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I didn't cheat, I didn't steal. I said I'm not sure if I trust him because he becomes an ass when he's drunk and asked to look at his phone (didn't find anything)but he ended it. Almost 3 weeks later he's still really mad, and he's kept me "hanging". He said yeah maybe I'll call you the first time things went to shit, I messaged him back a few times and got nothing. Saw him at the bar the other day, tried talking to him. He was looking at me but SUPER hesitant to talk when I asked him to. Said he didn't want to "ruin his night by arguing" but eventually said "look just message me friday or saturday when i'm off of work" and "if you want to be together you'll need a major attitude change" messaged him yesterday, no response.. I didn't think he was this immature, not to even message me and say "sorry it's over". I've never dealt with this before so it's weird. Why is he holding such a grudge? Is he just waiting for me to keep begging and "learn a lesson"? He said he's been seeing my messages when I saw him at the bar :/
What do I say at this point? I know most will say let it go it's not worth it, but damn guys... this petty silent treatment shit is wtf, and if he's seeing my messages I want to say something to get him to understand me
Don't know why he would get so defensive if he didn't have anything to hide
>>16802639
Yeah, right? I CAN understand being hurt by your partner telling you they're untrusting of you, and shit like that, and we had a lot of arguments in general but... this is the way to treat someone who cheated on you or something really bad. :/
is he just going to ignore me forever and keep my texts to laugh at, or he really wants to teach me a lesson, or wtf?
Even if he told me what he did the other day to keep from there being a scene, a text the next day would suffice "hey it's over and im not going to talk this weekend"
Hey adv.
How can I make the world a monumentally better place?
In all seriousness. Not trolling or joking.
>>16803796
Why? They don't deserve it
>>16803800
For a legacy. OP is scared of being forgotten.
>>16803800
Not everyone is bad and has to suffer in a world full of shit like the one we live in.
Ugh this is a long story. Will try to make it short.
Talking to hopeful friend online, it goes kinda well but mostly poorly. Then ran into her by chance yesterday and I was like an awkward mess. I apologized for looking like shit in my scrubs even though she probably didn't care.
Now I don't know what to say online or like what to do. Maybe this is all stupid, idk. I doubt you'll understand the problem as I explained it.
>>16803609
nobody cares what you look like unless you're making movies
>>16803635
Well I look sweaty and gross after I've been working for however many hours and I felt weird about it. Was hoping I could make myself look decent before we met. And anyway it just went so badly.
>>16803639
Maybe you should shower next time you fucking hog
How DO I achieve emotional catharsis?
I've been arguing with some people. They're fucking dumbasses, but I've accepted that I can't get through to them.
But now I can't get rid of the internal tension that comes with it. I know I can't finish the job (since they won't listen to me) on a surface level, but it's different inside. I don't want to argue (and I don't feel the urge to) (I feel the exact opposite urge). I just want to get rid of this feeling and move on with my life.
What should I do, /adv/?
>>16803264
Argue with people on the internet about pointless things
>>16803280
That'll just increase the tension. I want the exact opposite of that.
>>16803264
the only way is to "get through" to somebody thus releasing the tension.
Q: what were you arguing about?
Post your stance and see if you can convince someone here. shit should help.
When I'm around couples either on the street or at some social event I feel like shit about myself and inferior because I've never had a relationship or come close even though I'm in my early twenties
How do I not get depressed around couples?
>>16803061
are you a guy or a girl? advice depends on gender
>>16803061
you feel like shit because you're fantasizing relationships. You see all these couples around you and you just automatically assume that they're completely satisfied and happy and that they never have issues.
Reality ain't so bright. Couples fight. At least half of those couples you see will be broken up at some point, maybe sooner than you realize. Next time you feel yourself romanticizing some couple you pass on the street, stop and imagine them fighting over some stupid shit (which is what couples usually fight about), imagine them being miserable and imagine them breaking up. Because all of those things are probably going to happen soon.
>>16803100
It's not about thinking that they're happy all the time it's about being unwanted, while they are wanted. I'm just trash
I'm miserable without any of the happiness that they get.
Imagining them fighting and breaking up doesn't make me feel better about myself
>>16803067
girl
>>16802622
the grey one, coming from a girl
>>16802622
Grey one, also from grill.
You forgot the fourth outfit where you aren't wearing any clothes, that should be an included choice too.
First or third, depending on the environment. First is a nice contrast that will draw more attention in a darker environment, the third would look very nice in a light-colored area.
>Dating gf for four years
>lots of sex
>Now no sex, almost zero
Gf says her sex drive is coming back, but still says no every time I try to initiate. She says I got too rough a while ago and she gets anxiety from sexual contact now.
She's coming back slowly. More open to making out, letting me touch her breasts, grab her ass, etc. But can't go near her vagina or I get pushed away.
I have too much sexual energy to handle. I get distracted when she's around because she's very attractive and I know I can't fuck her. It's very frustrating.
I started a Tinder and have been contacting girls to meet up. I met a few who are interested, but I haven't done anything yet.
I jacked off last night. First ejaculation in a week. Just made me want real sex even more, I figured it would help. Nope.
What do I do? Tell gf I need her to put more effort into having sex or I'm leaving, or just cheat on her and never tell her?
Don't cheat. End it if you wanna fuck other people.
Has she ever been raped? Seems weird to get so affected by some rough sex. Be gentle for a while and let her decide when she's ready. How much does your relationship mean to you? Never stop trying if it means the world.
>>16803055
Cheating should never be an option anon, it is deliberately destroying your loved one's life.
Talk with her, try to explain it in a way so her logic doesn't let her think that you like her just because of sex. If you notice she doesn't make any improvements over next let's say 2 weeks, maybe you should break it off
>>16803077
I know that's what makes this so difficult. I love her, but I have so much sexual energy lately I can't focus on anything.
I flirt with every girl I meet, and I've gotten extremely good at it. I've gotten more girls numbers and interest in a few months than I did in four years of High School.
If she just gave me a weekly handjob I would feel 100x better, but nope...
It's like she wants me to cheat or something...I don't think she understands.
>Be me back at 16
>Have 18/yr old friend
>We decide to start our own company
>We split all profit 50/50
>About $10 to $94 every month, it grows slowly
>Just a small hobby
>Once I'm 18 he bails and told me that I can 'buy' his part now that I can legally own it
>Do it so I get 100% of profits
>Bust my fucking ass
>Be 19 now
>Had big break 2 months ago
>6 major customers and a lot of small ones out of nowhere
>Earn roughly $17500/month now after tax
>Contracts make this a guaranteed income for a year or more
>Analytics and orders shows that it has only grown since the big break
This is so fucking surreal
But after the bliss wore off,I feel feel the exact same.
So what the fuck do I do?
I was raised frugal so I don't know exactly what to do with this money.
I still live with my dad and he has no idea about all of this.
Should I just get an apartment, an expensive car, and put the rest in to retire early?
What should I prepare for? Constant theft, ex-gf suddenly contacting me again?
Should I keep it as secret as possible and just stay at home and rack in dough?
I'm only asking /adv/ out of pure desperation, I have no one to turn to.
I haven't even been here for like a year.
>>16802345
DISREGARD BITCHES
ACQUIRE CURRENCY
>>16802345
Well first step is to secure those contracts for more than a year. This is a great break for you and your company, but you need to keep putting in work to maintain it and even keep growing it.
As far as buying material possessions with it... no. Just no. You keep that money in the company as a rainy day fund. Keep some liquidity. Make a few investments in technology or anything you might need to grow your business in the future. Keep the rest liquid and ready to use later. Don't go wasting it on useless shit like cars.
Build your business now so that 5 years from now you can be talking about selling it and becoming a multi millionaire OR have a company well on its way to being something big.
Women can't catch you if you are always traveling. See the world like you've always wanted too anon.
If you can't live your life for yourself, live it for others who wish they were in the same position as you.
Have you ever regressed on your opinions of gay people?
Lately I've been kind of uncomfortable around my close gay friend. I just hate how he gets so touchy and is very open about his emotions. I don't know, something about it just really makes me feel anxious. I've also had dreams where he is doing gay stuff and in my dream I yell at him to "stop being such a fucking fag." It's been to the point where I even want to smack him upside the head for it. I feel awful I have those dreams because he's my friend, but at the same time I've discovered I just don't like gay people. It's weird, I came into college accepting gay people and near the end of it I"m just tired of dealing with gay people.
>inb4 sound like you're the gay one if you have the dreams
I don't think so. Repression comes out in different ways, so if I was gay I'd be having dreams where I"d be doing gay stuff in them. Instead I think the repression here is me getting angry and being cruel to him in my dream while in real life I"m trying my hardest to be tolerable and still hang out with him.
>TL:DR I wish my friend wasn't such a stereotypical gay.
nigga u gay
Op sounds like you are the one with problems.
>>16802102
I think you're getting annoyed by this specific guy's actions and personality, your only mistake is applying those feelings to "the gays" as a whole. You're not obligated to be friends with every gay person you meet. You're not a homophobe just because you find this guy obnoxious. Just stop generalizing
Would it be better to major Accounting or Pharmacy?
>>16797815
define better. each obviously has its pros and cons.
>>16797817
As in the likelihood that I will be able to find a career
>>16797832
you will find jobs in both. career wise accountant has more room for growth.
My gf just broke up with me and and I feel sad, alone And pathetic. I loved her so much and she was the only girl I ever really loved. We were together for 2 years now and I was even playing with the thought of marrying her. How do I cope with this feeling /adv/? I feel like shit right now
1) Focus on the reason it didn't work out and keep that at the forefront of your mind.
2) Realise that there's the possibility of love in your future and this isn't the end all.
3) Make changes to your life than make you feel better/help you reach your goals
4) Give yourself time. Wounds take time to heal. You're not the Wolverine of love.
Be strong, OP!
Mike Falzone has a ton of shit to say about this
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hQ5lF9FmPWY
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OC9M_h6Pa6Y
Just watch all of his vids. He's funny, and usually relevant
>>16802050
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ACQUIRE CURRENCY
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I am beginning to suspect my boyfriend maybe an aro ace or at the least asexual after looking up this term on Google.
He never seems to want sex regardless of how hard I time to seduce him. He doesn't seem to be gay since he doesn't show any interest in men. He says the most important aspects of a relationship for him are companionship and cuddling.
He seems like a woman at times yet he isn't even transgender.
What should I do?
How long have you been together? sex is a vital part of a relationship, if you're not having it you're just close friends, so you might as well break up and just be close friends.
>>16799103
Cheating on you
>>16799114
We've been together for no more than two years and during which time I've slowly been suspecting that I'm a sex addict just by judging how many times I've been trying at it. I'm currently thinking of enrolling in a help program.
What is the appeal in modern girls?
I don't fucking get it. Just sex? But sex gets old quick. It's some thrusting and rubbing, and some feel-good chemicals. There's nothing to it.
And it's not like 99% of these women have any fucking personality at all. They all make the same faces in photos, they all basically just want money, home security, and dick. They only care about having a good body for themselves. They're vapid, always glued to their phones and social media, always looking for the next rise or trend to latch onto. They're complete boring idiots. This makes the sex part even less interesting, too.
Not to mention most of these girls don't want kids now. They have abortions frequently. And they'd be terrible fucking mothers to boot. They are completely and utterly pointless.
I don't get what the fucking big shit is with females anymore and why you all have problems with these skanks that cheat on you. Why did you get involved with dumb sluts like that in the first place?
>3.5 billion women in the world
>thinks he's figured out every single one
>>16801916
>thinks he's figured out every single one
Where did I say that? I'm talking about the majority, obviously westernized (i.e. "modern") girls.
Do you really think it's a good idea to generalize half the world's population?
Do you honestly believe that's a smart thing to do?
I'll start off by saying I'll only date a girl who's a virgin and willing to wait a while before having sex. I'm pretty attractive and I've never had issues getting a date but I've also never met a girl I was okay with. Frankly most girls seem to be sluts. I'm starting to think I should give up since so many girls are doing disgusting things like fucking strangers on playgrounds or doing other crazy shit at parties. I'm only 20 but I just don't see things getting better so I just decided to come here for advice. I really want to believe that there are girls I would like but even the quiet girl who stays at the library doing homework by herself has even done some disgusting stuff. Is this real or some sort of sick joke?
You can have my girlfriend, I'll take the girls you descibed. Those girls sound way more fun/enjoyable.
>>16801660
How did you meet her? Am I doing something wrong?
>>16801660
Cuck detected
Is having a body shape like this a turn-off for guys?
All men are different and have different preferences. There is no objective answer to this question.
>>16801537
No. Would still get rock hard and rim her. Probably BO is less noticeable than on chubbier girls. Why do you ask? Is your body shaped like that?
>>16801544
>Is your body shaped like that?
you don't say?
