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How do I leave my shit small town for the big city? I just want to live in the ghetto
>>16793226
Which country do u live in?
>>16793230
Usa
>>16793226
If your town has a big department store that is part of a chain (like Walmart or Target), get a job there, then request a transfer to a store in a city after 6 months to a year.
That way, you'll have a job as soon as you arrive.
>move in to new apartments
>fuck my milfy mid 30s neighbor lady after drinking with her one night
>didnt know she was married with kids
>felt really torn about it after she told me
>was thinking about telling her husband who i had seen at the fitness center/pool area
>been drinking every night lately
>she came over to talk about why i was upset and we ended...
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If you aren't going to give it to her, someone else will. Do it(her).
>>16793250
This exactly. A lot of marriages don't have much sex. Enjoy it and don't get caught in the middle of her and her husbands troubles. If that happens, ignore her completely.
>>16793208
There's not a lot of communication in that relationship. Keep the plotted course [spoiler]if you get my reference senpai[/spoiler] a secret and suggest to her a marriage counselor?
Should I buy a keytar?
Yes.
Obviously.
>>16793206
More importantly, you should have a keytar built into a fully functioning buster sword.
>gf 2.5 years
recently we've been hanging out with a couple that have their own condo. Well her dad bought it (rich family) and her bf is moving in while he does school.
My gf now wants to move in. She started crying one day about how I dont "invest" in her. That'd im not buying her things and spending money on her like "all the other relationships".
During the time that we have dated she didn't work for a year and I pleaded to her to get a job. Warned her about not working. she was going through...
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>>16793191
Yea, you're girlfriend is a dummy.
My bf and I have been together seriously for 5 years, still won't move in together until our careers are perfect.
It's nothing personal. It's just obvious that it wouldn't work financially, so why should we strain our wallets just to sleep in the same bed together 7 nights a week and start shitting with the door open.
If your girlfriend doesn't understand it after you've rationally explained it to her, she's already...
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>>16793191
Sounds like what she is feeling is fear that you aren't committed to her, and she thinks it is because you won't move in with her, despite the fact that living at home makes financial sense. Ask her directly if that is what is actually wrong - fear of losing you and insecurity about the relationship. Discuss ways you can make her feel more secure without going in debt. For example, saying I love you more frequently, or holding her hand in public, or something like that. Most of the time big, irrational...
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>>16793233
we don't live at home. she rents a room and I rent a room.
moving into a place by our jobs / in the right area will cost money.
At the moment renting to live in a furnished house is cheaper then moving in.
we've recently been fighting a bunch. I mentioned date night, fridays. Food, dressing up, bar/club and fun kinky sex after all of it.
I'm more interested in having fun then getting in debt.
So I saw this girl across the hall the other day at my school and was like "Damn dis girl slam" and she was my ex. I'm going slowly insane.
It's been almost a year since we broke up. I've fucked so many other girls and had a couple of committed gfs, one of whom said she loved me.
Despite all this, I'm physically incapable of moving on. I've never felt so strongly about anything or anyone in my entire life, but I think I might love her even though we haven't talked in ages. Am I legitimately in the right here, or am I a faggot? What do?
You need to find a girl you really love. Also stop fucking random girls, you'll struggle to find a girl who wants a guy who's had their dick in every hole in town. Girls don't want slags same as guys don't want slags.
I've been wanting to get a tenor sax for going on five years now, since when I graduated from high school. I've got a tax refund for about $3100 coming in, which would be about a month's paycheck for me. The sax is gonna be about $2300.
Alternatives include such noble pursuits as cutting the rest of my car loan in half, paying my college loan for a year, putting most of it aside for my upcoming security deposit on a rental, etc. Probably more responsible, but I've never been a particularly responsible person in terms of saving money. I am way ahead...
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Saxophones are for faggots.
There is no music written for them except for meme music and "jazz".
Save yourself the trouble and crush that dream now.
If you want to play an instrument, play a real one
>>16793134
Why even waste your time with such a gay instrument
Your anger only fuels my passion, /adv/.
I write a fantasy story. A protagonist has a crush on a Queen, but it is no relationship planned . Should I remove it? Currently it is rather unnecessary.
It's your story anon. If you can't make this decisions yourself, your story will fall apart
Read Le Morte d'Arthur
It's been done
>>16793121
>A protagonist has a crush on a Queen, but it is no relationship planned
Sounds alot like life... Sometimes crushes don't work out...
You writing fables, because that's a hell of a moral at the end of the story.
Hey /adv/, I need some work advice.
I got picked by a guy who started a game development company like a month ago to offer me to work on his first company game.
It's worth noting that I'm 19 years old and never had a work before in my life. The guy offered me a position for doing programming only in the weekends since I'm still a college student but for $100 a month, and being stupid and naive I said better make it $100 per project and he accepted instantly. I don't even get income % from the ads in the game.
The issue here is: I know...
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>>16793110
Literally just tell him to fuck off and do it yourself if it's all your ideas and your doing all the work like you say.
You have nothing legally binding you.
>>16793110
>I'm not just the programmer, I'm also the artist and designer, heck, the game idea and character were mine in the first place
Why not just make your own game?
Also if you're going to be employed by anyone, cover your ass by getting an employment contract.
And why the fuck would you agree to such a shit arrangement in the first place?
>>16793545
Discussion went so fast I just accepted out of nowhere without realizing what I did. I'm also really desperate to work on the industry.
How do I become more heartless and not care about shit? I always consider other
People and their feelings. I'm also afraid to do a lot of sexual stuff because I want to remain pure hoping to find a girl who's equally pure. I want to be more like the rappers who can just do nasty shit to any girl and say fuck everyone. Plz how
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Being nice doesn't fuck you, being a beta bitch pushover fucks you.
>>16793100
They go hand in hand
>>16793115
You might feel that way now, but I assure you, once you complete middle school you'll know better.
I met this cute light skinned black guy in my uni about 6 months back. He's handsome, smart, witty, funny, nice, watches anime and is overall the best guy I've ever met. I've been in love with him ever since day one. I just found out he's gay. Why are all hot guys gay? I'm so fucking sad right now.
>>16793083
lmfaooooooooooo
Join the club sister. Lets show 'em all and be gay together
Get a dildo and fuck him in the ass you cuck.
am i really a huge asshole or did my ex just gaslight me to hell and back
it always felt like no matter what i said or did, she'd interpret it as an attack on her. and when it came to fights and arguments, there were times she was pathetically in the wrong (for example, sent nudes to some dude behind my back) and was still trying to make herself look like the victim between the two of us.
>>16793082
You're a really a huge asshole. Positively massive.
>Source: asks for /adv/ice but gives no relevant concrete information.
>>16793082
you should research emotional abuse and manipulation. it sounds like that's what she put you through. don't hold it against her, because sometimes people don't even realize they're doing it. just try to learn from it, keep your head up, get rid of the guilt you've been convinced to accept, and move forward.
>>16793082
Two possibilities. You, an adult male in charge of his faculties, are a 'pathological huge asshole', or this bitch is abusive.
Which is more likely, who needs to leave who?
>work as an assistant at a talent agency
>number one responsibility: send audition times and info out to clients
>have missed several, been told it's a fireable offense, usually get yelled and cussed at as well
>missed another one today
>get told I have the "second worst" track record of any assistant in history
>this time boss is really nice about it and even made a joke of...
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You're en route to the unemployment line. Start training in carpentry NOW
>>16793076
This. You're going to be fired dude. It's clear as day.
>>16793076
>>16793111
My boss wrote a post-it to remind me and put it on the wall. He said if I miss one again, it's going on my forehead.
Also, it's pilot (i.e. absolute peak) season, so they probably can't afford to fire me right now; it'd have to wait until April. Is the prognosis still the same?
Hey /adv/
I need help choosing my University.
A little backstory: Friendless 20 year old community college student.
Kings college London
Pros:
• Fresh start, the freshman experience that never was.
o Easier to make friends than a 2 year transfer
o Wont be completely overwhelmed by jumping into a program on year 3
• 16th best neuroscience program in the world
• Well known worldwide
• Its in fucking London!
• More ‘serious’ atmosphere.
Cons:
• Price, nearly x3 as much as Davis
• Stigma as a Oxford, Cambridge,...
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>>16793070
nyone?
Hey /adv/
I've never been to this board, so I don't know what you guys can really do for me, but I feel like I need to just spit out how I've been feeling.
My life isn't terrible, it really isn't. I have a extremely loving girlfriend, I'm enrolled and living at a college, and I have a few close friends there. The thing is, most of my friends from my hometown (I go to school a city over) simply stopped answering my texts and calls about two weeks ago. I'd get it if it was just one or two people, but I'm talking 5-6 in one...
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Bumparoo
It'll be pretty ironic if I have the same problem here, no reply...
RIP
I've been suffering from depression for maybe five years now. It has come and gone, varying in length and intensity.
Twice I went to a doctor within two years, and both times when they recommended me to see a psychiatrist for a proper medication prescription (neither doctor believed in prescribing medication without a real head examination) I backed down out of pride and apathy. I would get into a good swing and tell myself I didn't need it.
Well now I'm a student teacher, working with 7th and 8th graders. /adv/, these kids deserve better. I'm...
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Meds will not make you happy overnight. In fact, meds won't make the depression go away. However, they'll give you a much needed boost so you may face your problems yourself. Meds are not a magic cure; they're just part of a bigger treatment plan. If you take meds but refuse to do much else to fight your depression, they won't be of any help.
It can take you some time to find the correct prescription for you and feel any difference. There are all sorts of antidepressants and people react differently to them.
For these reasons people give up...
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Sometimes meds put you into remission, but typically they just make your depression symptoms lighter. You'll feel better. You'll be the same person you've always been -- there's no buzz, there's no artificial happiness -- just... better. More like how you'd be if you weren't depressed.
>>16793114 is right: "Meds are not a magic cure; they're just part of a bigger treatment plan." Seeing a therapist is a really important thing to do.
I've been through cognitive...
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>>16793133
>>16793114
It's just super hard seeing a shrink and admitting defeat. I know I shouldn't see it that way, but I have to.
Then there's the fact that my depression will probably cause me to go "this doctor fucked up the first prescription, he'll fuck up the next one too."
