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What would you do if you didn't care about what happens to you, and had nothing to lose?
Probably nothing different to what I'm doing now, to be honest
>>16791937
probably go buy a cabin in the woods, or if lacking funds, steal one. travel from cabin to cabin enjoying woods. i like woods.
that or get some diving certification and go to guam and teach that.
>>16791937
Fuck as many whores as I possibly could. Get into street fights. Rape, kill, steal, lie. Everything I've ever wanted to do. If I get killed doing any of that stuff then Oh well I didn't give a fuck anyway
Long (and boring) story short.
I was a fat social retard with no friends.
Tried to get a girl, always got rejected. Justly.
Improve, they said.
Get /soc/. They said.
I stopped eating shit. I started exercising.
Now I am averagely good-looking social retard with no friends.
Tried to get a girl, initially interested, got rejected as soon she got I'm a social retard with no friends. Justly. Maybe.
I trained my body to get better.
How the fuck do I train my mind to be better?
I'm fuckin' 33. 1700/month salary. Live in my own place. No...
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>>16791933
its rough. women who get older tend to both be more desperate and more picky.
the way you get better socially is just like you would physically. you train. you get to lift bigger weights by lifting smaller ones first. run faster by running slow. so go out and socialize with women. each failure is you 'maxing out'. each time you do, you get a little stronger.
>>16791939
Fact is I have no idea how to start training socially.
The body? I just bought two books, one of exercises, one of diet.
I am quite sure one can't learn to be social by reading a book.
>>16791959
like exercising you mostly go out and do.
go to a bar. see someone sitting alone. go strike up a conversation. and i dont just mean if they are a sexually appealing lady. just talk. see whats up. ask questions. chill. relax.
the more social you are the easier it gets. dont approach women with the sole intention of flirting.
How important is sexual attraction in a relationship??
Have you ever dated someone you didn't necessarily find attractive? did you learn to find them attractive?
I think I might find this guy attractive...but I'm not sure. His personality is cool.
>>16791932
pretty important. i have a diverse range of types so if i find them attractive at all it works for the time being. i dont go in wondering if we will be eternal cuz whats the point, you're probably not.
but if you feel almost nothing for them in your loins, then its probably not a good match. relationships without sex are just friendships.
I couldn't rank it, but I do think it's mandatory like a lot of other things
It's subjective imo and really depends on what reason both people are in the relationship.
To me, it's very important in a partner.
I have recently realized that i am most strongly attracted to women that look similar to how my mother looked when she was my (their) age. I have always been attracted to girls that looked liked that, but found out about the connection after seeing my mom's photos from her twenties,
Am i fucked up? Is this normal?
>>16791931
nope. moms are the first ladies we love. plenty of people do this. a lot of patterns like this surface not only from that but other experiences we had when young
Completely, 100% normal. This is basically the most normal thing there is. Taken both several psych courses as well as a Human Services course in Human Sexuality, and done a lot of extra reading on these subjects.
People don't talk about it because people are immature little shits.
>>16791931
Since you were attracted to that type of girl before seeing your mother's young pictures, it is unlikely that there is anything Oedipal going on.
But some experts say that, just as we are attracted to people who have interests and personalities like ours, we may be attracted to people who resemble us physically, and what you may be seeing in the girls is a bit of yourself that you happened to inherit from your mother. (You look like mother, girl looks like you, so girl looks like mother)
Is femdom generally a big fetish for females? I'm not overly against it, but I'm not big on 'dom' fetishes either.
I've been in 3 relationships so far and just hooked up with a new girlfriend and it seems all of them have had some sort of femdom fetish in one way on another.
I think femdom is a much more common fetish amongst men. Women don't tend to be into it, which is one reason why so many men pay for it.
>>16791919
No.
All women want the man to be dominant in both the bedroom and everyday life.
Seeing their man being weak/submissive to them dries out the pussy like nothing else.
The only females into the femdom scene are getting paid big bucks for it, which is the only reason why they do it.
>>16791919
>I've been in 3 relationships so far and just hooked up with a new girlfriend and it seems all of them have had some sort of femdom fetish in one way on another.
That's called a shit-test.
If you give in, they lose respect for you and start looking for a proper alpha.
A great way to make new friends is to take up a pastime or hobby. Is the a carpentry club or class in your are that you could attend, for instance?
>>16791917
first and foremost bars. yes, they are dreadful. but go out and talk to people. anyone alone or with one friend who looks friendly. not hotties. not even women. just anyone. make a conversation. the more you talk to people like they are people the more easy it becomes.
that being said
>meetup.com or craigslist interest section
meetup.com is a large website with meetups for almost any hobby. i even found a guy from fucking israel a geek meet up. and even if ur not...
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>I love a woman.
>Said woman is in a relationship with a weakling who is a head shorter and is blind.
Life is not fair.
>>16791873
life is not hostile. it is indifferent.
>>16791873
Is she happy?
>>16791873
>relationships should be based on height
okay, so when you finally do get her, if someone 2 inches taller steps up she should jump on to his dick?
She asked me again to go out for a drink, but, when i gave her the place to go during this week-end, she said me she's got a boyfriend. Very sad this evening....
Your opinion?
Sorry for my english i am french.
>>16791871
elle est crazy
>>16791881
C'est de la pré-torture, je trouve.
Anybody else?
I have this strange text saved in my documents, in a notepad file. the thing is, it's not something i'd write, nor something anyone I know would write.
I must've copied it off somewhere at some point, but I can't figure out when. Here it is:
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Long story short, I've ended up in a temporary teaching position until May. It's very exhausting work where I have to talk a lot and mark a lot of work.
I'm also ridiculously introverted. When I'm tired, socialising can make me feel like I'm going to cry, throw up or both. The stress of this new job is making me so tired that I don't want to talk to anyone and I find reading conversations online to be difficult.
Problem is, I'm not used to telling people to be quiet or go away. I have several autistic people who know I can't...
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You're clearly not cut out for teaching. Try going into a different sector, in which your calmness and attention to detail will be prized - like carpentry for instance.
>introverted
>teacher
Why?
Anyways, just deal with it for three more months then find another job.
>>16791859
>>16791862
Oh I'm not a teacher and I never will be. I'm normally a researcher which involves a lot of reading and writing and data analysis, all solitary activities that I'm good at. A local school was very, very stuck for a teacher in my field (as in I found out on the Thursday and I had to begin on the Monday) and I decided to help them out. It wasn't all selfless though since the pay will be pretty good and it's good for my resume.
It...
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I have a telephone job interview in a couple of days. What is the best way to prepare for it? It's a for a Welfare Fraud Investigator job, which is a job that will involve a lot of contact with the public and interviewing people and doing a lot of paperwork. I really have no idea what kind of questions will be asked in the interview though.
Have you ever had a telephone interview before? If so, what was it for? What kind of questions were asked? How did you answer? Did you succeed?
>>16791847
Phone interviews ask a lot of the same questions in-person interviews do (Tell me about yourself, what is your greatest accomplishment, do what do in (situation related to job)).
The only thing since body language does not apply, your conviction and tone when answering becomes critically important.
1 last thing, even if you succeed here, this likely isn't the end of it. No job I've ever gone for didn't also have an in-person interview afterward.
Wow, welfare fraud investigator sounds like a soul destroying job. Why not switch to a more congenial field like carpentry?
Basically just a job for scumbags, you'll be pressured to get as many people as possible even if they are illegitimately ill. They really tried to get my brother with downs, who also has a very rare degenerative disorder of the brain which renders him unable to speak and do certain tasks.
22 male average guy in university somewhat awkward and quite isolated, but with an iron will and refusal to give up.
I lack confidence, but still try to give everybody a chance. There is a girl living upstairs (My housemate) always always looked out for her, when she was sick, I was there nursing her. When she was depressed, I was there talking to her. Not interested in her sexually or romantically, but always tried being there for her.
She was a girl though and I always felt somewhat uncomfortable around her.
She always displays affection towards me through words, but ignores me completely when she doesn't need me. Had parties upstairs and never invited me.
She would go out with her friends knowing I had very few friends (New to this country as a student) still didn't care.
Comes to me when she needs me though.
I felt like shit naturally so I pushed her away and focused on my life, she starts writing me all this shit about how I am so sweet and that she misses and loves me. I forgave her and became just as nice with her.
One day I went upstairs to say hi to her, she was with her friend. We talked for hours, she reveals how she always wanted to do a drug with me, I was excited and happy. Even months ago she told me how she wanted to do these drugs with me. So naturally that night when she told me we would do it over the weekend, I was happy since I get to have a social life with her friends. Was looking forward for it. When night finally comes, I hear nothing from her. No message, no nothing. I find out she is out partying with her friends. She doesn't care if I am even alive.
I message her later and ask what she was up to during weekend, she replied feeling somewhat guilty and asked who I was with?
I lied and said, ''some friends'' asked her about the drug.
She simply doesn't reply, ignores me.
I knew she was moving out to another place, she told me, but then she leaves this place after the weekend without even telling me.
I feel like shit.
What do I do? :(
>>16791814
stop handing out second chances. stop talking to her. when she reaches out say 'sorry busy' and live your life.
4chan, can you please tell me what is wrong with my screen? I always see these strange shadows that go the right.
My screen has been like that for a couple of weeks.
I don't know if it is changeable in the settings or if there is something wrong with my computer.
These "shadows" are everywhere, on every website, every browser and my entire screen.
>>16791803
Maybe you should stop jizzing so close to your monitor.
lol well since we can't see it on the screenshot, I'm going to say it's a physical problem with your monitor
>>16791806
>>16791807
Shit. You cannot see it?
How the fuck do I last longer when fapping?
It takes me like 40 seconds to cum. Halp.
>>16791795
Why does it matter just get that shit over with its just an urge you need to sedate with a fap and continue moving on.
>>16791795
Put your dick through the hinge side opening and slam the door shut
>>16791838
But it barely feels pleasurable when it lasts so quickly.
Hey. I'm 19 years old and I have the opportunity to study in the field of Translation with a 100% scholarship, however I do not believe this to be a path in life which I wish to follow. I've always had a knack with languages, literature and have been a hobbyist writer since childhood, but I don't believe I will enjoy basing my career around it.
Also have I seen my brother, who is a police officer, greatly improve in his life from pretty much every aspect, whether it be financially or personally. So I have considered too becoming a cop; the pay is good, it teaches me the discipline I so badly need and it IS much more exciting than a possible career in literate and/or translation.
Whilst education is a more firm step which will grant me a stable life, I believe this is the time of my life where I should be taking risks. If not now, then when?
English is not my first language, obviously.
Pic unrelated.
>>16791791
Go police. More job stability, room for advancement, a tight-knit fraternity, pay, then you'll EVER get as a translator.
Better yet, get educated first, THEN go police, and you might be getting called 'chief' or 'agent' one day
man fuck the police, its usually full of retards who didnt go to college so they have to settle
go for the scholarship ffs
>>16791860
Lol stoners
