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How do I abandon all hope for love and focus on other things in my life?
I just got stood up. Again.
I've literally been trying my best my entire life, and failing hard.
I've tried so many different approaches.
I'm 27.
There is literally no hope for me.
I just want to move on, but I can't.
I'm afraid. I really don't want to keep on keeping on anymore.
>>16805063
A good thing to remember is that you are responsible for your own happiness, get it? Love yourself, m8
I would say, don't give up.
Not gonna lie, you're probably fucking awful with dates. But that can be fixed. You said you've tried a lot of different approaches, but dating doesn't work that way. Strategy is overrated. It's not about that. The fact that you seem to think approach matters has me a little concerned.
So basically I'm guessing you're really maladjusted and terrible with women. Fixable. But not by "approaches." By getting a fucking grip on reality and relationships.
>>16805072
This guy might be saying you're hunting. That's it.
Became enlightened to the existence of alphas, betas and cucks today. Realised I am a beta in a relationship being cucked. Tell me how to go from beta to alpha and turn my situation around.
>>16805024
>being cucked
Like literally?
get outta the fuckin relationship, you're being cucked! Fuck that bitch slash hoe slash stupid mofucka. Get the fuck away from her and there is something better. Do whatever it is you gotta do to survive and better yourself in any way that you can. By making yourself a better man, you will attract better women. If this surprises you, you didn't pay any attention in biology.
>>16805024
You know that alphas and betas are just a shorthand in the Internet, right?
The people here aren't using the terms in a serious way. Alpha just means someone who is willing to take charge, not afraid to take risks, and (usually) fucks lotsa sluts.
Betas are pansies who follow the lead of others and aren't courageous enough to ask a girl out.
Cuck is even worse. It is supposed to refer to a man who is being cheated on, who has knowledge of the cheating but does nothing. Here it's...
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I am 22 y/o and literally can't bring myself to like younger girls. I can't stand their immaturity and dependence. I prefer older women but I don't really know how to act around them, what they want. I still live with my parents but got a nice car, good clothes, good job and a great body (but not yet Chad-worthy).
Any tips?
>I can't stand their immaturity and dependence
>22 y/o
>I still live with my parents
>>16804471
Well I am going to move out in a few months but is living with parents a big turn off for older women?
>>16805653
Literally kek
I have to turn my senior quote in soon, gimme a good one.
>I have no friends so it that will make it better when people look at it
>>16804146
"Build the Wall"
"I see dad people"
>>16804150
This
My new roommate showers up to 6 times a day. Is this normal? I shower once a day before bed. How would I go about discussing with her that splitting the water bill 50/50 isn't fair?
On weekdays she showers once in the morning for about 20 minutes. When she comes home from work she immediately showers. Before bed she showers again.
On weekends she showers once when she wakes up. Showers before she goes to the gym in the afternoon. Showers after the gym when she comes home. She'll shower again in the evening if she is going out for dinner with a friend or...
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I'm not good with confrontation so I'd like a little assistance.
I keep my showers down to about 15 minutes and I hit the pause button on the shower head to shoap up and such. She will also shower up to 2 hours during her random evening showers. I think she just stands there and sings. Either way, this isn't fair.
>>16804065
Just tell her about it.
Like, what the fuck do you expect?
>You take up too much water because you are showering all the day. Here, see the bills before and after you moved in.
>Your part is 190$, as you can see. If you pay for that, I am fine with the water bills. After all, I am the one paying it, you don't even have to care about the paper stuff involved with it.
If she refuses, you kick her sorry ass.
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Got dumped on Valentine's Day Weekend?
This is the thread for you!
>>16800749
Ive never been dumped on valentines weekend because Ive never had a gf. Must really suck for you guys.
>>16800749
I've never had a gf, but apparently my sister got dumped by her bf of 5 years recently. She wasn't paying rent, so I guess she'll have to move back in with our parents until she graduates.
Unfortunately I still live at home too...
>>16800749
This happened to a few people close to me today, it's affecting my gf and our plans, what the diddallydoo. My hearts go out to you peps who have this happen.
Ever since I was young I imagined and fantasized about growing up to become a strong, tall, voluptuous pretty woman. I looked up to fighter video game and femme fatale girls. I'm an adult now and I'm a 4'10 flat more-innocent-cute-than-sexy girl. I still strongly fantasize about becoming the girl I've always dreamed of. I don't feel happy with myself. I don't think I'll ever be happy until I reach my ideal. What can I do? I'm going insane.
>>16804631
The question to ask is: Why are you using this unrealistic ideal, that you have zero control over to achieve, to hurt yourself esteem?
On one hand, it doesn't matter why you are using this ideal to hurt yourself. On the other, it may help to know if you can find it and thus become the powerful femme fatale by counter attack the damaging ideal.
>>16804644
Its not totally unrealistic, she could get totally ripped with some hard work
i dont blame her for not doing so, i hardly ever work out, and look it
instead of obsessing over what you can't control (being a flat chested womanlet with no figure) why don't you focus on what you can
idk if you're American but we recently opened our special forces to women, if you want to be Motoko well this is your chance. Get in shape, join the navy, go to seal school and make it through, you're well on your way to becoming an anime.
Hey /adv/,
I have never mentioned this to anyone until now but I'm going to admit to you guys that I'm ugly.
I'm tired of telling myself that I'm an average looking guy when I'm below average.
It's painful but it's true. It just is.
I love fashion and have a solid understanding of aesthetics and facial features.
How do you deal with being genetically unattractive?
I'm so tired of being constantly treated differently and badly because of my looks.
Post picture.
4-5/10 ugly is a lot different from 2/10, especially if you are a guy.
>>16804316
Compensate.
>>16804322
I'm pretty sure people I know browse here sometimes. I can't.
You will just have to trust my best judgment.
I'm honestly a 5 or a 6 on really good days.
Hey /adv/. I'm in a bit of an awkward situation.
I'm a freshman in college. Anyways, I met this girl, and we hit it off great. We have a lot in common. Similar senses of humor. Similar interests. Every time we hang out we have fun. I can really be myself around her. For a while I thought I really liked her and was planning on taking our relationship to the next level.
Oh also she is a solid 9/10.
But there's one issue. She's Jewish. Very, very Jewish. For a while, I tried to ignore it because I'm not a very religious person (although was raised Christian) and because I figured it wouldn't be that big of a deal. After all, it's not like we're gonna get married or anything.
But it's starting to really annoy me and frankly, make me feel uncomfortable. All of her friends are Jewish, and whenever I hang out them, they make me feel really awkward for not being Jewish, by constantly pestering me with stupid questions like "what's Christmas like?" and then obviously speaking about me in Hebrew right in front of me (but of course I can't understand).
Furthermore, at least 50% of what this Jew talks about is somehow related to Judaism. Every time we eat together she has to comment on how what I'm eating isn't kosher. We can't hang out on Friday nights because it's that stupid time when very religious Jews stay in their houses all night and don't use technology (she's a commuter student). Whenever we hang out, it usually has to be related to some Jewish event going on hosted by my college's Jewish club. She even duped me into going to a Hanukkah party back in December (she had told me it was just a normal party), and I was not very happy about that.
Now her Jewish friends are all having some shabbat party, and she wants me to go with her (I have two hours to make up my mind). Even if there is music, dancing, and liquor, I still know I'll be the only gentile there and that they're again just going to make it very awkward about me not being Jewish. Also, the Jewish guys I've found are like socially autistic. Very difficult to hold a conversation with them about a topic that isn't Israel or some stupid Jewish shit.
This girl is really hot and I like her, but this Judaism crap is getting on my nerves....
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Should I go to this party or blow her off?
Basically what I'm asking.
>>16803951
Then don't date her. Sounds like you've already made up your mind that you don't like it, and I highly doubt she's going to be not Jewish anytime soon.
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I like hurting men's egos. It gives me a little thrill every time I point out something wrong with their logic or show them I'm better at something than they are. I realize this is not really good because I can tell it really gets to them sometimes and hurts their confidence, but it feels too good and I can't stop myself. How do I stop?
>>16803293
why stop? accept your true nature and hunt for someone who can withstand your brand of crazy
Men need taking down a peg, what with all their raping and killing and oppressing. Keep up the good work and enjoy it, sister!
>>16803313
This is the dumbest fucking attitude. You're dumb. Not women, you specifically
One of life's few pleasures is playing loud music while driving around, I think. Especially on warm days when you can roll the windows down and feel the breeze in your hair.
I'm not talking about blasting the music so the whole neighborhood has to hear it, but if you pull up next to someone or drive right by they'll be able to hear.
Yesterday I got off of work, still in my nurse scrubs and drive to whole foods to buy some things to make lunch and dinner. I'm a white girl in her 20s. Was listening to Dlaughterhouse and the song did have a lot...
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Seriously, playing loud rap music with the volume turned all the way up and the bass goddamn thumping is one of the best things in life.
I'm a Jesus freak, so I usually bump this, though partly for irony: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9ihbZE6aVgY
Also, don't shop at whole foods. Organic produce is more expensive, but organic pesticide residue is actually more dangerous than conventional pesticides, and GMOs are fucking awesome. Whole foods is retarded shit. If it says non-GMO, that shit is inferior and you shouldn't buy it.
White women are the most privileged people on earth. The fact that you would even make this thread over the smallest slight in the world by another white woman is fucking hilarious and proves my point.
>>16802014
And poor white men just have it so hard? Lmao.
I'm about to have an abortion at Planned Parenthood and I was wondering, when I'm about to take the first abortion pill, will I have privacy? Or will they at least give me some time to take it?.
>>16801675
You don't take the pill there. You take it at home.
>>16801678
not true.
it goes down like this.
first you get one medication. it's a hormon that will make your body shut down the pregnancy. you HAVE to take this pill in front of your doc. they need to make sure that YOU took it. (otherwise you could get it and bring it somebvbody else).
then you go home. after 3 days you go back and you get another mediaction that will cause contractions. it wil lhurt like a motherfucker and you will bleed A LOT. you stay at the shospital for a few hours, till the "baby"...
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>>16801678
Depends on the laws of the state. Some states require that the pill be taken at the clinic. Yes, you will have privacy, OP.
What is the difference between a 'relationship' and 'friendship' ?
I'm asking because my friend and I have feelings for eachother but we dont want to be sexually involved, and to him a relationship = friendship+sex. Is it possible to be in a relationship but not have sex? What makes a relationship different from friendship then?
no, what distinguishes a romantic relationship form every other relationship is sex.
>>16801478
I mean I guess if you just decide to call eachother boyfriend and girlfriend and abide by all the other general behaviour minus sex it's a relationship.
>>16801493
A very shitty one tho.
how do i get over yellow fever?
>>16801343
why would you do that?
>>16801343
>stop watching anime
>realizes that asians are fugly
>cured
pretty simple.
>>16801428
Ugly, well not all of them. I watch these japanese tourist girls, and most of them are quite cute.
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There's this guy I'm really into and he seems to be into me too. We flirt and we've sexted a few times, but when we were hanging out for the first time since we started sexting, he didn't make a move. I know he's been really busy lately planning a big event, so maybe he was just tired??? Is there anything you think I should do/say? I usually wait for the guy to make a first move so I don't really know what to do.
>>16798187
If you expect a guy to do ANYTHING while something big is coming up for him, prepare to be disappointed
Men have priorities, but don't take it personally, it's just a big event and he's likely really stressed
That said, do girls actually hate compliments about their ass from strangers or do they enjoy it on the inside? I'm not courting them or anything I'm just trying to get more bolder so I can talk with more people
>>16798187
>I usually wait for the guy to make a first move
Try something new senpai.
