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Dear /adv/, can you share any tips on how to transform from a frowny paranoid nerd girl to something dateable?
Not fat, average looks, zero experience in relationships (not counting crushing on a best friend for 7 years and acting like a childish bitch)
Dress nice, be reserved and when the guy asks you out and flats you blush. He will feel himself awesome. Don't be aggressive with him. The end. Hubby in the bag.
>>16795555
flatters you
>>16795510
got pics? if you wanna make over we gotta actually know what you look like. im gay, so dont flatter yourself about this either.
Do you have protips for discipline and motivation?
Last night I was awake at 5.45 AM dancing with my demons. I took the phone, checked my facebook, it was birthday of one of my female friends.
Casually wandered on her pics, BAM. There were multiple pics of my exgf, 7 years together before she dumped me, and his new bf, which is old as fuck and looks semiretarded. This kind of killed me at start, then I got so enraged. I was, and I am, less than that guy. I'm 28, on med school but obviously late as fuck, should have been a MD like 3 years ago. I am lazy, not...
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>>16795457
Don't leave yourself room for failure. Short, easy, real goals. School is terrible for this because it's too easy to get distracted while you feel you aren't progressing.
Drop out and get a shit job. Do your best.
When your job feels easy and you get bored, make more goals. Start fitness.
Same principles apply, easy goals, leave no room for failure. Never put off till tomorrow what you can do today.
Over time it all gets easier and you're going to find yourself able to...
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>>16795547
>recommending that somebody drop out of school and get a shit job
LOL FUCKING NO
OP, have you ever been diagnosed with ADD?
leave your family
So I'm going out with a girl for the 3rd time this Valentine's Day weekend. We've been talking mostly through text for about 2 months and we're really hitting it off so far and it seems like both of us see this lasting for a long time. What's an appropriate gift for this? I really like her, but I don't want to go overboard since this is only our third date. Any advice would be helpful.
I've also brought up cooking a meal for her at home. I'm not a super good cook, but thought it could be fun. Or would taking her out to a nice restaurant...
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>>16795456
Just make her some saugaces and dont forget the real one.
First time poster here.
I've never been this open about my past relationship with anyone, let alone strangers. Thankfully I don't have to look any of you in the eye.
When I met my ex, she was dating someone else. After we got to talking...I found she had posted nudes somewhere. Twice. After that, a guy who wanted more (she refused) attempted to blackmail her. She came to both me and her boyfriend. (I guess she had developed feelings for me) of course, I was judgmental. I really liked her, and finding this out just made me a bit angry. She shook in fear,...
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What the fu k is wrong with you? Sure people are retarded and post nudes but it sounds like she massively regretted it and stopped doing it because she realized how supid it was. She came to you for help because she trusted you and looked up to you. Then you have to throw it in her face by telling her shes a slut and you wished you could have blackmailed her?? shes better off without you
I'm doing a survey project for school what's the best site to do it
>>16795420
If you can't even do a simple survey on your own, a carpentering job would be more suitable to your abilities.
>>16795420
survey monkey
>>16795429
what is your aim. literally why?
What do you do with someone who doesn't respect your time?
There's this guy I'm friends with and it's fun to hang out/go to shit with him but he has this trait that just pisses me the fuck off.
>"yeah we can go do that tomorrow"
>the next day
>"sorry man I'm tired" or some other lame excuse like "oh my other friend wants me to go to the store for him" that could have either been done at another time or could have been...
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If you're doing it right--as in going out for your own sake and simply inviting him along--then then only person he's hurting is himself. In other words he can't disrespect your time if he has no effect on it. You live your life. If you feel like it, invite him to join in that. Then get on with living your life as it suits you. The kicker is that he's not going to mind. You'll be amazed to find that he really doesn't care if you do your own shit and he's the one who suffers the consequences of his own choices. This could completely disappear...
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Should I become a carpenter? I'm looking for an easy job that feels rewarding. Carpentry seems like the kind of job that would pay my bills and that isn't very hard at the same time.
>>16795396
You're just another hipster aren't you.
is this a bot?
carpentry is really rough on your body as you get older, you end up with a lot of physical problems if you do it too long.
>>16795405
No, it's a dumbass thats obsessed with carpentry. They will not stop shitposting in other threads either.
When I was 12, I met this awesome girl (Karen). She was pretty, had very similar interests and liked talking to me. We were "friends" officially but I guess we both had a crush on each other. She moved away when I was 17, and with all the time wasted in school, we never really got a chance to talk properly in the last two years. She gave me a parting kiss, and left. I talked to her twice when I was 17-18, and then we both drifted apart.
I'm not what you would call an "introvert" or a shut-in, but a quiet person. I had a group of friends and many...
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I was very depressed from 17-18 because Karen left, and I spent my last year of High School in a daze. I like Lily, but it feels wrong to be with her and to just let a better relationship with Karen go away. It's like I feel bad for letting Karen go while there's Lily here, whom I've known for just three months. What should I do?
1. Call Karen and talk to her.
2. Forget Karen.
If I call her, I might ever get in a rather loose relationship with her, but then I don't think a long-distance relationship would ever work between two people who haven't...
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how do I stop being manipulated by my best friend? I don't know if he does it on purpose or if he is just forgetful, misreading, etc.
Examples:
>says we should go out, his treat
>forgets wallet
>always wants to split at restaurant, says he'll treat me to everything when he's got his "career"
>always says "i'm sorry, man" or "do you mind if...?" but it never sounds sincere
>always...
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Sounds like you're a pushover and haven't said no to him, so he takes you from granted.
honestly I could see him being a high-functioning autist, who's trying desperately to keep the one friend who hasn't abandoned him yet, but doesn't know how (also probably poor)
I have a friend like this, sort of. He's a good dude deep down, but a lot of people don't see that and they get pissed at all the constant little power-grabs/conflicts like you're describing. Just tell him to stfu in a banter-y way.
>>16795388
Hole in one
This is not much of a friend you have OP
I have atypical autism (also known as PDD-NOS). It's basically more severe than Asperger's, but less severe than classic autism.
While going through the registration process for a special autism center, I was asked "If we had a magic wand that could make one single issue you have go away, what would that be?".
I responded, saying that it would definitely be the issue I have with social skills and interacting with others. Then, I said that the question was pointless, since they "don't have a 'magic wand' which would make these issues...
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You should give up trying to seek help and do your self a favor by becoming an apprentice carpenter. Soothes the body and mind working with wood and keeps you active
>>16795364
You're gay lol.
You have a lot of glaring faults and your councillor is figuring out what you want to fix first.
The reply was a joke was to cheer you up because your reply was negative.
You have a long way to go champ, good luck.
This seems like it might be a joke post, but I'll respond seriously just on the off chance you're for real.
They were just asking what you'd like to fix about yourself in a fun, disarming way by using a magic wand analogy. Then they made a joke about not having funding for a magic wand, pretending they exist, but are too expensive.
So they were just telling a joke while trying to get to know you more.
What can I buy for more privacy/security on my patio? I have a first floor apartment, and everything's pretty open. Any gates or anything that would fit?
make a small room so you can work with carpentry. it must be like a studio, surround yourself with wood. it works mind and body. and earns you money long time.
I doubt the property owner will allow you to install any sort of gate or barrier to cover that entire opening. That's probably not the way to go here.
For the sliding door there are a few things to do. First is to lay a sturdy wooden dowel in the track of the door so that it can't be slid open. It's a very cheap and effective security measure. The next thing you could do is look into some kind of adhesive window frosting to apply from the inside. This prevents people from peeking in from the sides of your curtain. It even works during the day should you...
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>>16795435
>cover both halves of the sliding door
I meant to say. The moving and non-moving halves.
Hi /adv/ I was wondering if you could help me.
I have an issue that I've been suffering with for a long time.
The problem I have is that I think too much about mistakes I have made in the past.
If I make a mistake, I will zone in on it and dwell on it. Thinking of how I went wrong in this way and that way.
I will try and resolve and undo anything I feel I have done wrong but I will never feel 'complete' so to speak. At least not for a long time.
Sometimes there are things that can't be undone, and they sting the most.
The...
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This is a sign that you may have anxiety. I know it's cliche, but talk to a therapist or doctor.
>>16795369
Already did that for 2 years. Mostly for depression.
Over my anxiety now as well as large parts of depression.
My anxiety only really ties in to certain social situations and what I just listed.
I'd say I have dealt with the majority of my issues.
Plus, at my age they will only give me support if I'm suicidal. Which I'm not.
I've been told by a lot of friends who are in university that currently the best field to work in is carpentry, because it makes you stronger - both mentally and psychologically - and there's an ongoing boom in this sector all arround the world.
Is that really true? How do I get started? Any anons work in this field?
>>16795326
Both mentally and psychologically
BOTH
>>16795326
Meme.
Fuck off, carpenter fag. You think you're hilarious, sitting in your dimly-lit room surrounded by heaps of woodworking books and spare 2x4's. You come here to shitpost and enlist people in your sick carpentry cult, and everyone is fucking tired of it.
fuck /adv/
I need to talk to my professor after lecture about registering for his class so that I have enough credits to graduate this spring but getting really anxious and Im psyching myself
How can I get rid of this feeling in the next hour and a half so that I actually talk to him after lecture
I don't understand what's so nerve-racking about this.
>>16795318
tell yourself you're a carpenter.
this boosts your confidence.
i'm a carpenter myself and my confidence has grown ever since i got into the industry.
>>16795347
The class is closed and registration closed last week
Its like the anxious feeling some people get before sending emails. Its irrational, Im just trying to get rid of the feeling
So this time last week I put up a post about me cheating and my girlfriend of two years finding out. A week has passed and she has decimated any chance of me having any friends when I return to university in September.
I deserve it and I feel disgusting as each day passes knowing that she is heart broken because of me. This will be the single greatest regret of my life to boot.
However, My major predicament is how do you come back from being the lowest of the low scum bag cheater. I have actually become the person I hate and I want to die but I don't even...
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You didn't become anything, you made a bad decision. Accept it, learn from it and don't do it again. Stop being a drama queen or ask your girlfriend to peg you.
