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Hello.
I am a complete outcast. I was always seen as an outsider, even by the nerds from the High School and College days. I wasn't part of any clique at all.
Mostly because, from my childhood to late teens, I was bullied to no end. Because of this, it became part of my nature to almost always act suspicious of others. I don't like being around many people. But, surprisingly, I don't consider myself shy.
I'm 23 and my only sexual experience so far was with a hooker.
Heck, even my first goddamned kiss ever was with this hooker.
I'm not fat, neckbeard, anime girls lover or any typical part of the stereotype. Otherwise, the reasons for my problems would be clear as day.
I went to parties before, but never could achieve any fun about it, alcohol has negative effects on me, and no girl ever seriously flirted with me. And yes, I tried to flirt MANY time before, but every girls walks out on me.
My brother isn't into parties (he even hates alcohol) but he managed to engage many stable relationships. He is now married. I just want to be like him.
I tried many dating apps and sites to zero success.
I'm not horribly ugly, but I am - very - far from being a handsome man either. You could say that if I hit the gym really hard, things would improve, but I don't think getting muscles that would attract the kind of women that I seek.
And yes, I used to go to the gym often and even used to do exercises at home.
The only time I managed to date someone was last year, but I felt like a /r9k/ anytime close to her. I even went at her place, we were completely alone , and there was no chemistry, we didn't kiss or fuck, mostly because she didn't sound flirtatious towards me, and I felt uncomfortable about it.
Professionally speaking, I suck. I got fired from my job a week ago.
And yes, I still live with my parents.
Should I plan to go an hero or try something else?
>>16792072
got any pictures of you? not just to see how attractive you are, but what kind. its easier to tailor your approach to women if we know what you look like. some guys cant pull off the douchebag approach. some can ONLY pull that off. show us what you're working with and we can tell you what options you have.
>my brother doesnt like parties but still got married
did he meet this girl at a party? if not, look for girls elsewhere. do you want to get in a relationship...
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>>16792072
Did you go to college? Do you have a professional career?
At this point you need some neutral point of view that can offer assistance based on what you look like and how you act. See the help of a professional.
>>16792085
I mostly try to look for girls elsewhere, but like I said, they all walk out from me.
I had male friends in the past who had nice gym-made bodies, but some of them still behaved like losers, even though gym is also supposed to change attitude. I fear this would happen to me too.
I also have an ugly friend who looks like fucking Edd from Ed, Edd n Eddy (with hat included), but has a qt gf, so you don't always need a nice body to get girls.
>>16792090
Yes,...
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I understand that you generally shouldn't rag on your girlfriend's family, but my girlfriend's sister has been a right bitch to me for the past year or so of us dating, and it is past old. She doesn't do anything about it, and when I finally tell her to shut her mouth, she gets mad at me. What do I do here?
Stop being around your girlfriend's sister.
>>16792078
This. My boyfriend's sister's the same - she hates me more than anything even though I've done nothing to her. I just avoid being around her, and I make an effort to be civil and polite if I do have to be around her.
A difference between my situation and yours is that my boyfriend does stand up for me against her (which probably makes her hate me more). I guess you could talk to your girlfriend about it, but it might be hard for her to stand up for you if she has a good relationship with her...
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>>16792088
I figure that if avoiding her sister complicates their time together as a couple, that deprivation will light a fire under his gf's ass to stand up against her sister. Not to make it sound manipulative but action sometimes requires a pain point.
My girlfriend is always pushing me to do new stuff in bed and I'm always trying to be romantic and she's trying eat my cum and do kinky stuff
Am I submissive?
>>16792065
no, just romantic. i mean if you do end up letting her do this, you are submissive in the literal sense, but not in the kinky sense. i love kinky sex but sometimes i want to be sensual and equal and stuff and its hard to be kinky while being equal.
How do I keep up with a meme page and post dank OC content every day? Advice and tips on delivering fresh spicy memes would be appreciated.
Just steal it all off Reddit, it's what all the rest do.
Also, do something constructive with your life instead of meming, such as carpentry.
>>16792068
You either have a fetish for carpentry or a marketing shill. I see you in every thread
>>16792102
Its a pun, you fool
So I want your guys' advice.
> Brother committed suicide: 2/3/16
> brother and i fucked
>brother tried to rape me the last time
>I dont know how to process this
has any of you dealt with this? How would you grieve?
>>16792045
you male or female?
regardless the best you can do is deal with it on a personal level. your brother had his own demons to slay. maybe he did in the end. try to remember the positive times, or try not to remember him at all.
We need the full story, anon.
OP here
The full story would be:
>Brother and I are half blood brothers through our dad.
>Grew up in two seperate cities in Ohio.
>wern't around alot together through adolecents
>Brother is younger than I, but had "touched" me when we were kids. I rociprocated.
>I am a male.
> brother was closeted bi sexual
> I am gay, and open about...
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I love my gf, but I'm increasingly less sexually attracted to her.
Is the relationship salvageable?
>>16792039
Fuck/fap less.
>>16792043
This.
Also were to planning on giving us a reason why? I don't know what the fuck kinda advice you'd expect otherwise.
>>16792064
I don't know how to explain it better. I just stopped being attracted to her.
We haven't been together long, a few months. I love her personality, but I have no sexual attraction to her.
I need some creative ideas for revenge on abusive parents I no longer have to take shit from. And none of that "Get on with your life, it'll hurt them most" crap, there are some things you cannot just let slide by.
you wouldnt exist if it wasnt for them
grow up kid
>>16792034
Grow up and stop being salty
Uh-oh, sounds like somebody got grounded.
Does anyone know what resource editors are and why they are needed/used for?
>>16792018
Mac or Windows?
>>16792018
Why doesn't anyone ever Google before coming here?
Resource Editors - msdn.microsoft.com
msdn.microsoft.com › … › MFC Desktop Applications
A Resource editor is a specialized environment for creating or modifying resources that are included in a Visual Studio project. The Visual Studio resource editors ...
>>16792270
Honestly I majored in cs and that means nothing to me.
If I had to guess it would simply be a program that could edit another program/(resource).
Like notepad.
I need to confront my boyfriend about the fact that he has overall been unreliable in the relationship. I bring up an issue, he acknowledges the issue and says things will change. But in action they don't always change.
I am scared he won't listen and think I'm just nagging and will break up with me. I don't want him to because I think we can fix this, but if he won't listen its for the better if things end.
What is a good way to explain this to him?
The sad thing is that next time I see him is Valentines day and we have plans to...
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>>16792016
you enjoy him, so why not just spend valentines having fun and enjoying what might be your last hurrah.
then next time you see him, say it was special and you want to maintain that, but your doubts are getting in the way. go over the doubts, and propose SOMETHING. we here at /adv/ dont know in what ways he is unreliable, so dont know how to tell you to go about fixing it tho.
a general rule would be setting up a sort of code word. when you say that code word, it implies that he is being unreliable...
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You tried communicating already. What you need to confront is the reality that, after asking for something and not getting it in a reasonable time scale, you fucking walk away.
Allow to me to illustrate. Having told you to leave him, I'm going to give you the opportunity to come around. But you won't. You'll argue that you need to stay with him. And I'll be long gone from your thread because I put my money where my mouth is. You'll see for yourself how well that works out for me and how well insistence (doesn't) work out for you. Proof is in the pudding.
>>16792023
...why use a code word? Why not just say "I really need your help on this because..."
OP, in what ways is he unreliable? Do you mean he's flaking on dates, doesn't help out at home, nails on you when you need something?
So i've realized that all my depression and self loathing stems from being selfish and only thinking about myself "wah, she dumped me" "wahhh i didn't get this" "what I'm so X" "wah me". And I realized that In order to be truly happy I need to find something greater than me to work for and towards, some people have children, malcom X had a dream, so on and so forth. The problem with being depressed is you're very unpassionate, but the cure for my depression would be passion for something greater than me. How do I go about doing this?
>>16792012
bump with the boognish.
>>16792012
congratulations. like 50% of the threads are me trying to explain this but they tend to devolve to the op just saying 'wah me'. but you managed to jump past that. now the healing begins.
many people are passionate about many things. so it stand sto reason that your passion can be searching for passion.
make a list of everything you think you wanna do. make a list of everything you wanna try. anything and everything. then of that list try what stands out most. like THIS weekend.
creative...
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>>16792033
Thanks anon, I've been a musician for 15 years and it's grown old. I'm no longer passionate about it as I used to be so that really threw me off. Jokes aside was thinking of getting into building. I was searching for more of a dramatic live for die for kind of thing. But I guess in the real world (ie: not movies) it's not as romantic as that brave heart. Passion for finding a passion, i like that alot.
How do you deal with anxiety and depression?
>>16791995
>>16791995
realize you dont suffer from it :)
I convert low self esteem and all connected to it into hate.
This will raise your selfesteem and you´ll start to accept things just like they are.
Things will get great again and you´ll see and learn things of yourself you never seen before.
Keeping busy.
I am at work right now and It feels like my body is acting on its own, as if im not in control. What is going?
Do you work with heavy machinery, vehicles, or power tools in a field such as construction, trucking, or carpentry?
>>16791983
Nope, not dehydration.
Im at a computer.
>>16791973
Did your body type this, or did you?
So last week (Feb 5th) I went to a party/ got drunk and kinda got out of control. This girl let me have a hit of weed, and I believe I did it wrong since it was my first time. The girl even told me I did it wrong but I turned down doing another hit.
The next day my friend told me that the store she works at will be giving me an interview sometime next week or the week after.
A drug test will be given after the interview and I'm really worried.
My friends told me not to worry, but they don't have job or have to take drug test.
So, is there anyone...
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Weed stays in your fat. Can take up to a month to go away so...
>>16791966
Yeah, I read about that. People recommended I should exercise for it to come out and drink cranberry juice.
>>16791966
One hit of weed that he didn't even inhale correctly isn't going to stay in his fat cells for a month. If you smoke daily, or massive amounts at once, but I would be surprised if that was even detectable after a week.
OP just drink lots of water and it won't be a problem. I promise
Is inviting a girl to do Yoga and then hang out a good idea for a first date?
I love doing Yoga, i will pay for her class too because there are people that just don't like it.
If she ends up liking it would be amazing to have that as common.
Keep in mind that i'm not looking for casual sex, i'm looking for a long, stable relationship.
It's fine because it's a class. Meeting for some private yoga in your home would have been bad.
>>16791958
I guess it would be okay if it is a beginner class and you have gotten the sense that she would be into that.
Exercise for the sake of it on a first date seems like such a drag though. I would say that if you want to do something physical at least choose a fun activity.
>>16791961
>Meeting for some private yoga in your home would have been bad.
Why? would she believe i'm a pervert?
They're in related but separate things. I'm woefully unprepared.
What to do?
>tfw 200 words essay due next week
>tfw haven't even started
Is it ogre?
>>16791948
study.
>>16791954
>200 words
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