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I'm an IV drug addict. I've been clean for 6 days now. Before that I'd been clean for about 6 months. I can't seem to stop going back to it, despite all the shitty things that happen to me.
Seriously, what should I do to stay away from this shit? It feels fucking impossible. I've done a number of recovery programs, and they've kept me away from shit longer than if I wasn't in a program, but I still slip back into it one way or another.
Ugh, I'm just so tired of this shit. I don't even enjoy it anymore, in fact I fucking hate it. So much guilt and shame and self-hatred involved in getting high now.
Hey, just because you relapsed doesn't mean you haven't made progress. Being clean for an extended period of time from one of the most addictive drugs in existence is something to be proud of.
Keep working with the recovery programs. Do you have a sponsor or anything like that? Do you have people you can call when you feel like you're going to relapse?
>>16791545
thats basically the life of an addict after they seek recovery. dont feel TOO bad. the hangover(even if just a spiritual one) always makes you realize you were on the right path.
remember that EVERYONE makes mistakes. not just drug addicts. no matter how good you are at losing weight, you'll binge on junk food at some point. no matter how great you are about exercise, you'll stay home and rest one day. no matter how many times you win employee of the month, you still check your facebook at the office once in awhile.
you made it six months. its fucking amazing. this time, everytime you get the urge to do drugs, think ' i wanna make it to a year'. and when you finally do, consider stretching that into two.
for bonus points get a roommate who hasn't had any drugs in a long time, like 5 years or more. they will help keep you steady. bonus bonus points: makes sure its osmeone with a different addiction than yours. if ur on IV, find an alcoholic. it makes it harder for you guys to convince each other to give in.
the rock will keep sliding down. but you'll keep pushing it.
I havent fapped since 3 days before 2016. Ive stopped looking at images of women in lingerie now or naked like 3 weeks ago. But last night I cheated. I watched 3 second clips of a my favorite blowjob scene.
Did I ruin no fap. Did I lose all the gains of no porn just from that. I was a little worried because I think I flatlined. Like before I was just really horny but now that horniness is gone and Im a little worried. Good news is that I wake up with boners again but I do feel like my libido decreased. Maybe its because without images I dont have access to looking at the opposite sex.
Fapping isn't bad. It's porn that kills people's sex drives and shit. Go ahead and beat your meat but quitting porn would be good for your mental health.
>>16791993
I know. I dont want to fap because my dick feels like its been revitalized barring the lower libido.
Like I no longer need to touch my dick to get a boner, and I get random erections again.
But yeah porn is the worst. But its was my favorite bj scene and I only watched 3 seconds of it. I didnt actually want to watch the scenes because it felt like watching porn again.
>>16792414
Yeah what the other guy said. Fapping is fine as long as you only do it when you need to, like if you can't stop thinking about sex and it's ruining your productivity.
Or if your blue balls are so painful that you can barely walk.
Otherwise save your energy. No need to fap everyday, I try to do it only once every week and only if I don't have sex that week.
So I went to look at a car at a dealership and asked about the condition of it, and if I could have it looked at so I have a realistic idea of what I'll be spending on repairs. The sales guy literally yelled that it's a cheap car and they'll tell me to replace everything. I asked if the price was negotiable and he said since its a cheap car he won't negotiate. Is this a normal occurrence? I've never bought a car before lol
>>16791513
I mean, it's normal.
The transmission is on it's last legs. The car costs 2 thousand bucks.
WIll cost 3 grand to repair it when the tranny breaks.
So the car is worth around $400-$500 for scrap metal.
He's trying to get you to buy it, fast, without asking questions, before that tranny dies,
So how cheap is it? Let's say KBB price is $3,000 and he's selling it for $1,000 then yeah, it will need everything.
But if he's selling it for $4,500, it better not even squeak.
>>16791541
If he's selling it for 4,500 then the KBB better be 5,000+ and it better not squeak
No one buys/sells at KBB prices.
Hey, so im in my second semester as a freshman at University. I'm majoring in mechanical and aerospace engineering. But I have been thinking about doing ROTC and go active duty in the Army.
If i go in the military as an officer i want to be commissioned as an infantry officer, armor officer, or join the corp of engineers.
Some of my concerns is that:
After i serve my years and i get out, what are the chances of me landing an engineering job although while in the military i never did anything related to engineering.
If i join what are the chances of me being deployed. (If any of you guys jave seen combat tell me what its like)
Thanks in advance.
What should i expect being an officer in the military - what is it really like being responsible for a platoon?
>>16791493
"chances" mean very little.e about once a day we get someone who posts 'i fucked my girlfriend without a condom. what are the chances she got pregnant?'
as if 'chances' will ease your mind or change anything. so in terms of what are your chances of being deployed... does it matter? you could be. you could not. its almost arbitrary. my brother went in and never got sent to the middle east. other people go straight there.
>>16791499
I honestly dont mind being deployed.
Im just concerned about it for the sake of my parents and other loved ones.
>>16791503
which still wont matter with 'chances'. you either will or you wont.
after 3 years of thinking about it, im pretty sure im gay. yeah, it's one of these threads again but i need to know what to say.
whilst im sure many people are ok with this, such as a few people ive already told, i dont know what to say to my parents or the church they force me over to. i feel as if i would have a lot of trouble explaining it to them.
after my recent history with girls, many people will be understanding hopefully. i just need something to say to people who aren't understanding.
p.s not telling anyone isn't an option as it will spread anyway. also it sucks not saying anything.
How did you know you were gay?
Was there a time when you thought you were but was still more aroused by women?
>>16791483
>i just need somethign to say to people who aren't understanding.
literally the only thing you can say is
>sorry, its just the way the world is
id stay in the closet, its easier than you'd think in this day and age. but if you must come out just lead wtih 'turns out im gay'. and if they get mad, leave the room. give them time to cool off so you can talk about it calmly later.
You can come right out and say "Just thought I'd let you know. I'm gay" or you could assume they know:
you: "I'm going out tonight on a date."
parents:" nice. who are you going with?"
you: "this guy I met at work"
parents: "you're going out on a date with a GUY?"
you: "yeah. you knew I was gay, right?"
Having said that, I was thrown out of the house when I came out as lesbian. If you have any inkling that may happen to you, don't come out until you have a place you can go to live, a job to support yourself, etc...
Just in case things go south quickly.
Hey /adv/ I am looking for some help,
I am a HS Senior (18) and I am planning on attending my local college and possibly receive an AS or Certificate.
Problem is that I am stuck on deciding.
I used to be set on going into the medical field but I'm not sure if my heart is completely set on it.
I am already somewhat sure what seems to stand out from each field I made a basic list based on what the college offers but generally what field seems to be a better option?
Medical or Computer occupations.
Maybe some tips and gen advice. But I really want to make a field choice first.
Self bumping
Trust me this isnt the time to ask about career advice I can already hear the carpentry faggots typing a long and descriptive reason of why you should do carpentry but the best advice I can tell you is
>Stem is meme
>liberal arts is meme
But medical cant be outsourced to Indianirnos so you should be ok with a career there
>In the middle of university
>need to study like a madman to pass this shit
>play Darkest Dungeon instead of studying
>skip lectures way to often
>masturbate ALOT, even tho I have a girl and she dtf on the regular
>seriously, I catch myself rubbing one out up to 4 times a day
What th
>>16791442
porn addiction. kinda have it myself. was turning down regular bareback sex with a really fucking hottie because i wanted to watch porn instead. not good for you.
the best you can do is just stop. dont masturbate for a week. then ur drive begins to come back. when it comes to ur qt try doing something a little kinky to get you motivated.
never masturbate before bed. it makes you lazy. i know when you were younger you could cum 8 times a day and still do your homework, clean the house, workout and kill the president, but ur not 12 anymore. your hormones have settled down and are now tied to your creative energies. you need those for work.
so only masturbate right before bed, and never on the day / day before you intend to bed your woman. trust me i know this sounds boring but your orgams become more meaningful. not in a lovey way but in a personal enlightenment way.
as for skipping lectures... don't? not sure what advice you expect to find here. there isn't some magic trick. it all boils down to you having some ounce of personal responsibility. if you claim you have no control over your life, your life becomes meaningless. you stop being a person and start being a tool used to carry out the universe' will.
and you REALLY think the universe has a plan that involves you staying home and masturbating?
>wanting to get deathgrip this badly
And never reply after that? I swear I've gotten a handful of girls to give me their number right away only to never answer me after sending 'hey its jenny'.
Just hand out your number to people you don't really wanna talk to, are you that dumb? If I was a psychopath I could wreck someone with that.
Theyre looking for a strong and tall carpenter who knows how to use his hands come and wreck their vagina.
Best start learning now.
>>16791410
As a girl who used to do that, I dunno.
I can't speak for all women, but sometimes I'll get cold feet right after giving someone my number. It's not that I suddenly lose interest, I'm just too much of a social autist.
Don't take it personally. Just move on, mang.
>>16791517
Not taking it personal, its just kind of puzzling and a rather dumb thing to do.
Where would it be a good place to get a gofundme shared around?
One of my childhood friends, a father and a Marine suffered a devastating motorcycle accident and i'm looking for advice of where I can possibly spread the word I'm desperate.
Thank you for your time friends.
>>16791393
>>16791401
I have it circulating around facebook already.
Thank you for the reply.
I'm 18, I can get laid with relative ease but I still use escorts. What gives?
You're too lazy and prefer to use disposable income to pay for the company of women? That's my first impression.
I've always been successful with girls so I've never even considered the notion, even at my laziest I've had at least a couple of different girls who I could text or call and probably cop a root off pretty quick. Maybe you're not quite there yet young padawan.
>>16791415
What are some advanced things I should know?
>>16791542
Be yourself
I've been getting myself together and out there looking for working but with some finding help but I'm running into a bit of a concern not with them but in my options. I was wanting to start with part time and maybe move to full later as that would be the best way to adjust from never having a real job before. But then they currently do have a hard time finding me stuff that is part time and did mention lately a full time one (but i probably wouldn't take this exact one it's full time at night), but I do not think I am in a position yet to be able to handle full time especially with my lack of experience and things like that. Guess the best equivalent is you know easing yourself into some water vs jumping into the deep end probably not prepared for it?
But then I get pressure from parents that I keep being too picky and things like that.
Am I really thinking this the right way or am I just being picky still? I wanna work and not just be a loser but I want it to fit me best. I have made some progress just it's really hard to show it sometimes or that it's just so slow.
>>16791380
Cart before the horse anon.
Worry about finding a job before you worry about hours and let your financial need dictate how many hours you try to work.
Look at it this way: there's a lot of people out there that work part time and would kill for full time but can't find anything. I'd say go with full time. If you don't like it, stick with it for as long as you can while you look for something else. It depends obviously on what kind of job, but full time isn't that difficult to deal with. You might even like it, who knows
>>16791380
>am i being too picky
yes
>it would be the best way to adjust
in what sense? so you can slowly get over the fact that you cant stare at your ceiling and play video games all day?
you're being really entitled right now anon. the world doesn't care if you aren't 'experienced' enough to handle full time, which isnt a thing btw. either you can handle the job or not, 6 vs. 8 hours isnt a thing.
>but i want it to fit me best
the world doesn't care. the world has its own businesses to run and things to do and doesn't care if ur scared of working an extra few hours a day then you'd like to.
you go out, you get a job, you show up, and that becomes your life. its no different than when you started going to school. the world cannot coddle you and say 'oh well here is part time if you want to go full time later its all up to you!'
the reason most places offer part time is because they dont want to pay for full time benefits. if you find a job offering full time, you take it. cuz tthats going to pay well and treat you well. if you dont like the job you start looking for a new job in your OFF time, you do not quit while at the job. you trade up when you find the right one.
I need help please. Long story short I posted an ad on CL under casual encounters. Put my kik info in the ad and someone contacted me saying they were interested in hooking up. I was unable to follow through. Honest mistake. Now they are threatening me by saying they are posting my face and cock pic (which I shared through the kik convo) and ad on CL or something like that? What do? Should I be worried?
Common scam. If you used your real name you are fucked. If you posted your face and cock in the same pic you are double fucked.
Blackmail is illegal. Ask them what they want, when the invariably say they want money, screenshot the evidence then report them to the police. Then tell them you reported them and hopefully they back off.
>>16791395
Didn't post any name whatsoever. Just cock pic in the ad. Face pic in the kik convo. So am I ok then?
>>16791402
You're in the clear, sure.
I would definitely get evidence of them blackmailing you though.
Yo.
I'm looking to install new internet in my home, because I'm sick of sharing with the rest of my family and I now have the income to do it. I have a lot of questions I'm hoping some of the older people on this board can help me out with.
What steps would I have to go through to acquire a second internet line in my house?
I live in Australia.
>>16791353
Kek. Underageb&.
Move out of your parents house kid.
I have PIED. Thing is I wanna fuck my gf this Valentine's Day. Whenever we tried having sex I could pop a boner but I couldn't maintain it for long. I took some [spoiler]neural[/spoiler] supplements and multivitamins and they've helped with the "Rewiring" process; I don't get as many cravings, no depression, anxiety, mood swings or stiffness. But I'm not sure I can maintain an erection. Should I take supplements or pills for that? There were some that treated the circulatory aspect of ED. I don' know if I should drug myself to kingdom come believing I'm healing when it could all very well be just a Placebo Effect.
I have the same issue bro :(
bump for interest
>>16791347
consider viagara for just valentines day.
that being said, i had a similar issue recently, but found that i was easily able to get and maintain an erection and had some of the best sex ever just by simulating porn. my fetish at the time was just being in control and playing with the partners body, so thats what i did. just had them lay back and tweaked their nipples, hooked my fingers in their mouth for my cock, smacked them (or heavily pat them really) a little spit, etc. just typing this gave me a semi.
What do I do if I feel fuckin tired literally as soon as I wake up. I try sleeping 12 hours because it's the only thing that works but it's impossible. I spend literally all day going "okay I'm tired okay now I'm not oh in tired again never mind I feel okay now oh I'm tired again" after about 2 hours of being awake I have to collapse where ever I am and rest my eyes and try to sleep. I honesty think it's depression and mood
Try taking up a job or hobby that keeps you physically and mentally active without being too strenuous. Get involved in carpentry and your sleep problems will disappear.
>>16791346
I tried but my jobs made me feel like hell and it gave me such bad anxiety I couldn't sleep at night so I was extra tired
>>16791354
Dude, if you tried carpentry and it still didn't work out for you, there is literally nothing else I can think of to recommend.
