's my fault for letting him get in my pants so quickly, I don't usually do that.
And.. non of us know the guy and your story gives 0 information
>>16790728
Any further back story we can use to help you?
>>16790728
Nope that's your biggest ally.
Look after sex cook for him.
Watch Netflix n actually chill with him.
Let him talk to you about the relationship if he's not asking he's deliberating.
Keep fucking him like you need his dick. After enough sex body chemistry will be on your side.
Make it obvious that your only fucking him.
Guys are simple lady
Sex+food + no bitching = a happy bf.
This is literally a battle of attrition on yourside cause you fell for him first.
You might as well you down fighting till the end.
He will fall just watch.
2 days ago I was diagnosed with scabies, located on both my ears. (My one dog had mange several weeks ago and is getting over it now).
As per instructed, I have to put permethrin lotion on my ears and body, plus clean all the shit that comes into contact with my ears (clothes, bedding, etc.).
But then I come across these bastards. My gaming headphones. How the living fuck do I clean these things? How do I wash them without ruining them?
>>16790722
Scabies (are you sure it was scabies) mites don't live away from humans for more than 48-72 hours. Put it in a tied black garbage bag for, say, 5 days.
How do I become a better writer? I feel like I need help in all areas.
Any resources or advice?
Read a fuck ton and your writing quality will improve.
As for writing good content, you need feedback.
My favorite author current "beta-tests" all his books, people give him feedback if certain plot points feel too long, dull, or overly complex.
Read good quality books.
A lot of the problem can stem from lack of inspiration. There are a lot of sites (reddit etc) that have areas full of writing prompts that can help inspire you.
>>16790725
>>16790751
>become better writer by reading more
Wrong. You become a good writer when you can properly express whatever situation or setting you are trying to convey. Therefore, go out into the world and try to experience your subject matter firsthand, in order to properly express the dramas, dangers, and places you want to describe
How do you guys (M) deal with being unattractive? Like id really love to end up with a nice girl that does not need to be picture perfect or anything, just an average looking girl with some of the same values and quality's as me.
Trouble is I'm pretty unappealing in terms of facial structure body type and the way I dress.
Hygiene and all that is tip top and I usually come off a presentable but the innate quality stay the same (minis the fashion).
I'm skinny not fat, not REALLY skinny but bordering, 19,67kg and about 6.2ft I already know I can improve my body at the gym.
Anyway since besides gym, what else can i do to become more attractive to chicks in the future? For ugly guys is the only option to work towards really big money? Not whining about it just hoping for a realistic answer so I can find out what goal I need to work towards.
women genuinely do not care as much about looks as you would imagine, and anyways they rate like 80% of men as "below average" so most dudes are in the same boat and get dates anyways. Female appraisal of male physical attractiveness is warped and often has little to do with actual physical appearance.
>>16790710
Pretty much what anon said.
The best example I can think of, is getting to know somebody versus just looking at them.
I met a girl and thought she was "OK" in the looks department, but then I got to working with her over time and got to see her personality and now she's the woman of my dreams and probably the prettiest girl on the planet.
It's pretty much the same thing for girls, if you get to know somebody your attraction for them can skyrocket.
If you're relying on online dating though you're fucked.
Exactly. We don´t care about looks, we want somebody fun, intelligent and who is a good listener and can fuck. The more into looks a guy is, the more annoying and just into himself he is. Uglier guys and chubby guys generally have accepted who they are externally and are much cooler to be with.
Is it possible to develop a more attractive personality (assuming you never had one before) without becoming a misogynist?
I don't mean the tumblr definition of misogyny ("likes boobs in video games, disagrees with women sometimes") but actual genuine woman-hating. Some of the PUA-esque guys I've seen online really do give away the impression that they hate women and consider them barely human.
yes. Almost everything shitty about women is also applicable to men. It is in fact possible to do it without being a misogynist, but impossible without becoming a *misanthrope* (unless you're naturally talented at it and are ignorant of what's going on).
It's the timeworn adage; don't hate the playa, hate the game. Life's a struggle - no need to be bitter about it.
Just read the whole thing and tell me your honest opinion. I want to know if I'm just reinforcing this "it's my fault" thing to torture myself or if there is some logic to how i'm thinking about this. I'll keep this as short and truthful as possible, without adding or subtracting shit to make me look better
>gf with girl for three years, she gets ectopically pregnant, aborts baby
>we break up, get back together a year later
>in the year we were apart I started doing hard drugs (cocaine, meth, ecstasy)
>introduce her to hard drugs, she loves them because she's a head case and it calms her mind down or something
>head case as in hears shit, gets messages from god, is disconnected from reality, won't sleep for weeks etc
>we get an apartment together, joint bank account, she's a student, i'm working for my dad
>one night my friend sells me 7 hydrocodones. I take them all and don't share any with her
>the butthurt is strong with her, she goes out and buys 7 xanax bars and takes them all with no tolerance ("let's see what it feels like for you if i take 7 pills and don't share, NYYAAHH!")
>we get in a really heated ass fight
>she's naked, throwing dishes on the floor
>i'm punching shit and throwing shit
>flipping her off directly in her face and telling her to go fuck herself
>at one point I grab her by the back of the neck and squeeze hard
>she punches at me
>she gets up to leave, puts on this party dress, i think it was implied that she was going out to fuck somebody idr
>I get a screwdriver and stab it by her head on the door
>she's butthurt to the extreme, is threatening to call the cops
>xanax kicks in and she can't even speak
>she falls asleep after some lame attempt at sex
>I hide her keys. Mostly because I just wanted to fuck with her, but also because I didn't want her to drive ig
>I hated her for so many reasons
ok, that was day 1, now onto the next day...
>I come home from work, she's naked at the computer with a bitchy hate-face on
Is there more to this story or
>>16797295
You're both toxic people.
>on the computer she wrote "I didn't deserve any of this" (do you see how she is?)
>I spin her around in the chair and she has a gun by her side
>I don't exactly recall what I said, because I was fucked up a lot during this time. something tells me i wasn't on drugs though.
>anyway, i take away the gun
>something happens, something that makes me trust her kind of, like something she said that seemed like she'd snapped out of it, but idr exactly what that was. I wish I did.
>so I gave it back
>i don't remember much. I'm not sure if I took drugs or if the trauma prevents me from remembering
>long story short, I come home at lunch the next day and she is frantic/can't find her keys, is hyper pissed/depressed, and is saying how shitty she is
>I tell her she's not, probably not in the most genuine way
>I go back to work, get a text at the end of the shift that only says "bye"
>get home and she's dead with a bullet wound in the head
...
>thinking about finding her body or even about the whole situation makes me feel a way I'm not sure is in the list of emotions that can be felt.
>feels like i'm falling and confused
Anyway, was it my fucking fault or not?
A female friend was asking me who i was going to give a valentine's day gift to
Why?
>>16790659
she wants the d
she wants a gift from you
almost certainly not sex/a date, though, otherwise she would have asked what you were doing.
>>16790664
No she wants nice things for free.
Listen up, if you will, please.
I've always assumed you can get no further than your predecessors.
My father worked tirelessly for years, only to have most of it stripped from him at the 2008 financial collapse.
My stepfather was born into money, and has little-to-no say in the matters of finance.
A couple of years ago, I met a someone with significant pull in the community. However, at the time I was focused on furthering my education. He and I shared a rapport, but I never asked him his business.
As alluded, I have not contacted the said individual in years. I know one of his old stomping grounds. Would it be forthcoming to approach him in public and ask for advice or a mentorship?
>>16790617
Your premise is flawed.
My great-great grandparents were peasants somewhere in Eastern Europe.
My grandparents made the impossible-to-imagine journey to America and struggled their way into the working class.
My parents became white-collar middle-class homeowners.
Their children became successful professionals.
>>16790695
The premise wasn't flawed, as it was an assertion of self. As for yourself, you're as hopeless as your working class parents. The 21st century is a collection of mislead, mis-indentured corporatist working class saps.
>>16790754
Not really advice, but i just wanna talk to people while im drinking by myself.
Drinking by myself bro checking in - gotta get that buzz on!
i'm not drinking, but i'm not doing shit otherwise either, so fuck it. what's up, anons?
>>16797293
i kinda miss beer, but im one month into accutane so no booze for me.
when i think about drinking its always either here just relaxing, or a cold beer in my hot shower, or playing mario kart with buds.
but other than those instances i dont missi t. deifnitely dont miss getting wasted
Hey /adv/ ,
I've been with this girl for 8 months and it was amazing,we fell in love with each other quickly, we were convinced we were made for each other and convinced that there was a really strong link between us two.
Sadly,we had to go on a LDR since we study in different towns;but we made our best to see each other every month or so.
But I found out (by reading through some texts) that she kissed another dude from her class.
I know the guy;he's the ugliest MF I've ever seen in ages,I don't know why she did that seriously.
When I confronted her about it,she started to cry all night long telling me that I wasn't supposed to know and that it was a huge mistake, she was "asking herself some questions" because she didn't realise what she had with me.
I was raped in Morrocco when I was 14, I opened up to her about that even though I didn't tell anyone before her. I gave her everything,told her everything,poured my feelings on her anytime I could.
When I read back the texts she sent me after,I can't help but wonder how can women be so mean, sending me shit like "you're the man of my dreams i love you so much" the morning after she kissed this MF.
So how /adv/ ? How can women be so cruel ? Why do I still love her,even though I hate her so much right now,I feel like a kid.
I'm sorry for being such a pussy,it's the first time someone shits so hard on my feelings.
It's not a women thing.
It's a people thing.
>>16790616
women are actual scum ... or at least 90% of them are they lie cheat steal and manipulate all the time ts their nature
women are not as physically strong as men, so they have developed manipulation tactics in order to compensate for it. (men do it as well of course, to some extent - but much more prevalent and competent in women)
it's their nature
Considering that one is a guy and the other is a girl and that they talk to each other every day.
yes, it might even be more likely to be platonic when its online
>>16790594
...yes? Most are platonic, I'm sure.
>>16790594
Considering that they never meet, it can't be anything but platonic.
>Haven't fapped for like 2 years to test will power
>Have a mad urge to
>Know once I do it I'll probably not stop
What do?
Why have you made such a big deal out of it?
>>16790573
Are you over weight?
>>16790583
Addiction is a big deal senpai.
>>16790588
Nah I'm kinda skinny.
