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What does /adv/ and especially femanons think of adult males with braces?
Im 28 and getting ceramic braces next week
Elastic ones will hold your trousers up better.
Depends if you're hot otherwise, like with everything else.
Tom cruise when he had braces? Would still spread
>>16798507
if ur hot enough to compensate, then ur hot enough to compensate. very few people legitimately 'like' braces, and when they do, they are thinking of really young qts.
no one saw a 28 year old man (or woman) and thought 'wow those braces make them cuter!'
but like everything in life, no one is perfect. women are not one single entity. some of them are really hot. some of them are ugly. their standards vary, as do yours.
the thing about braces though is that they are temporary, and at the end of it, you'll look even better than before.
i recently switched from my regular acne treatments to accutane. a little bit of suffering might lead to a lifetime of being attractive cuz ill actually be able to treat my scarring, which tends to just resurface anytime there was a lapse in my treatment.
Girlfriend cheated on me. How do I get over her?
>>16798476
As in ur still with her? Or u broke up and wanna move past her and the effect it had on you?
>>16798487
She vanished one day and wouldn't answer any of my texts. I checked her tumblr to see if she was okay and I found a link to another tumblr where she masturbates nude and snapchat with guys to fuck her.
>>16798476
do shit that takes your mind of her. see friends, read, play video games, work. literally anything that you can commit your time to that is full filling. i was cheated on and this is how i got over it.
I'm 22 and going back to school for a career change, how do I make friends without coming off as creepy or weird?
I've always been the outcast who was picked on for one reason or another and I don't want that to happen this time. I'm very shy and have trouble with social anxiety but I just want some friends I can talk to and laugh with and be normal with, how do people make such close friends?
Anxiety forums have taught me about social dynamics and from what I understand the more friends you have the easier it is to make more friends.. but how do you start when you're so late to the party?
Find other outcasts and talk to them.
>>16798455
stop giving a fuck about people and they'll flock to you.
there's a subtle thing when you don't put in any effort everyone else starts to try harder yea it's kind of fucked up but hey at least now you're on your path to active manipulation as opposed to the passive manipulation that people do in their daily lives.
>>16798485
Worst advice ever.
Hi /adv/
So, my ex-girlfriend, with which i was for 2 years, left me 2 years ago. This was our first relationship, and our first love. We were deeply in love with each other, but long story short, she left me because i fucked up with my low self esteem and pseudo-depression that made me awful to be around because i was so jealous and all.
I still think about her a lot, pretty sure i'm still in love with her. We had NO contact for those two years (except during the first months after the break-up where we talked once in a while).
And this morning, my best friend (who is also her friend) he had a big conversation with her, and she talked about me, said she wanted to talk to me, because it felt really bad to her to have been very close to me for 2 years and then have suddenly no contact, no news from me. BUT she told my friend that she didn't want me to get any ideas and that she didn't feel anything for me.
She wanted him to not say anything to me about this, but he did tell me anyway.
Now this is fucking awful, i have no idea what to do. There's this girl i'm still deeply in love with, i'm dying to talk to her and get back with her for 2 years, and now i learn that she wants to talk to me as well, but that probably nothing will happen more than a friendly conversation.
How the hell do i get out of this nightmare ? I feel terrible.
Also i must add that she recently broke up with her ex-bf.
If she doesn't feel anything for you, she would not have sought out your friend to pass on a message that was sure to get passed on with "She said not to tell you this but..." in front.
The honest truth of the matter is, both of you will have to work extra hard to avoid the same pitfalls that poisoned your relationship the first time around. You love her. But she left you. Your love for her is limitless, but her love for you had a limit.
You just have to come to terms with that.
>>16798448
just remain contact cut. just my opinion. find some new slash boy. or none at all, you're probably better off.
>>16798454
>If she doesn't feel anything for you, she would not have sought out your friend to pass on a message that was sure to get passed on with "She said not to tell you this but..." in front.
What i thought, she knows exactly our relationship with my best friend and that we tell each other everything. Also this is actually the second time she asks about me to him, last time was six months ago she asked how i was doing, and now she wants to talk to me directly.
And since those last 6 months i've had a couple of "hints" of interest from her, small things like listening to the songs we used to listen together ("our songs", huh) a lot, liking some of my posts, while she would never do that before. It's really nothing, but when you add it to what she asked to my friend, it makes sense.
Maybe she really is interested but won't accept it ? Or i'm just full of bullshit and she really wants to be friend with me. That sucks.
Still, my initial plan was to talk to her next time i come back in town (i moved out since then but i often come back), and i think i'll stick to it, i won't be sure of anything as long as i don't talk to her directly. Should i ?
Maybe once she'll see me she'll want to be with me. Or not, i don't know.
Man this is really depressing. I think i was better when i was just thinking about her and thought she completely forgot about me
How can I control my anxiety at work? Alcohol helps at home or social situations but I can't drink at work
>work retail
>paralyzing anxiety
>sweating, red face, hands shake
Inb4 see a therapist for 150hr mind games
>>16798383
No insurance?
I think if you're self-medicating with alcohol to the point where you'd like to drink at work you have a problem that's serious enough that it would be a good idea to see a psychiatrist and try getting onto a medication that's not going to be as damaging to you as alcohol.
It might also be useful to look into something like cognitive behavioral therapy, but if you're not willing to involve yourself with "mind games", what's the point I guess.
>>16798399
>No insurance?
Moat therapists don't take insurance. You can still get the insurance company to reimburse you, but only at out-of-network rates, and you have to do all the logistical crap yourself.
>>16798383
>>16798383
Cigarettes and weed
>inb4 cigs are disgusting poison and weed is for degenerates
Ask doc for benzos
>inb4 drugs is Bad
!!
Then idk those are all that help me. I have severe anxiety and panic attacks
Is it wrong to want to be single because I don't want to be tied down while I'm in college?
It's fine to not want to be tied down ever. It's your fuckin life.
Now if you "don't want to be tied down" so you can hopefully blow any random hot guy you just met without getting yelled at by a boyfriend, I'd say you are a self destructive member of society and need to consider killing yourself if you think that is what college is about.
I'm being dead serious. Anyone who genuinely thinks making easily avoidable poor decisions with drugs, alcohol, and sex is SUPPOSED to be part of the college experience needs to literally kill themselves. You are ruining the higher education system. People like you getting in is one of the reasons adults are dumber and dumber every generation, and also why college tuition is so high. Had morons like these not gone to college, the supply and demand would be more favorable towards getting people in who legitimately want to be more capable and intelligent - not those who look at it as a time to party and have random sex.
>>16799311
No one cares moralfag.
>>16798256
It's not necessarily wrong, but I don't know why you'd stay single. You can always just break up if you feel like you're being tied down.
>>16798256
>is it wrong
im sorry, is there some moral code that says we HAVE to be in a relationship? jesus christ what kind of logic is this?
i mean unless you are some adonis and it would be truly selfish not to share you with women, how does this fall under right or wrong?
its never wrong to be single. ever. just be single if u dont want to date. its normal.
I'm finishing a masters in finance and all I want is to stay at home and try to live off of gamedev. I've inherited about 100k recently so money wouldn't be a problem for quite a while but my gf is working her 5 days a week at her definitive job and I don't want to make her afraid that I'll never work or make money.
I feel like I cheated her by telling her (and myself) that I'd work a good job in finance but it seems too soul-crushing for me. Meanwhile I'm at home learning about code, modeling, texturing, animating, design, music, lightning...It's so great and some people on here (strangers) told me I have potential but not going directly for interviews out of college seems like a professional death trap. If I would try working on gamedev at home for a year or two, would it be possible to go back to corporations and interview as if nothing had happened?
Help
I don't know you and we probably will never meet but I AM LITERALLY BEGGING YOU TO FOLLOW YOUR DREAM. If you have that sort of attitude that is realistically founded and thought out towards a field BEFORE EVEN GETTING A JOB, you will hate your existence and will never be happy long-term with your girlfriend. Ultimately, pursuing your passion may in the short-term have destabilizing consequences for your life and environment but both you and your girlfriend have an ability to pursue a genuine and authentic life, even if you end up breaking up down the line that kind of opportunity is extraordinarily rare in this world so if you actually have the ability to pursue your passion then you owe it to yourself as a self-respecting human being. Good luck and Godspeed
>>16798129
>I don't want to make her afraid that I'll never work or make money.
Then you need to bust your ass to show her that you mean what you say.
>If I would try working on gamedev at home for a year or two, would it be possible to go back to corporations and interview as if nothing had happened?
If you never did an interview with someone, yes, you can go do an interview sometime down the road. They might ask why your work history is blank, but you have a year to figure out what exactly you want to tell them.
Here's the beautiful thing about your position: you've already got a fall-back, which is your masters in finance. If things go horribly wrong, you can always go back to finance, because you are going to have a hell of an easier time finding a job than most. You've already got 100K. Most people will work their entire lives, and not even get to see this kind of money, let alone utilize it for their dream.
In the end, it's up to you whether or not you take a leap of faith, but understand that if you don't take it now when you have this kind of opportunity, then no amount of money or job prospects will ever change your mind.
>>16798163
>>16798129
>>16798415
DO NOT DO GAME DEV
REPEAT
DO NOT DO GAME DEV
You won't make any money off your first game. Or your second. Or your third even. You'll do back breaking amounts of work for literally 0 recognition and for literally $0. Game dev is only for masochists and people with almost literally autistic levels of dedication. Game dev is not fun after it wears off, and you'll inevitably wish you hadn't thrown your life away for fucking beans.
Do it part time before you decide to commit future suicide, it's not for everyone.
Oh and go to /vg/'s /agdg/ and ask them the same thing
Guys..
I feel sad because I'm trying really hard to be interested by the subjects I'm trying to accomplish but they just feel like nothing more than a task that needs to be accomplished. No school subjects are worth pursuing forever for me because none of it is interesting. Sure, I grasp the concept of it all; Maths, Science, ect. But it's just so... Boring.
I want to get a respectable well paid job that's fun but not be stuck in some butt fucking job after working my ass off in College. What the hell do I do?
>>16797877
what exactly do you even find fun.
>>16797881
a little bit of this.
but also, triangle theory.
there are always three things you want. but you cant have all three.
it can be fun and well paid, but no one respects you.
it can be well paid and respectable, but not fun
or it can be respectable and fun, but not well paid.
generally.
Fuck respect! Who gives a shit what people think?
How do I deal with a complete douche bag of a project lead?
I work on a software team, and I had an incident the other day that has just completely destroyed any desire for me to work with this guy. We just brought on a new team member, and she stopped by my desk so I could explain some things about our project. During my explanation, the project lead stops by and sees whats going on. He quickly starts interrupting about "the project structure" and starts rambling on about how the project should be structured and how everything is wrong. This confuses me greatly as he was the one who defined the project structure. I quickly realize whats going on here. He is grandstanding in front of the new team member to assert dominance. I can only assume he is somewhat offended that all of the new team members come to me for guidance instead of him? Maybe because I'm not an unapproachable sociopath....
Once I'm able to get a word in edgewise, I mention, that he was in fact the one who defined the project structure, but I offer to change it for him it he would like. This really sets him off, and he calls in the whole team to give a "lecture on project structure.", which is really just a disguised way of chewing me out in front of everyone. The lecture basically ends up being a pop quiz for me on the software, but he can't stump me as I've written more of the code than anyone else on the team. After a while he eventually gives up and settles on a "well its wrong but at least we can fix it".
This really took me a back. This is the first time something like this has happened and it really caught me by surprise. I've stepped up big time for this project, putting in work way about what is required of me, and this is how I get treated?
My skills are in high demand around the office, and I can transfer to any project here with ease. But then I am potentially burning bridges with my old project lead. Very confused on what to do here, but just taking it and moving on just feels wrong.
Just deal with it and finish the project. Continue to build relationships with your colleagues, and you'll easily be holding the highest level of appreciation in your office. Your boss is a cunt, but just adapt to work with him.
You're better off just humoring your bosses insecurities and continuing the command the respect of your coworkers.
>>16797862
Kill your boss and burn the body. Scatter what remains over the course of a month baked into muffins you bring to the office.
Make snide remarks about your missing boss' taste and how consumed he was with the job.
I met someone who is possibly the nicest, sweetest person. Her personality is absolutely perfect for me.
However, physically, im not all that attracted to her. yet, something in my head is demanding that i look past this. So I've decided to still ride it out just to see what happens.
so should i continue with this? or will i just end up being stuck in a position that i ultimately hate?
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can physical attraction grow overtime? Anonymous 02/11/16(Thu)22:29:25 No.16797704â–¶
I met someone who is possibly the nicest, sweetest person. Her personality is absolutely perfect for me.
However, physically, im not all that attracted to her. yet, something in my head is demanding that i look past this. So I've decided to still ride it out just to see what happens.
so should i continue with this? or will i just end up being stuck in a position that i ultimately hate?
Probably depends on how high your sex drive is. If you can see your self porking
this girl for a year and not wanting to kill yourself I'd say go for it
It will but only to a certain extent. If she's not that high on the scale, she'll never be your 10/10. I'd say personality adds about 2 max out of ten.
The title says it all. I've lived in Austin, TX for almost three years at the behest of my family who upped and relocated to be here. It's a long story but we're here because my brother and sister-in-law moved here due to one of them getting a job in the area, which triggered my parents to move here to be with the grandchildren.
I hate it here. There's just too much traffic and too many people. Speaking of the people, they're cliquey, insular and parochial in their own manner. It's easy to meet people, but hard to form bonds or make relationships that last or are meaningful.
I've debated moving back to Ohio. My parents are convinced our economy's going to collapse, [insert any and all fearmongering here] and that's a terrible idea according to them because of WW3, another Great Depression, any conceivable exigency.
Are they full of shit? I've lived in Ohio, Maryland, New York and a few other places and I like Texas just fine, but my honeymoon is ending with the state. Is toxicity reason enough to leave or should I tough it out?
Any other general advice? Thoughts? Experiences? Thanks.
If you take up carpentry, you can work and live anywhere happily
>>16797119
I have a friend who's always pressured me into going to the trades despite not knowing my ass from a hole in the ground and being all thumbs. Carpentry is cool but likely not for me, which is too bad because real estate and the need for houses is booming here.
>>16797111
Which part of the state for lovers are you from? Move back but move to cincy. Still ohio but easier to meet people than northern ohio
I've never been able to fall asleep in bed with a gf. I can never rest enough to get sleepy. I've tried taking gravol and beer to put me to sleep but that didn't work either. It takes me about an hour to fall asleep alone and I wake up often. What do?
>>16781591
Holy fug I never thought I would encounter someone sharing this feel. It takes me forever to fall asleep with another person in the same bed. Maybe it's because I like/am used to the cold helping me sleep and someone else's body heat prevents that. I used to be moderate to bad insomnia but it is no longer an issue when alone so I have no idea.
exercise more
Same. I'm exhausted after my bf has slept over. Help
Anons, how do you let go and stop playing games? Like, say you are in a situation when friend of opposite sex is being super shitty and you want to stop being friends but you fucking can't let go because you miss them and still hope they can change and stop being twatty...
I have shitload of different problems but this asshole keeps me awake at night because I want one last conversation and learn some truths and then let go but I can't get it, so I'm becoming more and more salty with every passing day
>>16779998
I thought this board was called advice not ignore
>>16779998
Get some real problems?
>>16780314
I have plenty real problems my sweet dude, but this one is bugging me the most. It's probably because when I think about it I don't think about my big serious problems
Hey /adv/ my dog has this weird bubble and scratch on his eye. It looks like it's on his cornea and it doesn't seem to be bothering him. Should I take him to a vet?
>>16779997
It's on the center of his eye if you can't see it.
You can if you want, but if it's not a detriment to his daily life then it'll probably be advised to ignore it.
Yes, he needs to go to the vet. Find out what a trained professional says, not the dumbass on the internet.
This is his EYE.
I have very little experience with MMOs, I've mainly stuck with single player RPGs for a long time. However, I've recently found the concept of co-op gameplay in an open world really appealing. I thought ESO would be what I wanted. Unfortunately, despite being the perfect type of game, it was, as we all know, a massive steaming pile of shit. In my search, I've seem a number of games that look pretty good. WoW doesn't seem terrible, but the visual style of the game makes me want to vomit shit all over myself.
I love the MMORPG aspect, but I'm looking for a game, sci-fi, fantasy, shooter, whatever, that lets me run around an open world and play co-op missions as well as PvP.
tl;dr
What's a good MMORPG?
Pic unrelated
>>16779066
I went threw the same phase arojnd 4 years ago when dark souls first game out. All I wanted was a dark souls game with coop. Basically a full rpg with completely integrated coop and multiplayer.
Sadly that's as close as we are right now. Most coops are fps or platformers. Doubt they'll have anything close to what we want for a while, too niche.
Too big for singleplayer and too small for mmo. That's the way the market sees games like that.
Also
>>>/v/
I really like playing SWTOR, but mostly because it has a fully-voiced story. I switch between it and WoW every few months.
The nice thing about TOR is that you get all of its "expansions" free for subscribing, so there's less cost overall than with WoW.
>pretty sure its PvP is mostly unsupported though
