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>in a bar
>full of grills
>I'm sat just behind the decks shitposting (I'm supposed to play my house music in a few hours)
>chain smoking
>lonely.jpg
>pic absolutely not related
How do you guys hit on girls at bar ?
>>16795714
i avoid going straight for the 'hit on' approach. girls are all getting hit on. all night. at the bar especially. so why would they choose you over anyone else?
mostly connection and chemistry. but by going straight to 'hitting on' you just tell her that shes JUST LIKE EVERY OTHER GIRL. not worth actually getting to know.
so approach a few girls. and chat with them. casually. 'hey hows it going, what you ladies up to tonight?' gauge their reactions. respond accordingly....
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You don't.
Picking up girls at a bar is a waste of time.
>>16795741
I'll try this with my friend when he'll be here ! Right now my other friend is mixing and I don't feel confortable socialising alone. Ley's have some beers !
Hello, everyone.
I'm pretty overwhelmed in a relationship with this girl.
>being together for near 1 year
>realize we're quite different
>I'm a serious man, a little of a bitter person
>she's a bit childish and full of joy
>our life's goals seems to be incompatible without any of us sacrificing
>there're much things I'd like to change in her but I don't...
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>>16795709
>am i being too stupid or is this a real problem.
neither. its not a real problem (for you at least, its a real problem for the rest of the dating world imo) and you are actually being really smart.
most of us jump into the first relationship we can manage to find without worrying about how compatible we are. attraction is attraction and once we stick with someone we feel like we have to stick with someone until they do something bad. like its not fair for us to have...
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So I travel quite a bit. Like I only go home on weekends and sometimes I have to stay in the specific town I am in over the weekends so it’s usually just me. That being said, I am lonely a lot and there is one thing that I consistently think about, my ex-gf. TL;DR about a year ago I was slowly going down depression, I had a porn induced ED, I gained a fuck ton of weight, I had nothing going for me, I worked about 16 hours a night, and my apartment was probably the shittiest living conditions I could’ve ever asked for. This coupled with a couple of other hitches made my gf...
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>>16795664
>TL;DR
>in the middle of the biggest wall of text
Is it possible to teach yourself amateur gymnastics without equipment?
Specifically tumbling (flips and summer salts and that fun stuff)
If so, how?
Or is this the most stupid question you've ever read and do I deserve a snapped neck just for asking?
>>16795653
that'd be like someone who has never played an instrument in their entire life learning how to violin from scratch
very hard but entirely possible
expect to spend years on very basic things
>>16795653
Google resources for it and I expect you'd be surprised.
Biggest thing you don't have is enough experience to do it safely. That'd be your biggest barrier, if any.
>>16795663
I guess I may as well join a gymnastics club, my primary issue is always travel. No actual clubs for miles.
I'd just love to be skilled in back flips and the like.
So, I love learning about science attending science conferences as a listener, talking to scientists, reading science books, watching coursera etc
to find out what field interests me the most
But I still am not motivated enough to study at my college, which actually does some science and is pretty difficult
I want to do sciency stuff in the future, particularly in biotechnology/biophysics, but procrastination ensues.
Should I stop reading science news and just do the work, as I am a dumb freshman?
Pic unrelated
Here you go OP
Maybe science isn't for you - if you're not enthused by the study, you'll find the career equally trying, but if you procrastinate on a job you get fired. Think about left-field areas you might enjoy working in, with rewarding activities and strong employment prospects, such as carpentry.
>>16795678
Seriously this. I fucking hate people who "love" science. I love the scientific method and everything it's produced.
How the fuck do I write a resume
I've never had a job
I need help
Fuck
>>16795644
If it's for a shitty job just download a template or better - write it in Word and lie like crazy. Make up workplaces and shit.
>split up with girlfriend last month
>everyone I know has valentine's dates, so I can't even go out with friends to ease my mind
>little sister doesn't even bother to return my texts, and I feel needy whenever I message her
>she's probably got a date with her jackass new bf
I'm just sitting here, waiting for V Day to depress the hell out of me. I don't want to be alone with myself when that day comes. I've...
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tissues & lotion
>>16795649
Masturbation depresses the hell out of me now.
I don't even know how to tell my sister how much she's hurting me by ignoring me. We always come to each other with our problems.
![tumblr_lker93lSCR1qi30rfo1_1280[1].jpg](https://i.imgur.com/SCvGNjD.jpg "tumblr_lker93lSCR1qi30rfo1_1280[1].jpg")
How do I find/develop who I am? Right now I feel like an NPC. I don't have a style, I have no real edge.
>>16795629
That's all a matter of perception. You're already a complete person with a full personality. You just have to reconcile that twisted self-perception with reality.
Keep trying stuff until something sticks. Every time you learn what you don't like, you also learn a bit about what you do.
>>16795629
the core belief behind existentialism is that the universe is inherently meaningless, but that our power of choice gives us the option to give our lives meaning.
but to do so we have to at authentically. to do otherwise would be to lose your true self, and then you are no longer a human, so much as a tool of the universe, literally an NPC. finding your 'style' or your 'edge' might make you more defined. it might make you more recognizable.
but you dont want to 'develop'...
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What to do ?
Ideas ?
>>16795627
Think that you are one year closers to your death.
Stop being a pussys and get friends on the next year. If you're lucky you might get a girlfriend.
>>16795631
Lol we just broke up... And friends i noticed they were all fake so i put distance between us.....
How do I speak in text to people, specifically girls? I fear my friend in Austria may be getting bored of me and I really want to talk to her more often. Also, I tend to turn it into a weird interview so that I don't talk about myself too much (she still asks me a lot of questions about myself however).
>>16795587
Talk in text as little as possible. If she lives in another country then try to facetime with her more often.
Communication is mostly about your body language and tone, and has very little to do with what you say. Removing the two major elements from it means that you are barely communicating at all, so obviously she'll get bored of talking with you eventually.
If she doesn't want to do anything more then she's probably not worth your time anyway, anon.
>How...
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>>16795640
We're both students in college so we really don't have too much time to do that, we mostly just send messages for each other when we finish class. We are in different time zones so it isn't too convenient. I could suggest a more easier program to talk with like Skype though. I agree, text fucking sucks but I just want some strategies for now so I don't sound like a boring rock.
>>16795693
Then find time. Sometimes when I talk to girls I'll use emojis, and stuff like "haha" or "lol" a lot in conversations so that I don't sound too serious most of the time (never showing any sort of emotion in how you talk comes of as pretty boring).
I'd give better advice, but I don't really know your situation.
I'm taking a class that's going to end soon. There's a girl in the class I just want to get to know better. I want to ask her for her phone number but I'm so fucking shy and bashful my stomach gets tied in knots just thinking about asking her, Is too much of a dorky move to write her a note? I wouldn't ask this if she was a regular girl but she has this naive quality is a complete nerd.
Try to talk about something in the class, just strike up the conversation, then with something like "what's your number, so we could discuss it later?"
Or ask for Facebook, it is easier to type than to talk.
>>16795577
>Is it too much of a dorky move to write her a note?
Yes it is and that's a pretty terrible idea.
Just ask her for her number one day. If she asks why, just tell her that you like talking to her and you two won't see each other in class anymore soon.
>>16795577
For every fear you face in life, calmly rationalise it. Any irrational fear you encounter needs to be faced and defeated. The sensation will only be momentary. A missed opportunity can last much longer
This may not seem helpful, but just talk to her. And try to smile
Pretty easy one. Friend's having a birthday at a bar uptown. Invited me, his gf, and a few other mutual friends. He and his gf don't like my gf. Should I tell my gf the situation and go alone, or should I ask if she can come, or should I just show up with her? She wasnt invited.
>>16795566
How stupid are you to have someone who they don't like show up uninvited and their birthday party. Do you have zero social skills or common sense
>>16795566
Talk to him about it first and tell him that you want her to go. If you manage to convince him to let her go, then ask her if she wants to come. I'm assuming that you're smart enough to know what to say in both of these situations and that she's aware that they have some animosity towards her. I'm sure ethat they won't have a problem with her coming ad long as she doesn't start shit.
>>16795572
Hey man fuck you
No it was just a joke to myself. Thanks for the advice friendo
Okay so I'm gonna give initials to those involved.
Friend 1 G
Friend 2 B
Friend 3 J
Me H
This was two weeks ago
Okay so G ignored all friends over the weekend and B called H on Sunday crying about how worried he was about G and how they weren't close and how G had been posting that she wanted to get new friends etc
Monday, all friends CALMLY confronted G and poured hearts out, offering care and support and G told friends to go away. That night, H tried to talk out the matter, but G was stubborn, no rude words exchanged. both satisfied...
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>>16795564
> this post was made for BHJ to read together
Then why didn't you just email this shit to H and BJ?
Gmail, nigger. Look into it.
Are you (H) creeping on G? It sounds a lot like it.
Also, if G doesn't want to be friends with B, H, and J, and you...
>don't want G to be my friend
Then just forget about G, you don't get along together, and enjoy hanging out with your actual friends. If you want to make new friends, try taking up a hobby such as carpentry, and meet new and interesting people in the workshop.
>>16795586
Creeping, no. G claimed she cared dearly about HBJ and the relations she had with all of them.
So what does sex actually feel like to you guys? Is it good? Do you enjoy it? Obviously you do, or otherwise you probably wouldn't do it. Which is exactly my problem: I don't feel anything during sex. It doesn't feel good, it doesn't feel bad, there's just nothing. I get absolutely nothing out of it, which leads to me becoming limp after a few minutes and that's that.
My dick is working fine, as far as I can tell. Masturbation works just fine. I can make it quick or draw it out, it feels good and it makes me horny. Everything my girlfriend...
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>>16795543
This is pretty weird, honestly. I'd look for a doctor to talk about it. I've been pretty numb due to being drunk AND using a thick condom before, but nothing quite like this.
>>16795543
Are you cut or uncut?
>>16795543
sounds like you got whats called 'death grip'. basically you masturbated a little to strongly with a firm grip and now your cock is de sensitized. it needs that strong fucking grip to feel anything. even fresh vaginas can feel too soft or lose. i always thoguht id have this problem but never have.
i am desensitized to oral like you are (at least when im hard, but if they staart when im soft i feel that) but i can still fuck no problem
How to kiss?
Hey anon, want to buy some you's?
Like we invented it
>>16795537
