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Hey fellow /advisers.
Need help from you again. I've met this girl last summer, we hung together for like 2 months, everyday. I immediately felt connected and I still think a lot about her. Then I moved to another city. Thing is, she had a boyfriend then and I guess she still do now (5 year+ relationship), so that brought me down a bit and I wanted to move on. But memory remains and moments with her were magical.
Long story short, I want to send her a letter on valentines day.. I could send it via post or email it. Should I send it as an anon? Which sending method is more appropriate? I'm thinking of sending it via post as it's more personal, but also more creepy?
TLDR: need to get this off my chest, I love her.
shameless bump for help
You should just fuck off to a new one before you label yourself as a creepy orbiter. Lmfao getting Hung up over last summer
>>16791314
You're pathetic.
Leave her alone. Don't cause friction in her relationship and move the Fuck on. Focus on improving yourself or learn something new and go out with other girls.
Accept the fact that you're not her choice. When you send a letter you're gonna look desperate and sad.
TL;DR move the Fuck on and leave her alone.
Hey, where am I? I've never seen this overpass before.. Any Londoners?
>>16791307
if you have internet to post here you can open google maps.
GPS Fix Error baby
>>16791307
Why does the lamp post block the overpass cladding?
How do I get sucked?
>>16791299
DIY
>>16791302
Can't its too small
>>16791302
79102 Mcnugget drive, CA please hurry
>>16791303
>>16791332
cartooner AND a faggot
sure didnt expect that
Hello.
For the past 2 weeks I have been trying to figure out what happened to my Google Chrome. It wont open and dose not provide any errors on my screen when I attempt to open it. I have tried to trouble shoot the problem but my computer dose not have any solutions, and I have went thru my uninstall list and didn't find any unknown software on my computer that would stop it from opening. If you can help me please do so,
Thanks
>>16791298
For specific technical problems with computers and electronics, you may get more help from the fine folk over at:
>>>/g/
However, while you're here: it seems like computers aren't really your thing, bro. Have you considered trying to cut down on screen time? Maybe you could take up a rewarding and fulfilling job in a field where you don't have to spend all your time on a keyboard, such as carpentry.
my google chrome works but my firefox does the same shit your chrome does.
>>16791298
>tfw can't use chrome on ubuntu 14.04 with cinnamon because nvidia graphics card
>have to manually disable gpu every time
Shit browser to be honest famiglia
So jobs are hard enough to come by. I have a job but the boss is always abusive. Very aggressive and rules with an iron fist and a short temper. Today after I finished a design he told me after 6 years this isn't working. He has to start firing people. I don't know if that was a 'you're fired' I've never heard him fire someone. The company isn't a great company, it's got like 10 staff and 4 of them are his family. Basically they just use it for their own personal $$ fund. I'm so sick of working for these guys. I don't know what to do, I'm terrified. The worst thing - I bought a house last week. I'm so screwed. I need like 20k just to just stay afloat. I have bipolar and depression so I don't want to let that effect me but I can see it coming like a tidal wave and and I'm panicing. Wth can I do. I'm trying to remain calm and I'll I can do is freak out. It doesn't help that he's always angry and never speaks his mind like he should he just avoids confrontation. Does he want me to quit? I don't know. I need a little advice.
>>16791264
It sounds like you need to start looking for a new job, and if that's the kind of work environment you put up with in your sector, maybe a new career. Until you're fired you have this job to keep you afloat, but concentrate on looking for something else and learning valuable new skills in a more friendly and congenial work area such as carpentry.
>>16791271
Go back to the homeless hill people thread and respond to my post about carpentry jobs needing so much experience.
Start looking for a new job. You obviously dont like the place anyway.
Just assume you're being fired and use tha as motivation for your job hunt.
Hey /adv/, i need help, and can't speak with friends about this.
The thing is, im 22 in a realtionship with my gf, turning 1 year this weekend. I love her, i love her personality, definitely a girl that im willing to fight for, not just dump at the first problem that arises. Which leads me to this:
Im not confortable with her looks, her face in particular. Her body is perfect, and she is going to get boobs implants in the future, plus does lots of physical activity so no problem there. The thing is that i don't like her mouth and nose, and i feel very shallow and hate myself for it. I thought it was something very stupid, and not really a problem, but now that 1 year has passed and it still bothers me, i don't know if it will go away in the future. I mean, i would feel very stupid and shallow to break up over something like this, plus she said she would like to get a nosejob this year, but still i don't know what to do.
Sometimes i feel like an idiot, trying to neglect something as important as physical attraction in a relationship, and other times a think its a minor issue, im doing the right thing, and that it'll get fixed in the future. But now that we hit the 1 year mark, it really made me re-evaluate my thoughts on this, and i don't know what to do. Also, i try not to consciously compare my gf with other girls, but the girl i was with before her was really good in the looks department, a 9/10 easily, and i think that bugs me a lot too, because i know i could be doing better in the looks department if i wanted to, and feel like im missing out.
I don't want another girl tho, i want my gf, i want to feel very atracted to her, do you think it will be possible? Is there a solution? will everything get better if she gets a nose job or her mouth fixed? I love her, and i know this post seems shallow as fuck, but im only talking about the looks problem, but i really do love her, we have a lot in common and she is perfect in every other way.
Pic related
>>16791261
Well that's a pretty ugly smile
But she is not ugly OP. She is ok. Your standards are a bit too high.
Anyway, if you break up because of this don't tell her, she's gonna be crushed
>>16791254
wait til after she gets the nosejob. if it's any consolation, it sounds like she's more unhappy with her appearance than you are.
my husband has terrible teeth and is touchy about them, to the point where he once got irritable at me for (as gently as possible) suggesting that he could get his teeth fixed since I'd gotten him added to my dental insurance. I dropped it and learned to ignore it. idk how I did it, I just kinda decided not to focus on it. they're his teeth, I can't fix them for him.
>meet girl at social event a week and a half ago
>get along really well
>exchange contact info, contact her later to hang out
>she can't cause finals until Feb. 17th (different school system over here from most)
>decide to text her rather than disappear for two weeks
>text her every 3 nights or so (though had a 5 night gap one time)
>she always replies quickly, we have a nice, funny conversation while I watch tv or work out
>message size and response time is similar, though I'm slightly slower
>plan to text her in another few days to ask her out, since Feb. 17th isn't so far away now
Have I fucked up by texting too often? Should I have done the disappearing and reappearing act? Or is it all clear so far?
I dont know if asking her out via text is the best route but it sounds like you and this girl get along pretty well. just ask her out in person
call her feb 18th
>>16791249
We don't see each other in person at all, so that's not an option.
Relationship novice here,
In high school I had a few short 2 month relationships that didn't amount to much, and then a pretty bad on again off again with a girl who turned out to be the town bicycle that lasted about 8 months.
Now, I'm about to turn 20, and I've been dating my current girlfriend for a bit over a year, and I find myself losing attraction to her.
Not that she has gotten ugly or anything, I look at her and think "wow, what a great looking girl, why don't I want to fuck her?"
My guess would be that this is just my first time being with someone outside of the honeymoon phase, and my dopamine levels are just going back to normal.
My other guess would be that maybe we have just become to close, we are essentially best friends, and have a very friendly dynamic. There isn't the enmeshment/intensity that I've been used to in other relationships.
We get along great, share very similar worldviews, have an identical sense of humor, and have a blast every day just doing normal routine things.
Is it normal to not be attracted to an otherwise good-looking and compatible person? Does attraction come back and leave and come back again through the cycles of a relationship?
Pic related is something I used to do all the time, and now I do it maybe once a week and it's not even that fun.
>>16791209
The end of the honeymoon phase is totally normal. For me, it lasted even less long that what you're describing. However, you've already got the hardest part out of the way by being best friends with your girlfriend.
Yes, there can be cycles to feeling attraction to your partner. Sometimes you have to foster that attraction for a while to get it to come back. How often do you have sex? Do you mix it up at all or explore any kinks? Is sex planned or routine or do you do it when you feel like it? Has your girl changed at all in terms of appearance or the way she treats you sexually? Do you still feel sexually satisfied by her? Your current lack of attraction could be do to any number of things - try to do some thinking on it.
This is a small road bump that you need to approach together to overcome. Be careful not to make her feel like she's not sexy or not good enough. Becoming a bit bored is normal - it's why so many relationships end once they start approaching the "long term" mark.
>>16791234
>how often do you have sex
Like once a week
>routine/spontaneous?
Kinda both, we only fuck on the weekends when I have the house to myself. We're moving out together soon because we both have hostile living situations and we finally found a co-signer for an apartment
>changed in appearance
She has gained a little weight since we started dating - like maybe 5-10 pounds but it has been steady and she shows no signs of increasing. Her ass used to be super fat, but she wanted to get into fitness because I go to the gym 3x a week. So her idea of "fitness" was eating 300 calories a day and running 3 miles a day for 2 weeks and then stopping after 2 weeks and losing 15 pounds because she got shin splints. All of this was against my advice, but now she is back at her original/normal weight
>sexual satisfied
No, not at all actually. If I get aroused I want other girls or /s/, wouldn't act on the cheating though
>kinks
Nah, we tried bondage, and she loved it, but I don't really have any "kinks", the thing that turns me on is the idea of fucking other girls sadly
But yea, I've kinda tried talking to her about losing attraction, and I reassured her that I still love her and care and all that, but girls are so sensitive about certain topics, I don't want to send her into a panic.
>>16791209
I've been with my boyfriend for really long. We're totally best friends, and I love being with him, but we both felt less attracted.
We decided to have sex less often, but better. We both stopped masturbating. We spend a LOT of time with foreplay, oral sex, making out, kissing.
We try to do different things (my kinks/his kinks).
We've been really open.
It worked wonders for us.
Hey, /adv/,
Recently I moved in with my brother and his wife. I'll be staying with them for the next 3 months or so. So far everything has been cool. But lately I started to notice something with my brother's wife. She's weird. Like really fucking weird. I didn't notice it before because I didn't live with her, I guess.
She's always mumbling under her breath. Most of the time I can't hear her, but when I do, she's always counting. "1, 3, 5, 7..." Like that. I also noticed she knocks on wood, literally. I said that I hope it didn't rain, and she said "me, too" and then knocked on the door. Ever since then, I noticed she does this - a lot. I decided to keep track, and I'd say she does it at least 70-100 times per day.
But last night really confused the fuck out of me. I asked her if she wanted me to help set the table for dinner and she said no; I thought she was just being polite, so I did it anyway. When she saw it, it looked like I just crushed her hopes and dreams. She told me in the most serious tone, "please don't ever do that again," then rearranged things not too different from how I placed it. I don't understand why it was such a big deal.
There's a lot of other weird stuff I noticed she does, but these seem to be the major ones. It wouldn't be right to ask my brother what's wrong with her, but I know something's not right. Can anyone enlighten me and give me some tips on how to handle it? The last thing I want to do is piss her off more.
Smells like ocd.
Spend as much time with your brother as possible. You won't see him at family events, he won't bring his kids around and they'll recluse into the house they live in. She has an OCD and order problem.
Just build memories with your brother.
>>16791198
It's OCD but doesn't sound crippling yet. She needs things in exactly the right order, is superstitious, uses numbers as a calming charm, etc. Quietly point it out to your brother and then back off. It is ultimately none of your business.
What would you do if you were homeless with no where to go? I need a plan. I live in southeastern NC btw and I'm a 20 year old male.
I live in Knoxville and I'm a 20 year old white male, facing homelessness. Wanna live in the woods with me? I've already got a spot picked out. I could probably even get you a job if you're not a freak.
>>16791196
>>16791227
Today on /adv/, or HillPeopleMingle.com...
You guys should get jobs as carpenters. Earn great money, and you can build your own cabin in the woods.
>>16791251
I don't think carpenters make THAT much money, and all the job listings for carpenters want 5+ years of experience.
Hi /adv/, I need help, badly.
Long story short. I have had feelings for the last months for a girl I have been friends with for over two years.
We see daily, we talk a lot. I want to tell her how I have felt lately about her, but I'm afraid it will freak her out and ruin the friendship, which I highly enjoy (the friendship, I mean). She also has personal stuff, and I don't want to risk stirring her shit up too much.
When we interact it makes me feel she also has some feelings towards me, it's just that I might be imaging things... She always keeps eye contact, her hip rocks back and worth, she bites her lips and plays with her hair a lot when talking to me. She always comes to hang with me if other of her friends are also around. Yet, I'm afraid.
What the fuck should I do? I can only think of her, I want to hug her, listen to her, share my life with her. But the risk of ruining the friendship we already have, and the fear of emotionally hurting her are so much... I'm not the most physically attractive person, am I worth her time as more than a friend? She is the most fucking cute thing this planet has to offer, fuck...
Help me. Can I test in any way if she has feelings towards me?
>>16791193
Fuck friendship. Please. You're not going to be lifelong friends with this girl. Eventually, one way or the other, you will drift apart. You're also not responsible for her emotional state if you try to get with her and fail, because you're also a person who deserves to try to get what they want out of life.
So just ask her next time you see her
"How come we've never hooked up?" and feel out the response.
>>16791193
Do you want to wonder, or do you want to know?
That's what a friend said to me the other day, about a situation a bit like this.
The only way you will know is to tell her, and all you can do is accept whatever comes, be it a no or a yes in any form. We all learn to deal with rejection, but don't cling on to something that isn't solid.
I'm just letting it out tomorrow because something has to be said
Good luck yourself and I hope it works out :)
"I'd rather be sorry for something I've done than for something I didn't do"
Just come right out and say, "You are a good friend, but I'd like to be more than just friends with you."
and see what she says. Don't be surprised if she initially pulls away. Sometimes women need time to get used to the idea.
My mom has been threatening to have me committed since I was a kid. I have depressive traits and have since I was like 10.
The other day I had an exam the next day and I needed to stay up to study. I have really bad sleep habits already, like I'll go to sleep at 4pm sometimes, but I had a valid reason to be staying up that night. My mom starts saying that she'll have me committed for my crazy behavior. I say I'm going to study whether she wants me to or not, that I'm over 18 so she can't commit me anymore.
So she says my dad will sleep on the floor next to my bed. I think this is a guilt trip since I don't want to inconvenience my dad. We argue until like 1am over this, eventually they go to bed. But then I hear snoring and my dad is forced to sleep right outside my door, on a small inflatable mattress.
I was only able to tell someone about this for the first time then, and they were pretty shocked, like "they can't do that, they can't commit you??". That's what I've been saying for years (alone), all I could do was laugh like a crazy person when talking to them about this.
Moving out is the obvious next plan, but is this normal, or is it abnormal? I have hundreds of these incidents and I'm constantly wondering, is it normal, is there something wrong with this. They're also always accusing me of having an eating disorder, of having sick ulterior motives, and things like that.
>>16791160
are you in high school?
>>16791166
I'm in my first year of University
Sorry but i didn´t get it. You are considered "crazy" bcs you sleep during the day sometimes?
Hi /adv/,
Can you give me advice on how to stop planning my every move and conversations with a girl?
It had been a while since I met someone who affected me so much, I kinda forgot what to do when I'm in such a situation. I just want to be able to be myself.
I was like that in the beggining of our relationship but now I feel like everyday there's a new thing to worry and I see it's affecting our friendship.
Thanks
anon
The secret to winning in a relationship is very simple -- don't give a fuck. That's all.
>>16791178
I'm aware of that and agree anon, the problem is this time is pretty hard.
Everytime I try to not give a fuck I fail, mostly because by trying I'm already giving a fuck. It has to be natural
bumpity bump
Hi /adv/, I need help.
Me and this girl at my workplace have been making eyes at each other for 4 years, I haven't done anything to pursue . In this time I feel no obligation to ask her out due to my hobbies (anime, vidya), but at the same time I don't want to disappoint her. I feel torn in between my love of wasting time with vidya and the love who will waste my time.
I've had the same problem when I was younger; I chose my bros and vidya over some girl who I knew liked me. As I get older there's always that need to be with the opposite sex. But somehow the depressing yet comforting solitude outweighs the need for a woman.
What should I do /adv/?
Can any guys here explain how they manage their time well with their gfs?
what in the blue fuck?
you cant decide between videogames and pussy?
>>16791118
Gotta agree with that anon. How can you even consider putting pussy above vidya?
Stick to vidya - at least you know you can play these well.
>>16791118
I have no interest with women besides sex but at the same time this one girl has been eyeing me for four fucking years. I do not want to pursue the relationship, but at the same time I pity the girl for keeping interest for so long. I've even heard from some of my coworkers that she's into me which made me feel even more guilty.
I want to know if I should do the morally right thing and ask her out, or just stay happy by myself. I was wondering if there are old people on here to tell me if it's either worth it or not worth it and if they're happy with their life.
I was found positive for thc after my urine drug test. Is there anything I can do to fight the results? I actually was smoking weed, but is there common lines of defense I can take? Like asking for false positive, asking another lab, etc? Particularly with the false positive if there's common foods or otc medicine I could of said I was taking/eating that they couldn't boldly say the test also screened for that.
no
no
no
theres no food or otc with thc
>>16791088
say you have a roommate who blazes constantly and that you're trying to save up money to move
>>16791088
> Stop smoking weed
>take test
>start smoking weed again
Literally fool proof
