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>work 50-60 hours
>drink until I go to bed
>repeat
I've lost interest in all of my hobbies. I'm lonely as fuck, but I don't enjoy the company of other people - I have plenty of friends and a supportive family.
I live alone with two cats. Between an overwhelming sense of numbness to the world and my growing alcoholism, I think about buying a gun at least a dozen times per day, for about 2 years now.
Help me out, /adv/. I think I'm about...
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Get medical help from a doctor, now.
50-60 hours you should be able to afford some therapy or something
>>16796865
My insurance only covers doctor visits and medication. But I legitimately don't know why I haven't tried therapy.
My boyfriend is from England and I'm from the US. Just looked up the marriage rules and becoming a UK citizen or whatever so I can live there with him. It sounds pretty complicated. I have to be living there for two years prior or something? I dont get it
>>16796832
I wouldn't recommend changing your entire life for somebody you've never even met before. You wouldn't know what living with them is like, so compatibility is up in the air.
>>16796832
The trick is to marry him and move to Continental Europe, where the rules on income etc. don't apply. After a couple of years you're a European permanent resident and you can move to the UK. This kind of international mobility should be pretty easy if you have careers in a field with a very strong job market, such as carpentry.
>>16796846
We meet next month. Still staying optimistic though... I know being together will be a lot different, but hopefully for the better
A new local art gallery gave me the chance to exhibit an art piece in their latest show in hopes that it would sell. There are three days left in the show and the piece hasn't sold. I did my best with social media marketing and having people visit but I had no luck. I do pretty well in my private sales, but with the gallery commission price, I guess it has scared off buyers. I feel horrible about it because I gave them confidence in the work and it hasn't sold.
I was thinking that I could pay them the commission that they would have received if it sold just...
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>>16796794
That's what you get for trying to be an artist instead of an illustrator .
Also post pick of art.
>>16796931
>Also post "pick" of art.
That's what you get for being a STEM major who can't find a job instead of an English major.
>>16796931
That's what you get for being an illustrator instead of a carpenter. Pick a job in a solid job sector and these problems never arise.
Hello /adv/, I'm fucking scared right now and I obviously need your advices.
My life is getting worse and worse everyday, I am someone who believe in God but I never really cared about all the "going to church on Sunday" thing. However, recently, like two or three days, I started to think that litteraly everything has a meaning. And pretty much every hour, I look at the sky, saying "Please help me God, show me what I should do", I'm litteraly begging for him to show he is here.
For now you think that OP is a faggot, but It's not...
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>>16796790
Imagine a world where there's no religion.
Got the image?
Now hold it.
The problem you face is fabricated and trivial.
>>16796790
I say it's all coincidence, however I could be wrong.
I Mastubate often, yet pray everyday.
God is an unknown force and if you fear him, than satan can take advantage of that and torture you mentally.
Trust that he will forgive you, everyone masturbates.. surely not everyone goes to hell.
As long as you give time to him, he'll be happy. Church isn't mandatory to love god.
This is my opinion of course.
Is coming here even trying to get advice? I feel like there's so many edge lords who don't actually try to understand and empathize with people's problems and just insult you, is there anyone willing to understand?
I'm listening.
>not automatically filtering chanspeak while you read
what are you, some kind of faget? Why would we be here if we didn't like to help morons with their problems? I think the problem is your own sensitivity to attitude and language creating a bias in your perceptions of how helpful people are here.
you- you- double nigger!
also yes there are a lot of edgelords on here with bad advice, but I think it comes from a good place
>>16796767
>edgelord detected
Soo I need some pointers on birth control and the real pros and cons, cause my gf and I want to move to unprotected sex eventually and we've heard mixed reviews on birth control pills. Whats the best way to go about having unprotected sex without getting prego? We're both clean so std isnt the main concern. Basically we're stalling on getting birth control cause we've heard some bad side effects and whatnot.
Anything with hormones has the possibility of not reacting to her system well. Side effects vary from person to person.
Pills aren't a good choice for a lot of people, since you have to remember to take it daily, and the same time every day. Antibiotics also get in the way of effectiveness.
The implant and the shot are not particularly recommended as they have long term side effects that aren't pleasant. Implant migration and bone density loss, respectively.
Google can help you with the rest.
>>16796743
Are you a femanon tho? what's your experience with it?
OP please don't come to /adv/ for birth control questions. I always see cringe-worthy misinformation.
Just read all of this
http://www.cdc.gov/reproductivehealth/unintendedpregnancy/pdf/contraceptive_methods_508.pdf
https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control
http://m.scarleteen.com/article/sexual_health/the_buddy_system_effectiveness_rates_for_backing_up_your_birth_control_with_a_
And talk to a professional.
So for a while now gf and her family have invited on holiday with them, and offered to pay for my hotel and I'd cover flights which is fair enough seeming as I'd be bunking with their daughter in more than one way. Her brother recently decided he can make it on this holiday and her parents decided to cover his whole holiday (It's a complicated situation where her parents get money every 5 or 6 months and her brother is in fulltime work). So now I have no idea how much I'm having to pay towards this holiday. It's €1300 per person and I could barely...
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>>16796702
I'd just tell her that while you'd love to go on holiday with them, right now it doesn't make financial sense.
If you guys are very serious, you could even tell her you want to start spending more wisely in anticipation of having a family one day.
>>16796769
Yeah I want to go less and less with how much money this is going to cost. We're both students and I'm a little immature so no family for a while and even if I said that I don't think she'd buy it. but I might try and say that I don't think I can afford it right now, to her it will just come off as I don't want to come since she if offering to relieve the financial strain from me.
What are some methods of thinking, practices and general advice for not being an emotional little bitch? Anyone have any stories, tidbits, etc?
Anything
>breakups
>getting fired
>insecurities
Constantly going over stuff in your mind just burns in those pathways.
Do things to distract yourself.
>>16796693
I like reading the stoics and Buddhist material regarding mental practices and handling emotions.
Start there.
Unless you want advice on a specific situation.
being a little bitch is this: weakness. Whatever it is you're bitching about, you're doing so out of avoidance with the fact that you're too weak to handle it, whatever it is, and so you're trying to make yourself feel better/make excuses/etc.
Either you stop being weak, or you stop being a bitch about it, meaning, accept that you're weak, don't hide from it, and quietly fix your own goddamn problems.
My niece is being harassed/bullied by kids in the neighborhood. No injury has occurred yet but there were multiple times where they have hit her. One in particular is doing it the most, even a couple other kids were his targets. The last time I spoke to the family, they said that they would talk and handle it. Today, the boy and a friend hit her in the eye with a snowball. Again no serious injury but she is afraid to stand up for herself (she doesn't even want me to teach her self defense. She keeps freezing under almost any pressure). What legal grounds can we sue on,...
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have you tried leaving a flaming bag of dog poop on their doorstep and ringing the bell?
Kinda funny but I doubt it would work. I need an effective solution that's not immature or destructive. He'll I'd love to bust their cars or windows but that opens us to legal issues. Thank you for posting though.
>>16796657
unfortunately the system is not on your side
the system is there to protect itself
so sadly, the first thing you must do is tell the school and document the encounter with the school being told. every time.
from there you can get law enforcement involved if they continue to do nothing because you've established a pattern of behavior of the kid, AND a pattern of complicity of the system.
there is no quick fix unless it escalates alot...
Hi /adv/, kissless virgin here, never once went on a date either, but I've just managed to ask out a really hot qt on a date, but I don't fucking know what I'm supposed to do, I've never gotten this far. So please, help /adv/, I have NO FUCKING CLUE what to do.
Also I'm Canadian, help.
Pleasehelp
All you have to do is fuck her right in the pussy.
>>16796624
Step 1: fuck her vagina
Watch a lot of Adam Sandler movies and learn how the master dones it.
I am considering asking a woman to be my valentine but what the fuck does that even mean? Like if you ask a woman to be your valentine.. what does it mean to you? I live in the USA if that helps.
Also.. can you ask a woman to be your valentine via text? What does it all mean? Does it just mean "Hey, I like you!"
Like what if you have never been on a date with the person you want to be your valentine?
>>16796585
This is why Valentine's Day is so ridic. Don't ask her to be your Valentine, ask her on a date. Much less confusing that way.
>>16796599
hmmm.. well I went on a date with this girl before but I think she low key friend zoned me. not sure. I was basically going to use valentines day as a way to feel out how she feels about me perhaps.
Call me a retard or an autist or whatever. But I have a really tough time having conversations with people. I can do humor very well, but my conversations never have any depth or length. I don't think I have ever "connected" with a person (or whatever that means).
It, however, seems like conversation and socializing (especially with strangers/new people) comes naturally to most...It's frustrating. I have never had hour long conversations or stayed up all night on the phone talking to a friend. 99% of my conversations last less than two minutes, then...
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B-bump?
If you want to talk to people, you need shit to talk about. Politics, music, other normie shit.
>>16796582
Deep, real talks require interest and for you and ideally your partner to be interesting and interested in you.
You can force deep talks, you'll sound like a philosophy teacher.
It flows. Yes, it's gay but its true. Deep convos flow because you are sincerely trying to understand that person's view and what not.
This is the first person I have talked to in years, we just started talking and I am so anxious to text him right now although he hasn't replayed to my last few messages. I know I am not interesting but I am so scared he will stop talking to me this is the only human contact I have had and I don't want to lose it
>>16796568
Be calm.
As important as this is to you, this probably isn't at the top of his list. Resist the temptation to send more messages.
Wait for a response.
>>16796589
But what if he never responds?
If you keep sending loads of messages to him, you can take away the "What if" in your post...
Needyness is one of the things that, for both sexs, takes away the desire. You should go do something for yourself in order to disconect from that 'mind set'. Go hang with your friends, sports, games... whatever. As soon as you put your mind into something else, your need to send messages, or rather, to receive answers, will fade.
Hope he answers you! Night.
so my penis is too big for my wife to take it all the way pretty much every time we have sex. sometimes she gets really into it and i can put it all the way in, but she always complains of soreness the next day or two and has to stop after just a few minutes.
my question is, does my wife's tight vagina correlate to small penises? like, i would hate for a son to have a small penis because of her absurdly tight vag. her tits arnt huge either.
are female genitals correlated with the genitals of male children? her dad is a weak cuck btw. is this something i should...
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>>16796555
>my question is, does my wife's tight vagina correlate to small penises?
why on earth would it? You a moron
No, it means she probably doesn't masterbate with things as huge as your dick and probably isn't into gaping like the other hoebags. Good wife material.
>>16796555
ITT humblebragging about dick size
That's right folks... i guess i fucked something up.
Recently (3-4 months) been having this issue where, when i masturbate or have sex, it just suddenly stops feeling good. When having sex, it can kinda come back. Sometimes when i masturbate, just as i am about to orgasm, i feel like it's going away and it just cuts off and i ejaculate like... a bit of precum, nothing. If i masturbate sooner/later, it's decent but... ehhhh.
Anyone had this problem or something similar? Wat do? (except, obviously, visit a doctor, which i would already do if i wasn't...
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Stop pressing the bulb between your balls and your anus, because that's where your load is cuming from. It's also called dry humping, and it enables you to fap several times in a row - or at least in much smaller intervals.
If you don't do that, and don't want to visit a doctor, you could study medicine anytime?
>>16796644
No, I know the technique, but of course I isolated the problem, and it's not that. It's not what i'm eating or even how much i sleep, it's not the amount of activity (it does tend to happen on firsts of whatever i'm doing)...
Well, i will surely eventually get to doctor(when an insurance issue is settled), i am just worried momentarily as well as frustrated...
