I don't understand what you mean. You have neighbors that get mad and yell if you make noise?

>>16799774
You should see a psych. Not kidding.

>>16799774
That sounds schizophrenia-y.
Consult a doctor before you make friends that aren't real, or a demon shows up, or you start thinking the FBI is after you because you know something important.

No seriously.

Try leaving you laptop at work, or just put it in a closet somewhere.

You're gonna realize how it suddenly becomes so easy to fall asleep, and you will start waking up early in the morning, feeling fresh and energized.

>>16799761

Could be depression, sleep apnea, severely deviated septum. If you're going to sleep drunk or high you'll sleep poorly. Stress in general can reduce the quality of sleep.

Go see your university's clinic, if that have one. There might be a solution. You've told us no details about your life that could provide clues so we can't tell you anything.

>>16799761

Could be depression, sleep apnea, severely deviated septum. If you're going to sleep drunk or high you'll sleep poorly. Stress in general can reduce the quality of sleep. Eating huge meals before sleeping can disrupt sleep. Many things can fuck your sleep.

Go see your university's clinic, if that have one. There might be a solution. You've told us no details about your life that could provide clues so we can't tell you anything.

Un petite bump

Bumpity boo. Some /adv/ice would be appreciate, even if it's just "Don't do it you fuck"

Tell the girl you want to go out with that you two should meet up for coffee/lunch/whatever floats your boat after work sometime. If she asks why just say she looks cute.

You're just an extrovert. So fuck you, basically. You people are exhausting to be around.

OK, that was a little harsh. Basically, dude, you've just gotta get out there and make more friends. There's no shortcuts, you just have to do it. If you try to pester your friends/boyfriend to constantly hang out it seriously will be exhausting for them.

>>16799700
acquire hobbies
seriously. i have always been socially apt- many friends, well liked and respected, interacting easily with grills, etc. and id rather be at home 90% of the time doing things i enjoy than go out to party. id say maybe twice a month i go out to do shit, and i enjoy it most times, but i ultimately prefer solitude and saving my shekels. that, and drama just seems to increase exponentially as i get older, and i hate that shit passionately. and really, i partied a lot more in the past as a means to...
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>>16799700

I see people 4-5 days out of the week since I schedule a lot of meals with friends. Relying on your SO for your entire social support is risky since they can't always be around. You should put the effort in to finding other friends. Consider starting a social hobby or sport or volunteering.

>>16799719

Introverts also like and need socialization. You're thinking of people who are asocial, or just so socially retarded they can't interact...
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>>16799692
If I was i your shoes I would go to a bar with him and first hear him about how he feels, telling you in detail his situation. Then from there advice him in some way, or just letting him know that you are there for what he needs, or just be honest about it and tell him that you are there for him.
>even if it sounds homo

>>16799692
Forgive me for sounding blunt. I mean this for reals. You are not a marriage councillor or an educated therapist. You are young and inexperienced in what hes going through and you havent suffered through what he has and what hes going to.

It is normal, acceptable and expected you have no advice. Youd be an asshole if you did just run your mouth and said stuff like "you just need to" and "you should.." and "dont think that."


Your role as a friend is to exist. He chose you to speak to. Empathise. Say nothing more than that it pains you hes hurt. When he speaks listen. Encourage him to do activities. Not as a cure but just because. Go with him. Be a bud.

And mostly, if he turns you down for any of that, leave him be. He can have all the space he wants.

If you really get worried or he asks you what to do, and he mopes for too long, you could suggest he seek a medical professional's aid.

The above is all this thread needs.

>>16799692
Point out the bright side. As a single dad he can take junior to the park where the hot au pairs and nannies go.

Being a good dad with a cute kid and a baadddd story about how the bitch did him wrong and he'll be fighting off the pussy.

This isn't sarcasm.

>i will not go to combat unless needed
>i will not go to combat unless needed
>i will not go to combat unless needed

And you think you are not going to be needed, because ... what? Someone has to protect our oil, after all.

>>16799654
>>>/k/
Look for the /meg/ - military enlistment general thread. There's allways one up.

>>16799660
sorry meant volunteering

How long have you been with that girl? I take a good while to "warm up" with somebody new. But once i'm really comfy around you - oh boy.
Maybe your girl is a bit similar?

>>16799672
I tried asking her, but she said she just ever into sex. I tried a ton of shit to get her into the mood, tried to figure out what she likes, etc. She just doesn't seem to enjoy sex, or even masturbating.

And for the last week my ex has been begging me to fuck her. I'd never cheat, so I'm not doing that unless my current relationship ends. But fuck is it tempting. Its just not any fun when the girl just lays there, saps all the fun out of it.

Didnt you make a thread asking us if you should fuck the asian? If not there is another guy in a very similar situation.

>>16799647
Nothing complicated, you have a crush. Solution: find a new bird to crush on

>>16799648
Thank you. Hopefully that happens when my college semester starts in a few days.

>>16799647
Being charged, fined, jailed or fired for workplace harassment is a pretty good deterrent.

How many guys would love to act on workplace crushes? Millions probably but they control the urge, sigh a bit and get on with life, sneaking a peek occasionally and jacking off when need be.

>>16799614

just enjoy yourself
i dont understand, life is so easy
how is it possible to be lonely

>>16799614

I find it's really helpful to do something creative and/or productive. For the most part it sucks to do "fun" things alone, but I find I can pass the time pretty enjoyably if I've got a task I can focus on, where I can put thought and effort into doing it well, and feel some kind of satisfaction if it turns out well.

I write, I make music, I don't really want a career in any of these things or think I'm great at it, but I like doing it. Cooking is good too. Exercise. Stuff like that.

>>16799614
Why do you need to enjoy your company?

It's kinda vague anon I don't know if I got it.

But I do have a similar feel. It seems that when I'm pushed to it I become assertive and...well....alpha(?).

But I still would like examples

>>16799600
I can't really give precise examples because i really feel like my base personality is the one coming out when i'm motivated, and the way i am normally is some kind of bind that happend at some point in my life
in fact now that i think about it, i kind of remind being extremely outgoing when i was very young
So in short, there is a way to identify and undo traumas, behavior conditioning and shit like that?

>>16799591

Stress is your body using adrenaline to pump you up and prepare you for conflict. It heightens all your senses and cognition.

We have been told a lot stress is bad so people panick when theyre stressed out and perform worse. Stress is actually good and normal.

All i see is that you handle it exceptionally well compared to others. You benefit from the stimulant cocktail your body serves up.

Either accept your personality and stop panicking by recognizing everyone has strengths and weaknesses...
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Figure out what questions to ask to get the information you want.

Ask questions that make her feel she needs to prove how fun she is. Whats the craziest thing you've done? You seem like you meet lots of people. Are you someone who lives in the moment? Etc. She may be honest if she's trying to impress you.

>>16799598
What if she lies to impress me? I feel like that could easily backfire. Better that blatantly asking I guess..

Go to more doctors.

Depression? Chronic fatigue syndrome? Go to more doctors.

Has she been checked for Thyroid issues?

>>16799562
>pretty attractive
post pic

>>16799562

if the issue is your personality and not your looks (cough) then dating a homely girl wont matter. we all like looks but a girl would rather end up with someone she enjoys.

>>16799565
This isn't soc, so I won't unless more people ask but I'm definitely a solid 7 at the least.

>>16799542
Where are you from? It really depends on that

>>16799542
god how can someone fuck up so much.
I'm inclined to say you're actually just a lazy bitch and is lying to yourself, trying to convince yourself you wouldn't get a job.
Anyway, or you translate or you teach.

You can also kill yourself.

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>>16799548
The U.S.
>>16799550
Well, I've been taking classes for 4 years now, and I can say with absolute certainty that listening is my weakest point. I have trouble parsing even English words. Additionally, while I can understand anime at an acceptable level, spoken Japanese in live-action movies or real-life conversations are difficult for me because I drop and mishear words all the time.

I've considered teaching, however my lacking listening ability would likely interfere with it, but I'm willing to give that option a shake.

I can kill myself, and I have considered. I don't cling onto my current center of consciousness too much given the negatives in my life. I always have the option of using my credit card to purchase a handgun and ending my consciousness instantaneously if things seem incorrigibly bad. Things aren't quite there yet, though, but it is definitely a card I will play given the appropriate circumstances.

>>16799537
well, why did you end the relationship?

why do you feel lonely? you opted to end the relationship. what did you think you were doing?

take some time to better yourself. read some books, hit the gym, rekindle with friends, go out and be social. figure out what you want. a relationship? something casual? nothing?

>>16799545
We did not work together. He couldn't work on himself when he was with me. At the same time he didn't want to accept this and even if he would realize it he wouldn't end it because of how loyal I was to him. We have been together since I was a freshman in highschool.
He barely matured while I have a good grasp on everything I am doing or what I want to do/achieve.

I am lonely because I loved him and I tried really hard to make it work but it just wasn't enough. And I am alone. I open...
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>>16799537

If you are lonely you should go meet people and socialize. What else do you expect us to say? In three months you'll barely feel any sadness over the end of the relationship. Give it time.